Relationship advice

bee_boy

Okay, so I haven't been around for ages, but I needed some unbiased opinions and I know I can trust you guys. So, I've been going out with my girlfriend for about two months now and I want to have a chat with her about something no one ever wants to talk about: money. The thing is, since we started going out I've payed for pretty much everything: dinners, lunches, drinks, cabs, movies... Everything. But a couple of days ago when we went out I asked her if she had some spare change for the cab cause I didn't have any, she told me she had none. Not only change but any credit cards, savings cards or any money whatsoever. So I realized that since I've been paying for everything all the time, it's now got to the point where she simply assumes I will pay for everything. Needless to say, I've been feeling a bit used since then. Don't get me wrong, I do make more money than she does (about 3x), and I really don't mind paying for everything most of the time, but I do wish that from time to time she had the gesture to pay for the first round of drinks, or for dessert, or the popcorn. After all, it's not only girls that like being spoilt from time to time.

what should I do? I don't want to come across as being stingy or cheap, and the last thing I want is for her to feel uncomfortable. But on the other hand, it's not nice to feel used by your girlfriend.

PureandEasy

What age group are you in?

Either way, she should most definitely pitch in, at least once in a while.

If you really like her, you better speak up before it makes you so resentful the relationship has no chance.

Get_Right

Its just money.
Easier to come by than a good woman. Especially if she is hot.
Some women are like that, they expect everything to be paid for.

polaris_x

how hot is she?



just kidding ... don't think i'm much help here ... all the girls i've dated want to pay for everything ... to me, it seems like a weird conversation to have ... is she so old fashioned that this is an expectation or is she totally clueless about what is going on? ... you would think that if someone didn't have the funds would at least acknowledge your generosity and explain what their situation is ...

BinFrog

Not sure I want to give advice to someone whose avatar is "Slavery gets shit done" and whose signature is "I don't like skinny girls. Bones are for dogs, men like meat."

Next.

PureandEasy

BinFrog wrote:

Not sure I want to give advice to someone whose avatar is "Slavery gets shit done" and whose signature is "I don't like skinny girls. Bones are for dogs, men like meat."

Next.

damn, I didn't even notice that. Honestly, I very rarely look at that stuff. I need to be more observant in the future. I guess this stuff is a reflection of who we are, I know mine is.

bee_boy

BinFrog wrote:

Not sure I want to give advice to someone whose avatar is "Slavery gets shit done" and whose signature is "I don't like skinny girls. Bones are for dogs, men like meat."

Next.

Seriously? I guess it makes sense that you got me all sorted out from my avatar and signature which are supposed to be humorous. I definitely support slavery and see women as pieces of meat.

If you don't want to give me advice, it's alright. I don't want it.

Snakeduck

bee_boy wrote:

I definitely support slavery and see women as pieces of meat.

Hey everyone, I found Half-Pint! You can stop the revolution now...

81

:think:

communication is the key to a good relationship....

if you think this has long term potential talk about it, if it's short term, bang the shit out of it, and be cheap about it.

good luck.

maynardsux

Sounds like she's training you well for how things will be further down the road

Poncier

maynardsux wrote:

Sounds like she's training you well for how things will be further down the road

Seriously. Instead of asking her to buy popcorn, just propose.

RKCNDY

just break up...there now you don't have any problems.

bee_boy

Thanks a lot for the advice, guys. In the end it's not about the money, it's about those little details, and not taking for granted that I'll be the sole provider throughout the entire relationship. We're supposed to be a team.

I'll talk to her and I'll definitely try to be tactful about it. I really like her and don't want to mess up thing with her.

Thanks again!

mca47

Yeah, just talk to her about it.

I went out with this girl for a while...she did the same thing. I knew it wouldn't last but she was hot and I played along...

Now that I think about it, it was kinda like prostitution! :think: :shock:

I bought everything and she.....well....

hedonist

PureandEasy wrote:

What age group are you in?

Either way, she should most definitely pitch in, at least once in a while.

If you really like her, you better speak up before it makes you so resentful the relationship has no chance.

Completely agree with these wise words.

(btw, I don't really judge folks by their avatar or signature; I try to go by the content of what the person's posted. This fellow seems alright by me.)

LA98

Female opinion here

I've never expected the man to pay for everything all the time. I always offer to pay for at least something (popcorn if he bought the movie tix, etc) and I always offer an outing that's totally on me. I think it says a lot about a person's character if they never at least make the offer....

bee_boy

Weird...

My girlfriend just whatsapped me and told me that she wants to take me out for dinner, and I hadn't even spoken to her yet.

Women are mind readers.

81

bee_boy wrote:

Weird...

My girlfriend just whatsapped me and told me that she wants to take me out for dinner, and I hadn't even spoken to her yet.

Women are mind readers.

make her pick up the check

Get_Right

Order the lobster.

Better Dan

Get_Right wrote:

Order the lobster.

This thread has been hilarious. Good luck to the OP!

Who Princess

bee_boy wrote:

Weird...

My girlfriend just whatsapped me and told me that she wants to take me out for dinner, and I hadn't even spoken to her yet.

Women are mind readers.

You sure she isn't on this board?