Head or Heart?

stargirl69
stargirl69 Posts: 6,387
edited March 2012 in All Encompassing Trip
In the past I have followed my heart.
I have new decisions to make but I can't leave them to my heart as I have learned they are unlikely to be the most balanced decisions.

I am interested to know,are your life decisions mostly made by your head or your heart?
“There should be a place where only the things you want to happen, happen”
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  • Carey
    Carey Posts: 2,361
    In my 20s and early 30s, heart
    Now, head
    "Can't buy what I want because it's free..."
  • BinauralJam
    BinauralJam Posts: 14,158
    Carey wrote:
    In my 20s and early 30s, heart
    Now, head


    This!
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,725
    i follow my head and act with my heart....
    if you dont put feeling and passion in things you do you are just a machine...
    i prefer humans to deal with..
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • PJPixie
    PJPixie Posts: 3,026
    BinauralJam wrote:
    Carey wrote:
    In my 20s and early 30s, heart
    Now, head


    This!

    word
    The best use of Life is Love.
    The best expression of Love is Time.
    The best time to Love is Now.


    I'm never as good as when you're there.........
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    depends on the situation...

    I used to follow my heart(when I was young), and it caused trouble...most of the time, sometimes not.
    Now I look back, and sometimes, in certain situations...I think I should have followed my heart.
    I do wonder what would have happened.

    I followed my heart to go and see PJ at Alpine= :D
    I followed my heart and moved to Cali= :twisted: (worst decision ever made)

    but you learn...I know that in those articles about regrets senior citizens have...they say that their biggest regret is 'not taking risks on love and not treasuring their friendships'
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • stargirl69
    stargirl69 Posts: 6,387
    Carey wrote:
    In my 20s and early 30s, heart
    Now, head

    Yep,way up to a matter of months ago it was my heart also,now,finally my head,I will be 43 in June :?

    What made the difference?
    “There should be a place where only the things you want to happen, happen”
  • stargirl69
    stargirl69 Posts: 6,387
    RKCNDY wrote:
    depends on the situation...

    I used to follow my heart(when I was young), and it caused trouble...most of the time, sometimes not.
    Now I look back, and sometimes, in certain situations...I think I should have followed my heart.
    I do wonder what would have happened.

    I followed my heart to go and see PJ at Alpine= :D
    I followed my heart and moved to Cali= :twisted: (worst decision ever made)

    but you learn...I know that in those articles about regrets senior citizens have...they say that their biggest regret is 'not taking risks on love and not treasuring their friendships'

    Well put RKCNDY :) I took risks on love,this is why my head has come into play with this current situation :? Even when it feels alien to me
    I treasure family and friends but at the expense of love? Who knows :?
    “There should be a place where only the things you want to happen, happen”
  • Carey
    Carey Posts: 2,361
    stargirl69 wrote:
    Carey wrote:
    In my 20s and early 30s, heart
    Now, head

    Yep,way up to a matter of months ago it was my heart also,now,finally my head,I will be 43 in June :?

    What made the difference?

    I think I've been burned way too many times by lies, deceit, and just poor choices in general on my own part. Too much ignoring of red flags (whether it be jealousy, irresponsible behavior, or dishonesty). My head is driving the bus now. Also, I have two small children now and I have to be wise about how I spend my free time and who I choose to include in my life.
    "Can't buy what I want because it's free..."
  • justam
    justam Posts: 21,415
    edited March 2012
    I think you have to have a balance of both.

    Like Carey brought up, age is part of it too. When you're younger, you can be more impetuous and the consequences aren't quite as serious. As you get older, there's more to consider for yourself and for others.

    I think the winning answer is "Consider both, don't ignore either one."
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  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    I'm not sure I ever did much with my head
    no pot shots please ;):lol:


    feeling decisions is instinct ... I have always had a strong intuition, instinct, gut,
    my mother shared this early on with me. Encouraged me to follow this gift
    we all possess.
    I am impulsive and don't harbor regrets making instinct all the more easy
    and then there is faith ... I have faith in my path no matter what.
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,725
    stargirl69 wrote:
    Carey wrote:
    In my 20s and early 30s, heart
    Now, head

    Yep,way up to a matter of months ago it was my heart also,now,finally my head,I will be 43 in June :?

    What made the difference?
    you will do the same thing again next time....
    if i understand well what the "matter" you talking about..
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • unlost dogs
    unlost dogs Greater Boston Posts: 12,553
    Honestly I probably follow my kidneys more than anything else, they've always been reliable and have never caused me a problem.
    15 years of sharks 06/30/08 (MA), 05/17/10 (Boston), 09/03/11 (Alpine Valley), 09/04/11 (Alpine Valley), 09/30/12 (Missoula), 07/19/13 (Wrigley), 10/15/13 (Worcester), 10/16/13 (Worcester), 10/25/13 (Hartford), 12/4/13 (Vancouver), 12/6/13 (Seattle), 6/26/14 (Berlin), 6/28/14 (Stockholm), 10/16/14 (Detroit)
  • drinkbigredinstead
    drinkbigredinstead Posts: 2,240
    I'm an impulsive person, so neither or both I guess...I know not much of an answer. :?
  • green mountain man
    green mountain man Posts: 735
    edited March 2012
    The heart is basically a pump and does not play a role in decision making.It does pump nutrient rich blood to the brain.
    You are writing about intuition versus rational judgement.
    You can make fast judgements comparing options using intuition.
    It is probably best to blend intuition and analysis.
    I prefer to to think analytically and take a concious deliberate review of the course of action.
    I guess it is because I am a man and do not have any intuition. :lol:
    Depending on what you are trying to decide,it is best to keep emotion out of it.
    A good example is wanting to keep my mom as independent as possible and happy, but it was time to yank her drivers licence.
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  • Leezestarr313
    Leezestarr313 Temple of the cat Posts: 14,451
    justam wrote:
    I think you have to have a balance of both.

    Like Carey brought up, age is part of it too. When you're younger, you can be more impetuous and the consequences aren't quite as serious. As you get older, there's more to consider for yourself and for others.

    I think the winning answer is "Consider both, don't ignore either one."

    This! But I have to admit that at the moment, heart is a little in the lead :D
    Please, Pearl Jam, consider a Benaroya Hall vinyl reissue! http://community.pearljam.com/discussion/148993/please-pearl-jam-consider-a-vinyl-benaroya-hall-re-issue


  • mikalina
    mikalina Posts: 7,206
    Usually its my heart first... :D

    and then my head kicks in and I start thinking and over thinking and the what if's .... :roll:
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  • marcos
    marcos Posts: 2,112
    Always follow your heart no matter the time or age, too much thinking can be a very very bad thing, you will be richer from the experience no matter how bad or good the consequence
  • DS1119
    DS1119 Posts: 33,497
    I use both. Unfortunately decisions I have made with my heart seem to have a higher failure rate especially at work. I gave one of my salesman chance after chance...sorry I'm late...I have to leave early...sorry I'm hungover...finally one day he just stopped coming to work. I heard about this guy everyday for 6 months from my boss.
  • mikalina
    mikalina Posts: 7,206
    marcos wrote:
    Always follow your heart no matter the time or age, too much thinking can be a very very bad thing, you will be richer from the experience no matter how bad or good the consequence


    Thank you - This is wonderful and I'll remember this -

    sometimes if I over think nothing ever happens.... ( of course I will use my head just a little ) ;)
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  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,725
    marcos wrote:
    you will be richer from the experience no matter how bad or good the consequence


    there is only one thing in life,you cant buy.....

    cos there is no price..


    experience..


    the reason i love those Lyrics..

    http://www.pearljam.com/song/indifference
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”

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