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bambam87bambam87 Posts: 545
edited August 2013 in All Encompassing Trip
I dated a girl for 3 years. we have been broken up for about 3 years. I broke up with her. it was kinda sudden. she was devastate, I was furious(too long a story, no cheating or anything). I always thought about her, even when I was in a relationship with somebody I really liked.

recently we were at a wedding and started to talk, and now I really cant stop thinkin about her. she has a boyfriend who i kinda know and I know he is a very good guy who treats her good...I still hate him. they have been together for like 2years,but I also know she still has feelings for me and will probably leave him for me(I know b/c we might have fooled around at the wedding)

I just feel like if I say something and we get back together, what if it doesn't work out again. then she gets hurt by me again and also loses the guy she has now and i will feel terrible that I broke up her happiness for nothing.
but I guess she cant be too happy if she slept with me last week.

what u think

oh yeah..she really digs pj. she thanked me for that at the wedding
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  • JB23237JB23237 Posts: 1,378
    Sounds like a hoe.....but hey if you like that kinda stuff by all means
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  • BF89905BF89905 Posts: 1,416
    After reading your story, here are a couple of my thoughts:

    1) I realize that you and her had a past relationship, but I think it's kind of classless of you to fool around with her at a wedding ..... when you knew she was in another relationship with a 'good guy'.

    2) Once a cheater always a cheater..... I hope things work out for you for the best - in the long run.
  • bambam87bambam87 Posts: 545
    BF89905 wrote:
    After reading your story, here are a couple of my thoughts:

    1) I realize that you and her had a past relationship, but I think it's kind of classless of you to fool around with her at a wedding ..... when you knew she was in another relationship with a 'good guy'.

    2) Once a cheater always a cheater..... I hope things work out for you for the best - in the long run.


    yea, both great points .. unfortunately for me

    not my proudest day, didn't tell anybody b/c I am pretty embarrassed by it
  • CAVSTARR313CAVSTARR313 Posts: 8,756
    When I go to the fridge and the milk is bad, I never put it back in and try again the next day..
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  • rick1zoo2rick1zoo2 Posts: 12,632
    Caveeze wrote:
    When I go to the fridge and the milk is bad, I never put it back in and try again the next day..

    :lol:
  • Mamasan23Mamasan23 Posts: 16,388
    Caveeze wrote:
    When I go to the fridge and the milk is bad, I never put it back in and try again the next day..

    that was beautiful man!
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  • DURPDURP Posts: 2,180
    She is a EX for a reason. I've done that and it ended in nothing but disaster.
    My butt itches!
  • eeriepadaveeeriepadave Posts: 42,028
    JB23237 wrote:
    Sounds like a hoe.....but hey if you like that kinda stuff by all means

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  • whispering handswhispering hands Posts: 13,527
    Seriously you have to ask???
  • whispering handswhispering hands Posts: 13,527
    JB23237 wrote:
    Sounds like a hoe.....but hey if you like that kinda stuff by all means
    Don't call that girl a gardening utensil!!! Hooker ho is just h-o, no e.
  • justamjustam Posts: 21,410
    Caveeze wrote:
    When I go to the fridge and the milk is bad, I never put it back in and try again the next day..

    I like this way of saying it! :D
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  • smanchac1smanchac1 Posts: 2,256
    Caveeze wrote:
    When I go to the fridge and the milk is bad, I never put it back in and try again the next day..

    Perfect!

    I'm stealing it :)
  • belinda27belinda27 Posts: 731
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=geHLdg_VNww :lol:
  • dimitrispearljamdimitrispearljam Posts: 139,657
    this isnt easy to work out..better move on to new adventures..

    let me give you an exable...

    think your self as a little Bee

    go smell others flowers ...there are millions out there..
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  • Empty GlassEmpty Glass Posts: 12,329
    Caveeze wrote:
    When I go to the fridge and the milk is bad, I never put it back in and try again the next day..

    :lol::lol::clap::clap:
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  • BinFrogBinFrog Posts: 7,309
    bambam87 wrote:
    not my proudest day, didn't tell anybody b/c I am pretty embarrassed by it

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  • JK_LivinJK_Livin Posts: 7,365
    Back story of why you broke up please. It's the internet, no story is too long.

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  • kw18kw18 Posts: 3,909
    Caveeze wrote:
    When I go to the fridge and the milk is bad, I never put it back in and try again the next day..

    :lol: Well put.

    You guys broke up for a reason, and -- speaking from personal experience -- those reasons never really go away. Even if it feels like those reasons don't apply anymore, there is bound to be all sorts of lingering feelings ... resentment, fear, betrayal, abandonment, etc.

    Good luck with whatever you decide.
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  • MayDay10MayDay10 Posts: 11,725
    thread is useless without pics
  • Black DiamondBlack Diamond Posts: 25,107
    I'm going through this with my Best Friend

    He's the nice guy in your scenario, his wife of 15 years is your ex-girlfriend, and you are the guy who could not forget about her and she was the best you ever had...



    Move on.
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  • maynardsuxmaynardsux Posts: 1,094
    Caveeze wrote:
    When I go to the fridge and the milk is bad, I never put it back in and try again the next day..

    :lol: That is awesome! I was just thinking, why get back with her and deny the thousands of others surely waiting the opportunity at experiencing your gift....I mean, YOU dumped her and she still can't get over you....its guys like you that ruin it for the good ones (like her current boyfriend)....check it! (that ego) :fp:
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  • RKCNDYRKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    Why was her BF not her date at the wedding?
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  • hedonisthedonist Posts: 24,524
    BF89905 wrote:
    After reading your story, here are a couple of my thoughts:

    1) I realize that you and her had a past relationship, but I think it's kind of classless of you to fool around with her at a wedding ..... when you knew she was in another relationship with a 'good guy'.

    2) Once a cheater always a cheater..... I hope things work out for you for the best - in the long run.
    Perfectly said.
  • VitalogensiaVitalogensia Posts: 1,995
    Caveeze wrote:
    When I go to the fridge and the milk is bad, I never put it back in and try again the next day..

    So happy I read this thread, as this is by far the greatest sentence I've ever read. Ditto on the sentiment.
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  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Posts: 49,948
    I think she has a boyfriend and you should back off. If it didn't work out the first time, there is no reason to think it would work out the second time when she's with someone else.
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  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Posts: 49,948
    Caveeze wrote:
    When I go to the fridge and the milk is bad, I never put it back in and try again the next day..
    :lol: :thumbup:
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  • hedonisthedonist Posts: 24,524
    PJ_Soul wrote:
    I think she has a boyfriend and you should back off.
    Yeah. At this point in my life, I don't get how someone would want to be with one who cheated on their boyfriend/husband to be with you...or how someone can just, well, fuck someone knowing full well they have a boyfriend.

    Self-restraint, discipline, maybe a shred of integrity...hello?

    Frankly, OP, if you pursue this, and she goes along, you both deserve any repercussions or fallout. This situation screams for some kind of lifelesson to be learned (if it's learned the hard way, so be it).

    (and if you do get back with her, won't you always be wondering who she's sleeping with on the side?)
  • Who PrincessWho Princess Posts: 7,305
    hedonist wrote:
    PJ_Soul wrote:
    I think she has a boyfriend and you should back off.
    Yeah. At this point in my life, I don't get how someone would want to be with one who cheated on their boyfriend/husband to be with you...or how someone can just, well, fuck someone knowing full well they have a boyfriend.

    Self-restraint, discipline, maybe a shred of integrity...hello?
    People can do a lot a stupid things on impulse if the opportunity presents itself so I don't necessarily think it means this girl has a pattern of cheating. Most people regret it when they do something stupid and try to learn from it so maybe she will too.

    OTOH it has to be quite an impulse to cheat on your boyfriend at a wedding. At least it wasn't her wedding. :lol:
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  • hedonisthedonist Posts: 24,524
    Who Princess wrote:
    hedonist wrote:
    Yeah. At this point in my life, I don't get how someone would want to be with one who cheated on their boyfriend/husband to be with you...or how someone can just, well, fuck someone knowing full well they have a boyfriend.

    Self-restraint, discipline, maybe a shred of integrity...hello?
    People can do a lot a stupid things on impulse if the opportunity presents itself so I don't necessarily think it means this girl has a pattern of cheating. Most people regret it when they do something stupid and try to learn from it so maybe she will too.

    OTOH it has to be quite an impulse to cheat on your boyfriend at a wedding. At least it wasn't her wedding. :lol:
    No, I hear you. Yet it sounds like he not only messed around with her knowing she's in a (semi) long-term relationship, but now wants to get back with her?

    How does that even work?

    Nope, don't get it!

    (and I feel for her good-guy boyfriend)
  • josevolutionjosevolution Posts: 29,489
    Both of you are classless for hooking up at the wedding i hope the good guy finds out and throws her ass in the garbage so you can end up together at least you guys have something in common , trash ...
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