Teenagers and Parents

Godfather.

I teach my son never give up on anything you do.
people around the world are no different than you.
go to collage and prepare for your life to come.
I let him know that his mom and I love him very much.

but man that stuff in between the lessons of life is driving me crazy !!!!...16 years old and knows it all...

Godfather.

mikalina

My 12 yr old daughter .... knows it all !!!! - I just do the best I can, so far so good.

Cradles Broken Glass

Mine is six and he already thinks he knows it all, so I shudder to think of the teenage years to come. The main thing I want for him out of life is to be happy and confident. Our most recent hurdle was kindergarten graduation. He asked about getting stage fright. I told him that people are just people and they all have to talk in front of others from time to time, it's no big deal. He got up and knocked his lines out of the ballpark. The thing I've realized since becoming a parent myself is that parents have no clue what they are doing. I think most of us just make it up as we go and do the best we can.

Godfather.

yea as parents we have to wing it from time to time, I am the oldest of 6 in my family and don't know how my folks did it....18 years of marriage and six kid's before they threw in the towel.

Godfather.

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Cradles Broken Glass wrote:

The thing I've realized since becoming a parent myself is that parents have no clue what they are doing. I think most of us just make it up as we go and do the best we can.

Maybe I shouldn't be posting in this thread since I'm not a parent... but I don't feel like going out so I'm bored.

I was just telling my teenage cousin this the other day when he was all down on himself because he heard his dad call him a fucking idiot. I think one of life's biggest secrets that you don't know until you're older is that parents are just regular people who got knocked up. You don't magically become all-knowing and perfect when you have a kid, though I think that's sometimes hard for children to understand. Parents are just going through life like everyone else, trying to figure things out along the way, doing the best they can. Kids should cut them some slack.

Hey, on a totally different note, you were at the Eddie solo show in Memphis?? Me too! (I was actually there with the teenage cousin I'm talking about.) What an amazing night!! You're not by chance the woman who got a phone video of Ed saying hello to her kids and then it accidentally got deleted, are you?

chadwick

Godfather. wrote:

I teach my son never give up on anything you do.
people around the world are no different than you.
go to collage and prepare for your life to come.
I let him know that his mom and I love him very much.

but man that stuff in between the lessons of life is driving me crazy !!!!...16 years old and knows it all...

Godfather.

sounds like you have your hands full mr. godfather.
i'm sure things will be fine.

i was just talking with a friend of mine who is watching 4 kids.
it's a three ring circus at this house.

i was saying, i cannot believe our parents survived the onslaught of the 3 krueger boys.
holy shit.

well that father of ours was no peach.
we had a ornery professional as an instructor for a dad.

good luck my friend.

catefrances

aah godfather i remember when my 16 year old used to disappear for days. now 6 years later i cant fucking get rid of her.

Claireack

Parent of a 13 year old boy - catch phrase of the moment 'I can't be bothered'. When he was little and I'd had a bad time with him I used to go and watch him sleeping and I used to feel all warm and fuzzy about him again. Daren't sneak in his room at night anymore, what with raging hormones not confident a sleeping child would be all that I'm seeing :?

catefrances

Claireack wrote:

Parent of a 13 year old boy - catch phrase of the moment 'I can't be bothered'. When he was little and I'd had a bad time with him I used to go and watch him sleeping and I used to feel all warm and fuzzy about him again. Daren't sneak in his room at night anymore, what with raging hormones not confident a sleeping child would be all that I'm seeing :?

my 13 yr old boy still wants to be tucked in and kissed goodnight. i love it cause i know it wont last much longer.

Claireack

catefrances wrote:

Claireack wrote:

Parent of a 13 year old boy - catch phrase of the moment 'I can't be bothered'. When he was little and I'd had a bad time with him I used to go and watch him sleeping and I used to feel all warm and fuzzy about him again. Daren't sneak in his room at night anymore, what with raging hormones not confident a sleeping child would be all that I'm seeing :?

my 13 yr old boy still wants to be tucked in and kissed goodnight. i love it cause i know it wont last much longer.

Oh you lucky thing!!! I used to love that!! We fell out on our trip away at the weekend because I touched the base of his back to guide him somewhere in a museum, little bugger shouted 'Get off' at the top of his voice and I'm afraid to say I shed a few tears for the loss of my little boy. Guess I'll have to get used to it.

Godfather.

every morning I kiss my wife and son good-by for the day, we alway say I love you when anybody leaves the house or goes somewhere hugs are a must,it's been that way from the day he was born and it's sill this way today,even in front of his friends I get hug and he always sez I love you, didn't get that alot when I was growing up so I make sure my family dose,we had a great family it's just we knew and didn't feel we had to say I love you....I guess ?...wierd huh

Godfather.

pandora

Savannah told me last evening on the phone, "thank you guys for being such great parents"
What you sow you reap in all relationships but most especially with our children.
We had horrific teen years, walking a ledge, not knowing if my child would live. Crazy hurtful times, where I thought I must be the worst mother in the world.
For a few years I thought I had totally lost them, that perhaps the story's end would be written with an entirely different moral.
But they are back, they are great young adults, gentle, smart, caring of the world, hard working and thoughtful. They love us and show it daily not only with loving words but actions, like working hard along side their Dad. They tell me often how proud they are of him. This is the best thing a Mom can hear.
I am so very glad I chose life, I chose to live for them in my darkest hour, God did not disappoint. They are my best work by far

cincybearcat

Claireack wrote:

Parent of a 13 year old boy - catch phrase of the moment 'I can't be bothered'. When he was little and I'd had a bad time with him I used to go and watch him sleeping and I used to feel all warm and fuzzy about him again. Daren't sneak in his room at night anymore, what with raging hormones not confident a sleeping child would be all that I'm seeing :?

So, what's it mean when your not yet 3 year-old daughter is already pulling out the "You can't talk to me" and "Don't say that", etc?

Sweetest thing, yet already knows how to push buttons and tries to manipulate. Way to early...oh well, each day brings something different and you do the best you can.

catefrances

cincybearcat wrote:

Claireack wrote:

Parent of a 13 year old boy - catch phrase of the moment 'I can't be bothered'. When he was little and I'd had a bad time with him I used to go and watch him sleeping and I used to feel all warm and fuzzy about him again. Daren't sneak in his room at night anymore, what with raging hormones not confident a sleeping child would be all that I'm seeing :?

So, what's it mean when your not yet 3 year-old daughter is already pulling out the "You can't talk to me" and "Don't say that", etc?

Sweetest thing, yet already knows how to push buttons and tries to manipulate. Way to early...oh well, each day brings something different and you do the best you can.

i had my 3 year old(shes now 22) say to me.. youre not the boss of me. after i stopped laughing i assured her i absolutely was. also once when i asked her what she wanted to eat after she told me she was hungry, she said, tic tacs.

tinkerbell

Being a teenager sucks! It is a myth that your teenage years are the best years of your life. It doesn't feel that long ago since I was one. I try to remind myself of what it was like when I have to deal with some spotty, sulking, snot who grunts at me.
When my daughter was born (she's now 5) my mum said it was karma and that she hoped that bubs was just like me. And already I can see that she is just like me.... we are going to be in for a rough ride but I will try to remember just how confusing and lonely those years can be and try to guide both of my kids through it best I can.

catefrances

tinkerbell wrote:

Being a teenager sucks! It is a myth that your teenage years are the best years of your life. It doesn't feel that long ago since I was one. I try to remind myself of what it was like when I have to deal with some spotty, sulking, snot who grunts at me.
When my daughter was born (she's now 5) my mum said it was karma and that she hoped that bubs was just like me. And already I can see that she is just like me.... we are going to be in for a rough ride but I will try to remember just how confusing and lonely those years can be and try to guide both of my kids through it best I can.

well thats all you can do cause we cant live their lives for them.


you know my parents, my father mostly, swear he knew what we got up to. i just smile knowing if he truly knew wed have been locked in a cage. and now i dont want to know all the details of what my kids are up to cause i know what i was doing at their age and a parent for the most parent really doesnt need to know. i just assume theyre doing the same. and im ok with that.

tinkerbell

catefrances wrote:

tinkerbell wrote:

Being a teenager sucks! It is a myth that your teenage years are the best years of your life. It doesn't feel that long ago since I was one. I try to remind myself of what it was like when I have to deal with some spotty, sulking, snot who grunts at me.
When my daughter was born (she's now 5) my mum said it was karma and that she hoped that bubs was just like me. And already I can see that she is just like me.... we are going to be in for a rough ride but I will try to remember just how confusing and lonely those years can be and try to guide both of my kids through it best I can.

well thats all you can do cause we cant live their lives for them.


you know my parents, my father mostly, swear he knew what we got up to. i just smile knowing if he truly knew wed have been locked in a cage. and now i dont want to know all the details of what my kids are up to cause i know what i was doing at their age and a parent for the most parent really doesnt need to know. i just assume theyre doing the same. and im ok with that.

I agree. I hope that by the time my kids are teenagers I will have prepared them as best I can. We all learn through our own mistakes, and our teenage years are meant to be all about testing boundaries and experiementing etc.

pandora

tinkerbell wrote:

Being a teenager sucks! It is a myth that your teenage years are the best years of your life. It doesn't feel that long ago since I was one. I try to remind myself of what it was like when I have to deal with some spotty, sulking, snot who grunts at me.
When my daughter was born (she's now 5) my mum said it was karma and that she hoped that bubs was just like me. And already I can see that she is just like me.... we are going to be in for a rough ride but I will try to remember just how confusing and lonely those years can be and try to guide both of my kids through it best I can.

When my son hit his teens he said to me "How come parents don't remember? How come they have forgotten what it is like to be young". Truly, from the mouth of babes. Understanding is an important part of parenting and really all contact we have. I worked hard at understanding and remembering what it was like to be young during that tough decade (yep a whole damn decade!). It didn't make the teen years any easier but I think it made our relationship, who we all are together today, much better. It brought a strong feeling of trust and mutual respect that we enjoy as a family.