How much is too much?

PJSiren

I am obsessed, like above, I sound like a little fan girl, and I have this obsession with not only PJ but also Christian Kane, and my hubby is totally cool with it. In fact, he has bought tickets for me to see CK and taken me hundreds of miles to see him, lol, so my fangirl nerding isn't a big deal...I have my love of the music and he has his love of his truck...he has a Dodge cummins diesel and is obsessed with getting it all fixed up and exactly how he wants it and so he nerds out on it, and we're pretty much even that way. I talk PJ/CK to him even thought he's not into them and he talks truck to me even though it's like he's speaking chinese. I agree it's all give and take in a relationship, you have to respect what the other is into even if you're not into it as well...if you love someone you can at least respect what they like if not celebrate it with them...that's where I got lucky, my hubby celebrates with me...to a certain degree, like buying me the concert tickets and stuff...

F Me In The Brain

I am considered by many of my friends/family to be obsessed with Pearl Jam.

I drive a white car that is actually the color 'pearl' and of course was 'named' Pearl since my nephew insists we name all family cars.
The only 6 discs that have ever been in the 6 CD changer are Pearl Jam, the same 6 discs went in on the day I bought it and have not moved in the 5 years since.
I had to delete a ton of shit from my 160 gig iPod because there wasnt enough room for the ridiculous number of tours on bootleg.
The license plates on "Pearl" are personalized Pearl Jam related plates of course (PRL1JAM)
I am now at 17 different PJ/EV posters framed and up in my house....1 in every room except bathrooms.
I work from my home office so if I am not traveling to see clients (I wear suits) I wear a PJ shirt and jeans or a PJ shirt and shorts. Have nearly 60 PJ shirts now.
When I got married I insisted that I pick the songs that played on the yacht while we cruised around the harbor for an hour before we went to the reception place. (I was unable to get a PJ/EV song for our first dance, there are limits my wife will go to!) I played 75% Pearl Jam to a varied age of guests.


Here is the thing --- this is all relative -- as others have pointed out this list above is a small drop in the bucket compared to many fans of Pearl Jam and of other things. I have been to very few shows compared to most fans on this board. I have only traveled out of country 1 time to see PJ and that was only as far as Vancouver from LA, where I lived at the time. I have never seen more than 3 shows in any calender year. Never taken off time to travel with the band. Don't know all of the words to every song. Many people here know way more about Pearl Jam that I ever will.

My wife accepts and she definitely shakes her head about this hobby. We are a team and her teammate just happens to think about family, sports, Pearl Jam & sushi. And very few other things.

Glad to hear your significant other is straight on this but I would never have married my wife if she wasn't supportive of me being me....and she is very much the same way about her own things she likes and I support.

Enjoy Detroit! (I am only going to Cincy on this tour -- see, we dont seem like people obsessed at all! lol)

nickburrows14

Stop screaming MIKE MCCREADY during intimate moments. My wife doesn't like it when I do that ;-)

Annafalk

nickburrows14 said:

Stop screaming MIKE MCCREADY during intimate moments. My wife doesn't like it when I do that ;-)

What? Hahaha

joseph33

Ing Oh my god! Sweetie if you only knew. I rarely listening to anything else but Pearl Jam. My wife seems to think that i'm obsessed,but that has never been the case. For me the music is like going to church. I'm able to take so much more away from it other than an institution thats organized. In my opinion there has never been a bad PJ song. Its all pieces of art that make for a grand masterpiece. My view of the world tend to be slightly different than those of the band. But that would then be about individualism and not the music. I saw them for the first time last year in Charlotte and it was the most magical thing that has ever happened in my life. I felt being at one with complete strangers. As if we all spoke a common language the outside world could never understand . Im sorry your significant other left. People will eventually show their true colors one way or the other. PJ's music always pulls me through whatever life can throw at me. Your not alone babe.

DreamyDan

funny thread this...
rediscovering my love for the band, the music, Mr Vedder and all that goes with it {a good few years ago} has made me realise that my partner and i are massively mismatched....
seriously...
so, besides being a wonderful band, they have also been a catalyst for the changes in my life - first in 1992, when i left for England, bolstered by the conviction i got from listening to Ten... and now, 20 years later, again... :-) sweet... ♥

gillsans75

Liking this thread
To know PJ is to LOVE PJ. Their music has spoken to me for the past twenty two years, and l feel most fortunate to feel touched by Pearl Jam and the sound of EV's deeply haunting voice . Can't believe it's taken me this long to see them live...oh well, better late than never.

r00thless91

I LOVE this thread!!! I feel better about my "obsession" with Pearl Jam :] I'm not alone :,)

deenieskateenie

There is no such thing as 'too much'. I listen to PJ/EV every single day. My kids know who they are, and they know Eddie by name. My four year old calls him Eddie Beddie. Haha

My husband gives me cheek about it, but it's all in good fun. I think he's secretly stoked that I am such a passionate person about the things I love, in this case - PJ/EV.

I was just thinking the other day that these guys (the whole band) have travelled through my life with me since I was a kid. Through the good, the bad and the ugly. There is nobody else I've been so dedicated to musically. They keep me company when my husband is away at work, when the humdrum of daily parenting kicks in, when I need a pick me up, or when I just wanna rock out in my lounge room. I love that they make me feel like all the other music in the world could disappear and I'd still be ok if I have them.

So no, you can never have too much. I actually feel sorry for people that aren't into their music. Haha

deenieskateenie

When Ed toured here (Australia) in Feb this year, he gave me a beer. I drank it (naturally...) and have the bottle in display in my house. I also have one of his tambourines. My family knows these are my most treasured possessions. I'm not obsessed. I'm dedicated.

deenieskateenie

joseph33 said:

For me the music is like going to church. I'm able to take so much more away from it other than an institution thats organized. In my opinion there has never been a bad PJ song. Its all pieces of art that make for a grand masterpiece.

Amen to that my friend.

violcia

r00thless91 said:

I LOVE this thread!!! I feel better about my "obsession" with Pearl Jam :] I'm not alone :,)

You took it out of my mouth:-)

First I thought I got crazy, maybe because I'm getting older or something... Then I thought, this is just a waste of time, I should do something more appropriate for a mother of 2 than listen to PJ and watch PJ for a few hours a day (or night).

But finally I came to the conclusion that this makes me a happy person! This is great to have a passion in life, still have this ability to dance to the music without reason, to feel such an excitement when a new song/album is released or wait for a year for an event (PJ concert).

And though my family and friend probably think I'm crazy, who cares? I want to be crazy and never become "normal" again.

Now, after joining TenClub, I have the feeling that I found my long lost family. Family of freaks, to be precise;)

I'm sorry for any mistakes, I'm not a native speaker.

My warm regards to all of you!

marilor

violcia said:

r00thless91 said:

I LOVE this thread!!! I feel better about my "obsession" with Pearl Jam :] I'm not alone :,)

You took it out of my mouth:-)

First I thought I got crazy, maybe because I'm getting older or something... Then I thought, this is just a waste of time, I should do something more appropriate for a mother of 2 than listen to PJ and watch PJ for a few hours a day (or night).

But finally I came to the conclusion that this makes me a happy person! This is great to have a passion in life, still have this ability to dance to the music without reason, to feel such an excitement when a new song/album is released or wait for a year for an event (PJ concert).

And though my family and friend probably think I'm crazy, who cares? I want to be crazy and never become "normal" again.

Now, after joining TenClub, I have the feeling that I found my long lost family. Family of freaks, to be precise;)

I'm sorry for any mistakes, I'm not a native speaker.

My warm regards to all of you!

+1 !!! I feel like i'm the only one who loves/knows them in the f*** little town ! I feel as crazy as you, and enjoy it ! thank you for being here everybody and thank you PJ for being with me for more than 20 years !

deenieskateenie

violcia said:

r00thless91 said:

I LOVE this thread!!! I feel better about my "obsession" with Pearl Jam :] I'm not alone :,)

You took it out of my mouth:-)

First I thought I got crazy, maybe because I'm getting older or something... Then I thought, this is just a waste of time, I should do something more appropriate for a mother of 2 than listen to PJ and watch PJ for a few hours a day (or night).

But finally I came to the conclusion that this makes me a happy person! This is great to have a passion in life, still have this ability to dance to the music without reason, to feel such an excitement when a new song/album is released or wait for a year for an event (PJ concert).

And though my family and friend probably think I'm crazy, who cares? I want to be crazy and never become "normal" again.

Now, after joining TenClub, I have the feeling that I found my long lost family. Family of freaks, to be precise;)

I'm sorry for any mistakes, I'm not a native speaker.

My warm regards to all of you!

This is exactly what I said when I joined the forum a few weeks ago! Like I've found something I never even knew was missing since I joined!

I'm with you - mums don't listen to PJ on the daily do they?? HELL YES THEY DO!! Hehe

Last-12-Exit

My wife thinks my PJ obsession is on par with my gambling and alcohol obsession! Ha, what does she know?

vickisomoya

It comes to you and finds you, like this thing you are supposed to be a part of.

TerryG

Last-12-Exit said:

My wife thinks my PJ obsession is on par with my gambling and alcohol obsession! Ha, what does she know?

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Yeah I wish my wife understood the attraction. When I listen to PJ it just makes me happy. I am to the point I only listen bootlegs, I think my truck could still play radio stations still but who has time to check. Awesome new truck can play flash drives.
She mostly just looks the other way until a few more posters show up...

Gillycw

I love this thread!
I too spend an inordinate amount of time Veddering - listening, watching & reading all things Ed & Pearl Jam.
It's been 24 years of love love love :-)))

BLACK35

KCjam said:

It certainly does not like you are in the "Obsession" category by any means.

I am male and when I met my paramour 14 years ago, she was not a PJ fan at all. Now I believe she is almost (Not quite) the bigger fan! Especially of Eddie and the solo shows. She is becoming a bit obsessed. This is a good thing to me.

Keep on enjoying PJ. Have fun. I just turned 45 and feel like my interest in many things has subsided a lot, but with PJ only a tad bit.

This sounds like my story exactly :-/