Proposing at the Charlotte show - Advice Please
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Hello All,
I'm new to the boards, but not to PJ. My brief history:
I've been into PJ since since the first time I heard them in the early 90's. My first show was 95 in DC. I've seen them 12 times total, but only a few times since 2000 due to health issues. I've have chronic pancreatitis that I have suffered with about half my life, I'm 35 now, and had an accident which required major spinal surgery a few years back. During my late 20's I had given up on my love life because nobody could stand by me when symptoms got bad. I had been working shit jobs to get by and keep my health insurance so I could try to get treatment. At this point, I gave up everything and went back to school to try to make something more of my life. I didn't want my disease to control me anymore.
Needless to say PJ was a huge influence on me fighting back and getting through the hard times. I'm heavily influenced by Mike's health problems and it's soooo great to know there are others who have a hard time chronically and still manage to live there lives the best they can with what they have. Every time I hear a story of perseverance, it inspires me to no end. I'm very aware that there are others much worse off than me and for the most part do not share my issues with anybody and am thankful for everything I have.
Anyways, once I had given up everything for school I met the love of my life randomly in a class. I moved to another city, Charlotte NC, and managed to find her. She has helped and held me through some of my worst times and I have returned the favor. She suffers with chronic illness of her own and had brain surgery a year ago. She has been doing much better since and is now able to work again.
Luckily we found each other, and she just so happens to love PJ as well. She has never been to a show because her issues have been even worse than mine throughout the past and when I told her we got tickets she cried, with tears of joy of course. We got the reserve seats because we can't fight for the front in GA. We are both hoping we are healthy at the time of the show and we will do everything within our power to make it.
We have been together 3 years now. I'm going to propose to her at the show. It's the perfect place for us and the perfect time. That alone is special enough, but I wanted to know if anybody had any further ideas on how to go about this? Our favorite "couples" songs are Just Breathe and Light Years, but of course I have no idea if they will play those so I can't wait for them to be played to pop the question. Has anyone heard of a way to find out a setlist, make a song request, or anything that could help me out?
I know it's a long shot, but I just want to do everything I can to make this the best day of our lives. Thanks for any words of wisdom...
I'm new to the boards, but not to PJ. My brief history:
I've been into PJ since since the first time I heard them in the early 90's. My first show was 95 in DC. I've seen them 12 times total, but only a few times since 2000 due to health issues. I've have chronic pancreatitis that I have suffered with about half my life, I'm 35 now, and had an accident which required major spinal surgery a few years back. During my late 20's I had given up on my love life because nobody could stand by me when symptoms got bad. I had been working shit jobs to get by and keep my health insurance so I could try to get treatment. At this point, I gave up everything and went back to school to try to make something more of my life. I didn't want my disease to control me anymore.
Needless to say PJ was a huge influence on me fighting back and getting through the hard times. I'm heavily influenced by Mike's health problems and it's soooo great to know there are others who have a hard time chronically and still manage to live there lives the best they can with what they have. Every time I hear a story of perseverance, it inspires me to no end. I'm very aware that there are others much worse off than me and for the most part do not share my issues with anybody and am thankful for everything I have.
Anyways, once I had given up everything for school I met the love of my life randomly in a class. I moved to another city, Charlotte NC, and managed to find her. She has helped and held me through some of my worst times and I have returned the favor. She suffers with chronic illness of her own and had brain surgery a year ago. She has been doing much better since and is now able to work again.
Luckily we found each other, and she just so happens to love PJ as well. She has never been to a show because her issues have been even worse than mine throughout the past and when I told her we got tickets she cried, with tears of joy of course. We got the reserve seats because we can't fight for the front in GA. We are both hoping we are healthy at the time of the show and we will do everything within our power to make it.
We have been together 3 years now. I'm going to propose to her at the show. It's the perfect place for us and the perfect time. That alone is special enough, but I wanted to know if anybody had any further ideas on how to go about this? Our favorite "couples" songs are Just Breathe and Light Years, but of course I have no idea if they will play those so I can't wait for them to be played to pop the question. Has anyone heard of a way to find out a setlist, make a song request, or anything that could help me out?
I know it's a long shot, but I just want to do everything I can to make this the best day of our lives. Thanks for any words of wisdom...
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And thanks for the phone advice. She tends not to check my phone, but if I'm looking at it a lot the day of she might get curious.
Thanks again...
Anyone else have any ideas? I'd really appreciate it!!!
Either way, if there is a way to get some attention through the forums I would love any help I can get. I can be like Andy Dufrain and write my couple of letters everyday for any possibility of attention.
If anyone can help me, or bump me, or offer anymore advice, I would really appreciate it!!
I'm having a procedure done that will knock me down for a couple days, then I plan to come back strong and see what I can do for the show.
I'm so happy for you both.
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During my recovery days I learned to "play" Future Days. What a beautiful song and perfect for building new memories upon.
I've decided to go with that or Just Breathe for the proposal. I hope they play one of them...
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I second this, you could say you would like to take her to her first PJ show as her fiance.
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The reason I was going to propose at the show is because it is something special for the both of us. I've been thinking about how to do this for about a year now and no idea seems to be good enough. I wanted to do something different than a dinner; I've thought about setting something up at the place we first met. When the Wrigley show got announced I was going to do that because we both love the Cubs too and Wrigley would have been awesome. But, no tix so I figured it wasn't meant to be. When they announced this tour and I got tix, I thought it would be perfect if it happened at the show. Hmmm...
I would love to get some female opinion on this subject. I think she will be happy no matter how it happens, but any advice would be great. I don't want her to miss out on what I'm saying, but feel like I could pick a great moment in the show if it was provided. (and it usually is)
Again, I thank everyone for all their input and I know that this night is going to be special no matter how it comes to fruition.
However, even though it might seem super cool to propose at a show, I personally wouldn't do it. I would not want to share this private moment with thousands of people. She might not hear you properly, it might be dark, it might smell of pot, sweat and alcohol, there might be drunk, yelling people around ... After the show, worn out, but with big, happy feelings in your hearts, would top the experience of her first show even more and make it memorable for all times.
Best of luck to you two, I'm raising my glass to another happy PJ couple
Update:
Charlottesville saved me...
Please read...
Unfortunately I've been struggling greatly with my health over the last couple months even more than ever. I'm at a point where the doctor's are advising me to have my pancreas removed, which comes with a vast amount of bad results especially in my given condition. I'm hoping for the best as I seek some other opinions. That is the bad news...
My girlfriend has been there more than ever for me lately. She has held my head when I can't hold it up myself, stayed every minute with me at the hospitals, and is someone that has helped me more than any doctor ever can. I also recently found out that my disease is genetic and my children have a 50/50 shot at having a life like the one I am living now. It's made me think so much in ways I never have before: Should I have kids? Would they resent me for having them and passing along my disease while knowing this could happen? And sooo much more...
Morgan, my girlfriend, has been so great. She reassures me that she wants me no matter what and will not leave my side. I'm such a lucky man...
Needless to say "Sirens" holds a very special place in our hearts. Randomly the last time she had to drive me to the emergency room the song came on the radio. It was ironic/fitting all in the same and even in a state of shock it still sent me to tears. It's really not a sad song to me, just really makes me feel how precious life is and that I know I want to spend the rest of my life and beyond with her. I've read some truly heartfelt/heartbreaking/inspirational stories where this song has touched their lives and I'm so happy that this song really does represent the emotions that go along with illness/life and death.
Anyways,
We were originally going to see PJ only in Charlotte, where we live. But we decided life was too short, we needed something more, and we road tripped to C-ville last night. I had to medicate myself in order to make the trip successfully, but it was well worth it. Last night's show was beyond words and was such a great night for us to forget our problems for a few hours and just be. It was one of the happiest nights I've had in such a long time. I held her close and we danced during Sirens and Future Days. Both times we were in tears and it was like we were alone in the stadium and they were playing just for us. It was a perfect moment that I wish would not have ended.
I am going to propose tonight. After some advice that some of you have given me I was going to do it in a more traditional way and not at the show. But that has changed. We are attending tonight as well and I can't imagine a more perfect place and time for us to commit our lives to one another.
Sooo...
Tonight after Sirens I will be proposing to Morgan. We have TC reserved seats, which I hope are at least as good as last nights. I would love to be in GA so we could be a little closer and have a little more room for our special moment; and of course a possible shout out from the band. But will be happy none the less.
If anyone has any last minute advice. Would be willing to trade their GA for reserved, at least through Sirens. Or has a couple of great reserved, which would put us in prime view, I would be forever grateful. I may also try to get somebody to capture our moment with a camera I will be bringing, but this is not a priority of course.
I am sooo excited for tonight.
Thank you for reading and all of the support,
Kevin
Good luck to you and congratulations to both of you! Hopefully she has not read this entire thread!
Good luck tonight!!! I hope you remember to come back here and tell us how everything went!
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I have no advice for the proposal. Be yourself, be happy. I wish you two all the best for the future
I would love to do it during or right after Just Breathe, but it's hard to know the exact moment to make this happen during the show without knowledge of the setlist. If they play Just Breathe or Future Days early I will definitely take that opportunity. Not sure I'll get Future Days since it was played last night. They are due for a Just Breathe, but I'm guaranteed Sirens. Hmmm...
I think they are all winners and I will just play it by ear and pick my moment...
I picked up my reserve tix. I got Floor 1 ( I believe Stone's side), row T, seats 14,15. Not the best view, but it will sound great. So if anybody wants to keep an eye out or help me out with pics that would be awesome.
Thanks again everybody! I will definitely let everyone know how it turns out..
you'll probably quickly forget the thousands of people you are surrounded by, good luck
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Find shapes in the clouds.
Hear the murmur of the wind
and touch the cool water.
Walk softly,
we are intruders,
tolerated briefly
In an infinite universe.
and there's just one word that i still believe,
and it's love... love
If anyone does decide they want to help I'm wearing a vintage cubby bear black hat and a binaural tour ten club shirt from 2000. Just say hey Kevin.
Thanks aren't enough for all of your thoughts...
Hope you have a magical night!