You are unique

iluvcats

Nothingman54 wrote:

i play 8 instruments. write songs, poems. im a stay at home dad and love every second of it.

thanks, do you think you completely answered the question? what inspired you to learn the instruments?

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iluvcats wrote:

What key life experiences have shaped who you are and make you unique?

It seems to me that just because something has shaped who you are does not mean it makes you unique, and vice versa.

For instance, I know that moving from the South to an Indian reservation out west in high school has shaped who I am. Various hardships in my life have shaped who I am. Having a twin has shaped who I am. But none of those things makes me unique.

We've had to do a similar getting-to-know-you exercise at work where we think of unique things about ourselves that we think no one else in the room can say about themselves. I can recite the entire Love Song of J Alfred Proofrock. My hair is down to my knees. I once toured DC in a car on the back of a tow truck. But none of those things has shaped who I am.

This reminds me of a song: "I want to be different... just like all the other different people."

adropinthepark

I don't have a uvula.

The Juggler

i have a clone.

brother123

I have thumbs

adropinthepark

decides2dream wrote:

you are unique, just like every other person.



i forget who said it, but i like it. too true. we're all unique little snowflakes, like the billions of others.....so yea, not too special in the scheme of things. hahaha.

I've always liked that too.

iluvcats

I don't think I'm unique. I like the snowflake pic!

I wanted help with how to respond to this nosey stuff on tuesday. I think it's a part of keeping track of potential threats at work.

yellowled24

I've been living with depression for over half my life...and will continue to live with it til the day I die.

With this disease, all of lifes challenges have been harder for me to cope with, and because of this I only have a relatively small, close group of friends...which makes my relationships in life have alot more quality, than if I had a larger group of friends.

I've also moved house over 17 times, so have good adaptation skills

Who Princess

The things about me that seem to impress other people aren't things that I consider remarkable at all. Maybe if you look at it from that perspective, you can think of something to talk about next week.

I've had something like this come up on the job 2 different times. Both of them were several years ago, at separate jobs. The first was at a staff retreat when we had to give an example of something we'd accomplished that we were particularly proud of. I was very surprised at some of the examples people gave. I talked about all the work that went into earning my master's degree. That isn't the example I'd use now, but it was a good one at the time and personal without being too personal.

The other time was at a different job, also on a staff retreat. We were asked to tell something about ourselves that others didn't know about us and to make it as personal as possible. Even though everything was supposed to be confidential, I still thought it was a bit intrusive. I also learned things about my coworkers that I really didn't want to know! :oops: This was sprung on us about 10 minutes before we had to talk about it. At least you have some time to think about what you want to say.

markin ball

The Jeagler wrote:

i have a clone.

Winner, winner, chicken dinner.

Got a hard hard head

I struggle to answer a question like this, because I'm a fairly humble person. I never look at myself as any better, or worse, than the next person...which isn't always easy when you meet some of life's more savoury characters!

I lose my temper far easier at stupid things than at people. Like, when it's cold and the CD player won't play in my car...bingo, red mist!! I once got so mad with coathangers, becuase they wouldn't stay hooked on the rail and kept falling on the floor, that I ended up ripping the whole rail out of my wardrobe and flinging it across the room.

Yeah, some real emotional problems going on there, I think.... :?

Byrnzie

Got a hard hard head wrote:

I lose my temper far easier at stupid things than at people. Like, when it's cold and the CD player won't play in my car...bingo, red mist!! I once got so mad with coathangers, becuase they wouldn't stay hooked on the rail and kept falling on the floor, that I ended up ripping the whole rail out of my wardrobe and flinging it across the room.

Yeah, some real emotional problems going on there, I think.... :?

I can relate to that.

I took a monkey wrench to my last laptop computer because it annoyed me. It felt pretty good smashing the crap out of it.

I always had a problem with anything that I felt constricted/restricted me. I hate rules and phoniness - anything that I feel wastes my time. I wanna smash it all to bits.
Maybe some of this stems from being a bit crazy as a child - I used to have vivid hallucinations where I felt the walls of my house were closing in around me - freaked my Mum out a bit. Also, I was sent to a psychiatrist at school for always causing trouble. My Dad was also a violent control freak - used to shut me and my brother in the living room and slap us about. Maybe why most of my dreams involve running away and being chased.

Anyway, I'd say that it was books and music that made me who I am. A few books that opened my eyes when I was 12 - 13 years old, like Charles Manson's autobiography, Catcher in The Rye, e.t.c. And David Bowie was a big influence - from the age of 12 - 16, or 17. Bowie got me through my school years.


Edit: Anyway, this confessional stuff; isn't this what Americans do? I'm English...get me out of here! :shock:

Got a hard hard head

I'm English too!

Honest confession is good for the soul, apparently. I don't actually believe there is a soul, in the sense we've been taught to believe there is but I ain't getting into THAT discussion!

blenderman69

i am not unique...push me and i will resist.

dunkman

Byrnzie wrote:

Got a hard hard head wrote:

I lose my temper far easier at stupid things than at people. Like, when it's cold and the CD player won't play in my car...bingo, red mist!! I once got so mad with coathangers, becuase they wouldn't stay hooked on the rail and kept falling on the floor, that I ended up ripping the whole rail out of my wardrobe and flinging it across the room.

Yeah, some real emotional problems going on there, I think.... :?

I can relate to that.

I took a monkey wrench to my last laptop computer because it annoyed me. It felt pretty good smashing the crap out of it.

I always had a problem with anything that I felt constricted/restricted me. I hate rules and phoniness - anything that I feel wastes my time. I wanna smash it all to bits.
Maybe some of this stems from being a bit crazy as a child - I used to have vivid hallucinations where I felt the walls of my house were closing in around me - freaked my Mum out a bit. Also, I was sent to a psychiatrist at school for always causing trouble. My Dad was also a violent control freak - used to shut me and my brother in the living room and slap us about. Maybe why most of my dreams involve running away and being chased.

Anyway, I'd say that it was books and music that made me who I am. A few books that opened my eyes when I was 12 - 13 years old, like Charles Manson's autobiography, Catcher in The Rye, e.t.c. And David Bowie was a big influence - from the age of 12 - 16, or 17. Bowie got me through my school years.


Edit: Anyway, this confessional stuff; isn't this what Americans do? I'm English...get me out of here! :shock:

if we were american we'd have a big frank discussion about this and would nod in agreement with what you said.. as we're both british I would probably just avert my gaze and then once you'd offloaded the above confession on to me I'd say with a hopeful look in my eyes... "right then, pint?"

Byrnzie

dunkman wrote:

if we were american we'd have a big frank discussion about this and would nod in agreement with what you said.. as we're both british I would probably just avert my gaze and then once you'd offloaded the above confession on to me I'd say with a hopeful look in my eyes... "right then, pint?"

...and two packs of pork scratchings son! :P

Yellow Ledbelly

Got a hard hard head wrote:

I struggle to answer a question like this, because I'm a fairly humble person. I never look at myself as any better, or worse, than the next person...which isn't always easy when you meet some of life's more savoury characters!

I lose my temper far easier at stupid things than at people. Like, when it's cold and the CD player won't play in my car...bingo, red mist!! I once got so mad with coathangers, becuase they wouldn't stay hooked on the rail and kept falling on the floor, that I ended up ripping the whole rail out of my wardrobe and flinging it across the room.

Yeah, some real emotional problems going on there, I think.... :?

I'm pretty much the same way. Small stuff, life's little everyday annoyances always get me way more riled up than big stuff. I've laughed at myself many times because I would get so damn angry over something so insignificant, but I think the thing is that I take my frustrations out on shit like that instead of people which I suppose is a good thing