what's on your mind, right now?

Kat

Closed for review.

Kat

The fact that someone would think it's appropriate to compare Admins to breeding bitches or mares speaks more to a problem with how they view the word respect. See the first Posting Guideline. At no point have we ever talked to anyone like this. We would have to ban ourselves if we did. We respect privacy and so we don't discuss members with other members. There can be a long history that you are unaware of  - that's something to keep in mind.

What should be considered in the discussion of the forums is that it's a place where all kinds of people come together because they love this band and their music. It's not only for YOUR (meaning a single person) sensibilities and preferences. It's for everyone's, sometimes worldwide, and there are some common sense rules that everyone follows. The guidelines aren't just for some people, they are for everyone. Another sign of respect for each other is not derailing topic integrity - not everyone appreciates having to scroll through pages of banter between a group of friends that has nothing to do with the topic and can be discussed in PM by adding each other to the private conversation.

When we contact someone about a rule or guideline, we explain it as clearly as possible so there will not be any misunderstandings about what the problem was. We're sorry if someone feels like they were spoken to as a child but that would never be what was intended because that's not how we feel about you. 

All anyone has to do is follow the Posting Guidelines and listen to the guidance from any mod or admin about posting in these forums. It’s about being respectful of each other and to each other while we appreciate our favorite band.

Respectfully,
Admins

This thread will be reopened for now.

WhatYouTaughtMe

Kat said:

The fact that someone would think it's appropriate to compare Admins to breeding bitches or mares speaks more to a problem with how they view the word respect. See the first Posting Guideline. At no point have we ever talked to anyone like this. We would have to ban ourselves if we did. We respect privacy and so we don't discuss members with other members. There can be a long history that you are unaware of  - that's something to keep in mind.

What should be considered in the discussion of the forums is that it's a place where all kinds of people come together because they love this band and their music. It's not only for YOUR (meaning a single person) sensibilities and preferences. It's for everyone's, sometimes worldwide, and there are some common sense rules that everyone follows. The guidelines aren't just for some people, they are for everyone. Another sign of respect for each other is not derailing topic integrity - not everyone appreciates having to scroll through pages of banter between a group of friends that has nothing to do with the topic and can be discussed in PM by adding each other to the private conversation.

When we contact someone about a rule or guideline, we explain it as clearly as possible so there will not be any misunderstandings about what the problem was. We're sorry if someone feels like they were spoken to as a child but that would never be what was intended because that's not how we feel about you. 

All anyone has to do is follow the Posting Guidelines and listen to the guidance from any mod or admin about posting in these forums. It’s about being respectful of each other and to each other while we appreciate our favorite band.

Respectfully,
Admins

This thread will be reopened for now.

Thanks for the clarity and thanks for reopening this thread.

Empty Glass

Kat said:

There can be a long history that you are unaware of  - that's something to keep in mind.

I'll be honest, this is something that I don't think about sometimes or think about after I hit - post comment.

HughFreakingDillon

wow!

lolobugg

Empty Glass said:

Kat said:

There can be a long history that you are unaware of  - that's something to keep in mind.

I'll be honest, this is something that I don't think about sometimes or think about after I hit - post comment.

good point...
Kat, I would just ask that if we start a thread about random stuff, as long as we don't offend anyone...
is that ok? it's all encompassing, ya know.
none of these guys/gals on here have malicious intent.
we treat this forum as about "OTHER" topics.
I post more on the PJ forum but do enjoy posting on here too.

badbrains

Unbelievable

Kat

lolobugg said:

Empty Glass said:

Kat said:

There can be a long history that you are unaware of  - that's something to keep in mind.

I'll be honest, this is something that I don't think about sometimes or think about after I hit - post comment.

good point...
Kat, I would just ask that if we start a thread about random stuff, as long as we don't offend anyone...
is that ok? it's all encompassing, ya know.
none of these guys/gals on here have malicious intent.
we treat this forum as about "OTHER" topics.
I post more on the PJ forum but do enjoy posting on here too.

I think you meant you post on Porch? When we created this forum it was with this intent which is at the top of the AET page:

All Encompassing Trip
Movies, Sports, TV, Books, Games, Career, Travel, non-Pearl Jam topics (not a chat room)

The not a chat-room part was to avoid it becoming too cliquey because there was a problem with people feeling left out and there were hurt feelings and so we tried to avoid all that moving forward. PM chat threads can help that. This forum is for just about every good topic that isn't Pearl Jam (except for news/politics/activism, which go in A Moving Train).
We hope that helps. Stay warm

Empty Glass

Sadness is on my mind right now

lolobugg

Kat said:

lolobugg said:

Empty Glass said:

Kat said:

There can be a long history that you are unaware of  - that's something to keep in mind.

I'll be honest, this is something that I don't think about sometimes or think about after I hit - post comment.

good point...
Kat, I would just ask that if we start a thread about random stuff, as long as we don't offend anyone...
is that ok? it's all encompassing, ya know.
none of these guys/gals on here have malicious intent.
we treat this forum as about "OTHER" topics.
I post more on the PJ forum but do enjoy posting on here too.

I think you meant you post on Porch? When we created this forum it was with this intent which is at the top of the AET page:

All Encompassing Trip
Movies, Sports, TV, Books, Games, Career, Travel, non-Pearl Jam topics (not a chat room)

The not a chat-room part was to avoid it becoming too cliquey because there was a problem with people feeling left out and there were hurt feelings and so we tried to avoid all that moving forward. PM chat threads can help that. This forum is for just about every good topic that isn't Pearl Jam (except for news/politics/activism, which go in A Moving Train).
We hope that helps. Stay warm

Ok, thanks.
I am "newer" to the boards.... don't know the history.
alright.. anyone wanna chat? PM me.

oceaninmyeyes

^^^

RKCNDY

I'm sad my whispering hands is gone now, I don't think she meant harm...just a really passionate person that let it all out. :(

I think you can still pm me if you want to talk wh....

badbrains

I also don't think she meant any harm in her post. She was speaking her mind, which is never a bad thing. Unless you speak your mind in some forums. Which some find a bad thing. Is it worth banning her, absolutely NOT.

badbrains

And yes the PM's I've received and others have received looked as tho we were being talked down to.

dimitrispearljam

i dont know what happened,with members .or fights ,or locked thread cos im not reading daily the forum. ,but i agree 100000% with SPEEDY
there are rules..like it or not its how it is..
and this place is for fun.,.
the rules in real life out there are more cruel and more difficult to live with them
here in the forum?its easy to understand when to stop..
and there is a big difference be here for fun,like all of us and away different story to work at this place like admins does..
years ago,Kat told me when i had a personal problem that we believe in second chances...
and make me realise its nice to be nice to others here.no matter what..
im pretty sure some members over the years who got banned had more than 2 chances to stay here..

HughFreakingDillon

badbrains said:

I also don't think she meant any harm in her post. She was speaking her mind, which is never a bad thing. Unless you speak your mind in some forums. Which some find a bad thing. Is it worth banning her, absolutely NOT.

re-read her post. you might think differently. it was pretty harsh.

WhatYouTaughtMe

lolobugg said:

Kat said:

lolobugg said:

Empty Glass said:

Kat said:

There can be a long history that you are unaware of  - that's something to keep in mind.

I'll be honest, this is something that I don't think about sometimes or think about after I hit - post comment.

good point...
Kat, I would just ask that if we start a thread about random stuff, as long as we don't offend anyone...
is that ok? it's all encompassing, ya know.
none of these guys/gals on here have malicious intent.
we treat this forum as about "OTHER" topics.
I post more on the PJ forum but do enjoy posting on here too.

I think you meant you post on Porch? When we created this forum it was with this intent which is at the top of the AET page:

All Encompassing Trip
Movies, Sports, TV, Books, Games, Career, Travel, non-Pearl Jam topics (not a chat room)

The not a chat-room part was to avoid it becoming too cliquey because there was a problem with people feeling left out and there were hurt feelings and so we tried to avoid all that moving forward. PM chat threads can help that. This forum is for just about every good topic that isn't Pearl Jam (except for news/politics/activism, which go in A Moving Train).
We hope that helps. Stay warm

Ok, thanks.
I am "newer" to the boards.... don't know the history.
alright.. anyone wanna chat? PM me.

Go pm yourself!

lolobugg

WhatYouTaughtMe said:

lolobugg said:

Kat said:

lolobugg said:

Empty Glass said:

Kat said:

There can be a long history that you are unaware of  - that's something to keep in mind.

I'll be honest, this is something that I don't think about sometimes or think about after I hit - post comment.

good point...
Kat, I would just ask that if we start a thread about random stuff, as long as we don't offend anyone...
is that ok? it's all encompassing, ya know.
none of these guys/gals on here have malicious intent.
we treat this forum as about "OTHER" topics.
I post more on the PJ forum but do enjoy posting on here too.

I think you meant you post on Porch? When we created this forum it was with this intent which is at the top of the AET page:

All Encompassing Trip
Movies, Sports, TV, Books, Games, Career, Travel, non-Pearl Jam topics (not a chat room)

The not a chat-room part was to avoid it becoming too cliquey because there was a problem with people feeling left out and there were hurt feelings and so we tried to avoid all that moving forward. PM chat threads can help that. This forum is for just about every good topic that isn't Pearl Jam (except for news/politics/activism, which go in A Moving Train).
We hope that helps. Stay warm

Ok, thanks.
I am "newer" to the boards.... don't know the history.
alright.. anyone wanna chat? PM me.

Go pm yourself!

dimitrispearljam

RKCNDY said:

I'm sad my whispering hands is gone now, I don't think she meant harm...just a really passionate person that let it all out. :(

I think you can still pm me if you want to talk wh....

she is really passionate person indeed..she is gone..?
for sure she was always nice and polite to me..i didnt notice something different to others..but im not alot the last year around here

SD48277

I think Logan is in mourning...his avatar is all black.