How long did you date your significant other before..
LikeAnOcean
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you moved in with them?
Just curious.
Been with mine for 6 months and we already talked about getting a place in September. I've never lived with someone I've had a relationship with.. That's not rushing anything, is it?
Just curious.
Been with mine for 6 months and we already talked about getting a place in September. I've never lived with someone I've had a relationship with.. That's not rushing anything, is it?
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Abrn Hlls '98 - Clarkston 2 '03 - Grd Rpds '06 - Abrn Hlls '06 - Clvd '10 - PJ20 - Berlin 1+2 '12 - Wrigley '13 - Pitt '13- buff '13- Philly 1+2 '13 - Seattle '13
It feels right. I'm just curious about what others have done. Just want to make sure I'm not just crazy in love.
Abrn Hlls '98 - Clarkston 2 '03 - Grd Rpds '06 - Abrn Hlls '06 - Clvd '10 - PJ20 - Berlin 1+2 '12 - Wrigley '13 - Pitt '13- buff '13- Philly 1+2 '13 - Seattle '13
My best friend has been dating a girl for 6 years.. they still don't live together. :shock:
I'm enjoying it.
Engaged within 3 months.
Happily married for 9+ years.
That might not be the norm...
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...are those who've helped us.
Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
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My friend was going to see Eddie last night. Since he was in Vegas, I gave him 5 Grand to gamble with. I told him I wanted it all to go on Black. Bastard! PhillyCrownOfThorns-11-2-12
only other gal i lived with, i think we dated for one or two months before moving in together. she ended up being a nut job. thankfully, she was able to move home before the lease was up.
That was over 11 years ago and we have now been married for over 7, have a 4 year-old little boy and a little girl due next month.
I do not recommend this approach for everyone.
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Part 1: the now ex-wife - we met in college (23 years ago), I had an apartment, she was renting a room in a house. After a few short months there were some issues with her landlady and she had to quickly leave the house, so she moved into my place until she could figure out what to do next. After a while she just never left, it made more sense financially for her to stay. About 4 years later we married and now have 3 kids. We are separated, soon to be divorced. Let's just say that things never really worked well, it was very difficult, it felt like two people that were forced into being together that shouldn't have been. In hindsight, we should not have rushed into the move so fast (or the marriage for that matter).
Part 2: I have known my girlfriend for about 6 years, we actually met on a forum for another band and had been great friends. She moved from NYC to be with me here almost 2 years ago and it has been really great. This being my second chance, there was no way I was going to make the same mistakes again. We made sure that we have relatively the same philosophies about things and we talk openly about things we won't comprimise on. We have the same long term goals. Sounds crazy, but simple things like how we decorate, how clean we keep the place. Of course we like a lot of the same music, enjoy doing the same kind of activities, etc. I don't think we really disagree on much at all.
I guess my advice would be to really make sure that you are both ok with it. Comprimise does not mean one-sided sacrifices. Mutual respect and open communication is key.
Once you start talking about how things will work, you will discover a lot. Things like: whose pictures get hung on the wall? Are you ok with her linens and bedspread? Does she keep the cap on the toothpaste? What if she eats your last oreo cookie and didn't get more? Is it going to bother her that you have the TV on all the time, but play Pearl Jam at the same time? Do you both have things that you like to do without the other and you are each ok with it? Also, talk about what's next? Will you just live together in this place forever? What are your long term goals?, like eventually buying a house?
Wait, you're not kidding.
we married the following May '81
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good luck!
That was completely un-characteristic of me, but when you know, you just know.
There wasn't a doubt in my mind.
As of tomorrow, we'll be married for 4 years.
Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me
I just had a cousin get married. He's studying(?) to be some sort of minister and his wife is a preacher's daughter....They didn't kiss until the preacher told them to at the wedding. I heard that story and thought, I'm not sure I even talked to my wife before I kissed her the first time.
First 2.5 years of dating were semi-long distance as we were finishing up college and she transferred to a different school so she could graduate faster. Last year of dating/engagement year, we both had our own apartments, although I pretty much stayed at her place during that time. We closed on our house 2 months before the wedding and I primarily stayed there because it needed a little fixing up before it could really be lived in. Finished all that just before the wedding and we moved all her stuff in after the wedding. Been married for 3.5 years now.
Her: "I am already hungry for lunch. I think there is something wrong with me. Maybe I have a tapeworm."
Me: "I guess you should have burnt toast and a rotten egg for lunch then"
Her: "since living with you, I have watched more three stooges than I have in my entire life, up until then. So I got that going for me. (do you recognize that line from a movie?) "
So not only has she tolerated watching the Three Stooges (which most females detest), but she is able to quote from all the awesome movies, like Caddyshack. She is truly amazing.
I still won't watch chick flicks though......ok, I agreed to two a year, but I am arguing that The Hangover counts as one
I agree about talking about things first, like how you will split the chores, who will cook etc. If it feels right then go for it, there is nothing better than waking up next to the one you love every day.