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LikeAnOceanLikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
edited May 2011 in All Encompassing Trip
you moved in with them?


Just curious.


Been with mine for 6 months and we already talked about getting a place in September. I've never lived with someone I've had a relationship with.. That's not rushing anything, is it?
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  • CAVSTARR313CAVSTARR313 Posts: 8,756
    You should know the answer to this question.. If you don't, you are rushing..
    None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe that they are free.
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  • LikeAnOceanLikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    Cavstarr313 wrote:
    You should know the answer to this question.. If you don't, you are rushing..
    But I don't know this information about others here. That's Why I'm asking. ;)


    It feels right. I'm just curious about what others have done. Just want to make sure I'm not just crazy in love. :D
  • CAVSTARR313CAVSTARR313 Posts: 8,756
    I invited my Ex fiance to move in with me within the first 3 months we were dating.. she eventually did.. we lived together until i called the engagement a few years later.. Love is a crazy great thing, enjoy it to the fullest...
    None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe that they are free.
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  • LikeAnOceanLikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    Cavstarr313 wrote:
    I invited my Ex fiance to move in with me within the first 3 months we were dating.. she eventually did.. we lived together until i called the engagement a few years later.. Love is a crazy great thing, enjoy it to the fullest...
    Ok. then I'm not crazy. ;)


    My best friend has been dating a girl for 6 years.. they still don't live together. :shock:


    I'm enjoying it. 8-)
  • State of Love is a MustState of Love is a Must Maryland Posts: 108
    Moved in within 12 days.
    Engaged within 3 months.
    Happily married for 9+ years.

    That might not be the norm...
  • Brain of mJBrain of mJ Posts: 786
    Year and a half, 9.5 years later we're still together and hitched with a kid.
  • Given To DragonFlyGiven To DragonFly Posts: 601
    We got married on our 6 year anniversary and moved into our newly purchased condo 2 weeks later... and that was 6 years ago this August. I'm sure we woulda moved in together sooner if it wasn't a quazi-long-distance relationship for 5 of those years- I went to college & grad school 2.5 hours away in Maine, and he had an army stent in Afghanistan. Plus money was a factor :roll:
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  • Nothingman54Nothingman54 Posts: 2,251
    Moved in together after 4 years. Married the following year. Been together for 10 years..
    I'll be back
  • brother123brother123 Posts: 792
    if she let you put it in the butt it's time
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  • LoulouLoulou Adelaide Posts: 6,247
    Only a couple of months, then we were together for 10 years before getting married. :)
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  • know1know1 Posts: 6,794
    Never. I don't believe in moving in together. She moved in after we were married.
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  • comebackgirlcomebackgirl Posts: 9,885
    Moved in together after a little more than 2 years...but it was the very first day that we were actually both living on the same continent.
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    I used to sneak into her room every night without her knowing, when she found out she started talking about pressing charges and shit went all whack.
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  • pjtradekingpjtradeking Posts: 4,045
    When I started dating my soon to be former wife.....she came over one night.... after about a couple weeks of dating.....and she just never left....Good Luck... ;)
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  • 8181 Needing a ride to Forest Hills and a ounce of weed. Please inquire within. Thanks. Or not. Posts: 58,276
    starting dating in mid september...following january she was basically staying at my place 6 day a week. i think her lease ended in june that year, at which point it was 100%.

    only other gal i lived with, i think we dated for one or two months before moving in together. she ended up being a nut job. thankfully, she was able to move home before the lease was up.
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  • aspoonfulweighsatonaspoonfulweighsaton Posts: 2,055
    Not even two months if that. No lie. Hell, forget dating, I had only just known who she was for about 3 months. AND we did it by up and moving to a different state and didn't know anybody but each other (we moved back to our hometown a little over a year later).

    That was over 11 years ago and we have now been married for over 7, have a 4 year-old little boy and a little girl due next month.

    I do not recommend this approach for everyone. :lol:
  • SVRDhand13SVRDhand13 Posts: 26,489
    Every relationship is unique. If it feels right, go for it.
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  • rick1zoo2rick1zoo2 between a rock and a dumb place Posts: 12,632
    I don't think its so much of "how long have you dated?" but "how compatable will you be living in the same place?" because once you move in together, you are no longer dating, but co-habitating, a whole different thing.

    Part 1: the now ex-wife - we met in college (23 years ago), I had an apartment, she was renting a room in a house. After a few short months there were some issues with her landlady and she had to quickly leave the house, so she moved into my place until she could figure out what to do next. After a while she just never left, it made more sense financially for her to stay. About 4 years later we married and now have 3 kids. We are separated, soon to be divorced. Let's just say that things never really worked well, it was very difficult, it felt like two people that were forced into being together that shouldn't have been. In hindsight, we should not have rushed into the move so fast (or the marriage for that matter).

    Part 2: I have known my girlfriend for about 6 years, we actually met on a forum for another band and had been great friends. She moved from NYC to be with me here almost 2 years ago and it has been really great. This being my second chance, there was no way I was going to make the same mistakes again. We made sure that we have relatively the same philosophies about things and we talk openly about things we won't comprimise on. We have the same long term goals. Sounds crazy, but simple things like how we decorate, how clean we keep the place. Of course we like a lot of the same music, enjoy doing the same kind of activities, etc. I don't think we really disagree on much at all.

    I guess my advice would be to really make sure that you are both ok with it. Comprimise does not mean one-sided sacrifices. Mutual respect and open communication is key.

    Once you start talking about how things will work, you will discover a lot. Things like: whose pictures get hung on the wall? Are you ok with her linens and bedspread? Does she keep the cap on the toothpaste? What if she eats your last oreo cookie and didn't get more? Is it going to bother her that you have the TV on all the time, but play Pearl Jam at the same time? Do you both have things that you like to do without the other and you are each ok with it? Also, talk about what's next? Will you just live together in this place forever? What are your long term goals?, like eventually buying a house?
  • BinauralJamBinauralJam Posts: 14,158
    6 months, had to wait until she turn 18.
  • DissidentmanDissidentman Posts: 15,378
    BinauralJam wrote:
    6 months, had to wait until she turn 18.

    :lol::lol:



    Wait, you're not kidding.
  • pandorapandora Posts: 21,855
    Sept 79 class reunion ... he asked me to marry him fall of '80... then moved in...
    we married the following May '81

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  • polaris_xpolaris_x Posts: 13,559
    if you are thinking long term with this person ... i would always suggest living together first ... could be after 3 dates or 3 years ... there shouldn't be a time frame for things like this ... the key is that you think this will last otherwise it can get a bit messy if it doesn't work out ...

    good luck!
  • loadedgunloadedgun Indiana Posts: 1,390
    3 months, but by that time I was a live-in, so it was really like 2 months.
    That was completely un-characteristic of me, but when you know, you just know.
    There wasn't a doubt in my mind.
    As of tomorrow, we'll be married for 4 years.
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  • LizardLizard So Cal Posts: 12,091
    never lived together before getting married but seems to have worked!! Dated for 2 years prior
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  • Who PrincessWho Princess out here in the fields Posts: 7,305
    Lizard wrote:
    never lived together before getting married but seems to have worked!! Dated for 2 years prior
    Same here. We dated for 3 years. I wasn't opposed to people living together, just wasn't interested in doing it at the time. We've been married almost 33 years.
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  • DewieCoxDewieCox Posts: 11,430
    I got engaged after 11 months....Moved in like 4 months later.

    I just had a cousin get married. He's studying(?) to be some sort of minister and his wife is a preacher's daughter....They didn't kiss until the preacher told them to at the wedding. I heard that story and thought, I'm not sure I even talked to my wife before I kissed her the first time.
  • markymark550markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,177
    technically didn't move in together until we got married

    First 2.5 years of dating were semi-long distance as we were finishing up college and she transferred to a different school so she could graduate faster. Last year of dating/engagement year, we both had our own apartments, although I pretty much stayed at her place during that time. We closed on our house 2 months before the wedding and I primarily stayed there because it needed a little fixing up before it could really be lived in. Finished all that just before the wedding and we moved all her stuff in after the wedding. Been married for 3.5 years now.
  • rick1zoo2rick1zoo2 between a rock and a dumb place Posts: 12,632
    funny emails between my girlfriend and I today:

    Her: "I am already hungry for lunch. I think there is something wrong with me. Maybe I have a tapeworm."

    Me: "I guess you should have burnt toast and a rotten egg for lunch then"

    Her: "since living with you, I have watched more three stooges than I have in my entire life, up until then. So I got that going for me. (do you recognize that line from a movie?) "




    So not only has she tolerated watching the Three Stooges (which most females detest), but she is able to quote from all the awesome movies, like Caddyshack. She is truly amazing.

    I still won't watch chick flicks though......ok, I agreed to two a year, but I am arguing that The Hangover counts as one :)
  • tinkerbelltinkerbell New Zealand Posts: 2,161
    My husband and I moved in together after 5 years, although we were highschool sweethearts so were too young before that. Lived together for 10 years before we got married on our 15th anniversary in January.

    I agree about talking about things first, like how you will split the chores, who will cook etc. If it feels right then go for it, there is nothing better than waking up next to the one you love every day.
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  • Beck..Beck.. Posts: 535
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    I used to sneak into her room every night without her knowing, when she found out she started talking about pressing charges and shit went all whack.
    :lol::lol:
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