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Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
edited March 2011 in All Encompassing Trip
This hot chick was striking a conversation with me on Saturday night at a 21st b'day party I went to.
She was telling me she just started university so I am guessing she is 18-19 yrs old.
I am 26, turning 27 middle of this year.
What do you think, stay away or have a go or wait 2-3 more years and hope she is still single lol
Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
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  • Princess KJPrincess KJ Posts: 442
    Depends on so many factors. Are you interested in intellect? She may not yet have enough life experience to match yours. On the other hand, she may... But what about her friends, who you may be forced to hang with?

    I was married to someone 15 years my senior. And although I didn't find age an issue (the secret fiance, on the other hand, I did have an issue with!), there were a lot of cultural references we didn't share.

    No harm in giving it a go, although the fact you're raising it here may mean you already have some concerns.

    Good luck.
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    She did sound mature for her age, and smart....
    My only concern is does it look bad, that's all.
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  • Princess KJPrincess KJ Posts: 442
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    She did sound mature for her age, and smart....
    My only concern is does it look bad, that's all.

    Hell no! And she'll have cred with her mates. It's a win-win.
    If I knew then, would I know now?

    * Perth Entertainment Centre - Mar 06, 1995
    * Melbourne Park - Mar 02, 1998
    * Brisbane QSAC- Nov 25, 2009
    * EV Solo- QPAC- March 10, 12 and 13 2011

  • threefish10threefish10 Posts: 7,392
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    She did sound mature for her age, and smart....
    My only concern is does it look bad, that's all.


    Does she look bad??
    ;)

    But really, you gotta think, are you looking for something serious or a bit of fun, cause at 19 will she be looking for serious??


    But I have no problem with a what, a 7 year age gap. As long as it's not a 14 year old with a 20 year old.
    condescending and sarcastic since 1980
  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    who knows, at that age they choose clubbing over anything.
    She kept making eye contact with me from a distance before and after we met.
    And she is one of many that didn't come across as stuck up.
    F*** it's so hard to find a good woman that clicks with you these days, hate being single :x
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • Princess KJPrincess KJ Posts: 442
    Good luck man...
    If I knew then, would I know now?

    * Perth Entertainment Centre - Mar 06, 1995
    * Melbourne Park - Mar 02, 1998
    * Brisbane QSAC- Nov 25, 2009
    * EV Solo- QPAC- March 10, 12 and 13 2011

  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    All I read was the first post. Hit that shit up man...

    If there's grass on the wicket, lets play cricket... (18plus is a goer) :thumbup:
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    haha

    thanks guys.
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  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    You're only 18 months older than me, I would have no probs being 'friendly' with an 18 y.o. But if she was immature and her friends were the same, then I'd have probs. In my first year of uni, I was 21 or 22, and the 18yr old girls were so annoying, I wanted to tape their mouths shut.

    So depending on the situation, can be good, can be annoying.
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  • threefish10threefish10 Posts: 7,392
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    F*** it's so hard to find a good woman that clicks with you these days, hate being single :x


    I feel for ya. I'd hate to be single these days, and at my age(30). Like where do you go to meet someone? the last few times I've been out to clubs, and not really night clubs, but more live venue type clubs, I've always come home and thought thank fuck I don't have to do that every weekend to try and find someone.

    Like my wife has two girlfriends, they are both great girls, both with great jobs, own their houses plus have investment houses, one is earning over $100k a year and travels overseas at least once a year for skiing holidays. but are both single, but aren't the type of girls to go out to clubs to meet someone, so what are they to do? Like beside being set up by friends or through work, what else is there? The net??
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    threefish10 wrote:
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    F*** it's so hard to find a good woman that clicks with you these days, hate being single :x


    I feel for ya. I'd hate to be single these days, and at my age(30). Like where do you go to meet someone? the last few times I've been out to clubs, and not really night clubs, but more live venue type clubs, I've always come home and thought thank fuck I don't have to do that every weekend to try and find someone.

    Like my wife has two girlfriends, they are both great girls, both with great jobs, own their houses plus have investment houses, one is earning over $100k a year and travels overseas at least once a year for skiing holidays. but are both single, but aren't the type of girls to go out to clubs to meet someone, so what are they to do? Like beside being set up by friends or through work, what else is there? The net??

    Yep that is me.
    Hate clubbing, hate that having to hunt for a chick feeling.
    I like by chance meetings like I did at this 21st party.
    My age is scaring me now.
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    threefish10 wrote:
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    F*** it's so hard to find a good woman that clicks with you these days, hate being single :x


    I feel for ya. I'd hate to be single these days, and at my age(30). Like where do you go to meet someone? the last few times I've been out to clubs, and not really night clubs, but more live venue type clubs, I've always come home and thought thank fuck I don't have to do that every weekend to try and find someone.

    Like my wife has two girlfriends, they are both great girls, both with great jobs, own their houses plus have investment houses, one is earning over $100k a year and travels overseas at least once a year for skiing holidays. but are both single, but aren't the type of girls to go out to clubs to meet someone, so what are they to do? Like beside being set up by friends or through work, what else is there? The net??


    Wow fishie, do they live in Sydney? 30's not too old for me...
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  • chimechime Posts: 7,839
    I know times change etc but my folks were 18 and 27 when they got together (thought they met at a gig so maybe times don't really change :P ) and next year they will have been together 40 years (married 33 years this summer)
    So are we strangers now? Like rock and roll and the radio?
  • Get_RightGet_Right Posts: 13,407
    Dont overthink it. Just spend some quality time with the young lady. If it progresses great, if not, then you still got to know her and possibly made a new friend.

    That is not a huge difference in age, although there may be differences in lifestyles. But that could make things more interesting. In sum, do not ever deny yourself the privilege of spending time with a beautiful woman when the opportunity presents itself.
  • Green CircleGreen Circle Posts: 5,192
    if the feelings are mutual then go for it. 7 years is no big deal.
    Hell, My Father has been married close to 40 years with a woman 20 years younger than him.
    (dated when he was 36 she was 18) MASSIVE controversy in our small little town at the time...

    but they are still together and strong.
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    catch and release
    bag it and tag it
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  • RKCNDYRKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    yeah...it depends. I was always more 'mature' than my friends, and dated guys older then me...

    hang out with her, see what she's like and if you have a good time, you have a good time, if not, oh well. Does it look bad? Well, why does it matter? They're not dating her, you are...who cares what other people think?
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  • nuffingmannuffingman Posts: 3,014
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    My age is scaring me now.
    :lol: At 26? You are in for a whole heap of pain. :lol:

    I was 42 when I met the woman of my dreams.
  • BinauralJamBinauralJam Posts: 14,158
    Full Speed Ahead Sir!
  • dcfaithfuldcfaithful Posts: 13,076
    If you can handle the dealings of her learning and growing while being with you, have a ball!
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    I didn't get her number but a few of my friends have her on facebook, they know her more than me.
    Do I add her?
    I dunno when I will see her again but I see she is attending a community event at a nightclub on Sunday night (not into clubbing).
    Adelaide 17/11/2009, Melbourne 20/11/2009, Sydney 22/11/2009, Melbourne (Big Day Out Festival) 24/01/2014
  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    Thats tough man... Add her sure, but I wouldn't go to a night club... You would just look like a sleaze hanging around an 18 yr old girl, plus her friends will most likely be annoying...

    Having said that, could be a good venue for a bit of dutch courage... Speaking of which I could do with some myself...
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    pjfan31 wrote:
    Thats tough man... Add her sure, but I wouldn't go to a night club... You would just look like a sleaze hanging around an 18 yr old girl, plus her friends will most likely be annoying...

    Having said that, could be a good venue for a bit of dutch courage... Speaking of which I could do with some myself...

    True that, and yes I need a strong hit of dutch courage.
    Why they call it dutch? lol
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  • threefish10threefish10 Posts: 7,392
    Did someone say Dutch rudder?
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    I was about to send a friend request, not sure about it.
    Could appear creepy? Stalking like? or obvious.
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  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    Don't know why. Same reason they call a dutch oven a dutch oven...

    THose dutch are crazy...
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  • pjfan31pjfan31 Posts: 7,335
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    I was about to send a friend request, not sure about it.
    Could appear creepy? Stalking like? or obvious.


    Have you got mutual friends? If you had to search for her it might be a bit creepy. If not you can say 'you came up on a you might know' thing...
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    pjfan31 wrote:
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    I was about to send a friend request, not sure about it.
    Could appear creepy? Stalking like? or obvious.


    Have you got mutual friends? If you had to search for her it might be a bit creepy. If not you can say 'you came up on a you might know' thing...

    Yeah she is mutual friends with 9 of my friends, about half of them became her FB friends since the 21st last weekend.
    Yeah I could say something like that.
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  • threefish10threefish10 Posts: 7,392
    Maybe just add a personal message with the friends request, they give you the option to.

    You know just say you enjoyed meeting her and chatting or whatever and you thought maybe sometime it would be good if you could fuck.


    Ok maybe not that last bit.
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  • stargirl69stargirl69 Posts: 6,387
    Thoughts_Arrive wrote:
    My age is scaring me now.

    At 26 :o Man I'm as well locking myself away now then,single again at 41 sucks,where the hell do I go? I don't club and rarely go to bars as I don't drink anymore.Gig's are out as I am there for the music not to case the joint cougar style :lol:


    I say go for it,what is the harm,get in contact facebook whatever,once alone you'll work out if the age difference is an issue.
    My dad was 9 years older than mum,they were married 53 years.
    Just don't over think and do something
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