what's on your mind, right now?

frozenwithsalt

paulonious said:

frozenwithsalt said:

paulonious said:

jennycoyle said:

Beginning to see what Kat meant about cliques haha

Its fucking brutal. Like mean girls, pearl jam style. Its pathetic.

There are cliques here? I thought we were all part of this big awesome clique called 10C.

Hang around long enough, you figure out who the cool kids are (aka: the folks to avoid).

I used to be a regular but haven't been around for a while. Lots of new names. It's too bad if there are mean girl cliques - we have a great little virtual community here.

shetellsherself

Idk... When I first joined I felt like there were some cliques. Then I realized that I was feeling left out bc many people knew each other in real life/had met at shows/had a long history of periodic meet ups. I felt left out not bc anyone was intentionally trying to be exclusive, but just bc I didn't know what the hell they were talking about having not been there. (I never get Seinfeld references either so there's that).

PJSiren

shetellsherself said:

Idk... When I first joined I felt like there were some cliques. Then I realized that I was feeling left out bc many people knew each other in real life/had met at shows/had a long history of periodic meet ups. I felt left out not bc anyone was intentionally trying to be exclusive, but just bc I didn't know what the hell they were talking about having not been there. (I never get Seinfeld references either so there's that).

Yeah., I don't feel like there are cliques...I talk to every one, and post everywhere except the AMT because I don't do political and all that kinda stuff...those ppl get too intense for me...but sometimes I'm like WTF too because I wasn't there...I've never met anyone from the forum in person and don't get a lot of references, and I don't get Seinfeld refs either and I watched the show...lol

But don't feel like you should avoid someone because you think they're a "cool" kid, I don't think anyone on here is like that, there are just a lot of people who have been on here for a VERY long time, and so us newer kids have to just join in and hopefully one day we'll meet up with them too...IRL...and have our own refs and shit to talk about that other noobs won't get....lol

RKCNDY

There are definitely some people with their friends that have met others and have their inside jokes...there used to be lots of people here that I met IRL, but they aren't here anymore.

Currently, I've only met 2 people here IRL...well the ones that visit regularly.

And shetells, that's a LOT of laundry! glad your washer is working again.

HughFreakingDillon

There is a certain group that only fraternize with certain folk. Believe me. I dont think it really bothers anyone, bit its noticeable, and really quite weird, given we are all:
1) adults
2) on the internet

PJSiren

RKCNDY said:

There are definitely some people with their friends that have met others and have their inside jokes...there used to be lots of people here that I met IRL, but they aren't here anymore.

Currently, I've only met 2 people here IRL...well the ones that visit regularly.

And shetells, that's a LOT of laundry! glad your washer is working again.

RK you're not far from me, we'll have to meet up one day! :-) Just for fun! Then I'd have at least 1 person...haha

I have a bunch of friends on IG too, that we wanna meet up IRL...there is this place in NYC...or somewhere near NYC rather, that is called Evenflow Bar and Grill and we wanna meet there...lol

RKCNDY

^^^It's much much worse on the FB groups...that's why I'm here more.

PJSiren

RKCNDY said:

^^^It's much much worse on the FB groups...that's why I'm here more.

That's what I hear...Tree told me about that....I have never even looked on FB for a PJ group...I follow the official PJ and the EV and that's it...

SD48277

RKCNDY said:

^^^It's much much worse on the FB groups...that's why I'm here more.

...which makes me very happy

RKCNDY

PJSiren said:

RKCNDY said:

^^^It's much much worse on the FB groups...that's why I'm here more.

That's what I hear...Tree told me about that....I have never even looked on FB for a PJ group...I follow the official PJ and the EV and that's it...

I had people add me to groups, I pretty much stay out of most fights or conversations with the exception of a comment on waffles or something obscure to try and distract everybody from the really stupid fights. I learn a lot about some of the people here too...it's 'informational' to say the least.

PJSiren

RKCNDY said:

PJSiren said:

RKCNDY said:

^^^It's much much worse on the FB groups...that's why I'm here more.

That's what I hear...Tree told me about that....I have never even looked on FB for a PJ group...I follow the official PJ and the EV and that's it...

I had people add me to groups, I pretty much stay out of most fights or conversations with the exception of a comment on waffles or something obscure to try and distract everybody from the really stupid fights. I learn a lot about some of the people here too...it's 'informational' to say the least.

I'm actually only friends with two PJ people on FB one from here and one from IG, both live in other countries...so no drama llama stuff there...I hate that kinda stuff...

PJfanwillneverleave1

If facebook is worse for wear then this place is in trouble.

I think that this forum has become silent to some and not others because the pms asking to mutually ignore have spread so far it has thinned the ranks - way more so than the introduction of the new forum design.

This forum is open to all and a shared discussion on a thread should not be questioned by undertones of a clique.

Perceived clique members should at all times be put to question by senior members.

It is very discouraging for a new member having to decide what thread to post in for want of not being ridiculed let alone posting their first post.

PS: If you are a new or returning 10c member to the forum and reading this you are at least interested in what I have to say.

So - don't be an asshole
Don't gossip
Don't clique
Speak your mind but remember that you are a person like everyone else.
Do not let anyone ever persuade your thoughts in a thread because you disagree.
Remember the music, we are all here in this forum because of Pearl Jam.

Any one who posts publicly on the forum is open to a response by any member.

Rambling I know but I had time to think behind bars.

PJSiren

PJfanwillneverleave1 said:

If facebook is worse for wear then this place is in trouble.

I think that this forum has become silent to some and not others because the pms asking to mutually ignore have spread so far it has thinned the ranks - way more so than the introduction of the new forum design.

This forum is open to all and a shared discussion on a thread should not be questioned by undertones of a clique.

Perceived clique members should at all times be put to question by senior members.

It is very discouraging for a new member having to decide what thread to post in for want of not being ridiculed let alone posting their first post.

PS: If you are a new or returning 10c member to the forum and reading this you are at least interested in what I have to say.

So - don't be an asshole
Don't gossip
Don't clique
Speak your mind but remember that you are a person like everyone else.
Do not let anyone ever persuade your thoughts in a thread because you disagree.
Remember the music, we are all here in this forum because of Pearl Jam.

Any one who posts publicly on the forum is open to a response by any member.

Rambling I know but I had time to think behind bars.

I think you speak well! Not rambling at all...I agree with you completely! :-)

RKCNDY

PJSiren said:

RKCNDY said:

PJSiren said:

RKCNDY said:

^^^It's much much worse on the FB groups...that's why I'm here more.

That's what I hear...Tree told me about that....I have never even looked on FB for a PJ group...I follow the official PJ and the EV and that's it...

I had people add me to groups, I pretty much stay out of most fights or conversations with the exception of a comment on waffles or something obscure to try and distract everybody from the really stupid fights. I learn a lot about some of the people here too...it's 'informational' to say the least.

I'm actually only friends with two PJ people on FB one from here and one from IG, both live in other countries...so no drama llama stuff there...I hate that kinda stuff...

That is so awesome for you! I have met some really amazing people from here, and some not so wonderful people from here. It's really not unusual, talked to some friends and they say "people can be awesome one minute and really shitty the next-it happens to everybody"
I'm glad to have learned certain things when I did.

PJSiren

RKCNDY said:

PJSiren said:

RKCNDY said:

PJSiren said:

RKCNDY said:

^^^It's much much worse on the FB groups...that's why I'm here more.

That's what I hear...Tree told me about that....I have never even looked on FB for a PJ group...I follow the official PJ and the EV and that's it...

I had people add me to groups, I pretty much stay out of most fights or conversations with the exception of a comment on waffles or something obscure to try and distract everybody from the really stupid fights. I learn a lot about some of the people here too...it's 'informational' to say the least.

I'm actually only friends with two PJ people on FB one from here and one from IG, both live in other countries...so no drama llama stuff there...I hate that kinda stuff...

That is so awesome for you! I have met some really amazing people from here, and some not so wonderful people from here. It's really not unusual, talked to some friends and they say "people can be awesome one minute and really shitty the next-it happens to everybody"
I'm glad to have learned certain things when I did.

Yeah...I've kinda noticed even in just posting, like one minute they like talking to you and the next they seem to be avoiding you like the plague...I've noticed a few folks like that...but I don't take it personally...I'm just like whatever...their loss today...lol

RKCNDY

PJSiren said:

Yeah...I've kinda noticed even in just posting, like one minute they like talking to you and the next they seem to be avoiding you like the plague...I've noticed a few folks like that...but I don't take it personally...I'm just like whatever...their loss today...lol

I try to talk to everybody, but I'm usually on my phone, and it will kick me out and say " the internet stopped working', it also doesn't help I'm easily distracted and will start playing a game and forget about people here...apologies to everybody.

PJSiren

RKCNDY said:

PJSiren said:

Yeah...I've kinda noticed even in just posting, like one minute they like talking to you and the next they seem to be avoiding you like the plague...I've noticed a few folks like that...but I don't take it personally...I'm just like whatever...their loss today...lol

I try to talk to everybody, but I'm usually on my phone, and it will kick me out and say " the internet stopped working', it also doesn't help I'm easily distracted and will start playing a game and forget about people here...apologies to everybody.

Yeah you've never made me feel that way! No worries! lol ;-)

RKCNDY

PJSiren said:

RKCNDY said:

PJSiren said:

Yeah...I've kinda noticed even in just posting, like one minute they like talking to you and the next they seem to be avoiding you like the plague...I've noticed a few folks like that...but I don't take it personally...I'm just like whatever...their loss today...lol

I try to talk to everybody, but I'm usually on my phone, and it will kick me out and say " the internet stopped working', it also doesn't help I'm easily distracted and will start playing a game and forget about people here...apologies to everybody.

Yeah you've never made me feel that way! No worries! lol ;-)

Ok good! I do know it sucks to feel left out, and you try really hard to talk to people. It does take a little bit to try to get to know people.

PJSiren

Yeah, and I'm starting to get to know people better, I'm bummed about Tree getting banned...do we know if it's permanent or just a temp ban?

RKCNDY

Not sure, hope temporary! Love you Tree!