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  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    edited November 2016
    Been sick all day yesterday.. and sick still today. Food won't stay down.. ugh. Hate when I miss work..
  • 2-feign-reluctance
    2-feign-reluctance TigerTown, USA Posts: 23,462
    A lot these days - we've been trying to get pregnant and miscarried about 6 weeks ago. Since then my wife has just not been herself and I completely understand. She's also miserable in her job as an undergrad advisor at my alma mater. We talked last night about her resuming work on her MBA (was postponed when we got pregnant with our daughter back in 2012) and to stop working. Fortunately I make her salary in the side teaching I do for a local college and university, so it won't be a set back, though without her potentially working our plans to build our home will be put on hold indefinitely. None of this is especially terrible. It's just on my mind a lot lately. I want her to be happy - and for her part of that is having a career that is engaging and challenging. I can't argue with that and I'm not the kind of husband that demands his wife do anything - so I'm fully supportive. We're both getting a bit older for having children (I'm 39 and she's 36), so there's that on my mind too. I want to have a second, but I also know there are risks having children this late in the game. Anyway. That's what's in the background for me most every day the past few months.
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  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    2-feign-reluctance said:

    A lot these days - we've been trying to get pregnant and miscarried about 6 weeks ago. Since then my wife has just not been herself and I completely understand. She's also miserable in her job as an undergrad advisor at my alma mater. We talked last night about her resuming work on her MBA (was postponed when we got pregnant with our daughter back in 2012) and to stop working. Fortunately I make her salary in the side teaching I do for a local college and university, so it won't be a set back, though without her potentially working our plans to build our home will be put on hold indefinitely. None of this is especially terrible. It's just on my mind a lot lately. I want her to be happy - and for her part of that is having a career that is engaging and challenging. I can't argue with that and I'm not the kind of husband that demands his wife do anything - so I'm fully supportive. We're both getting a bit older for having children (I'm 39 and she's 36), so there's that on my mind too. I want to have a second, but I also know there are risks having children this late in the game. Anyway. That's what's in the background for me most every day the past few months.

    I'm so sorry for your and your wife's loss.

    And Tree, take care of yourself. I hope you feel better soon.
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,702
    edited November 2016
    2-feign-reluctance said:

    A lot these days - we've been trying to get pregnant and miscarried about 6 weeks ago. Since then my wife has just not been herself and I completely understand. She's also miserable in her job as an undergrad advisor at my alma mater. We talked last night about her resuming work on her MBA (was postponed when we got pregnant with our daughter back in 2012) and to stop working. Fortunately I make her salary in the side teaching I do for a local college and university, so it won't be a set back, though without her potentially working our plans to build our home will be put on hold indefinitely. None of this is especially terrible. It's just on my mind a lot lately. I want her to be happy - and for her part of that is having a career that is engaging and challenging. I can't argue with that and I'm not the kind of husband that demands his wife do anything - so I'm fully supportive. We're both getting a bit older for having children (I'm 39 and she's 36), so there's that on my mind too. I want to have a second, but I also know there are risks having children this late in the game. Anyway. That's what's in the background for me most every day the past few months.

    Oh no, I'm sorry to hear that man. I've got very close friends who went through this struggle when they were trying for their second child, and at the exact same ages that you and your wife are (she had 2 miscarriages before it stuck with the help of medical intervention that came in the form of daily injections. She had 1 or 2 miscarriages before her first child too). She was extremely upset each time, as were several other women I know who suffered the same, more so after each miscarriage... if it's any comfort, which it probably isn't and I'm sure you've already heard it, time does appear to heal the wound. If you guys are still set on another baby, don't give up! I'd say that a good 75% of my friends with children had at least 2 miscarriages during their overall work having children and all of them ended up managing at least one more child afterwards. I know that doesn't make a miscarriage any easier to handle emotionally, but perhaps it suggests that is plenty of room for hope. :heart:
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    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • Ms. Haiku
    Ms. Haiku Washington DC Posts: 7,377
    An in-person interview this morning. I thought it went well, but I always think they go well.
    There is no such thing as leftover pizza. There is now pizza and later pizza. - anonymous
    The risk I took was calculated, but man, am I bad at math - The Mincing Mockingbird
  • Ms. Haiku
    Ms. Haiku Washington DC Posts: 7,377
    PJ_Soul said:

    I am officially 100% debt free, as of today at 14:24PST. image It definitely hasn't sunk in yet! To celebrate, I'm going to go on a spending spree to end all spending sprees!! Whooooo!!!!!

    (just kidding :giggle: )

    Way to go! Congratulations!
    There is no such thing as leftover pizza. There is now pizza and later pizza. - anonymous
    The risk I took was calculated, but man, am I bad at math - The Mincing Mockingbird
  • northerndragon
    northerndragon Posts: 9,851
    I keep hearing Sting's new single advertised on Spotify and every time I think it's the start of an ad for one of the country playlists. Me no likey.
    Anything you lose from being honest
    You never really had to begin with.


    Sometimes it's not the song that makes you emotional it's the people and things that come to your mind when you hear it.
  • JWPearl
    JWPearl Posts: 19,893
    Seeing my close cousins who are distant..
  • Annafalk
    Annafalk Sweden Posts: 4,004
    2-feign-reluctance said:

    A lot these days - we've been trying to get pregnant and miscarried about 6 weeks ago. Since then my wife has just not been herself and I completely understand. She's also miserable in her job as an undergrad advisor at my alma mater. We talked last night about her resuming work on her MBA (was postponed when we got pregnant with our daughter back in 2012) and to stop working. Fortunately I make her salary in the side teaching I do for a local college and university, so it won't be a set back, though without her potentially working our plans to build our home will be put on hold indefinitely. None of this is especially terrible. It's just on my mind a lot lately. I want her to be happy - and for her part of that is having a career that is engaging and challenging. I can't argue with that and I'm not the kind of husband that demands his wife do anything - so I'm fully supportive. We're both getting a bit older for having children (I'm 39 and she's 36), so there's that on my mind too. I want to have a second, but I also know there are risks having children this late in the game. Anyway. That's what's in the background for me most every day the past few months.

    I'm sorry that you are going through a tough time. At least you have each other and a child that you can spoil with love. I wish the best for you and your family!
  • RogueStoner
    RogueStoner Sunny AZ Posts: 1,716
    northerndragon said:

    I keep hearing Sting's new single advertised on Spotify and every time I think it's the start of an ad for one of the country playlists. Me no likey.

    Note to self: Play nothing but Country when ND visits. :smiley:
  • northerndragon
    northerndragon Posts: 9,851
    RogueStoner said:

    northerndragon said:

    I keep hearing Sting's new single advertised on Spotify and every time I think it's the start of an ad for one of the country playlists. Me no likey.

    Note to self: Play nothing but Country when ND visits. :smiley:
    That's a PB, I will let Ani take care of that for you.
    Anything you lose from being honest
    You never really had to begin with.


    Sometimes it's not the song that makes you emotional it's the people and things that come to your mind when you hear it.
  • RogueStoner
    RogueStoner Sunny AZ Posts: 1,716
    northerndragon said:

    RogueStoner said:

    northerndragon said:

    I keep hearing Sting's new single advertised on Spotify and every time I think it's the start of an ad for one of the country playlists. Me no likey.

    Note to self: Play nothing but Country when ND visits. :smiley:
    That's a PB, I will let Ani take care of that for you.
    Took me a minute to remember what PB was and he's done the job. And then some. :ohstop:
  • Ms. Haiku
    Ms. Haiku Washington DC Posts: 7,377
    I just had a phone interview. It seemed rushed. The job seems cool. We'll see.
    There is no such thing as leftover pizza. There is now pizza and later pizza. - anonymous
    The risk I took was calculated, but man, am I bad at math - The Mincing Mockingbird
  • JWPearl
    JWPearl Posts: 19,893
    2-feign-reluctance said:

    A lot these days - we've been trying to get pregnant and miscarried about 6 weeks ago. Since then my wife has just not been herself and I completely understand. She's also miserable in her job as an undergrad advisor at my alma mater. We talked last night about her resuming work on her MBA (was postponed when we got pregnant with our daughter back in 2012) and to stop working. Fortunately I make her salary in the side teaching I do for a local college and university, so it won't be a set back, though without her potentially working our plans to build our home will be put on hold indefinitely. None of this is especially terrible. It's just on my mind a lot lately. I want her to be happy - and for her part of that is having a career that is engaging and challenging. I can't argue with that and I'm not the kind of husband that demands his wife do anything - so I'm fully supportive. We're both getting a bit older for having children (I'm 39 and she's 36), so there's that on my mind too. I want to have a second, but I also know there are risks having children this late in the game. Anyway. That's what's in the background for me most every day the past few months.

    Gees that's terrible, so sorry for your losses and it also takes its toll on your wife hormonally/emotionally, poor wife, but I found these very informative, not sure if you know or not but thought i'd post it here..
    http://www.parents.com/pregnancy/complications/miscarriage/preventing-miscarriage-is-there-anything-you-can-do/
    http://natural-fertility-info.com/preventing-miscarriage
    i hope you keep trying although disheartened you may be, there's always light at the end of the tunnel..
    best wishes..
  • 23scidoo
    23scidoo Thessaloniki,Greece Posts: 19,996
    whispering hands said:

    Been sick all day yesterday.. and sick still today. Food won't stay down.. ugh. Hate when I miss work..

    Hope you are better Tree..
    2-feign-reluctance said:

    A lot these days - we've been trying to get pregnant and miscarried about 6 weeks ago. Since then my wife has just not been herself and I completely understand. She's also miserable in her job as an undergrad advisor at my alma mater. We talked last night about her resuming work on her MBA (was postponed when we got pregnant with our daughter back in 2012) and to stop working. Fortunately I make her salary in the side teaching I do for a local college and university, so it won't be a set back, though without her potentially working our plans to build our home will be put on hold indefinitely. None of this is especially terrible. It's just on my mind a lot lately. I want her to be happy - and for her part of that is having a career that is engaging and challenging. I can't argue with that and I'm not the kind of husband that demands his wife do anything - so I'm fully supportive. We're both getting a bit older for having children (I'm 39 and she's 36), so there's that on my mind too. I want to have a second, but I also know there are risks having children this late in the game. Anyway. That's what's in the background for me most every day the past few months.

    So sorry to hear that Chris..
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  • JWPearl
    JWPearl Posts: 19,893
    hope it's sunny all day so i can do my washing that's been in the washing machine for a week lol
  • 2-feign-reluctance
    2-feign-reluctance TigerTown, USA Posts: 23,462
    My Grandma is going to pass in the next day from Alzheimers. Just found out....expected but doesn't make it any easier.
    www.cluthelee.com
  • JWPearl
    JWPearl Posts: 19,893
    2-feign-reluctance said:

    My Grandma is going to pass in the next day from Alzheimers. Just found out....expected but doesn't make it any easier.

    sorry you are going to lose her :( i can't imagine having a member of a family with this disease but unfortunately i think my dad will eventually get this, because sometimes when we go for a drive he forgets our location and what suburb we're in and he used to know perth well as a courier :confounded:
  • RogueStoner
    RogueStoner Sunny AZ Posts: 1,716
    2-feign-reluctance said:

    My Grandma is going to pass in the next day from Alzheimers. Just found out....expected but doesn't make it any easier.

    My heart goes out to you and your family.
  • oftenreading
    oftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,856
    2-feign-reluctance said:

    My Grandma is going to pass in the next day from Alzheimers. Just found out....expected but doesn't make it any easier.

    I know you've been going through a lot lately so I'm doubly sorry to hear at about this additional loss. And you're right, expected doesn't make it any easier.
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