Mass. Woman, 98, Accused of Killing Roommate, 100

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Mass. Woman, 98, Accused of Killing Roommate, 100



This is so sad how angry people can get over NOTHING, it matters none how old they're. So she had a lot of visitors, get over it.

A 98-year-old woman was indicted Friday on a second-degree murder charge that alleges she strangled her 100-year-old nursing home roommate after making the victim's life "a living hell" because she thought the woman was "taking over the room."

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missisles

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Mass. Woman, 98, Accused of Killing Roommate, 100



This is so sad how angry people can get over NOTHING, it matters none how old they're. So she had a lot of visitors, get over it.

A 98-year-old woman was indicted Friday on a second-degree murder charge that alleges she strangled her 100-year-old nursing home roommate after making the victim's life "a living hell" because she thought the woman was "taking over the room."

Peace

this is sick

i feel so disgusted and saddened by this

Who Princess

I saw that story and it was really upsetting. The older woman had told her son she was afraid of her roommate and he had asked the nursing home to separate them. So sad.

Claireack

That is so awful and so sad. Wish this could have been prevented somehow.

decides2dream

98 and 100?
also do keep in mind, dementia is very common as one gets that elderly, and stressors are even more upsetting, etc. the nursing home staff definitely should've been more alert to all this, but you also never know how booked up they were, how difficult it is to move residents around, etc. very sad indeed.

Who Princess

decides2dream wrote:

98 and 100?
also do keep in mind, dementia is very common as one gets that elderly, and stressors are even more upsetting, etc. the nursing home staff definitely should've been more alert to all this, but you also never know how booked up they were, how difficult it is to move residents around, etc. very sad indeed.

I read the full article and the woman charged with murder has been sent to a state psychiatric hospital for evaluation before trial. It's likely that the case will never come to trial because of possible dementia or mental deterioration.

The woman who was killed had told her son that her roommate kept making threats like "I'm going to outlive you" and "I'm going to get your bed by the window." At night she would move a table next to the older woman's bed so that she couldn't get out of bed to go to the bathroom and would have to call staff for assistance. After staff had moved it away from the bed the night before she died, it was beside the bed the next morning when her body was found.

Evidently the staff had given the older woman the opportunity to move out but she had lived in the room for years with her husband before he died and wanted to stay there. I'm not sure why they didn't move the other woman. The staff claimed that the two women were very loving to each other which really makes me wonder how much they were paying attention. :shock: I know nursing home staff can be overburdened but this situation is tragic.

decides2dream

whoprincess wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

98 and 100?
also do keep in mind, dementia is very common as one gets that elderly, and stressors are even more upsetting, etc. the nursing home staff definitely should've been more alert to all this, but you also never know how booked up they were, how difficult it is to move residents around, etc. very sad indeed.

I read the full article and the woman charged with murder has been sent to a state psychiatric hospital for evaluation before trial. It's likely that the case will never come to trial because of possible dementia or mental deterioration.

The woman who was killed had told her son that her roommate kept making threats like "I'm going to outlive you" and "I'm going to get your bed by the window." At night she would move a table next to the older woman's bed so that she couldn't get out of bed to go to the bathroom and would have to call staff for assistance. After staff had moved it away from the bed the night before she died, it was beside the bed the next morning when her body was found.

Evidently the staff had given the older woman the opportunity to move out but she had lived in the room for years with her husband before he died and wanted to stay there. I'm not sure why they didn't move the other woman. The staff claimed that the two women were very loving to each other which really makes me wonder how much they were paying attention. :shock: I know nursing home staff can be overburdened but this situation is tragic.

my greatest fear - outliving my husband and most of my family and friends (i am the youngest, afterall and child-free)....no one really caring...and ending up in a nursing home. and believe me, i do think most who work there do care, tho some definitely don't...but it's just too much i think.

absolutely tragic.
:(

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decides2dream wrote:

whoprincess wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

98 and 100?
also do keep in mind, dementia is very common as one gets that elderly, and stressors are even more upsetting, etc. the nursing home staff definitely should've been more alert to all this, but you also never know how booked up they were, how difficult it is to move residents around, etc. very sad indeed.

I read the full article and the woman charged with murder has been sent to a state psychiatric hospital for evaluation before trial. It's likely that the case will never come to trial because of possible dementia or mental deterioration.

The woman who was killed had told her son that her roommate kept making threats like "I'm going to outlive you" and "I'm going to get your bed by the window." At night she would move a table next to the older woman's bed so that she couldn't get out of bed to go to the bathroom and would have to call staff for assistance. After staff had moved it away from the bed the night before she died, it was beside the bed the next morning when her body was found.

Evidently the staff had given the older woman the opportunity to move out but she had lived in the room for years with her husband before he died and wanted to stay there. I'm not sure why they didn't move the other woman. The staff claimed that the two women were very loving to each other which really makes me wonder how much they were paying attention. :shock: I know nursing home staff can be overburdened but this situation is tragic.

my greatest fear - outliving my husband and most of my family and friends (i am the youngest, afterall and child-free)....no one really caring...and ending up in a nursing home. and believe me, i do think most who work there do care, tho some definitely don't...but it's just too much i think.

absolutely tragic.
:(

Years ago I worked in a nursing home and recently this year with a private duty patient for 5 weeks. Oh yes the staff is usually overburdened with patients and enough care is usually never given. i make sure they don't touch my patient unless I'm not there or I need their help. In this case i believe the nursing staff knew about the bad blood between these two. Usually it's the same staff member that works that particular wing and they know or should know there's unpleasant feelings between these two patients.

This to me seems it could've been avoided with more attention or like someone said move one of the patients to another room. She may have had dementia but that also doesn't mean she was unaware of what she was doing and her intent to do her roommate harm.

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PillowPants

i heard that the 98 year old was a Red Sox fan and she killed the 100 year old because she was bragging about the Yankees winning the World Series

really

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i heard that the 98 year old was a Red Sox fan and she killed the 100 year old because she was bragging about the Yankees winning the World Series

really

Now you know you're just making that up and if that's the case she sure ain't suffering from dememtia!

She's in the real world for sure.

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decides2dream

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In this case i believe the nursing staff knew about the bad blood between these two. Usually it's the same staff member that works that particular wing and they know or should know there's unpleasant feelings between these two patients.

This to me seems it could've been avoided with more attention or like someone said move one of the patients to another room. She may have had dementia but that also doesn't mean she was unaware of what she was doing and her intent to do her roommate harm.

Peace

complete agreement.
just pointing out, there may be a lot of factors involved in here.

TravisTheSky

I worked at a nursing home for a year and a half when I was 17/18. At first, I worked in the laundry. Later, I worked independently as a cleaner up on the wards. TERRIFYING HELLHOLE! I've never been in a prison, but I think the place was no better! Mattresses soaked in urine, the stench of faeces everywhere.

Don't ever let anyone you love end up in a nursing 'home.' Do everything in your power to prevent yourself from getting brain damage/dementia. I've read that half of Americans are expected to get Alzheimer's if they live past 85. Countries without our culture of Big Pharma, genetically modified food, fluoride in the water, aspartame, and msg have Alzheimer's rates close to zero in their 85+ population.

decides2dream

*shudders*



as i've always said, ending up in a nursing home is my single greatest fear. yikes...
i seriously think suicide kits should be given out to all elderly to use if/when they so desire. i don't ever want to live like that. give me a long, full, rich life....and then let me die, at home....or some fantastic place. i do not want to rot away in a nursing home, with no one who truly gives a shit about me.

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TravisTheSky wrote:

I worked at a nursing home for a year and a half when I was 17/18. At first, I worked in the laundry. Later, I worked independently as a cleaner up on the wards. TERRIFYING HELLHOLE! I've never been in a prison, but I think the place was no better! Mattresses soaked in urine, the stench of faeces everywhere.

Don't ever let anyone you love end up in a nursing 'home.' Do everything in your power to prevent yourself from getting brain damage/dementia. I've read that half of Americans are expected to get Alzheimer's if they live past 85. Countries without our culture of Big Pharma, genetically modified food, fluoride in the water, aspartame, and msg have Alzheimer's rates close to zero in their 85+ population.

Your post reminded me of when I was 18 I worked in a nursing home as a dishwasher for 2 days a week to earn extra money for college. Man the things I saw in that place made me think to myself, my mother or for myself will never set foot in a nursing home to live. Patients are ignored, abandoned, always in pain and were usually filthy.

I had a case of a wealthy family where the oldest son remodeled his beautiful home into a place for his Dad to live in the basement. His Dad was extremely happy there but his youngest son objected because of the amount of money that was being spent for nursing care. He objected to this out of pure GREED and convinced his brother Jr to put his DaD in a nursing home. Something their father totally objected and they asked where was the best and closest home to place him. The oldest objected also but finally relented as it started to tear the entire family apart. I told him if he did this his father would last less than a month.

Well they placed him there and asked me to look after him 2 days a week. I didn't go after my first 2 days, he had given up and refused to eat. He died 26 days later and I was with him and his oldest son when he took his last breath. One good thing before he died I told his son to call his daughter and put the phone to his ear. Even in this state of dying he can hear those around him. I called her and told her, the time has come for her father, just talk to him, say your goodbyes and tell him how much you love him. I put the phone to his ear they talked and less than a minute later he died. The sweetest, kindest most gentle man I'd ever met passed away because some in his family wanted him in a nursing home to save a few bucks to line their own pockets.

It was so sad i'll never forget that, other than early stages of dementia he was perfectly healthy.

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LikeAnOcean

If I ever get put into a nursing home, I'm going to figure out a way to break out and die in a blaze of glory.

Seriously, I don't want to live if I am unable to take care of myself, wether I'm paralyzed or old. I'd rather become one with the universe again, than sit around and rot like that.