Is Just Breathe appropriate for a wedding?

skippybrewskippybrew Posts: 283
I'm getting married in December. I've seen several people on here say they're using/used Just Breathe as a first-dance song (which is almost reason enough to not use it... :oops: ). We've got our first dance all worked out, but I thought this would be a nice one to play while seating, or while everyone's leaving the ceremony and getting settled for the reception. Or something.

But then I started really listening to the lyrics... I might be reading too much in, but it almost sounds like a "we're-about-to-break-up-so-let's-just-breathe-and-maybe-you-won't-leave-me" song. Here's my reasoning:

Yes I understand that every life must end
As we sit alone, I know someday we must go


He starts off talking about the end...

I'm a lucky man to count on both hands the ones I love

In the context of a breakup, it sounds like he's trying to find a silver lining.

Stay with me, let's just breathe...

...and not talk. I know I'm being morbid, but I was in a relationship once that I knew was doomed, and the best I could hope for was that we could just sit and be quiet, because I knew that any conversation would illustrate the fact that she was done with me.

Practiced are my sins
Never gonna let me win
Under everything, just another human being
Yeah, I don’t wanna hurt, there’s so much in this world
To make me bleed


This is where it gets heavy for me. What I hear is: "I'm really good at what I do wrong, and you'll never forget that. I know I fucked up, but after all, I'm only human. Everything else in the world hurts, and this will be just one too many."

Did I say that I need you?
Did I say that I want you?


Now he just sounds desperate. Maybe he thinks he didn't say the right things before.

Oh, if I didn’t I’m a fool you see
No one knows this more than me
As I come clean


Sounds like, "I'm keenly aware of what I lack..."

I wonder every day I look upon your face
Everything you gave and nothing you would take


I got nothing for this one. I could skew it to seem like a breakup verse, but it really does seem very sweet...

Okay, this is getting to be a longer post than I anticipated. Thanks for sticking with me. :P Either way, it's a beautiful song, and I'm not trying to piss on anyone who used it for the most intimate day of their romantic life, but I'm curious what everyone thinks. If I'm hearing it right, it reminds me of U2's "One" - on the surface it seems like a nice love song, but actually deals with the balance of pain and love. I know it's a desperate song, but is that desperation requited? If not, then it's really very sad.

Thanks again. I actually hope everyone shoots me down, because if it's not heartbreaking, then it's perfect.
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  • HamsonHamson Posts: 44
    I think you're looking far more into these lyrics than you need to be. If you like the song, have it played at your wedding! It's a sweet love song. I doubt your guests are going to be listening to every lyric and analyzing it!!
  • pandorapandora Posts: 21,855
    Its not a break up song quite the contrary. It's about appreciating love and the unselfishness of another or others. And spending this short life together. It goes fast, you'll be surprised. Turn around and ......
    It's a very lovely song for your quests to enjoy. Congratulations!
    Enjoy!
  • BSullyBSully Posts: 1,213
    If your wedding guests know anything about you at all, they will think nothing of hearing a Pearl jam song at your wedding...I wish to this day that I would have chosen one for mine!

    ...although my mind was BLACK at the time and spinning like a black circle :D
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  • justamjustam Posts: 21,410
    It's a love song.
    You can certainly use it for a wedding.
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  • skippybrewskippybrew Posts: 283
    Hamson wrote:
    I think you're looking far more into these lyrics than you need to be. If you like the song, have it played at your wedding! It's a sweet love song. I doubt your guests are going to be listening to every lyric and analyzing it!!
    I tend to do that... And, true, nobody's listening for what it could mean at a wedding.
    pandora wrote:
    Its not a break up song quite the contrary. It's about appreciating love and the unselfishness of another or others. And spending this short life together. It goes fast, you'll be surprised. Turn around and ......
    It's a very lovely song for your quests to enjoy. Congratulations!
    Enjoy!
    Thank you! Lovely as always. :D


    Okay, I'm convinced. And now, for your listening enjoyment, here's what we did choose for our first dance - Pink Martini "Amado Mio".
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dPlvi0irqW4
  • I think it's a gorgeous little love song and perfect for background music while everyone takes their seats... That's why I will be using it when I eventually get married :D

    Congrats by the way :thumbup:
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • JukeeJukee Posts: 4,500
    I wish this song would have been out 2 years ago when I got married because I would have definately used it.
    Congrats on the wedding and hope your dreams come true!
    If you have nothing to lose, you have nothing to worry about.
  • hrd2imgnhrd2imgn Posts: 4,898
    I'm using it in mine Saturday!

    yes those lines are "morbid" but part of a Wedding is to realize the good times to come, and understand there are hard times too, but just appreciate what you have now

    Th DJ said it is becoming real popular
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