Being mad at family

JordyWordy

JaneNY wrote:

I'm not sure there's much to be gained by talking to the woman about it. The situation is over and the woman may not even 'get' that what she did was wrong. Simply resolve to never hand over the care of your precious daughter to her again no matter what she offers in the future. What she did was unconscionable.

I think there's a whole lot to be gained by it. she could do the same with a somebody else's child and not be so fortunate that nothing went wrong. How many 7 year old children are well-behaved enough to stay on a bench in an amusement park for that long? I just think that anyone who can live to be 42 and not realise that its wrong needs to be told why it is wrong.

stargirl69

Danimal wrote:

stargirl69 wrote:

Oh jeez

This reminded me of an experinece I had a few months ago.
I went to Legoland with my sister and nephews.My sister and nephews went to queue for a water ride that had a 90 minute wait.
While I waited a family stood beside me,discussing if they should wait that long for the ride.They had four kids with them,the youngest being a baby in a buggy.Both parents wanted to go on the ride but neither were willing to compromise waiting with the baby !!!!!!
I almost fell over when the mum took out a long bicycle security chain with lock and proceded to wind it around the baby and the buggy then locked the entire thing to the fence.

I told her she couldn't leave a baby tied up like that for even a second nevermind the length of time they were going to wait on the ride.She hurled abuse at me and suggested I look after the baby as I was just standing around waiting.I obviously refused and they walked away still leaving the baby tied to the fence.

I went and found a park keeper and the family still refusing not to take turns on the ride and look after the baby were escorted out of the park hurling abuse as they went.

I guess some people are just plain stupid.

COME ON!!! This HAS to be a joke!!!!

I can absolutely assure you this was NO JOKE !!! I was stunned ... I am trying not to be "to" judgemental but the family were .... well .... neds,chavs,trailer trash,whatever terminology is used around the world for people who contribute little to the care of their children or society.

stuckinline

mrmerkinball, you have every right to be upset. what your sister in law did was WRONG
this is my fav part:

"When she said that I needed to realize and accept that Mikayla was growing up and that it wasn't a big deal....I told her that it wasnt her decision to make." you are 100% correct here. your sil was irresponsible!!!

i also agree the day should have focused on your daughter.

Danimal

stargirl69 wrote:

Danimal wrote:

stargirl69 wrote:

Oh jeez

This reminded me of an experinece I had a few months ago.
I went to Legoland with my sister and nephews.My sister and nephews went to queue for a water ride that had a 90 minute wait.
While I waited a family stood beside me,discussing if they should wait that long for the ride.They had four kids with them,the youngest being a baby in a buggy.Both parents wanted to go on the ride but neither were willing to compromise waiting with the baby !!!!!!
I almost fell over when the mum took out a long bicycle security chain with lock and proceded to wind it around the baby and the buggy then locked the entire thing to the fence.

I told her she couldn't leave a baby tied up like that for even a second nevermind the length of time they were going to wait on the ride.She hurled abuse at me and suggested I look after the baby as I was just standing around waiting.I obviously refused and they walked away still leaving the baby tied to the fence.

I went and found a park keeper and the family still refusing not to take turns on the ride and look after the baby were escorted out of the park hurling abuse as they went.

I guess some people are just plain stupid.

COME ON!!! This HAS to be a joke!!!!

I can absolutely assure you this was NO JOKE !!! I was stunned ... I am trying not to be "to" judgemental but the family were .... well .... neds,chavs,trailer trash,whatever terminology is used around the world for people who contribute little to the care of their children or society.

That is just absurd!

I have an idea! Let's chain our kid to the fence! What a bunch of goons!

stargirl69

Danimal wrote:

stargirl69 wrote:

Danimal wrote:

stargirl69 wrote:

Oh jeez




It was utterly absurd.I think they thought they were doing the "right" thing by at the very lowest level of parenting they werre insuring no one ran off with the baby.

Digital Twilight

It's really hard to find the words...

dimitrispearljam

all this is not so easy..not only hoiw old is the children but matters where u leave it,,for sure not 7 years and in a park

norm

MrMerkinball wrote:

When she said that I needed to realize and accept that Mikayla was growing up and that it wasn't a big deal

what a tool :roll:

blackredyellow

whoprincess wrote:

Once I got past my anger at the disregard for your daughter's safety, I was angry some more at the selfishness of your SIL who was supposed to be treating a little girl to a day of fun but instead focused on her own enjoyment. I don't have children but whenever I took my nephews or niece somewhere special (they are all grown now), the emphasis was on what KIDS enjoy doing, not entertaining me. And I can't imagine ever compromising a child's safety. In your position, I would be furious with your SIL. Have you talked with her about it yet?

That's what gets to me too... Obviously if it was my child left alone, I'd be more upset about that part, but the selfishness about doing it on "her" day was what bothers me the most.

Talking to someone that self-centered probably won't change their opinion at all, and I doubt that she will feel like she did anything wrong.

norm

whenever i would take my nieces and nephews someplace i NEVER let them out of my sight...the one time i did, my nephew was 14 and niece was 9 and i let them go to a movie by themselves while i waited in front of the theater...and i was paranoid the entire time and didn't relax until i saw them come out of the theater

MrMerkinball

Thanks all. I always find typing things out helps me work through things, and the good people on AET have always been able to solve all of life's problems.

I am more mad about this now, than I was yesterday when I first found out. It has been really bugging me today.

I also have expected an apology phone call today. I didn't get one.

norm

MrMerkinball wrote:

Thanks all. I always find typing things out helps me work through things, and the good people on AET have always been able to solve all of life's problems.

I am more mad about this now, than I was yesterday when I first found out. It has been really bugging me today.

I also have expected an apology phone call today. I didn't get one.

frankly, if it were me, i doubt i'd ever let her around my children ever again...a person with that lack of responsibility should be avoided

MrMerkinball

norm wrote:

MrMerkinball wrote:

Thanks all. I always find typing things out helps me work through things, and the good people on AET have always been able to solve all of life's problems.

I am more mad about this now, than I was yesterday when I first found out. It has been really bugging me today.

I also have expected an apology phone call today. I didn't get one.

frankly, if it were me, i doubt i'd ever let her around my children ever again...a person with that lack of responsibility should be avoided

Agreed. She and her husband are the kid's Guardians if anything were to happen to the both of us. We are re-considering this decision...

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MrMerkinball wrote:

When she dropped Mikayla off, I was dealing with a crying 2 year old, a 5 year old who was jealous. I calmly told her to go home and that we would discuss it later.

When she said that I needed to realize and accept that Mikayla was growing up and that it wasn't a big deal....I told her that it wasnt her decision to make.

Wow. I was going to say maybe you should go a little easy on her this time, until I got to this post. There's a HUGE difference between not having the parenting skills to know when it's inappropriate to leave a child alone (because you can learn and not make that mistake ever again) and refusing to accept that it is a big deal and it's not up to her.

How did you even find out about it?

MrMerkinball

scb wrote:

MrMerkinball wrote:

When she dropped Mikayla off, I was dealing with a crying 2 year old, a 5 year old who was jealous. I calmly told her to go home and that we would discuss it later.

When she said that I needed to realize and accept that Mikayla was growing up and that it wasn't a big deal....I told her that it wasnt her decision to make.

How did you even find out about it?

She started talking about the ride....and I said "when did you go on that ride"?

She said "today"....So I said "ummmmmm wait a second"

PJPixie

I have a hard time letting my 10 year old son use a public men's room alone.
Scary stuff out there.

Jo

This makes my blood boil. Firstly for her selfishness causing her disregard for child safety and secondly, for basicly telling you that you are being too overprotective. How would she know what it is like to have the most precious thing in the world to you, left alone like that?
There are far too many crazies in this world, you can't take your eyes of young kids in these sorts of places, or anywhere crowded for that matter.

There is no excuse, but do be aware that this can effect your whole family dynamics. I have had similar experiences and opted to tell them my outrage and then found myself on the outer with the whole Inlaws.
But hey, no skin off my nose.

I also heard a story of a couple with a 2yr, franticly shouting and searching for thier other young kid at a fairground. Another couple offered to watch the 2yrd so they could split up and go looking.
Both children were kidnapped this day.
Please someone tell me it was just an urban legend.