Do what your doctor says!

Nothingman54

I'm so sick of people who go to the hospital and are told by the doctor to stop smoking and drinking or you will be back in the ER in a few months and don't take his advice. My father in law has had 3 strokes in the last 5 months. The doctor told him to change his ways (drinking & smoking) but he dosent, so he ends up in the hospital with strokes. It's starting to REALLY piss me off. He calls in the middle of the night yelling help me help me, my wife has to take time off work to deal with him and has to take time off from me and my boys to deal with someone who dosent value his own life and has no respect for others. The first thing he does when he leaves the hospital is light up a smoke. At this point I hope he crokes(ms?) it's fucking ridiculous. Why should anybody else care when he dosent. When you have had 3 strokes in five months you would think someone would "get right". Sorry. Just had to rant. Anybody else have family members like that?

BinauralJam

Im starting to eat vegetables (i'm 36) so far i'm not impressed. but the Doc said so, so i'll try.

PilateOfTheStorm

woah! 3 strokes in the last 5 months? that's awful, he's lucky he's alive. my uncle had one stroke and has never recovered - healthy man who was mugged while he was outside, chased the thieves and ended up having a stroke. can't walk, move, bedridden. can't talk either. its been 2 years and he's still like that, breaks my heart because of what's happened to his life, his children, my mother
sorry, back to the topic.
sounds like a stubborn old man to me, annoying that he won't learn, and the effect of it on your family especially. very selfish of him to not take the doctors advice, for his own health at least. 3 f***ing strokes? and he still smokes, and drinks. i'd be pissed off too
some people, just never learn or change.
I have an old aunt who is diabetic, still doesn't care about her diet, the amount of sugar she has. Depends on other people when she knows that she should be careful. So i understand

Sorry to hear it, hope he changes, if not for himself at least for you and your wife and kids

norm

pfft! doctors, what do they know?

Nothingman54

electricxlovex wrote:

woah! 3 strokes in the last 5 months? that's awful, he's lucky he's alive. my uncle had one stroke and has never recovered - healthy man who was mugged while he was outside, chased the thieves and ended up having a stroke. can't walk, move, bedridden. can't talk either. its been 2 years and he's still like that, breaks my heart because of what's happened to his life, his children, my mother
sorry, back to the topic.
sounds like a stubborn old man to me, annoying that he won't learn, and the effect of it on your family especially. very selfish of him to not take the doctors advice, for his own health at least. 3 f***ing strokes? and he still smokes, and drinks. i'd be pissed off too
some people, just never learn or change.
I have an old aunt who is diabetic, still doesn't care about her diet, the amount of sugar she has. Depends on other people when she knows that she should be careful. So i understand

Sorry to hear it, hope he changes, if not for himself at least for you and your wife and kids

It's annoying. Just felt like ranting, can't really rant like that to my wife lol.....hope she never gets on here and sees this. Lol. It wouldn't be the worst thread iv ever started...

PilateOfTheStorm

Nothingman54 wrote:

It's annoying. Just felt like ranting, can't really rant like that to my wife lol.....hope she never gets on here and sees this. Lol. It wouldn't be the worst thread iv ever started...

haha ooh now i'm curious as to the other threads that you have started

dimitrispearljam

norm wrote:

pfft! doctors, what do they know?

LikeAnOcean

I don't think you need a doctor to tell you that smoking is bad for you..


That said, doctors are not miracle workers. Often they find themselves guessing, and while one doctor tells you one thing, another may tell you the complete opposite.


Just use common sense.

pandora

My opinion, we should be there for others whatever they choose. We would want that for ourselves.
We owe that to those we love.
In a perfect world there would be perfect people without vices.
In a perfect world we wouldn't judge each other either.
Please don't wish your wife's father dead...wishes can come true.
I understand the rant...Its very tough for young people raising children to care for their aging parents...
been there done that but in the end it is those who give care that reap the rewards.
Let your wife follow her heart and see her father through these tough times whatever they may bring
and support her efforts, right or wrong by supporting her father right or wrong.

PilateOfTheStorm

pandora wrote:

My opinion, we should be there for others whatever they choose. We would want that for ourselves.
We owe that to those we love.
In a perfect world there would be perfect people without vices.
In a perfect world we wouldn't judge each other either.
Please don't wish your wife's father dead...wishes can come true.
I understand the rant...Its very tough for young people raising children to care for their aging parents...
been there done that but in the end it is those who give care that reap the rewards.
Let your wife follow her heart and see her father through these tough times whatever they may bring
and support her efforts, right or wrong by supporting her father right or wrong.

beautiful words of wisdom, as always Pandora.

Jeanwah

I think that people who don't want to listen to 'doctors orders' want to live very long. There's not much anyone can do about it either. Heartbreaking, yes, but it's their choice.

EvoLukin

pandora wrote:

My opinion, we should be there for others whatever they choose. We would want that for ourselves.
We owe that to those we love.
In a perfect world there would be perfect people without vices.
In a perfect world we wouldn't judge each other either.
Please don't wish your wife's father dead...wishes can come true.
I understand the rant...Its very tough for young people raising children to care for their aging parents...
been there done that but in the end it is those who give care that reap the rewards.
Let your wife follow her heart and see her father through these tough times whatever they may bring
and support her efforts, right or wrong by supporting her father right or wrong.

As always, perfect response. IMO.

dimitrispearljam

EvoLukin wrote:

pandora wrote:

My opinion, we should be there for others whatever they choose. We would want that for ourselves.
We owe that to those we love.
In a perfect world there would be perfect people without vices.
In a perfect world we wouldn't judge each other either.
Please don't wish your wife's father dead...wishes can come true.
I understand the rant...Its very tough for young people raising children to care for their aging parents...
been there done that but in the end it is those who give care that reap the rewards.
Let your wife follow her heart and see her father through these tough times whatever they may bring
and support her efforts, right or wrong by supporting her father right or wrong.

As always, perfect response. IMO.

my sister

Thoughts_Arrive

Never let a doctor tell you how to live your life, if he does, hit him around the head with his stethoscope.

stargirl69

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Never let a doctor tell you how to live your life, if he does, hit him around the head with his stethoscope.

... sound advice ... I think I could place a wee bet yours as health conscious as uncle Keith in your avatar ...

Poncier

BinauralJam wrote:

Im starting to eat vegetables (i'm 36) so far i'm not impressed. but the Doc said so, so i'll try.

Try frying them in bacon fat and smothering them in melted cheese.

norm

Poncier wrote:

BinauralJam wrote:

Im starting to eat vegetables (i'm 36) so far i'm not impressed. but the Doc said so, so i'll try.

Try frying them in bacon fat and smothering them in melted cheese.

isn't that how you're supposed to eat them? :?

LukinFan

norm wrote:

pfft! doctors, what do they know?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Lge2_H_8IQ

norm

LukinFan wrote:

norm wrote:

pfft! doctors, what do they know?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Lge2_H_8IQ

love that movie!

Black Diamond

...

he still stands

Yes, we have a choice. Thou mayest / timshel. But that doesn't mean we can't see and understand the situation and the correct and righteous choice to be made. I think he probably knows what that choice is, but his ego/addiction is preventing him from acting upon that choice.

As a loved one you have to communicate how you feel and make RATIONAL statements about what he is doing and how those actions affect people around him. He may be helpless to make the choice on his own.

dcfaithful

Damn dude...

I can get behind your frustration, but I think it might be safe to just accept the fact that some people never learn... I've had to come to the same realization about my siblings-in-law, and long time friend.

Some people are just bound to make the same mistakes, I guess.

dcfaithful

LikeAnOcean wrote:

I don't think you need a doctor to tell you that smoking is bad for you..


That said, doctors are not miracle workers. Often they find themselves guessing, and while one doctor tells you one thing, another may tell you the complete opposite.


Just use common sense.

And in this case, common sense should've been a no brainer a long time ago. Unfortunately, common sense is a misleading term as it is far from being common.

Thoughts_Arrive

stargirl69 wrote:

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Never let a doctor tell you how to live your life, if he does, hit him around the head with his stethoscope.

... sound advice ... I think I could place a wee bet yours as health conscious as uncle Keith in your avatar ...

I haven't exercised since last summer.
I eat too much fried food and my cholesterol was a bit above the acceptable mark when I had it checked early this year.
I binge drink and am a social smoker.
Need to wisen up.

dcfaithful

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

stargirl69 wrote:

Thoughts_Arrive wrote:

Never let a doctor tell you how to live your life, if he does, hit him around the head with his stethoscope.

... sound advice ... I think I could place a wee bet yours as health conscious as uncle Keith in your avatar ...

I haven't exercised since last summer.
I eat too much fried food and my cholesterol was a bit above the acceptable mark when I had it checked early this year.
I binge drink and am a social smoker.
Need to wisen up.

Aye. I drink pretty regularly, smoke pot even more so, and have way too little physical activity.

Sooner or later I'm going to have to bite the bullet and just get back into working out and the gym. In the meantime, I'll just settle for occasional basketball and racquetball games with friends.