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loveboatcaptain10loveboatcaptain10 Posts: 36
edited April 2010 in The Porch
Okay, need opinions.
Going to KC and St Louis shows w/ love of my life. I have the ring and am just waiting for the right time.
would a Pearl Jam concert be a good choice? Has anyone ever seen anything like this done at a PJ concert?
Maybe during Just Breathe? I dont want to do it and annoy people (especially the 6 on stage) by trying to steal the show.... but I could combine two of the most memorable moments in my life into one, big, heart pounding moment. We should have decent seats thanks to the 10 club... so, what does everyone think?
great idea or too cheesy?
thanks everyone, see some of you in early May!
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  • Paul AndrewsPaul Andrews Posts: 2,489
    edited April 2010
    Just keep this in mind...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZvdZJvmAfws

    and

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5JraEYwvW-s

    and

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJS5tUsZYOg

    or..

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LH9K74IFX80

    even...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WgATRMoEVTY

    starting to cringe now...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJm0BPU33vY

    it's getting painful...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_OR_3jKjOHk

    Maybe a nice private place is better :o
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  • DeetroitBaasketballDeetroitBaasketball Posts: 379
    No.
  • Ms. Wes C.addleMs. Wes C.addle Posts: 2,559
    Even if she is a crazy pj fanatic, you should still make it more about you both as a couple or her individually- her likes, memories that the two of you share, a dream, or just completely simple yet meaningful....
    I think proposing at a concert/sporting event is so horribly dumb- even if she is a #1 fan.
    IMO, make it special to her, for the both of you........ and please spare the rest of us in the crowd. :?
  • klusterfukklusterfuk Posts: 1,411
    dont ruin a couple killer shows. do it after the second one.
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  • snipes824snipes824 Posts: 870
    cheese to the max.
  • CAVSTARR313CAVSTARR313 Posts: 8,756
    Keep the ring on you most of the time, and when you two are having a particularly good day, and you are alone, spring it on her.. Over planning can be really bad
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  • loveboatcaptain10loveboatcaptain10 Posts: 36
    ms. wes c.addle wrote:
    Even if she is a crazy pj fanatic, you should still make it more about you both as a couple or her individually- her likes, memories that the two of you share, a dream, or just completely simple yet meaningful....
    I think proposing at a concert/sporting event is so horribly dumb- even if she is a #1 fan.
    IMO, make it special to her, for the both of you........ and please spare the rest of us in the crowd. :?

    really, really glad I ran it by you guys..... saved me a potential regret for not making it more private.
    thank you all!
  • PJStatTrackerPJStatTracker Posts: 2,400
    ms. wes c.addle wrote:
    Even if she is a crazy pj fanatic, you should still make it more about you both as a couple or her individually- her likes, memories that the two of you share, a dream, or just completely simple yet meaningful....
    I think proposing at a concert/sporting event is so horribly dumb- even if she is a #1 fan.
    IMO, make it special to her, for the both of you........ and please spare the rest of us in the crowd. :?

    I agree with all of this. the act itself is a big enough moment...
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  • LloydXmasLloydXmas Posts: 7,539
    Don't do it. Maybe do it before you leave or right when you get there or even after. Don't be that guy
  • Paul AndrewsPaul Andrews Posts: 2,489
    BabaBooey1979 wrote:
    Don't do it. Maybe do it before you leave or right when you get there or even after. Don't be that guy

    oh oh. 'that guy' strikes again :lol:
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  • Hitch-HikerHitch-Hiker Posts: 2,873
    Cavstarr313 wrote:
    Keep the ring on you most of the time, and when you two are having a particularly good day, and you are alone, spring it on her.. Over planning can be really bad
    I agree with this plan. Concert proposals are lame.
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  • BeerBaronBeerBaron Posts: 4,097
    Don't do it. There are better times and places.

    @ Paul Andrews: The baseball video is just terrible. You can totally feel the guy's pain...
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  • High Fidelity 2000High Fidelity 2000 Posts: 4,435
    Believe it or not, I was considering the same thing a few years ago. My now-wife said she would hate a big public proposal with a bunch of people around. I had the ring too, so I took it with me on our trip to Vegas for the 2006 show, and was scared to death of losing it, carrying it around for a couple days etc... I took her advice and proposed BEFORE we went to the show, and she was happy. She said she stared at the ring during the songs she has heard enough times before. :)
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  • Paul AndrewsPaul Andrews Posts: 2,489
    BeerBaron wrote:
    Don't do it. There are better times and places.

    @ Paul Andrews: The baseball video is just terrible. You can totally feel the guy's pain...

    They're terrible. While waiting in line for some of the Aussie GA shows in 2009 we were discussing proposals and the overwhelming concensus from the girls in the discussion was that they'd hate it and would say no if asked at a show. And this came from hardcore fans who were willing to sleep out or at least line up all day for good spots in the GA area.

    Hey BB are you going to the MSG shows?
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  • jg1988jg1988 Posts: 181
    do it!! look what might happen...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QGvaXLH1 ... re=related
  • Brock SamsonBrock Samson Posts: 328
    just because i like going against the grain, i say do it. make it a big production. nobody is going to say shit to you if you do, don't let all these people say you're going to be ruining a show for others. c'mon, you've been planning on doing it for a while now, otherwise you wouldn't have brought it up here. don't pussy out.....DO IT!
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  • jimed14jimed14 Posts: 9,488
    My fiance and I are huge concert goers and enormous lovers of music ...

    We met at a concert ... Broken Social Scene/Bloc Party

    We had our first date at a concert ... Wolf Parade

    We went to Seattle last fall for the two Pearl Jam shows and ...........


    ...


    ...


    ...


    ... I was smart enough to propose to her on vacation in Cabo a month later.

    DO NOT PROPOSE AT A CONCERT!
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  • vedderfan10vedderfan10 Posts: 2,497
    The ultimate in lameosity, dude...

    Really, was at SLC and found that to be rather a drag and was more for the guy than it was for her...Sorry to the folks involved, but it was very very LAME and attention-seeking... :P

    Take it from a married person - private and surprise is the best...hubby woke me out of a deep deep sleep and asked me - had to make him ask me again to make sure that he wasn't just sleep-proposing! :D
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  • saveyou22saveyou22 Posts: 154
    do it before the shows, that way you can enjoy the moment of proposing then partying it up at the concert.
  • saveyou22saveyou22 Posts: 154
    btw, hey moe.ron. its nice to see some moe. fans around here. Are you going to msg?
  • CAVSTARR313CAVSTARR313 Posts: 8,756
    I had a second thought. Don't get married. Being single is way better. Get a dog and play the field. Single people can do whatever they want unchecked. Its bad ass.. "Yes those socks do go there"
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  • SPEEDY MCCREADYSPEEDY MCCREADY Posts: 25,444
    loveboatcaptain10 wrote:
    Okay, need opinions.
    Going to KC and St Louis shows w/ love of my life. I have the ring and am just waiting for the right time.
    would a Pearl Jam concert be a good choice? Has anyone ever seen anything like this done at a PJ concert?
    Maybe during Just Breathe? I dont want to do it and annoy people (especially the 6 on stage) by trying to steal the show.... but I could combine two of the most memorable moments in my life into one, big, heart pounding moment. We should have decent seats thanks to the 10 club... so, what does everyone think?
    great idea or too cheesy?
    thanks everyone, see some of you in early May!
    I say....

    When it comes to you proposing to your future wife....

    Dont listen to one single person on this board....

    Whatever you think is best.....Then that is the right choice to make.....
    Take me piece by piece.....
    Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
  • LucanLucan Posts: 104
    I had planned to pop the question at a World Cup Qualifier between Australia and Uruguay in 2005.

    After a day of solid afternoon/evening of drinking and chanting, and an epic qualifier that saw us historically qualify after extra-time and a penalty shootout whoch left us all physically and emotionally exhausted, I thought better of it.

    Am glad I did, as I now have TWO separate events I can look back on fondly. :D


    Be greedy and mark two days in your calendar as *SPECIAL*
  • dpmaydpmay Posts: 643
    definitely do not do this.

    that said, the asshole part of me wants to say 'yeah, go for it in stl' becasue i'm gonna be at that show, and i might see something entertaining.

    ooh, that IS an asshole side...just kidding...

    ...seriously, no, don't do it.
  • Local CrewLocal Crew Posts: 745
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  • Satans Red MosquitoSatans Red Mosquito Posts: 763
    Oddly enough, me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 2 years, and about 3 months ago, I showed her the video of the SLC proposal, and she said god, I wish that was me. So, needless to say, propose at a show if you know she is a huge fan like my girlfriend, but if Pearl Jam isn't her favorite band then hold back and feel her out on what might be a great place or do something crazy like walk in a women's public bathroom and slide it under the stall and say will you marry me? (Crazy idea, but if anybody steals it, I want some credit ;) )
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  • Brock SamsonBrock Samson Posts: 328
    saveyou22 wrote:
    btw, hey moe.ron. its nice to see some moe. fans around here. Are you going to msg?

    nah, not making it to msg. i'll be at cleveland and buffalo, though.

    as far as moe. shows, i'm hoping to make it to the 2 shows at the saranac brewery in utica june 4 and 5.

    ok, end of derail.
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  • pearljamdude420pearljamdude420 Posts: 1,380
    take your girl to brazil somewhere, and then seduce her and then do it :lol:
  • PJRock75PJRock75 Posts: 869
    Those clips were great paul andrews :lol:
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  • drsluggodrsluggo Posts: 4,742
    snipes824 wrote:
    cheese to the max.
    Agreed. Why do something that meaningful in the middle of 1000s of people...
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