Poor friend of mine.

Black Diamond

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

Actually I am pretty sure this is a SIMPLE procedure. Going up through the leg, to the heart, with a camera. Check out the situation, and if need be, fix any problems. But dad is 74, and has had 2 major surgeries in the last few years. During one of the surgeries, his heart actually stopped beating, and they brought him back. (What a day that was!!!!)

Having a cath? Oh that's easy peasy ... had my 4th last Thursday... I didn't even fall asleep :shock: :fp:
Yeah for his age it most likely its a bit tougher

SPEEDY MCCREADY

Black Diamond wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

Actually I am pretty sure this is a SIMPLE procedure. Going up through the leg, to the heart, with a camera. Check out the situation, and if need be, fix any problems. But dad is 74, and has had 2 major surgeries in the last few years. During one of the surgeries, his heart actually stopped beating, and they brought him back. (What a day that was!!!!)

Having a cath? Oh that's easy peasy ... had my 4th last Thursday... I didn't even fall asleep :shock: :fp:
Yeah for his age it most likely its a bit tougher

From what little I have just read, yeah, its somewhat a simple procedure. I just need to calm my father down a little. He is a wreck. Last Sunday he was talking as if we only have a few more weeks together. Bullshit! My dad is going to be here another 20 years or so, just to really make me and mom NUTS!!!

SPEEDY MCCREADY

Empty Glass wrote:

Thoughts are with you and your friend Speedy

Thank you.

AND THANKS EVERYONE.
I truly appreciate the kind words, from everyone here.

QuarterToTen

It sounds like what you are describing is a cardiac catheterization.
Not necessarily a simple procedure, but a fairly routine procedure and an invaluable diagnostic tool.

Your father's doctor would not have scheduled him for it had he not thought he was an
appropriate candidate, which is a good indication of your Dad's overall health.

He'll do just fine.

SPEEDY MCCREADY

QuarterToTen wrote:

It sounds like what you are describing is a cardiac catheterization.
Not necessarily a simple procedure, but a fairly routine procedure and an invaluable diagnostic tool.

Your father's doctor would not have scheduled him for it had he not thought he was an
appropriate candidate, which is a good indication of your Dad's overall health.

He'll do just fine.

Doctor: You are an appropriate candidate for this type of procedure.
Dad: Really?
Doctor: Well on second thought, I will give you a week, to go to the bank and get your finances in order.
Dad: :shock:

My Dad's overall health is a disaster.

barger395

Hey Speedy...I'm really sorry to hear about all of this rough news. My condolences to your friend. That sucks donkey balls.

I hope your father makes it through the procedure with flying colors. I understand your frustrations and anger towards the Doc. Please make sure all of your Dad's affairs are in order. As you may remember, I just lost my girlfriend a month or so ago. We had agreed verbally to what we wanted for the other in terms of the future. None of that matters, and my life is in financial peril. I lost the love of my life, and because we did not take care of business, the life she wanted me to have is lost as well. I know it sucks, but trust me...The alternative is much worse.

Cheers and best wishes to you and your family,
BS

SPEEDY MCCREADY

barger395 wrote:

Hey Speedy...I'm really sorry to hear about all of this rough news. My condolences to your friend. That sucks donkey balls.

I hope your father makes it through the procedure with flying colors. I understand your frustrations and anger towards the Doc. Please make sure all of your Dad's affairs are in order. As you may remember, I just lost my girlfriend a month or so ago. We had agreed verbally to what we wanted for the other in terms of the future. None of that matters, and my life is in financial peril. I lost the love of my life, and because we did not take care of business, the life she wanted me to have is lost as well. I know it sucks, but trust me...The alternative is much worse.

Cheers and best wishes to you and your family,
BS

I am truly sorry for your loss.
I cant imagine.

guacamolejoe

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

Black Diamond wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

Actually I am pretty sure this is a SIMPLE procedure. Going up through the leg, to the heart, with a camera. Check out the situation, and if need be, fix any problems. But dad is 74, and has had 2 major surgeries in the last few years. During one of the surgeries, his heart actually stopped beating, and they brought him back. (What a day that was!!!!)

Having a cath? Oh that's easy peasy ... had my 4th last Thursday... I didn't even fall asleep :shock: :fp:
Yeah for his age it most likely its a bit tougher

From what little I have just read, yeah, its somewhat a simple procedure. I just need to calm my father down a little. He is a wreck. Last Sunday he was talking as if we only have a few more weeks together. Bullshit! My dad is going to be here another 20 years or so, just to really make me and mom NUTS!!!

My prayers are with you, your family & your friend.

QuarterToTen

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

QuarterToTen wrote:

It sounds like what you are describing is a cardiac catheterization.
Not necessarily a simple procedure, but a fairly routine procedure and an invaluable diagnostic tool.

Your father's doctor would not have scheduled him for it had he not thought he was an
appropriate candidate, which is a good indication of your Dad's overall health.

He'll do just fine.

Doctor: You are an appropriate candidate for this type of procedure.
Dad: Really?
Doctor: Well on second thought, I will give you a week, to go to the bank and get your finances in order.
Dad: :shock:

My Dad's overall health is a disaster.

With any type of heart procedure, those unfortunate words have to be spoken. My 45 year old brother had to undergo a cardioversion for an arrythmia and was basically given the same speech.

And it freaks you the fuck out, no other way to put it. As if the stress of the procedure isn't
enough as it is.

SPEEDY MCCREADY

QuarterToTen wrote:

With any type of heart procedure, those unfortunate words have to be spoken. My 45 year old brother had to undergo a cardioversion for an arrythmia and was basically given the same speech.

And it freaks you the fuck out, no other way to put it. As if the stress of the procedure isn't
enough as it is.

WTF makes MR. Doctor think that my mom, the lady who worked 33 years at a financial institution, who when the institution closed (actually changed hands, and my mom was forced out because she made too much money), was Assistant Vice President.
The same woman then turned around, and worked for the States Attorneys Office for 10 years.

What makes Mr. Doctor think, that THAT WOMAN doesnt have her, and her husbands finances in order?

I am pretty sure my parents have never bounced any check that Mr. Doctor has cashed over the last few years.


Mr. Fucking Doctor should worry about his own finances.

Mamasan23

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

81 wrote:

my condolances to him.

Sunday, I go to visit my folks.
My dad announces he has to undergo some type of heart procedure.
The doctor has informed my dad to make sure he has his WILL updated, and all his finances taken care of.



My dad is a nervous wreck.

It is only Wednesday.
And I have had enough of this fucking week.

Oh boy....what a week indeed. I'm so sorry to hear that all these things are going on, my prayers go out to your dad and your friend. One day at a time!

QuarterToTen

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

WTF makes MR. Doctor think that my mom, the lady who worked 33 years at a financial institution, who when the institution closed (actually changed hands, and my mom was forced out becasue she made too much money), was Assistant Vice President.
The same woman then turned around, and worked for the States Attorneys Office for 10 years.

What makes Mr. Doctor think, that THAT WOMAN doesnt have her, and her husbands finances in order?

I am pretty sure my parents have never bounced any check that Mr. Doctor has cashed over the last few years.


Mr. Fucking Doctor should worry about his own finances.

I'm sure the doctor meant no offense, just standard practice.

That said, it's very frustrating and almost insulting to be told such fundamental facts.
Not to mention sobering. I hear ya.

SPEEDY MCCREADY

QuarterToTen wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

WTF makes MR. Doctor think that my mom, the lady who worked 33 years at a financial institution, who when the institution closed (actually changed hands, and my mom was forced out becasue she made too much money), was Assistant Vice President.
The same woman then turned around, and worked for the States Attorneys Office for 10 years.

What makes Mr. Doctor think, that THAT WOMAN doesnt have her, and her husbands finances in order?

I am pretty sure my parents have never bounced any check that Mr. Doctor has cashed over the last few years.


Mr. Fucking Doctor should worry about his own finances.

I'm sure the doctor meant no offense, just standard practice.

That said, it's very frustrating and almost insulting to be told such fundamental facts.
Not to mention sobering. I hear ya.

Fundamental facts, that Mr. Doctor should have thought about for a second or 2.
He need not discuss finances with my parents. My parents who have BOTH undergone MAJOR surgeries over the last few years. Mr. Doctor should have instantly realized, that there is a good chance that these 2 people, dont need to be given the "Finance Speech".

But by giving my dad the "Finance Speech", my dad hasnt slept for 2 days.

shetellsherself

Sorry to hear of your dad's health troubles. I agree that the "finance speech" probably was just the standard blurb he gives to all patients going into surgery. However I also know that many doctors, especially surgeons, lack sensitivity when it comes to the emotional side of the patient's and family's response to such a speech. I remember having similar worries with my own father and his heart problems/procedures. It's hard to see this person who has been a source of strength become vulnerable. Sounds like he is fortunate to have you for support and to help calm him and de-stress the situation. My best wishes for a simple and quick procedure and recovery.

QuarterToTen

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

I'm sure the doctor meant no offense, just standard practice.

That said, it's very frustrating and almost insulting to be told such fundamental facts.
Not to mention sobering. I hear ya.

Fundamental facts, that Mr. Doctor should have thought about for a second or 2.
He need not discuss finances with my parents. My parents who have BOTH undergone MAJOR surgeries over the last few years. Mr. Doctor should have instantly realized, that there is a good chance that these 2 people, dont need to be given the "Finance Speech".

But by giving my dad the "Finance Speech", my dad hasnt slept for 2 days.[/quote]

To say that the doctor should have been a bit more discretionary and used more tact is an understatement.

StillHere

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

81 wrote:

my condolances to him.

Sunday, I go to visit my folks.
My dad announces he has to undergo some type of heart procedure.
The doctor has informed my dad to make sure he has his WILL updated, and all his finances taken care of.



My dad is a nervous wreck.

It is only Wednesday.
And I have had enough of this fucking week.

Tell your Dad they "always" say that stuff.
They want you to have an advanced directive (living will) is probably what Doc was talking about.
so just in case some emergency occurs, they know if you would like heroic measures taken..or not.

sorry about your friend. When it rains it pours. That really sux.

Wish words could mean more

pandora

Everyone should have a living will, it really helps your loved ones.

StillHere

pandora wrote:

Everyone should have a living will, it really helps your loved ones.

can take a huge weight off of their shoulders if and when it comes to decision time, for sure.

kw18

Ah, man. That sounds rough. Best wishes to your dad, and condolences to your buddy.

shortstack

sorry to hear about all the bad news.

did the doctor actually say to your dad, "you should get a will" or did they just hand him the paperwork?
I was given the "booklets" and had to sign a paper when i went in for a simple endoscopy last year.

EdsonNascimento wrote:

EDIT: And I'm sure this bit about the Will and Finances were in connection to the Health Proxy which is ULTRA critical to have whenever you go into surgery. There may be something they find while he's under that they can't do anything about if they don't have a health proxy.