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Boy, Do I regret that.....

PJPixiePJPixie Posts: 3,026
edited March 2010 in All Encompassing Trip
.....My ex husband came to my son's ball game today. Haven't seen him in about a year. Obviously he spends zero time with our kids. So, he show's up and looks terrible. About 25 pounds less than the last time I saw him and he's a thin guy anyway. He looks ill. I ask him if he's ok and he say's he's broke and only eats one meal a day. I know he's broke, he's hardly ever paid a cent in child support. Anyway, the game ends and he starts to head to the bus stop to go back to his sober living home. I feel bad, instead of asking him if he needed a ride home I ask him if he wants to come over for lunch. He accepts and I make a nice lunch for us. He asks my son if he wants to play catch so they go out to my car to get the baseball gloves (we just came from my son's game so everything is in the car). They come back from the car and Max says "look mom, dad just found your headphones in the bushes"....ok, no biggie. I say thanks, didn't know they were lost. They aren't able to find a ball to play catch with so my ex husband says "ok, I better get going, long bus ride home". We say goodbye and he leaves.
About a half hour later my son and I leave to run some errands and I notice my ipod is gone :(
I know exactly what happened to hit. It makes me sick to even think it but I know he took it. So yeah, I regret inviting him over for lunch, him looking so sick and hungry.....I want to throw up.

What do you regret?

(and before someone says it - I don't regret marrying him and having his kids, he was a different person then.)
The best use of Life is Love.
The best expression of Love is Time.
The best time to Love is Now.


I'm never as good as when you're there.........
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    oh tiff i'm sorry...it's unfortunate you can't trust him but it sounds like you're better off without him



    i regret not going to see pj until 2003 :oops:
  • Jokertt14Jokertt14 Posts: 2,566
    also sorry .

    sounds like he has a drug problem .
  • MrMerkinballMrMerkinball Posts: 1,978
    That's really sad. It almost sounded like he was making an effort there.

    We all have lots of regrets.

    I regret the amount of hot peppers i put on my dinner. Heartburn city right now
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    not believing that I could have the life I wanted when it almost seemed impossible.... essentially, not seeing when I was unhappy and knowing I could change that.
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • SawyerSawyer Posts: 2,411
    probably this Lacoste polo I have on...I should have gotten cyan instead of aqua.....I hope the sun rises tomorrow
  • Nothingman54Nothingman54 Posts: 2,251
    i regret watching pj on snl lastnight. they sucked. still not gonna buy the cd. you suck pj
    I'll be back
  • dimitrispearljamdimitrispearljam Posts: 139,721
    thats sad really..the best u can do is protect and raise your son with the best way u can.wish u the best
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    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
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  • pearljgirl2010pearljgirl2010 Shillington, PA/Tuckerton, NJ Posts: 3,428
    oh, I'm so sorry :-(

    I do think that you did your good deed for the day by making him lunch...you're a better person and I think kindness is very important, even if he didn't appreciate it.
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  • justamjustam Posts: 21,412
    PJPixie, how sad you must feel about this! :|
    I hope your child doesn't find out. How awful he'd feel to know his father did something like that.
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  • just tinajust tina Posts: 277
    what a horrible feeling, i'm sorry!

    regrets? sure. would i change anything? nah, probably not. well...maybe i could have done without a few "friends" that like to use people...but hey, you live and you learn. right?
  • Yellow LedbellyYellow Ledbelly Posts: 3,749
    I regret not being a better student for most of my college career....

    I also regret not saying certain things I should have said years ago...even though the timing wasn't right then
    All I have to do is revel in the everyday....then do it again tomorrow

    They say every sin is deadly but I believe they may be wrong...I'm guilty of all seven and I don't feel too bad at all
  • pandorapandora Posts: 21,855
    I'm sorry that happened, how disappointing people can be. At least it is not you who decided to steal from people you love.I look at it that way I guess with pity for him. Sounds pretty desperate, I agree might be an addiction problem. If there is nothing more you can do for your ex hopefully he can find the strength and guidance to change his life.
  • PJPixiePJPixie Posts: 3,026
    pandora wrote:
    I'm sorry that happened, how disappointing people can be. At least it is not you who decided to steal from people you love.I look at it that way I guess with pity for him. Sounds pretty desperate, I agree might be an addiction problem. If there is nothing more you can do for your ex hopefully he can find the strength and guidance to change his life.


    Yes, it is an addiction. VODKA. It's been his "addiction" for years now. He's been in and out of Sober Living Homes for years now and unable to hold a job. We've been divorced for 8 years now. I've been pretty mad at him for most of those years, all of those years. Since we split he's had literally zero time with our kids
    and contributes nothing financially. I felt like I had a right to be pissed off. I've been doing it alone for 8 years. After seeing him on Saturday, I just feel sorry for him, in a strange way. I really have a strong feeling I won't see him again. I've thought for years that I would get a phone call any minute saying that he's left this earth, I feel it even more now. Sad.
    The best use of Life is Love.
    The best expression of Love is Time.
    The best time to Love is Now.


    I'm never as good as when you're there.........
  • Who PrincessWho Princess out here in the fields Posts: 7,305
    PJPixie wrote:
    pandora wrote:
    I'm sorry that happened, how disappointing people can be. At least it is not you who decided to steal from people you love.I look at it that way I guess with pity for him. Sounds pretty desperate, I agree might be an addiction problem. If there is nothing more you can do for your ex hopefully he can find the strength and guidance to change his life.


    Yes, it is an addiction. VODKA. It's been his "addiction" for years now. He's been in and out of Sober Living Homes for years now and unable to hold a job. We've been divorced for 8 years now. I've been pretty mad at him for most of those years, all of those years. Since we split he's had literally zero time with our kids
    and contributes nothing financially. I felt like I had a right to be pissed off. I've been doing it alone for 8 years. After seeing him on Saturday, I just feel sorry for him, in a strange way. I really have a strong feeling I won't see him again. I've thought for years that I would get a phone call any minute saying that he's left this earth, I feel it even more now. Sad.
    If he stoops to stealing from the mother of his kids (that he doesn't support), then it sounds like he's sunk pretty low. I think I can understand why you feel more sorry for him than angry. If he can still feel any sense of shame then you probably won't hear from again.

    It must be really hard to see somebody that you cared about in the condition he's in. Addiction brings people to so some really bad places. What happened doesn't sound shocking, just sad. How hard it must be for your kids.
    "The stars are all connected to the brain."
  • Given to...Given to... Wyoming Posts: 4,997
    Sorry to hear that your offer of decency turned into what it did.

    "regret is a dish best served not" DB
    "...would you like some forks?" EV 12-02-06
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