Just need some cheering up, fam
hls990
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So today marks the end of my 3 year relationship with the woman I wanted to marry, after I found out she was cheating. I know this forum is not for things of this nature, but I kinda just want someone to talk to. Been up all night in misery, feeling disgusting and used. I don't expect a counseling session, just some friendly voices. Thanks family.
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I don't even know what that was. Man, just don't let it keep ya down.
there is not a lot that anyone can say, but i went through the same thing about 2 years ago. it was the most devestating thing to ever happen to me. it happens to all of us. most of us have been cheated on at one point or another, and that betrayal is a very difficult thing to forgive, forget, and get over.
all i can say is it gets better. yeah it totally sucks now, and you probably haven't hit bottom yet, but when you do you need to tell yourself that "it's not how hard you fall, it is how high you BOUNCE"... and i know you don't think so now, but you should be glad that it happened now instead of while you are married. it is easier to make a break when you aren't married. also, as i have found out, if you are going to be with someone who will cheat on you, you are better off alone. i know i am.
i honestly hope things get better for you. in the meantime try to stay busy and keep your mind occupied. write in a journal, go work out at the gym, do something to stay busy or else you will focus on it and replay it in your mind over and over and over, and that is not healthy at all....most of all, if you can avoid it, stay away from drugs and alcohol for a little bit. those things are good for making you feel better and forget about things, but they make you make stupid decisions, do stupid things that seem ok at the time, and do things that you will regret later.
most of all, leave her alone. don't contact her. you might think you are doing the right thing by trying to contact her or patch things up, but trust me, you should keep your distance right now. she knows what she did, and if it was an ongoing affair, chances are she does not feel bad about what she did, only that she got caught.
there are good people around here and there is a lot of good advice they have to give. i got some great advice from the people on this board, but i did not turn the corner until i went and talked to someone professionally. if you need to talk to someone, i would call my doctor and ask them to recommend a good counselor. it was the best decision i ever made because it helped me address other issues that i had that i was unaware of..
best of luck!
"Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
Seems my preconceptions are what should have been burned...
I AM MINE
-Eddie Vedder, "Smile"
Definitely listen to this^^^
Sorry to hear about this...I've been through it too, it is hell...it will take "time." But you'll be fine, and I'll bet you meet a much better lady down the road. Much better.
don't bottle things up.
i know she was comfortable for you and you are in an uncomfortable position right now since she was your best friend. but you will grow as a person after all of this. heartbreak has a funny way of making us stronger and better people. if you can get through this you can get through anything. unfortunately she is going to continue to be who she is. you can become something better. i am proof of that.
"Well, you tell him that I don't talk to suckas."
The risk I took was calculated, but man, am I bad at math - The Mincing Mockingbird