Relationship advice
bee_boy
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Okay, so I haven't been around for ages, but I needed some unbiased opinions and I know I can trust you guys. So, I've been going out with my girlfriend for about two months now and I want to have a chat with her about something no one ever wants to talk about: money. The thing is, since we started going out I've payed for pretty much everything: dinners, lunches, drinks, cabs, movies... Everything. But a couple of days ago when we went out I asked her if she had some spare change for the cab cause I didn't have any, she told me she had none. Not only change but any credit cards, savings cards or any money whatsoever. So I realized that since I've been paying for everything all the time, it's now got to the point where she simply assumes I will pay for everything. Needless to say, I've been feeling a bit used since then. Don't get me wrong, I do make more money than she does (about 3x), and I really don't mind paying for everything most of the time, but I do wish that from time to time she had the gesture to pay for the first round of drinks, or for dessert, or the popcorn. After all, it's not only girls that like being spoilt from time to time.
what should I do? I don't want to come across as being stingy or cheap, and the last thing I want is for her to feel uncomfortable. But on the other hand, it's not nice to feel used by your girlfriend.
what should I do? I don't want to come across as being stingy or cheap, and the last thing I want is for her to feel uncomfortable. But on the other hand, it's not nice to feel used by your girlfriend.
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Either way, she should most definitely pitch in, at least once in a while.
If you really like her, you better speak up before it makes you so resentful the relationship has no chance.
Easier to come by than a good woman. Especially if she is hot.
Some women are like that, they expect everything to be paid for.
just kidding ... don't think i'm much help here ... all the girls i've dated want to pay for everything ... to me, it seems like a weird conversation to have ... is she so old fashioned that this is an expectation or is she totally clueless about what is going on? ... you would think that if someone didn't have the funds would at least acknowledge your generosity and explain what their situation is ...
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damn, I didn't even notice that. Honestly, I very rarely look at that stuff. I need to be more observant in the future. I guess this stuff is a reflection of who we are, I know mine is.
Seriously? I guess it makes sense that you got me all sorted out from my avatar and signature which are supposed to be humorous. I definitely support slavery and see women as pieces of meat.
If you don't want to give me advice, it's alright. I don't want it.
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communication is the key to a good relationship....
if you think this has long term potential talk about it, if it's short term, bang the shit out of it, and be cheap about it.
good luck.
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I'll talk to her and I'll definitely try to be tactful about it. I really like her and don't want to mess up thing with her.
Thanks again!
I went out with this girl for a while...she did the same thing. I knew it wouldn't last but she was hot and I played along...
Now that I think about it, it was kinda like prostitution! :think: :shock:
I bought everything and she.....well....
(btw, I don't really judge folks by their avatar or signature; I try to go by the content of what the person's posted. This fellow seems alright by me.)
I've never expected the man to pay for everything all the time. I always offer to pay for at least something (popcorn if he bought the movie tix, etc) and I always offer an outing that's totally on me. I think it says a lot about a person's character if they never at least make the offer....
My girlfriend just whatsapped me and told me that she wants to take me out for dinner, and I hadn't even spoken to her yet.
Women are mind readers.
make her pick up the check
keep it clean...this is an all ages forum
Hahaha, this was good.
If she does not haev a goldminer personality, then you shouldnt be worrying about usual date expenditures like dinner, cafe, kino tickets; I would say.
Edit: A girl's preparation for a date (dress, hair, etc...) can cost much more than the date costs.
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Yeah... I don't really mind changing my avatar and signature as long as it saves me some unnecessary bulls**t
Yesterday she told me that she would start being more attentive to those details and would "spoil me" more often... and I hadn't even mentioned it. WEIRD.
There was no lobster, though
I dont know man, the tornado tongue scene from American Pie comes to mind... did you see that recently or something?
HAHAHAHAHA! That's hysterical... Not American Pie, but I've seen "Deuce Bigalow: Male Gigolo" recently, though.
"Women pay me to give them pleasure"
Glad things turned out ok, OP!
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Thank you!!!
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...actually, HER treat.