'Get well' card ettiquette
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Is it appropriate to send a "get well soon" card to someone who is in a coma? :?
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Of course. He/she will see that people thought of him/her at all times. My husband got loads when he was 'out of it' for weeks. He was happy to see them when he was able to.0
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Sure why not it shows that your thinking of them.0
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I think that it would also help out the immediate family as they see that it is not only them who are affected by the situation.
Maybe you can mention something along the lines of YOU HAVE A BEAUTIFUL FAMILY WAITING FOR YOU etc., because his/her family will definitely read the card, so the card can impact the now. :idea:1996: Toronto
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Of course - it can always be a card telling the person they are in your thoughts/prayers. It is also for the family of the person, that you send the card.R.i.p. Rigoberto Alpizar.
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Thanks, y'all! And great idea, Zarocat! I'm just worried that he'll never wake up to see it, or that he'll die before it arrives & it will be hard for the family when they get it too late. But I really do want his family - and him, if he ever wakes up - to know how much he is being thought of.
What about a card for the family? "I'm sorry" is usually proceeded by "for your loss," and that wouldn't be good. Are there cards for the family for things like this?0 -
How about a card that is blank on the inside?
A beautiful landscape or seascape?So are we strangers now? Like rock and roll and the radio?0 -
_ wrote:Thanks, y'all! And great idea, Zarocat! I'm just worried that he'll never wake up to see it, or that he'll die before it arrives & it will be hard for the family when they get it too late
Solution to your worry: Get a card that is simple i.e. Thinking of you. Then, instead of using first names, address the envelope to the (last name here) family. At the end of the card, say (his name here), you are in my thoughts. Works if he's dead or alive <-- don't mean to sound brass1996: Toronto
1998: Barrie
2000: Montreal, Toronto, Auburn Hills
2003: Cleveland, Buffalo, Toronto, Montreal
2004: Boston X2, Grand Rapids
2005: Kitchener, London, Hamilton, Montreal, Ottawa, Toronto
2006: Toronto X2
2009: Toronto
2011: PJ20, Montreal, Toronto X2, Hamilton
2012: Manchester X2, Amsterdam X2, Prague, Berlin X2, Philadelphia, Missoula
2013: Pittsburg, Buffalo
2014: Milan, Trieste, Vienna, Berlin, Stockholm, Oslo, Detroit
2016: Ottawa, Toronto X2
2018: Padova, Rome, Prague, Krakow, Berlin, Barcelona2022: Ottawa, Hamilton, Toronto
2023: Chicago X2
2024: New York X20 -
_ wrote:What about a card for the family? "I'm sorry" is usually proceeded by "for your loss," and that wouldn't be good. Are there cards for the family for things like this?
When my mother was critically ill several years ago, she received over 150 cards! Even though she couldn't read them until she got better weeks later, she was very moved that so many people cared about her. We were too."The stars are all connected to the brain."0 -
Thank you!! Duh... I forgot there are cards that just say "thinking of you". I don't send a lot of cards. :oops:0
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_ wrote:Thank you!! Duh... I forgot there are cards that just say "thinking of you". I don't send a lot of cards. :oops:
I just thought of this moments ago while I was on a walk ---> If you love this person, keep it simple as you address the 'thinking of you' with the last name coming beforehand, and then before you sign your name, put I love you ______ (Just the first name) of the person in the coma. That works regardless if the person is alive or not because it's just a statement of affection.
Cheers man. And I'm sorry for your conundrum.1996: Toronto
1998: Barrie
2000: Montreal, Toronto, Auburn Hills
2003: Cleveland, Buffalo, Toronto, Montreal
2004: Boston X2, Grand Rapids
2005: Kitchener, London, Hamilton, Montreal, Ottawa, Toronto
2006: Toronto X2
2009: Toronto
2011: PJ20, Montreal, Toronto X2, Hamilton
2012: Manchester X2, Amsterdam X2, Prague, Berlin X2, Philadelphia, Missoula
2013: Pittsburg, Buffalo
2014: Milan, Trieste, Vienna, Berlin, Stockholm, Oslo, Detroit
2016: Ottawa, Toronto X2
2018: Padova, Rome, Prague, Krakow, Berlin, Barcelona2022: Ottawa, Hamilton, Toronto
2023: Chicago X2
2024: New York X20 -
zarocat wrote:_ wrote:Thank you!! Duh... I forgot there are cards that just say "thinking of you". I don't send a lot of cards. :oops:
I just thought of this moments ago while I was on a walk ---> If you love this person, keep it simple as you address the 'thinking of you' with the last name coming beforehand, and then before you sign your name, put I love you ______ (Just the first name) of the person in the coma. That works regardless if the person is alive or not because it's just a statement of affection.
Cheers man. And I'm sorry for your conundrum.
Yeah, smart thinking. My main problem is that I don't really love the guy; I've never even met the guy or any of his family (though I am his Facebook friend, for what it's worth). He is the fiancé of my cousin, who I'm really close to, but who lives across the country. Last time I was there, I just missed getting to meet him. But I care a lot about him because my cousin loves him, and he has become part of our family (most of the rest of our family live out there too). He moved here from Ireland to be with my cousin. They're only in their 20s, but on Monday he suddenly suffered a ruptured cerebral aneurysm & has been in a coma ever since. His family has flown out from Ireland & everyone's just waiting to see if he'll wake up. The prognosis doesn't look good, and my cousin is devastated. :(
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_ wrote:zarocat wrote:_ wrote:Thank you!! Duh... I forgot there are cards that just say "thinking of you". I don't send a lot of cards. :oops:
I just thought of this moments ago while I was on a walk ---> If you love this person, keep it simple as you address the 'thinking of you' with the last name coming beforehand, and then before you sign your name, put I love you ______ (Just the first name) of the person in the coma. That works regardless if the person is alive or not because it's just a statement of affection.
Cheers man. And I'm sorry for your conundrum.
Yeah, smart thinking. My main problem is that I don't really love the guy; I've never even met the guy or any of his family (though I am his Facebook friend, for what it's worth). He is the fiancé of my cousin, who I'm really close to, but who lives across the country. Last time I was there, I just missed getting to meet him. But I care a lot about him because my cousin loves him, and he has become part of our family (most of the rest of our family live out there too). He moved here from Ireland to be with my cousin. They're only in their 20s, but on Monday he suddenly suffered a ruptured cerebral aneurysm & has been in a coma ever since. His family has flown out from Ireland & everyone's just waiting to see if he'll wake up. The prognosis doesn't look good, and my cousin is devastated. :(
That's fucked up.
Um, just replace the 'I' with 'We', love you. That is, in my opinion, definitely the way to go.
Waiting to see if he'll wake up ? Wow. That is a tough go.
My thoughts go out to you and your family.1996: Toronto
1998: Barrie
2000: Montreal, Toronto, Auburn Hills
2003: Cleveland, Buffalo, Toronto, Montreal
2004: Boston X2, Grand Rapids
2005: Kitchener, London, Hamilton, Montreal, Ottawa, Toronto
2006: Toronto X2
2009: Toronto
2011: PJ20, Montreal, Toronto X2, Hamilton
2012: Manchester X2, Amsterdam X2, Prague, Berlin X2, Philadelphia, Missoula
2013: Pittsburg, Buffalo
2014: Milan, Trieste, Vienna, Berlin, Stockholm, Oslo, Detroit
2016: Ottawa, Toronto X2
2018: Padova, Rome, Prague, Krakow, Berlin, Barcelona2022: Ottawa, Hamilton, Toronto
2023: Chicago X2
2024: New York X20 -
zarocat wrote:_ wrote:Yeah, smart thinking. My main problem is that I don't really love the guy; I've never even met the guy or any of his family (though I am his Facebook friend, for what it's worth
). He is the fiancé of my cousin, who I'm really close to, but who lives across the country. Last time I was there, I just missed getting to meet him. But I care a lot about him because my cousin loves him, and he has become part of our family (most of the rest of our family live out there too). He moved here from Ireland to be with my cousin. They're only in their 20s, but on Monday he suddenly suffered a ruptured cerebral aneurysm & has been in a coma ever since. His family has flown out from Ireland & everyone's just waiting to see if he'll wake up. The prognosis doesn't look good, and my cousin is devastated. :(
That's fucked up.
Um, just replace the 'I' with 'We', love you. That is, in my opinion, definitely the way to go.
Waiting to see if he'll wake up ? Wow. That is a tough go.
My thoughts go out to you and your family.
Thanks. And you should totally write an etiquette advice column.0
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