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I think I messed up with a friend (How do I fix things?)

keeponrockinkeeponrockin Posts: 7,446
edited January 2010 in All Encompassing Trip
This needed a new set of eyes, I was hoping you guys could help.

So long story short, last year I met an amazing girl. The problem was, I was moving away a short time after meeting her, so things never got really solid between the two of us. The whole thing lasted throughout the summer, with both of us thinking it would go away at the end and it would all be fine. It didn't... A couple weeks after I moved she visited me in the new city I'm in, and we slept together, opening up a whole new can of worms. We both had feelings, but neither wanted to admit it.

A month and a half later she starts to date my former best friend, as he fell for her and was giving her all the attention in the world. I'm angry with him because he wasn't upfront, and flat out lied to me the first time I asked him. Her and I had a giant fight, both admitting how much we still mean to eachother, and saying some things on both ends that probably should never have been said in the first place. A month later, her start speaking again, and I'm happy to have a new friend in my life (again) because I really do care about her as a person. She dumped my friend, took him back, then dumped him again once we started talking. She asked if her and I could be close with them dating and I said 'If he truly makes you happy and you aren't just settling, then yes. You and I may have some difficulties, but you deserve to be happy'... Turns out she dumped him anyways. She says she knows we can never date (and I don't have an interest after all of this shit) but I still get the feeling she has feelings for me. I live a couple hours away, but am back home fairly often. I want our friendship to truly work, but, above all, I want her to be happy.

What should I do? Suggestions? Opinions? Am I an asshole? I hope we have the day where we're both truly happy, because together, as good as it was for a while, we were not. I told her today 'If you dumped my friend so you could be friends with me, you made a mistake, I'll be your friend no matter what you do as long as it's for the right reasons'... She texted me back saying she just needed to be independent, but wants me in her life.

Thoughts pit geniuses?
Believe me, when I was growin up, I thought the worst thing you could turn out to be was normal, So I say freaks in the most complementary way. Here's a song by a fellow freak - E.V
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  • marcosmarcos Posts: 2,112
    Some things just are not meant to be. But you should continue to be friends and see what happens because you will never know what could have been. But let things happen naturally. January to April is a very rough time for romance and don't be surprised if you both have new attitudes in May. And don't hate on your former best friend that dated her necessarily, women come and go, good friends are very important.
  • Gary CarterGary Carter Posts: 14,067
    manlaw: never steal your friends girl no matter if its his girlfriend or friends with benefits

    your friend is a dickhead
    Ron: I just don't feel like going out tonight
    Sammi: Wanna just break up?

  • mrveddersonmrvedderson Posts: 784
    trick her into the sack and put it in her butt, then tell her, its a shame he doesnt like his friends garbage
  • keeponrockinkeeponrockin Posts: 7,446
    marcos wrote:
    Some things just are not meant to be. But you should continue to be friends and see what happens because you will never know what could have been. But let things happen naturally. January to April is a very rough time for romance and don't be surprised if you both have new attitudes in May. And don't hate on your former best friend that dated her necessarily, women come and go, good friends are very important.
    I'm not going back home until May, honestly I just hope her and I can be friends at that point, and look back with good memories, but not wanting to go back.
    Believe me, when I was growin up, I thought the worst thing you could turn out to be was normal, So I say freaks in the most complementary way. Here's a song by a fellow freak - E.V
  • WhizbangWhizbang Posts: 1,314
    keeponrockin wrote:
    marcos wrote:
    Some things just are not meant to be. But you should continue to be friends and see what happens because you will never know what could have been. But let things happen naturally. January to April is a very rough time for romance and don't be surprised if you both have new attitudes in May. And don't hate on your former best friend that dated her necessarily, women come and go, good friends are very important.
    I'm not going back home until May, honestly I just hope her and I can be friends at that point, and look back with good memories, but not wanting to go back.

    then you have your answer. Let it be.....
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • keeponrockinkeeponrockin Posts: 7,446
    I have been letting it be, well, since we started talking. Neither of us are getting cute, but I don't really know what's going on on her end either. She still says I'm the one that makes her happiest, and in her perfect world, we would be together.
    Believe me, when I was growin up, I thought the worst thing you could turn out to be was normal, So I say freaks in the most complementary way. Here's a song by a fellow freak - E.V
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