elderly care/dementia/in-home nurses

Heatherj43

pandora wrote:

I knew I couldn't take care of my mom either- I know my limitations. It would have had a negative impact on our relationship not mention at the time my homelife- hubby and 2 preteens. But I still feel guilty a little about it.
Not sure how my Mom lucked out with medicaid- they covered everything- she was there 4 years.
She got it in WI then I moved her here to GA after we came down and it just all got picked up. She was well enough to spend a few years on her own in an apartment before she had to go to the nursing home. It was after a fall that broke her hip- disaster for the elderly something your nephew might want to consider also. The meds may keep her safer.
I wish you could get the same benefits my mom had and your worries could be over and you could go see her daily there. Makes an american mad that we can't provide better for our elderly.

Medicaid is a state ran program. Here in Michigan a governor we had a while back, Engler, cut everything and no one has put things back in order. He cut all state hospitals, while building 32 prisons, so the mentally ill are in prisons. He even cut the state hospitals for kids. One school district went out of business cuz of funding cuts by this ass.
I guess we could move my parents to one of these states that takes care of their seniors, but don't they ahve to live ther at least 6 months to get help?
Oh I just noticed the hip break. My mom can get in a nursing home for that, but we don't want to break her hip. LOL.

pandora

Heatherj43 wrote:

pandora wrote:

I knew I couldn't take care of my mom either- I know my limitations. It would have had a negative impact on our relationship not mention at the time my homelife- hubby and 2 preteens. But I still feel guilty a little about it.
Not sure how my Mom lucked out with medicaid- they covered everything- she was there 4 years.
She got it in WI then I moved her here to GA after we came down and it just all got picked up. She was well enough to spend a few years on her own in an apartment before she had to go to the nursing home. It was after a fall that broke her hip- disaster for the elderly something your nephew might want to consider also. The meds may keep her safer.
I wish you could get the same benefits my mom had and your worries could be over and you could go see her daily there. Makes an american mad that we can't provide better for our elderly.

Medicaid is a state ran program. Here in Michigan a governor we had a while back, Engler, cut everything and no one has put things back in order. He cut all state hospitals, while building 32 prisons, so the mentally ill are in prisons. He even cut the state hospitals for kids. One school district went out of business cuz of funding cuts by this ass.
I guess we could move my parents to one of these states that takes care of their seniors, but don't they ahve to live ther at least 6 months to get help?
Oh I just noticed the hip break. My mom can get in a nursing home for that, but we don't want to break her hip. LOL.

No you don't!
I think my Moms started when she got here in GA no wait of any kind and I thought it was being deposited federally but could be wrong. We moved her here in 93 so its hard for me to remember- besides thats a generation ago everything is different now I'm sure. Not as good probably. I think moving your parents to a state that actually appreciates its elderly and helps to provide for them might be a good idea.Near the end of my Mamas life though boy did she want to be back in WI. Culture shock for her here- me too to some degree, still.
Wow I'm thinking old Engler has his share of bad karma around him. Thats all we can hope for a creep like that.
I hope you can find a good solution

decides2dream

Heatherj43 wrote:

I did notice that patients who didn't have anyone there hardly got any care. they would usually just put these people in wheel chairs in the hall during the day. Because I was there, my mom got all kinds of care...
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this is my personal greatest fear for myself and aging. i so hope and pray that i can take care of myself right up until the very end of my life, and/or my husband outilves me and also is in good shape. :P we are both the youngest in our families, childfree and even amongst my nephews, we live in a different state. given all that, more than likely if i were in nursing care, i'd have no one visiting me at all, or quite rarely. i am 100% for the whole death with dignity thing, so man....i hope i can hold it together.




and chica, haven't seen you around these parts in awhile...hope all is going well with your mom, your family and YOU!

chiquimonkey

decides2dream wrote:

and chica, haven't seen you around these parts in awhile...hope all is going well with your mom, your family and YOU!

thank you. yeah it's a rough time right now. just trying to get thru each day as best i can.

Heatherj43

decides2dream wrote:

Heatherj43 wrote:

I did notice that patients who didn't have anyone there hardly got any care. they would usually just put these people in wheel chairs in the hall during the day. Because I was there, my mom got all kinds of care...
.

this is my personal greatest fear for myself and aging. i so hope and pray that i can take care of myself right up until the very end of my life, and/or my husband outilves me and also is in good shape. :P we are both the youngest in our families, childfree and even amongst my nephews, we live in a different state. given all that, more than likely if i were in nursing care, i'd have no one visiting me at all, or quite rarely. i am 100% for the whole death with dignity thing, so man....i hope i can hold it together.




and chica, haven't seen you around these parts in awhile...hope all is going well with your mom, your family and YOU!

I know! I am worried about myself. The research is saying this stuff is hereditary and in each subsequent generation its being seen younger abnd younger. I am no longer young! I have 2 kids who will not be of assistance to me. I would so rather die young than be like my parents,
I began having seizures several years ago and my short term memory is pretty wiped out. I often wonder if its really the early stages of some kind of dementia. I lose entire days. My docs don't realize how serious I am cuz they see me when they see me, but my friends and neighbors all tell me they see how wiped out my memory is and about losing entire days.
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chiquimonkey

thanks again for the links here, i'm going to my first support group meeting tomorrow. whatever resources i can find there i'll share here for sure!

god i'm tired.

decides2dream

chiquimonkey wrote:

thanks again for the links here, i'm going to my first support group meeting tomorrow. whatever resources i can find there i'll share here for sure!

god i'm tired.

i feel for ya chica, i really, really do.
when my dad first became ill, it was so daunting!
soo many emotions to deal with, right along with all the reality of the situation. it's a rough road.

*hugs*
i wish you and your family, the BEST, always.....


edit - heather......oh my, my heart goes out to you! i wish YOU the very best too, it's so scary!

chiquimonkey

decides2dream wrote:

chiquimonkey wrote:

thanks again for the links here, i'm going to my first support group meeting tomorrow. whatever resources i can find there i'll share here for sure!

god i'm tired.

i feel for ya chica, i really, really do.
when my dad first became ill, it was so daunting!
soo many emotions to deal with, right along with all the reality of the situation. it's a rough road.

*hugs*
i wish you and your family, the BEST, always.....


edit - heather......oh my, my heart goes out to you! i wish YOU the very best too, it's so scary!

thank you dear. yeah it's really overwhelming, it's enough dealing with my mom's health but then having to figure all this other stuff out....ack!

chiquimonkey

well today we do a trial run with our mom coming home for the weekend, to see how it goes. i feel nervous :?

wish us luck! i shall pick up some 2-buck chuck on the way home this evening, that much is ensured

decides2dream

chiquimonkey wrote:

well today we do a trial run with our mom coming home for the weekend, to see how it goes. i feel nervous :?

wish us luck! i shall pick up some 2-buck chuck on the way home this evening, that much is ensured

lots, and lots, and lots of LUCK!