Gave my seat up to old lady on long bus ride home Thursday. Senior got benefit but I felt good and received praise from other riders. Soooo I do it as well but recognize my benefit.
Most of us commit these spontaneous acts without forethought to how they'll be perceived by them. We do these things because they're the right thing to do; our conscience wouldn't allow otherwise or certainly take ourselves to task afterward.
Right. It's guilt. Looking to be stroked. Whatever but always for givers self interest not the receiver. It's not a bad thing. Just is. This particular challenge just plays into this human need.
Not necessarily guilt or "always" to be applied.
Giving up your seat - did you think twice when you did it?
When I hold the door for someone, give a few bucks to someone who needs it, letting a person ahead of me in line at the market...sure I feel good doing it during and after, but that's not necessarily or always the impetus.
In the end, it's a positive and hopefully a ripple-effect.
It is a good thing as I've stated repeatedly. There were posts prior to mine that questioned people authenticity of this type of challenge.
And I concurred. This "Challenge" is a success due to humans ability to Display their charitable nature. May not give one the warm and fuzzies to think of ones selfishness when giving but it is what it is. And let me not forget the guilt aspect of being challenged. Almost seems as though a psychologist came up with this challenge. "Brilliant".
Really funny to see people getting upset about this seemingly obvious aspect of giving. You do it for yourselves people, get over it. And keep giving. It's a good thing.
speaking for myself here, i don't hate. i am confused a bit that's all.
i'm the guy that doesn't understand 90some percent of what most folks are doing anyhow. don't mind me, don't let me dampen your parade. but i will speak my mind from time to time
Speaking of gripes- I kind of have a gripe against the phrase, "It's all good" . I mean, really, is anything, "all good"? No, I don't think very many things are "all good", that's for sure. But to me, all giving is good. It's all good. Billionaire give millions away? All good. Average person tithes to various causes to help make the world better? All good. Poor person drops a penny in the jar? All good.
Criticizing how others choice to give- not so good.
“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man [or woman] who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.”
i'm not at all well off or i'd be donating funds to all sorts of different foundations, organizations, childrens' hospitals, burn centers, cancer this & that & i'd feed the fucking world if i could. but i would not have my shit all out there. it would be so much more fantastic to be the mystery guy, low-key as can be who does not own a yacht or a mansion on a hill.
is it really a challenge to dump ice water over one's head? really? that's a challenge? yeah ok.
that's a challenge for cobras, iguanas, tree frogs, rattle snakes, turtles, constrictors & other reptiles & amphibians.
it isn't that i don't like it. i just don't understand it & think it's a bit of self self self. whatever. it is very good to see wealthy folks do good things with their money. celebrities & the like - how the fuck did that ever happen anyways?
let's see the no more wars fucking challenge from world leaders? that's what i'd like to see or the geewiz we aren't gonna rape & torture challenge
it's still kinda entertaining to see some asshole get cold water dumped over him or her self
whatever call me an asshole
Chadwick, you may wish to watch Kermit the Frog's Ice Bucket Challenge as he touches on some of the points you eloquently made. (Seriously)
my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
I don't know Brian. I mean giving to a Good charity is wonderful and I hope the money to ALS makes a difference.
But is all giving good.
Fucking corporations use it as a marketing strategy , buy a pizza and we'll give portion of proceeds to xxxxxx charity. Or "At Chevrolet we Support the Troops". Oh really. How? Oh Yeah by selling Suburbans to Us govt to us in Iraq.
This whole debate reminds me of why people go to Church. Same motivations and same criticisms to speak about human needs to participate.
Again the challenge is affective and "it's all Good! ".
I don't know Brian. I mean giving to a Good charity is wonderful and I hope the money to ALS makes a difference.
But is all giving good.
Fucking corporations use it as a marketing strategy , buy a pizza and we'll give portion of proceeds to xxxxxx charity. Or "At Chevrolet we Support the Troops". Oh really. How? Oh Yeah by selling Suburbans to Us govt to us in Iraq.
This whole debate reminds me of why people go to Church. Same motivations and same criticisms to speak about human needs to participate.
Again the challenge is affective and "it's all Good! ".
Yeah, might have to re-think that one a bit. Re-thinking IS all good! :-D
“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man [or woman] who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.”
i'm not at all well off or i'd be donating funds to all sorts of different foundations, organizations, childrens' hospitals, burn centers, cancer this & that & i'd feed the fucking world if i could. but i would not have my shit all out there. it would be so much more fantastic to be the mystery guy, low-key as can be who does not own a yacht or a mansion on a hill.
is it really a challenge to dump ice water over one's head? really? that's a challenge? yeah ok.
that's a challenge for cobras, iguanas, tree frogs, rattle snakes, turtles, constrictors & other reptiles & amphibians.
it isn't that i don't like it. i just don't understand it & think it's a bit of self self self. whatever. it is very good to see wealthy folks do good things with their money. celebrities & the like - how the fuck did that ever happen anyways?
let's see the no more wars fucking challenge from world leaders? that's what i'd like to see or the geewiz we aren't gonna rape & torture challenge
it's still kinda entertaining to see some asshole get cold water dumped over him or her self
whatever call me an asshole
I can see your point Chadwick, and I think it's why it's so successful. Because successful campaigns tend to do with some sort of incentive for thy self. That's why I said that it's sort of like a selfie… "Look, it's Moi on camera dumping ice water over my head!"
Your post reminded me of a contest PJ advertised for ACL Fest a few months ago: Play It Forward.
Every time you do a good deed for your community or the environment, you Play It Forward. Now ACL Festival + KIND healthy snacks want to reward you for it with a chance to win prizes like VIP 3-Day Passes and more. It could be as small as riding a bike to work, or as big as a house you built for charity. Do your deed, hashtag it, and you’ll have a chance to get rewarded with:…
HOW TO PLAY IT FORWARD & ENTER
Snap a pic or video of the good thing you did Post it to Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook Add two hashtags: #kindawesome & #aclfest Pat yourself on the back & repeat.
I had a problem with this contest. Volunteering and doing something good for charity or the environment should not equal "selfie of myself doing this good deed". I volunteer for the sake of helping others and/or another greater cause (ex. the earth, etc.). Not for the sake of getting noticed for my good deed. Kinda takes the selfless out of volunteering…
But back to the Ice bucket challenge. I love that it raised so much awareness, I hope another idea catches this fever and can do another cause good. Now if only we can get away from ourselves to raise money and awareness...
i'm not at all well off or i'd be donating funds to all sorts of different foundations, organizations, childrens' hospitals, burn centers, cancer this & that & i'd feed the fucking world if i could. but i would not have my shit all out there. it would be so much more fantastic to be the mystery guy, low-key as can be who does not own a yacht or a mansion on a hill.
is it really a challenge to dump ice water over one's head? really? that's a challenge? yeah ok.
that's a challenge for cobras, iguanas, tree frogs, rattle snakes, turtles, constrictors & other reptiles & amphibians.
it isn't that i don't like it. i just don't understand it & think it's a bit of self self self. whatever. it is very good to see wealthy folks do good things with their money. celebrities & the like - how the fuck did that ever happen anyways?
let's see the no more wars fucking challenge from world leaders? that's what i'd like to see or the geewiz we aren't gonna rape & torture challenge
it's still kinda entertaining to see some asshole get cold water dumped over him or her self
whatever call me an asshole
I can see your point Chadwick, and I think it's why it's so successful. Because successful campaigns tend to do with some sort of incentive for thy self. That's why I said that it's sort of like a selfie… "Look, it's Moi on camera dumping ice water over my head!"
Your post reminded me of a contest PJ advertised for ACL Fest a few months ago: Play It Forward.
Every time you do a good deed for your community or the environment, you Play It Forward. Now ACL Festival + KIND healthy snacks want to reward you for it with a chance to win prizes like VIP 3-Day Passes and more. It could be as small as riding a bike to work, or as big as a house you built for charity. Do your deed, hashtag it, and you’ll have a chance to get rewarded with:…
HOW TO PLAY IT FORWARD & ENTER
Snap a pic or video of the good thing you did Post it to Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook Add two hashtags: #kindawesome & #aclfest Pat yourself on the back & repeat.
I had a problem with this contest. Volunteering and doing something good for charity or the environment should not equal "selfie of myself doing this good deed". I volunteer for the sake of helping others and/or another greater cause (ex. the earth, etc.). Not for the sake of getting noticed for my good deed. Kinda takes the selfless out of volunteering…
But back to the Ice bucket challenge. I love that it raised so much awareness, I hope another idea catches this fever and can do another cause good. Now if only we can get away from ourselves to raise money and awareness...
I don't mean this accusingly, but isn't your bolded passage a sort of selfie on how your version of charity is better than others'? If you truly only care about the progress of a cause, why is the method of attaining progress so important? I will add, with the experience of a wealth of Boy Scout volunteering, none of it is selfless. It always feels good to do good and that aspect should be encouraged! It also feels good to get recognition for good works and I don't see anything wrong in that!
i'm not at all well off or i'd be donating funds to all sorts of different foundations, organizations, childrens' hospitals, burn centers, cancer this & that & i'd feed the fucking world if i could. but i would not have my shit all out there. it would be so much more fantastic to be the mystery guy, low-key as can be who does not own a yacht or a mansion on a hill.
is it really a challenge to dump ice water over one's head? really? that's a challenge? yeah ok.
that's a challenge for cobras, iguanas, tree frogs, rattle snakes, turtles, constrictors & other reptiles & amphibians.
it isn't that i don't like it. i just don't understand it & think it's a bit of self self self. whatever. it is very good to see wealthy folks do good things with their money. celebrities & the like - how the fuck did that ever happen anyways?
let's see the no more wars fucking challenge from world leaders? that's what i'd like to see or the geewiz we aren't gonna rape & torture challenge
it's still kinda entertaining to see some asshole get cold water dumped over him or her self
whatever call me an asshole
I can see your point Chadwick, and I think it's why it's so successful. Because successful campaigns tend to do with some sort of incentive for thy self. That's why I said that it's sort of like a selfie… "Look, it's Moi on camera dumping ice water over my head!"
Your post reminded me of a contest PJ advertised for ACL Fest a few months ago: Play It Forward.
Every time you do a good deed for your community or the environment, you Play It Forward. Now ACL Festival + KIND healthy snacks want to reward you for it with a chance to win prizes like VIP 3-Day Passes and more. It could be as small as riding a bike to work, or as big as a house you built for charity. Do your deed, hashtag it, and you’ll have a chance to get rewarded with:…
HOW TO PLAY IT FORWARD & ENTER
Snap a pic or video of the good thing you did Post it to Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook Add two hashtags: #kindawesome & #aclfest Pat yourself on the back & repeat.
I had a problem with this contest. Volunteering and doing something good for charity or the environment should not equal "selfie of myself doing this good deed". I volunteer for the sake of helping others and/or another greater cause (ex. the earth, etc.). Not for the sake of getting noticed for my good deed. Kinda takes the selfless out of volunteering…
But back to the Ice bucket challenge. I love that it raised so much awareness, I hope another idea catches this fever and can do another cause good. Now if only we can get away from ourselves to raise money and awareness...
I don't mean this accusingly, but isn't your bolded passage a sort of selfie on how your version of charity is better than others'? If you truly only care about the progress of a cause, why is the method of attaining progress so important? I will add, with the experience of a wealth of Boy Scout volunteering, none of it is selfless. It always feels good to do good and that aspect should be encouraged! It also feels good to get recognition for good works and I don't see anything wrong in that!
I bolded it to accentuate my point. I didn't say that my way is better, it's just not for extrinsic value. Doing good for charity only for recognition is not the point of doing good for charity.
We have an expression in the basketball circles: fake it 'till you make it. Meaning: you might not be inclined to work as hard and energetic as you feel like in practice, but consciously do it... until it becomes the norm.
People are not generally inclined to be at their best at all times. These types of events at least allow for humans to act well on the conscious level regardless of motivation (vanity... whatever). At a minimum, after participation in event such as these and maybe others... people stand the chance to move from acting generously on the conscious level to acting generously on the unconscious level. If the whole world acted with concern for others on an instinctual basis... the world would be an unbelievable place.
I too have rolled my eyes at some participants, but that is 'my' weakness (being judgemental and cynical). In reality, there can only be good coming from events such as these.
We have an expression in the basketball circles: fake it 'till you make it. Meaning: you might not be inclined to work as hard and energetic as you feel like in practice, but consciously do it... until it becomes the norm.
People are not generally inclined to be at their best at all times. These types of events at least allow for humans to act well on the conscious level regardless of motivation (vanity... whatever). At a minimum, after participation in event such as these and maybe others... people stand the chance to move from acting generously on the conscious level to acting generously on the unconscious level. If the whole world acted with concern for others on an instinctual basis... the world would be an unbelievable place.
I too have rolled my eyes at some participants, but that is 'my' weakness (being judgemental and cynical). In reality, there can only be good coming from events such as these.
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And I concurred. This "Challenge" is a success due to humans ability to Display their charitable nature. May not give one the warm and fuzzies to think of ones selfishness when giving but it is what it is. And let me not forget the guilt aspect of being challenged. Almost seems as though a psychologist came up with this challenge. "Brilliant".
Really funny to see people getting upset about this seemingly obvious aspect of giving. You do it for yourselves people, get over it. And keep giving. It's a good thing.
speaking for myself here, i don't hate. i am confused a bit that's all.
i'm the guy that doesn't understand 90some percent of what most folks are doing anyhow. don't mind me, don't let me dampen your parade. but i will speak my mind from time to time
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
sick and sad. From where
the sun stands I will fight
no more forever."
Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
"Hear me, my chiefs!
I am tired; my heart is
sick and sad. From where
the sun stands I will fight
no more forever."
Chief Joseph - Nez Perce
Criticizing how others choice to give- not so good.
I don't know Brian. I mean giving to a Good charity is wonderful and I hope the money to ALS makes a difference.
But is all giving good.
Fucking corporations use it as a marketing strategy , buy a pizza and we'll give portion of proceeds to xxxxxx charity. Or "At Chevrolet we Support the Troops". Oh really. How? Oh Yeah by selling Suburbans to Us govt to us in Iraq.
This whole debate reminds me of why people go to Church. Same motivations and same criticisms to speak about human needs to participate.
Again the challenge is affective and "it's all Good! ".
Your post reminded me of a contest PJ advertised for ACL Fest a few months ago: Play It Forward. I had a problem with this contest. Volunteering and doing something good for charity or the environment should not equal "selfie of myself doing this good deed". I volunteer for the sake of helping others and/or another greater cause (ex. the earth, etc.). Not for the sake of getting noticed for my good deed. Kinda takes the selfless out of volunteering…
But back to the Ice bucket challenge. I love that it raised so much awareness, I hope another idea catches this fever and can do another cause good. Now if only we can get away from ourselves to raise money and awareness...
But back to the Ice bucket challenge. I love that it raised so much awareness, I hope another idea catches this fever and can do another cause good. Now if only we can get away from ourselves to raise money and awareness...
I don't mean this accusingly, but isn't your bolded passage a sort of selfie on how your version of charity is better than others'? If you truly only care about the progress of a cause, why is the method of attaining progress so important? I will add, with the experience of a wealth of Boy Scout volunteering, none of it is selfless. It always feels good to do good and that aspect should be encouraged! It also feels good to get recognition for good works and I don't see anything wrong in that!
I bolded it to accentuate my point. I didn't say that my way is better, it's just not for extrinsic value. Doing good for charity only for recognition is not the point of doing good for charity.
People are not generally inclined to be at their best at all times. These types of events at least allow for humans to act well on the conscious level regardless of motivation (vanity... whatever). At a minimum, after participation in event such as these and maybe others... people stand the chance to move from acting generously on the conscious level to acting generously on the unconscious level. If the whole world acted with concern for others on an instinctual basis... the world would be an unbelievable place.
I too have rolled my eyes at some participants, but that is 'my' weakness (being judgemental and cynical). In reality, there can only be good coming from events such as these.