so my parents are splitting up...
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and i was ok with it.. but now my dad is out of the house and im a fuckin mess.. never in a million years i thought this wouldve happened. never.
I will be what i could be
Once I get out of this town
9/29/04;6/27/08;6/30/08;8/23/09;08/24/09;5/17/10
Once I get out of this town
9/29/04;6/27/08;6/30/08;8/23/09;08/24/09;5/17/10
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Try to keep your head up.
"I need your strength for me to be strong...I need your love to feel loved"
but think about how many people you know whose relationships dont work out
assuming you are a male
unfortunately, its part of life and being a man, so man up and love em both as best you can, because truthfully they need support as much as you
Plus, this is the only life they have and they are choosing to live it as best they can and that means separate. I don't believe in marriage. I think people grow, as they should, and its doubtful they grow in the same direction. If they do its 'cuz one is stifling the other. Years ago people stayed married but they didn't live as long. Be happy for them. You will be okay. You will grow and leave home. If they stay together for you what will they have then? Nothing but each other. They will be older, harder to find another love, and alone. Give them your blessings and get on with your own life. They will be fine.
first my dad moved out. then we had to move. (luckily not too far from where we used to live, and not too far from dad.) we had two cats too, one of them got a new home and the other moved to our gran's with dad.
big, big changes.
my oldest younger sis (a year younger than me) and myself fought long and hard around those times.
I knew it was for the best, as I'd heard the 'rents argue at nights. but it still sucked. I was sort of fine after a while, but I really felt bad for my younger siblings. suddenly they couldn't see dad every day.
as much as it was hell for the first months.. it got better, and it's still getting better. luckily my parents are still very much friends and get along nicely. they just weren't meant to be together anymore.
I'm very sorry to hear about your parents. just try and spend as much time with both of them as possible (as others have said.) it's gonna feel weird for a long time. but it's always better for them to split up than stay in a relationship that just isn't working anymore. talk about it, chances are that you're all feeling just as confused and sad. but you're all going through the same thing.
much strenght to all of you!
I know that you are probably old enough to know this, but remember that regardless of everything, THEY BOTH STILL LOVE YOU!!!!! (((hugs)))
Hopefully, in your situation you still got both parents still care and love you. Take care!
EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009
i feel for you!
it'll be quite an adjustment as many have already stated, but you'll get through it, and sure...try and be supportive of your parents too. it's a rough ride!
my parents split when i was 14 - my mom left after 36 years of marriage, but they never legally seperated or divorced. we spent all our holidays together as a family and at the end of his life, my mom took care of my dad when he was dying. needless to say, they had a very odd relationship. think they truly loved each other, but not right together, not good living together...whatever.
all the best to you!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
and lishen pearl jam...they fuckin help for sure..
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
I don't know. I cant possibly understand how it is for you since my mom and dad stayed together. Stay strong!
if you need to talk I'm here.
good luck man.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
I love that we are friends cuz my kids never have to worry about any family gatherings and us 2 fighting.
We often sit together at these things, even with our current partner.
We have been divorced 28 years and all is still well. My kids aren't even underage anymore, yet we remain friends. My grandkids now get the benefit if that.
Peace
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Once I get out of this town
9/29/04;6/27/08;6/30/08;8/23/09;08/24/09;5/17/10
"Makes much more sense.. to live.. in the present tense."
Once I get out of this town
9/29/04;6/27/08;6/30/08;8/23/09;08/24/09;5/17/10
xxx
"..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
“..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
I don't any more to offer than the fine people on this board who've already responded. I was 7 when my parents split so I do not have the same perspective but I do know they are much better people now. I cannot picture them together at this point in life.
Some one noted an upside is getting a closer relationship with each of your parents separately and I concur! I have a standing date with my mom every week and talk more with my dad than ever. He and I jump from airplanes together!
As I am sure you know, your parents, without a doubt, love you. They may get a bit wrapped up in their conflict but it is just that - their conflict, not yours. I was lucky that my parents did not bring me into the middle of their issues, as sadly some parents do. Keep your focus on school, friends and family. When something is bothering you, say something.....if your friends or family aren't willing to listen, talk to a guidance counselor at school...just so you let it out and not dwell on it.
"And the young, they can lose hope cause they can't see beyond today"
As you said, live in the present tense but don't forget to keep moving forward....it will all work out.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
just live in the present tense and know it wasn't your fault or anything like that and you will be fine.
my parents got divorced when i was 2. dad was asshole back than and still is now, lucky me :roll: .
Sammi: Wanna just break up?
its interesting what other people think of ones relationship with an ex if its extremely civilised. my ex and i. though we were never married, have been apart(for the 2nd time) for 10 years now and both my younger children (who were just 18 months and unborn at the time) think their da hung the moon. i doubt they could have a closer relationship. as for he and i... were close and he is my go to guy when needed. my family consider him family. other poeple(and probably my family too) cant understand how if we get along so well why we arent together. tis simple really... im a bitch to live with and were not in love with each other. birthdays and xmas are spent as a family. and its great.
oh and as has been mentioned before the split has nothing to do with you and its best your parents are apart and happy than together and miserable. no kid should have to live in a household thats divided like that... every one walking around on eggshells waiting for the next blowup.
take a good look
this could be the day
hold my hand
lie beside me
i just need to say
my parents split half way through my senior year of high school. i anticipated it happening but anticipating it happening and it actually happening are two very different things.