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HailHailVitalogyHailHailVitalogy Posts: 5,137
edited January 2010 in All Encompassing Trip
One of my really good friends in high school died Thursday morning. A lot of rumors spread around about how he died, but we found out he died from cardiac arrest at the age of 20. His parents found him on the floor in the bathroom at 6am. One of our other friends from high school is a volunteer EMT and actually got the call to go to the house. A lot of speculation has been done about him overdosing on drugs, and it's just terrible for people to remember him that way.

This is the first time in my life where someone close to me has died and I don't know how to handle it. I wasn't best of friends with him these last 2 years of college, but he was my favorite person to laugh with throughout high school.

"I've understood feelings, and I've understood words, but how could you be taken away? And wherever you've gone, and wherever we might go. It don't seem fair, you seemed to like it here. Your lights reflected now, reflected from a far. We were but stones, your light made us stars" - Pearl Jam

Rest in Peace Alex MacGregor.You were too young to die, but only the good die young.
2003: Uniondale, MSG x2 | 2004: Reading | 2005: Gorge, Vancouver, Philly | 2006: East Rutherford x2, Gorge x2, Camden 1, Hartford | 2008: MSG x2, VA Beach | 2009: Philly x3 | 2010: MSG x2, Bristow | 2011: Alpine Valley x2 | 2012: MIA Philly | 2013: Wrigley, Charlottesville, Brooklyn 2 | 2014: Milan, Amsterdam 1 | 2016: MSG x2, Fenway x2, Wrigley 2 | 2018: Rome, Krakow, Berlin, Wrigley 2 | 2021: Sea Hear Now | 2022: San Diego, LA x2, MSG, Camden, Nashville, St. Louis, Denver | 2023: St. Paul 1, Chicago x2, Fort Worth x2, Austin 2 | 2024: Las Vegas 1, Seattle x2, Indy, MSG x2, Philly x2, Baltimore
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  • SPEEDY MCCREADYSPEEDY MCCREADY Posts: 25,478
    Sorry to hear about your friend......

    20 years old is just TOO DAMNED young........

    Again, I am very sorry for the loss of your friend.....

    Michael
    Take me piece by piece.....
    Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
  • dimitrispearljamdimitrispearljam Posts: 139,549
    sorry for the loss
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • PJPixiePJPixie Posts: 3,026
    So very sorry.
    The best use of Life is Love.
    The best expression of Love is Time.
    The best time to Love is Now.


    I'm never as good as when you're there.........
  • mfc2006mfc2006 Posts: 37,414
    oh, man....i'm so sorry for your loss. try to remember the good times you shared. thoughts are with you.

    Matt
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  • DriftEdDriftEd Posts: 74
    I am very sorry. I lost three of my friends in their 20's so I know what you're going through.

    It seems like you are finding comfort in music. Keep on doing that. It helps.
    I sometimes wonder if they know that I'm gone...
  • the wolfthe wolf Posts: 7,027
    I'm also very sorry to hear about this.

    It's very sad to hear of a young person to go so soon. and 20 years old is way to soon.

    I'm sorry.

    Hang in there.



    -steve
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • QuarterToTenQuarterToTen Posts: 3,635
    there are no words.

    so sorry.
    Nice shirt.
  • Black DiamondBlack Diamond Posts: 25,107
    Very sorry to hear this.
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  • rhcpjam1029rhcpjam1029 Posts: 1,968
    Really sorry man.
    Beavis: All my friends are brown and red? What does that mean?
    Butthead: It means that his friends are like turds and that they like suck.
    Beavis: Heh heh. Oh yeah. Yeah! Get those spoons out of my face before I shove them up your butt!
    Butthead: Huh huh.
  • BigdaBigda Posts: 469
    i lost my mom on 28th Oct last year at the age of 58.. your 20 years old friend was WAY TOOO YOUNG to pass away.. my thoughts are with you and his family and dear ones..
    you dont have to be strong..
    m.
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  • haffajappahaffajappa Posts: 5,955
    I remember one year in high school we had 3 deaths: car accident from drag racing, one suicide, and one heart condition. It got to the point where you would walk into school and see people crying and hugging and you'd go, "oh man, someone's died."

    Sorry about your friend, 20 IS too young.
    Anything could have happened, its a shame that rumours are flying.

    All the best.
    live pearl jam is best pearl jam
  • pandorapandora Posts: 21,855
    Those Pearl Jam words you quoted are beautiful some of the best. Your friend made you a star with his friendship.He touched your young life. You shine long for your friend because he lives on in your heart.
  • PJaddictedPJaddicted Posts: 1,432
    :cry: Sorry J...really sad news. The only way to handle grief is one day at a time. Try to do some positive things in his memory. A couple years ago we had a nephew die in his sleep, he just turned 16, his mom found him and his dad tried to give mouth to mouth to him, it was too late. Everyone speculated as to how he died too, six weeks later we found out it was his heart, he had a problem that no one knew about.
    ~*LIVE~LOVE~LAUGH*~

    *May the Peace of the Wilderness be with YOU*

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  • youngsteryoungster Posts: 6,576
    Very sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.

    20 years old is too young.

    Just unfair.
    He who forgets will be destined to remember.

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  • g under pg under p Posts: 18,184
    Sorry for your loss and being so young.

    RIpeace
    *We CAN bomb the World to pieces, but we CAN'T bomb it into PEACE*...Michael Franti

    *MUSIC IS the expression of EMOTION.....and that POLITICS IS merely the DECOY of PERCEPTION*
    .....song_Music & Politics....Michael Franti

    *The scientists of today think deeply instead of clearly. One must be sane to think clearly, but one can think deeply and be quite INSANE*....Nikola Tesla(a man who shaped our world of electricity with his futuristic inventions)


  • g under pg under p Posts: 18,184
    Shooting Star

    Johnny was a schoolboy when he heard his first Beatle song,
    'Love me do,' I think it was. From there it didn't take him long.
    Got himself a guitar, used to play every night,
    Now he's in a rock 'n' roll outfit,

    And everything's all right, don't you know?

    Johnny told his mama, hey, 'Mama, I'm goin' away. I'm gonna hit the big
    time, gonna be a big star someday', Yeah.
    Mama came to the door with a teardrop in her eye.
    Johnny said, 'Don't cry, mama, smile and wave good-bye'.

    Don't you know, yeah yeah, Don't you know that you are a shooting star,
    Don't you know, don't you know. Don't you know that you are
    a shooting star, And all the world will love you just as long,
    As long as you are.

    Johnny made a record, Went straight up to number one,
    Suddenly everyone loved to hear him sing the song.
    Watching the world go by, surprising it goes so fast.
    Johnny looked around him and said, 'Well, I made the big time at last'.

    Don't you know, don't you know, Don't you know that you are
    a shooting star,
    Don't you know, oh, yeah, Don't you know that you are
    a shooting star, yeah,
    And all the world will love you just as long,
    As long as you are, a shooting star.

    Don't you know that you are a shooting star, Don't you know, yeah,
    Don't you know that you are a shooting star, now,
    And all the world will love you just as long, As long you are you.

    Johnny died one night, died in his bed, Bottle of whiskey,
    sleeping tablets by his head. Johnny's life passed him by like a
    warm summer day, If you listen to the wind you can still hear him play

    Oh oh oh, Don't you know that you are a shooting star,
    Don't you know, yeah, don't you know', Don't you know that
    you are a shooting star,
    Don't you know, yeah,
    Don't you know that you are a shooting star,
    Don't you, don't you,
    don't you, don't you,
    Don't you know, don't you
    know, oh, yeah, you are,
    Yeah, a shooting star, yeah, oh
    oh oh oh oh......
    Don't you, don't you know
    that you are a shooting star,
    Don't you don't you know......

    RIPeace
    *We CAN bomb the World to pieces, but we CAN'T bomb it into PEACE*...Michael Franti

    *MUSIC IS the expression of EMOTION.....and that POLITICS IS merely the DECOY of PERCEPTION*
    .....song_Music & Politics....Michael Franti

    *The scientists of today think deeply instead of clearly. One must be sane to think clearly, but one can think deeply and be quite INSANE*....Nikola Tesla(a man who shaped our world of electricity with his futuristic inventions)


  • keeponrockinkeeponrockin Posts: 7,446
    Way too young.
    Believe me, when I was growin up, I thought the worst thing you could turn out to be was normal, So I say freaks in the most complementary way. Here's a song by a fellow freak - E.V
  • dcfaithfuldcfaithful Posts: 13,076
    I'm very sorry for your loss. My condolences. :(
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    9/28/09 - Salt Lake City, UT (11 years too long!!!)
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