what's on your mind, right now?

HughFreakingDillon

imalive said:

this is on my mind in respect to the perceived "clique" thing (which I don't believe exists).....

don't assume any thread is a clique thing....join in...and,if for some reason, you aren't "engaged," move on.

there is a super duper old timer here who doesn't seem to like me much....they never post in any thread I've started and if I post in one of "their" threads, they always ignore me.....whatever....I don't lose a lot of sleep over feeling left out.

I'm cool with just about anyone in the AET.....MT is a whole nother kettle of fish and, for that reason, I rarely venture into its treacherous waters!

there is a clique. does it bother me? no. it didn't bother me in real life in high school. it doesn't bother me as an adult on the internet.

one dude on here who is everyone's fave constantly says harsh shit to me. don't know why. don't really care. I assume it's because I'm not in the "group". have your group. the "in" crowd on the internet is kind of sad, in my opinion. I'm nice to everyone equally. or at least I try to be. some just feel they are better than others. and let them. it's their problem.

HughFreakingDillon

remember people: the mods don't put up the bars. the mods don't put up that banned avatar. they are open about being against it. it's the software that is used for this forum.

SPEEDY MCCREADY

paulonious said:

remember people: the mods don't put up the bars. the mods don't put up that banned avatar. they are open about being against it. it's the software that is used for this forum.

Im serious here..

What the hell are the "bars" you people are talking about?
I have no idea.

Bars?
Banned avatar?

Seriously.
What are you talking about?

oceaninmyeyes

Speedy scroll up this page to pjfanwillneverleave1 to see the bars and page 1877 to see whisperinghands post to see the banned avatar

Empty Glass

SPEEDY MCCREADY said:

paulonious said:

remember people: the mods don't put up the bars. the mods don't put up that banned avatar. they are open about being against it. it's the software that is used for this forum.

Im serious here..

What the hell are the "bars" you people are talking about?
I have no idea.

Bars?
Banned avatar?

Seriously.
What are you talking about?

Bars = there are prison bars over your avatar. I'm assuming if you have this you are on thin ice

Banned avatar = your avatar is changed to a red background with the words "user has been banned"

hedonist

SPEEDY MCCREADY said:

paulonious said:

remember people: the mods don't put up the bars. the mods don't put up that banned avatar. they are open about being against it. it's the software that is used for this forum.

Im serious here..

What the hell are the "bars" you people are talking about?
I have no idea.

Bars?
Banned avatar?

Seriously.
What are you talking about?

PJfan's av has bars. And those banned have avatars showing it.

You haven't seen that, Speedy?

SPEEDY MCCREADY

oceaninmyeyes said:

Speedy scroll up this page to pjfanwillneverleave1 to see the bars and page 1877 to see whisperinghands post to see the banned avatar

Well I'll be damned.
You learn something new every day.
Thank you.

hedonist

Hahaha...1-2-3 with the responses.

oceaninmyeyes

SPEEDY MCCREADY said:

oceaninmyeyes said:

Speedy scroll up this page to pjfanwillneverleave1 to see the bars and page 1877 to see whisperinghands post to see the banned avatar

Well I'll be damned.
You learn something new every day.
Thank you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmDOdVdt76Y

shetellsherself

So.... I'm annoyed at Starbucks. They got me all excited about adding coconut milk as an option. I love coconut milk for its taste and many health benefits and like to vary what I eat so appreciate options. Then I asked to read the label. Cane sugar. Grrr

oceaninmyeyes

Good for you for checking.

Wobbie

paulonious said:

imalive said:

this is on my mind in respect to the perceived "clique" thing (which I don't believe exists).....

don't assume any thread is a clique thing....join in...and,if for some reason, you aren't "engaged," move on.

there is a super duper old timer here who doesn't seem to like me much....they never post in any thread I've started and if I post in one of "their" threads, they always ignore me.....whatever....I don't lose a lot of sleep over feeling left out.

I'm cool with just about anyone in the AET.....MT is a whole nother kettle of fish and, for that reason, I rarely venture into its treacherous waters!

there is a clique. does it bother me? no. it didn't bother me in real life in high school. it doesn't bother me as an adult on the internet.

one dude on here who is everyone's fave constantly says harsh shit to me. don't know why. don't really care. I assume it's because I'm not in the "group". have your group. the "in" crowd on the internet is kind of sad, in my opinion. I'm nice to everyone equally. or at least I try to be. some just feel they are better than others. and let them. it's their problem.

I need a name!

oceaninmyeyes

81 Oh wait . . . . . that's a number

Wobbie

PJ_Soul said:

oftenreading said:

PJfanwillneverleave1 said:

oftenreading said:

An Open Letter to Kat (and Sea, and the other mods, whoever you might be):

When I got back from work today, I found out that whispering hands had been banned. I don't come to the site while at work; if I did, I'd never get anything done. So I didn't see any of this unfold in real time, and it may be that I've missed some posts that have been deleted; I'm sure I've missed some PMs behind the scenes.

I understand that you do a difficult job. I've never been a site moderator, but I live with someone who has been a mod on two different forums, and I can see the job is the very definition of "you can't please all of the people all of the time".

I've read WH's comments in this thread, and I agree that they come across very badly. I'm not really surprised she got banned for them. However, I'm not sure that she intended them to read quite as they sound. WH loves animals, and I think the animal metaphor came naturally to her without her really thinking through how disrespectful it sounded. I think she was suggesting that you mods have dealt with a lot over the years and might be fed up with dealing with juvenile behaviour.

Although I don't know her personally, I do know that whispering hands is a passionate, outspoken person who wears her heart on her sleeve. She has been honest on the forum about having problems with anger. I remember her posts the day she was fired from her job at the factory - from the story she told us, I believe that profanity was freely dispensed, tools were thrown, and a few unwise personal comments were made. She recognized that her anger had gotten the best of her, and vowed to do better in the future. Life is a learning process and I'm sure if she gets another chance to return to the forum she will try to manage it better here, too. I would ask that you consider giving her another chance. or the forum will be poorer for it.

From behind these bars I still read her post as a direct disguised insult.

Well, you could be right. I really don't know. I just think there's a chance it was something else.

PS - I never sense there is a clique, although in wouldn't know - I've always been oblivious to that kind of thing... There is a shitload of random derailing going on lately though, and I think it's been disengaging a lot of people from some threads, which is something that Kat mentioned - the chat room comment - that rang true to me.

if someone were to say, for example, "I'm looking for a good inspirational book" that thread should NOT get derailed......but if it's thread about nothing, like an episode of Seinfeld, I don't see how you can derail it.....

lolobugg

shetellsherself said:

So.... I'm annoyed at Starbucks. They got me all excited about adding coconut milk as an option. I love coconut milk for its taste and many health benefits and like to vary what I eat so appreciate options. Then I asked to read the label. Cane sugar. Grrr

to piggyback on to this.
I have started to boycott Starbucks.
I used to go there almost every weekday for coffee.
I drink mine iced/black but with no ice. simple enough- huge profit at $2.40 for the tall.
last time I ordered it they told me they had to charge extra for no ice.... WTF?
no way am I supporting that shit.

Wobbie

that's like paying more for salt free soup.

Empty Glass

imalive said:

PJ_Soul said:

oftenreading said:

PJfanwillneverleave1 said:

oftenreading said:

An Open Letter to Kat (and Sea, and the other mods, whoever you might be):

When I got back from work today, I found out that whispering hands had been banned. I don't come to the site while at work; if I did, I'd never get anything done. So I didn't see any of this unfold in real time, and it may be that I've missed some posts that have been deleted; I'm sure I've missed some PMs behind the scenes.

I understand that you do a difficult job. I've never been a site moderator, but I live with someone who has been a mod on two different forums, and I can see the job is the very definition of "you can't please all of the people all of the time".

I've read WH's comments in this thread, and I agree that they come across very badly. I'm not really surprised she got banned for them. However, I'm not sure that she intended them to read quite as they sound. WH loves animals, and I think the animal metaphor came naturally to her without her really thinking through how disrespectful it sounded. I think she was suggesting that you mods have dealt with a lot over the years and might be fed up with dealing with juvenile behaviour.

Although I don't know her personally, I do know that whispering hands is a passionate, outspoken person who wears her heart on her sleeve. She has been honest on the forum about having problems with anger. I remember her posts the day she was fired from her job at the factory - from the story she told us, I believe that profanity was freely dispensed, tools were thrown, and a few unwise personal comments were made. She recognized that her anger had gotten the best of her, and vowed to do better in the future. Life is a learning process and I'm sure if she gets another chance to return to the forum she will try to manage it better here, too. I would ask that you consider giving her another chance. or the forum will be poorer for it.

From behind these bars I still read her post as a direct disguised insult.

Well, you could be right. I really don't know. I just think there's a chance it was something else.

PS - I never sense there is a clique, although in wouldn't know - I've always been oblivious to that kind of thing... There is a shitload of random derailing going on lately though, and I think it's been disengaging a lot of people from some threads, which is something that Kat mentioned - the chat room comment - that rang true to me.

if someone were to say, for example, "I'm looking for a good inspirational book" that thread should NOT get derailed......but if it's thread about nothing, like an episode of Seinfeld, I don't see how you can derail it.....

I think the threads about nothing were the best in awhile. Things never got stale. It's not a clique thing. Chime in w/ your thoughts and roll with it

lolobugg

imalive said:

that's like paying more for salt free soup.

yeah, it's BS.
technically I am getting more coffee but really???
how much is that costing starfux
and I hate watered down coffee.

lolobugg

Empty Glass said:

imalive said:

PJ_Soul said:

oftenreading said:

PJfanwillneverleave1 said:

oftenreading said:

An Open Letter to Kat (and Sea, and the other mods, whoever you might be):

When I got back from work today, I found out that whispering hands had been banned. I don't come to the site while at work; if I did, I'd never get anything done. So I didn't see any of this unfold in real time, and it may be that I've missed some posts that have been deleted; I'm sure I've missed some PMs behind the scenes.

I understand that you do a difficult job. I've never been a site moderator, but I live with someone who has been a mod on two different forums, and I can see the job is the very definition of "you can't please all of the people all of the time".

I've read WH's comments in this thread, and I agree that they come across very badly. I'm not really surprised she got banned for them. However, I'm not sure that she intended them to read quite as they sound. WH loves animals, and I think the animal metaphor came naturally to her without her really thinking through how disrespectful it sounded. I think she was suggesting that you mods have dealt with a lot over the years and might be fed up with dealing with juvenile behaviour.

Although I don't know her personally, I do know that whispering hands is a passionate, outspoken person who wears her heart on her sleeve. She has been honest on the forum about having problems with anger. I remember her posts the day she was fired from her job at the factory - from the story she told us, I believe that profanity was freely dispensed, tools were thrown, and a few unwise personal comments were made. She recognized that her anger had gotten the best of her, and vowed to do better in the future. Life is a learning process and I'm sure if she gets another chance to return to the forum she will try to manage it better here, too. I would ask that you consider giving her another chance. or the forum will be poorer for it.

From behind these bars I still read her post as a direct disguised insult.

Well, you could be right. I really don't know. I just think there's a chance it was something else.

PS - I never sense there is a clique, although in wouldn't know - I've always been oblivious to that kind of thing... There is a shitload of random derailing going on lately though, and I think it's been disengaging a lot of people from some threads, which is something that Kat mentioned - the chat room comment - that rang true to me.

if someone were to say, for example, "I'm looking for a good inspirational book" that thread should NOT get derailed......but if it's thread about nothing, like an episode of Seinfeld, I don't see how you can derail it.....

I think the threads about nothing were the best in awhile. Things never got stale. It's not a clique thing. Chime in w/ your thoughts and roll with it

Everyone is invited!!!!
just don't be a @******

jnimhaoileoin

I'm thinking i'm giving up too much of my free time to a 'hobby' that causes me more stress than anything else in my life