Dating Sites

yahamita

So, let me just vent. Broke up with BF after 3 years and decided to pass some time by getting on one of those dating sites. I just did a search to see who viewed my profile, and discovered HIM looking at my page!!! YIKES! My stomach instantly flip flopped. Sad enough we split, there is still deep love for this man, but it just didn't work. Has anyone been successful on these sites, and what to do now that he is on?

81

can you block him?

eyedclaar

You should check with Lauri. I believe she has nothing but positive advice and great tips. A lot like me in that regard...

Jearlpam0925

Go to a bar, get drunk, and viola - he's usually gone before you wake up. It's perfect.

Slap upside the head

Jearlpam0925 wrote:

Go to a bar, get drunk, and viola - he's usually gone before you wake up. It's perfect.

Or you wake up between a Violin and a Cello.

Jearlpam0925

Slap upside the head wrote:

Jearlpam0925 wrote:

Go to a bar, get drunk, and viola - he's usually gone before you wake up. It's perfect.

Or you wake up between a Violin and a Cello.

Excuse me - voila.

Slap upside the head

Jearlpam0925 wrote:

Slap upside the head wrote:

Jearlpam0925 wrote:

Go to a bar, get drunk, and viola - he's usually gone before you wake up. It's perfect.

Or you wake up between a Violin and a Cello.

Excuse me - voila.

Viola was funnier, it's not like you farted or something.

yahamita

Hmmm I only know of 2 people that hooked up on a dating site and are still together. Doesnt seem like a good place to actually meet people just a way to pass time when you are bored..now a PJ show...thats another story..

PearlOfAGirl

I'd NEVER do it...

Lauri

yahamita wrote:

So, let me just vent. Broke up with BF after 3 years and decided to pass some time by getting on one of those dating sites. I just did a search to see who viewed my profile, and discovered HIM looking at my page!!! YIKES! My stomach instantly flip flopped. Sad enough we split, there is still deep love for this man, but it just didn't work. Has anyone been successful on these sites, and what to do now that he is on?

How do you define successful?

In reality, a dating site is just like going to a giant party where everyone is single and looking to date. The level of "success" you have is the same as it would be with any large sub-segment of the population. A few years back, I used to go on a lot more dates and contact a lot more guys on dating sites than I do now. I get about the same number of messages in, it's just in the past couple years there just haven't been too many people that I seem interested in talking to or meeting. I've had pretty much the whole spectrum of dating experiences with online dating, just like if it were offline dating. I've been on bad dates, good dates, boring dates, sexy dates, gone on 1 date with someone, gone on 10 dates with someone, had 3 month relationships, had year long relationships...Some people meet a lot of people, some people meet one "special" person, others don't meet anyone or go on a million dates that don't work out. It's no less about luck and any other factors than offline dating. It's just easy because you know everyone on there wants to date.

Also don't check your ex's profile. Guys generally have a lot more demand when they first join a site because there are so few "quality" ones relative to the number of "quality" women. Just forget about him being on there, because it's going to feel like a competition.

Jukee

My cousin met her man on one of those. They now have 2 kids together and are getting married in July so I guess they work for some people Good luck!

dcfaithful

yahamita wrote:

Hmmm I only know of 2 people that hooked up on a dating site and are still together. Doesnt seem like a good place to actually meet people just a way to pass time when you are bored..now a PJ show...thats another story..

I didn't use a dating site, but I met my girlfriend of 3 years online. Happiest I've ever been with anybody I've ever met...

I think it's just like meeting people face to face....you have to wade through all the shit-heads and psycho's...

yahamita

Lauri wrote:

yahamita wrote:

So, let me just vent. Broke up with BF after 3 years and decided to pass some time by getting on one of those dating sites. I just did a search to see who viewed my profile, and discovered HIM looking at my page!!! YIKES! My stomach instantly flip flopped. Sad enough we split, there is still deep love for this man, but it just didn't work. Has anyone been successful on these sites, and what to do now that he is on?

How do you define successful?

In reality, a dating site is just like going to a giant party where everyone is single and looking to date. The level of "success" you have is the same as it would be with any large sub-segment of the population. A few years back, I used to go on a lot more dates and contact a lot more guys on dating sites than I do now. I get about the same number of messages in, it's just in the past couple years there just haven't been too many people that I seem interested in talking to or meeting. I've had pretty much the whole spectrum of dating experiences with online dating, just like if it were offline dating. I've been on bad dates, good dates, boring dates, sexy dates, gone on 1 date with someone, gone on 10 dates with someone, had 3 month relationships, had year long relationships...Some people meet a lot of people, some people meet one "special" person, others don't meet anyone or go on a million dates that don't work out. It's no less about luck and any other factors than offline dating. It's just easy because you know everyone on there wants to date.

Also don't check your ex's profile. Guys generally have a lot more demand when they first join a site because there are so few "quality" ones relative to the number of "quality" women. Just forget about him being on there, because it's going to feel like a competition.

You are so right about not looking at his profile, and I haven't..Great advice..

vomikus39

Avoid looking at his page at all cost. Don't do it to yourself. I have had "sucess" on match.com. Haven't found the "one" yet, but met some great people and dated one for 5 months.

CHANGEinWAVES

I don't have anything negative to say about them... I've met some good men and some not so good men (same as regular dating). For me it works the best since I don't have the schedule that allows me to head out to the bar every weekend. I give it a thumbs up :thumbup: