Apartment Etiquette
mookeywrench
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So I'm playing music in my bedroom at 2:00 PM. The volume is quiet enough that I'm able to hear a knock on my entry door while my bedroom door is closed.
I answer the door and it's my upstairs neighbor asking me to turn down the music because her daughter is napping and she (the mom; not the napping daughter) can hear the bumps from the bass when she checks on her daughter.
Sorry, but there are some things you have to just tolerate when you live in an apartment, it's well known apartments have nothing but a slab of plywood and a slab of sheet rock between the levels.
Isn't in the wrong to come knocking on the door to demand I turn down my music while it's playing at a moderate level in the middle of the afternoon? Or am I over reacting?
I answer the door and it's my upstairs neighbor asking me to turn down the music because her daughter is napping and she (the mom; not the napping daughter) can hear the bumps from the bass when she checks on her daughter.
Sorry, but there are some things you have to just tolerate when you live in an apartment, it's well known apartments have nothing but a slab of plywood and a slab of sheet rock between the levels.
Isn't in the wrong to come knocking on the door to demand I turn down my music while it's playing at a moderate level in the middle of the afternoon? Or am I over reacting?
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If it hasn't woken the daughter up I don't see why it would be a problem. Maybe she has a thing for you and just wanted to see you/go to your apartment since her daughter would be napping for a while. Got pics? That's my attempt to corrupt this thread
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Your neighbor is definitely in the wrong. Its 2pm, not 10pm. You shouldn't have to change what you do for when your neighbor's daughter is taking a nap. That's ridiculous
That's ridiculous. What gives that neighbor the right to tell someone to turn down music in the middle of the day just because their daughter is napping. Like the OP said, there are certain things that you just have to learn to deal with when living in an apartment building. If you don't like it, then go buy a house.
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better to ask you turn it down than to call the cops
being a good neighboor involves sacrafice.
BUT, I would have told her to come down after the kid wakes up and then blasted the music!
If the apartment floors were insulated I would understand this, but they're not. Any sound is going to travel. I'm already considerate by not playing a drop of music from 8:00 PM to 9:00 AM. Paired with a 9-5 job I'm hardly making noise. She's got it pretty good up there, she can't tolerate moderate noises on a weekend afternoon?
I get to hear her footsteps, and her all of her other kid's crying fits at 3:40AM, and hear hum the Mockingbird lullaby to her kid for 15 minutes nightly. While below me I get to hear some elementary student practice Hot Cross Buns on his recorder for hours. but rather than knocking on their doors all I tell myself is that I live in an apartment, ces't la vie.
It's decided, she's being the unreasonable one.
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The kid is probably 3 or so. Sacrifice should come from both sides of the fence though.
The funny thing is that this is a new neighbor, the ones before her were a group of party girls who were loud as hell late night and loved Ed Hardy so much that they had seat covers in there cars so they could sport Ed Hardy everyday...WTF? Anyway I digress, they would blast Shaggy's It Wasn't Me at like 3 AM and I wished so bad for them to move out.
Now I got what I wished for. The devil you know is never worse than the devil you don't I guess.
Game. Set. Match.
It's the middle of the day. Fuck that neighbor. OP shouldn't have to change his lifestyle and what he does just because he happens to live in a building with a small child.
Living in an apartment building involves sacrifice.
i don't really care...
i was lucky, never really had a bad neighbor. worst was the footsteps when we lived on the lower level.
having a house is nice. buy a house and not the townhouse/condo type.
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I guess it depends on whether she asked or demanded. As long as she approached you somewhat nicely about it then I don't see any reason to not be neighborly. Maybe the kid is sick, who knows. This wasn't a home invasion, it sounds like a neighbor asking a favor. Judging by some of the responses I don't think I would want to be neighbors with a lot of people around here.
Sounds like this is the only time she's ever done this, it's not like she bangs on his door daily to have him turn his shit off. If she does begin to do that then it's a good time for the "we live in an apartment building" talk and possibly come to a compromise or something. But I don't see any reason to get bent out of shape because somebody asked a favor. Can't people just be amicable?
I don't think mookey is really in the wrong or anything, or that he's overreacting, it really depends on how she approached him. I see a lot of "fuck everybody else I'm doing what I want" attitude coming from a lot of responses, and that shit is why I hate leaving the house and dealing with people. This woman didn't ask mookey to change his lifestyle, she wanted him to turn down his music one time.
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People have the right to ask for whatever they want. And I think it's overreacting to suggest otherwise. And I said it's polite to try to be considerate when your neighbors say you're disturbing them. I didn't say he has an obligation to be polite. (Why are people so quick to look at things from the "But I have a RIGHT to do this" perspective? Instead of always asking ourselves whether something is our right, why can't we instead ask ourselves what action would be most considerate to the people around us? The world would certainly be a better place if we took that perspective more often.)
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do a polite conversation,that u respect the kid want to sleep,but you need to do your things too..
i think isnt a big thinm to figure out this..and all can live in a good spirit
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