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GOSSArDgEEKGOSSArDgEEK Posts: 245
edited July 2008 in The Porch
HI everyone.. have a favor to ask. What do think would be the best PJ songs to listen to when you are trying you damnest to permanently remove them from your mind? I got myself out of a very emotionally abusive relationship and the person still haunts my memory. And well, since PJ as always been there for me, I thought that you guys could help too.
Warmest Regards
Here’s a question you might need to ask
What’s self destruction and how can we last?

"I cannot stop the thought of running in the dark.
Coming up a which way sign. All good truants must decide."
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    CROJAM95CROJAM95 Posts: 9,181
    Rvm
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    EBowieEBowie Posts: 529
    From my experiences, it's almost impossible to erase someone from your mind. I think the best advice would be to try to make peace with your past experiences, learn from them, and use them to strengthen your present-day self.
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    itsevolutionbabyitsevolutionbaby Posts: 144
    RVM -Saw things so much clearer
    Once you, were in my...
    Rearviewmirror...
    What ain't a country I ever heard of. Do they speak English in what?
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    DiRtYyELLoWoCeAnDiRtYyELLoWoCeAn Medford, Ma Posts: 1,605
    Rearviewmirror comes to mind maybe the faster songs.... Hang in there!
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    MTL 9/15/05
    HRTFD 5/13/06
    BOS 5/24/06, 5/25/06
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    CHI 8/5/07
    NJ 6/19/08
    NYC 6/25/08
    HRTFD 6/27/08
    MANSFLD 6/28/08, 6/30/08
    E.V. BOS 8/1/08
    CHI 8/23/09, 8/24/09
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    BOS 5/17/10
    CHI 7/19/13
    WOOSTA 10/15/13, 10/16/13
    HRTFD 10/25/13
    BOS 8/5/16, 8/7/16
    BOS 9/2/18, 9/4/18

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    I_Got_ShitI_Got_Shit Posts: 325
    CROJAM95 wrote:
    Rvm

    Yes.

    "I gather speed...from you fucking with me."
    *Does not include encore of Garden and Leash.
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    KeiranKeiran Posts: 393
    Rearviewmirror - the quintessential song of survival

    I gathered speed from you fuckin with me!
    I wish a guy like Eddie, would like me.
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    acutejamacutejam Posts: 1,433
    I would hesitate to seek out a song to get you beyond this -- associating a song with this event could be asking for trouble. On each future hearing of said song.... flooding back it all comes.
    [sic] happens
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    woundedorganwoundedorgan Posts: 607
    yeah RVM but if you want something more contemporary try Gone....that usually inspires me when I am thinking about changing something in my life...
    God Loves Pearl Jam
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    Free the 3Free the 3 Posts: 132
    Certainly RVM is a self-survival song.....Another I would choose would be Leash.....
    "...Drop the Leash.....Get out of my fucking face."
    I realize it's not meant to be a "break-up" song, but keep singing that to yourself and you'll move on in no time.
    Good Luck----Stay Strong.
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    PJBuckeyePJBuckeye Posts: 1,102
    Because RVM is about such a scenario, it might not help getting it out of your head. Try stuff that has alot of energy. Those songs are able to distract you and hopefully lift your energy level up.

    Either way, good luck!
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    GmoneyGmoney Posts: 1,618
    as others have said; RVM for sure! I always trust the most underrated pj song of all time too, Down.
    Further back and forth a wave will break on me, today...
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    GOSSArDgEEKGOSSArDgEEK Posts: 245
    acutejam wrote:
    I would hesitate to seek out a song to get you beyond this -- associating a song with this event could be asking for trouble. On each future hearing of said song.... flooding back it all comes.
    I don't want to pertain these songs to a person but to use the songs as a tool.
    Here’s a question you might need to ask
    What’s self destruction and how can we last?

    "I cannot stop the thought of running in the dark.
    Coming up a which way sign. All good truants must decide."
    __________________________________________

    McCain, America's scariest grandpa!
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    Get_RightGet_Right Posts: 12,479
    put down the ipod and

    find a new person to create new memories with.
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    LukinFanLukinFan Florida Posts: 29,011
    pop in No Code- it will do wonders for you
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    AnonAnon Posts: 11,175
    Come Back or Thumbing my Way
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    giventofly0812giventofly0812 Posts: 218
    come back is possibly the worst song to play in this situation, its all about wanting someone to come back and being patient for it

    this situation calls for a survival song, RVM or even alive works well
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    Kilgore_TroutKilgore_Trout Posts: 7,334
    animal
    "Senza speme vivemo in disio"

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    GOSSArDgEEKGOSSArDgEEK Posts: 245
    Get_Right wrote:
    put down the ipod and

    find a new person to create new memories with.
    Have someone new now, who has helped me with the situation because he was there to watch it all happen, just thought music could help too. And I do find it pathetic that all this happened back in November of '07. Just want to move on and keep distracting myself from the flashbacks.
    Here’s a question you might need to ask
    What’s self destruction and how can we last?

    "I cannot stop the thought of running in the dark.
    Coming up a which way sign. All good truants must decide."
    __________________________________________

    McCain, America's scariest grandpa!
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    IgivesuchgoodparadymIgivesuchgoodparadym Posts: 924
    P R I V A C Y is Privacy.

    Or Not For You.
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    frenchsfrenchs Posts: 34
    A couple that come to mind for various reasons:

    Indifference - "how much difference does it make?"
    RVM - for obvious reasons
    Animal - "I'd rather be with an animal"
    Inside Job - focus on yourself instead of the other person
    Present Tense - bookends nicely with inside job.
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    IgivesuchgoodparadymIgivesuchgoodparadym Posts: 924
    Wash my love.
    Wash my love.
    Wash my love.
    Wash my love.
    Wash my love.
    Wash my love.
    Wash my love.
    Wash my love
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    vluggagevluggage Posts: 69
    In Hiding.....

    "It's funny when things change so much
    It's all state of mind"
    "I think I kinda want it."
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    IgivesuchgoodparadymIgivesuchgoodparadym Posts: 924
    1/2 Empty wrote:
    In Hiding.....

    "It's funny when things change so much
    It's all state of mind"


    Speaking of "State" --- State of Love and Trust.

    Geez, they have a lot.
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    The StugotsThe Stugots Posts: 306
    It's not an original PJ tune, but Leaving Here touches on some of the themes mentioned.
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    Get_RightGet_Right Posts: 12,479
    larmen42 wrote:
    Have someone new now, who has helped me with the situation because he was there to watch it all happen, just thought music could help too. And I do find it pathetic that all this happened back in November of '07. Just want to move on and keep distracting myself from the flashbacks.


    take up boxing or karate
    ;)

    music is too viceral and connected to our emotions IMHO
    and there are so many lyrics that touch on relationships

    maybe a little metal would help-but that would fuel anger or resentment
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    PearlJen22PearlJen22 Posts: 106
    I have put Porch on repeat during a couple of bad breakups...
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    Jearlpam0925Jearlpam0925 Deep South Philly Posts: 16,804
    Get_Right wrote:
    put down the ipod and

    find a new person to create new memories with.


    Perfect. Couldn't have said it better. The last thing you want to do is associate your favorite band ever with your least favorite person ever.
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    LavaLamp_GuitarTrampLavaLamp_GuitarTramp Posts: 143
    Black
    Come Back
    Nothingman
    Thin Air
    Parting Ways
    Thumbing My Way
    Parachutes
    Betterman
    Immortality
    Off He Goes
    Smile
    Otherside
    Sad
    Alone


    I wish you luck.
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    GOSSArDgEEKGOSSArDgEEK Posts: 245
    Jearlpam0925 wrote:
    Perfect. Couldn't have said it better. The last thing you want to do is associate your favorite band ever with your least favorite person ever.
    True but I've been listening to Pearl Jam way long before that colostomy bag came into my life. Maybe I should listen to some Courtney Love, I'm not that into her and it's angry enough.

    Thanks so much everyone I'm so glad that I could turn to all of you! :D
    Here’s a question you might need to ask
    What’s self destruction and how can we last?

    "I cannot stop the thought of running in the dark.
    Coming up a which way sign. All good truants must decide."
    __________________________________________

    McCain, America's scariest grandpa!
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    IgivesuchgoodparadymIgivesuchgoodparadym Posts: 924
    larmen42 wrote:
    True but I've been listening to Pearl Jam why before that colostomy bag came into my life. Maybe I should listen to some Country Love, I'm not that into her and it's angery enough.

    Thanks so much everyone I'm so glad that I could turn to all of you...I'm working on a setlist now.


    No problem. Out of curiosity, are you a boy or a girl (not that it matters)? Just curious.
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