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I feel like a loser...

CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
edited July 2009 in All Encompassing Trip
cause I'm entertaining the thoughts of online dating. :?

anyone have any experiences and/or advice?
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  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    cause I'm entertaining the thoughts of online dating. :?

    anyone have any experiences and/or advice?

    My friend raves about Match.com He met his current GF there and several other short time Girlfriends before he found this one 8-)
    NERDS!
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    South of Seattle wrote:
    My friend raves about Match.com
    i was just paroozing that site... and all the blurbs about people are such a turn off... and I think I'd type out something like "I feel like an ass typing anything about myself so this will be all you get" .... not gonna get many dates with that one :roll:
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • PJPixiePJPixie Posts: 3,026
    I've done some serious internet dating. I liked it. If anything, I've made some really great friends!! Two of them, I'm still SUPER GREAT friends with after almost 7 years. It seems I make a better friend than girlfriend.
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  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    South of Seattle wrote:
    My friend raves about Match.com
    i was just paroozing that site... and all the blurbs about people are such a turn off... and I think I'd type out something like "I feel like an ass typing anything about myself so this will be all you get" .... not gonna get many dates with that one :roll:

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  • ajedigeckoajedigecko \m/deplorable af \m/ Posts: 2,430
    correct me if i am wrong.........meeting someone here or another internet site, same thing? no reason to feel as if you lost.
    live and let live...unless it violates the pearligious doctrine.
  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    A lot of people do it. Let's face it's not easy to meet someone who's decent. I've done it in the past, it's okay but I didn't meet the love of my life.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • Evil Merlin Part DeuxEvil Merlin Part Deux Posts: 234
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    South of Seattle wrote:
    My friend raves about Match.com
    i was just paroozing that site... and all the blurbs about people are such a turn off... and I think I'd type out something like "I feel like an ass typing anything about myself so this will be all you get" .... not gonna get many dates with that one :roll:

    That'd suck me in and I'd go for you on that one. You have a real aspect speaking that way. Leave it up to me to find what I like and don't like about you and that you actually know how to socialize and just get out and and whatever is whatever and just experience the social aspect of it all and that the site is to setup a meeting.

    I might be biased on your behalf though. ;)

    :mrgreen:
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Ok so a friend told me about OkCupid.com and it's been fun so far :D
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    ajedigecko wrote:
    correct me if i am wrong.........meeting someone here or another internet site, same thing? no reason to feel as if you lost.

    Yeah, I've never understood why people that frequent online forums like this so much would act like people on match.com are losers. How is it worse than going to a bar and hoping you happen to bump into someone cool? What are the odds of that even happening after college anyway?
  • jlew24asujlew24asu Posts: 10,118
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    cause I'm entertaining the thoughts of online dating. :?

    anyone have any experiences and/or advice?

    I dont see anything wrong with it. you arent a loser. go for it
  • dcfaithfuldcfaithful Posts: 13,076
    I met my current girlfriend on Myspace.com. Much different than Match.com, or anything else like that. It's the concept really, it doesn't matter what site you use. As far as feeling like a loser, don't. The internet is a really useful tool for meeting people whom 20 years ago, you probably would've never met.

    My girlfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now. I lived in Utah and she lived in Atlanta, now we live together in our own place in Utah, and she is literally the greatest person I know and have ever been with, and she makes me happier than anyone else could. There is a lot of hope in meeting somebody online, and there is no shame in doing so. Plus, we did it without any compatibility tests...so I'm sure those things help out even more :D.

    It's definitely a good idea to get to know the person as well as you can via the net, instant messaging, whatever before you guys just jump into it. Or maybe that's what you want to do, I don't know. But my girlfriend and I spoke for over a year before we even decided to meet in person.

    Good luck to you. I know that you'll find what you're looking for. ;)
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  • ArcticangelArcticangel Posts: 1,443
    My older sister met her husband on a message board (ahh.. not so different from this...)
    He lived in Colorado at the time.. that was 9 years ago. Now they've been married for two and just bought their first house in Minnesota!
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  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    I'm a single dad with a social circle that was decimated by divorce...between the kids, housework, full time+ job....I have a pretty weak social life. I have a lot of free time home alone once the kids are in bed... I turned to online dating out of desperation.....and continue to...whenever I get desperate enough ;)
    CiW - the write-up you posted is not uncommon at all. A lot of people go that route. From what I hear, most guys don't read them anyway....they just check the pics. I read them, and I could tell you what I look for in a profile, but everyone's different so....good luck :)
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    I'm sorry.. I didn't mean to be mean by implying online dating was for losers.... I was just being self deprecating as I usually am.

    I suppose I should actually take the time to fill out the questions and such, but I'm not one to be able to answer things like that. ...you should see how bad my cover letters are! :shock:

    It's only been one day but it's been interesting to see the messages i've gotten. all ages... 20-54.
    And one guy asked me if i was into BDSM and if i wanted to go to a club where you watched people have sex... :roll: ....he was instantly blocked...:lol:

    With the hours I've been working and the fact that all my friends are married now and most are starting families.... this is really my only option, besides the grocery store :P and hitting bars alone! :?
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • the wolfthe wolf Posts: 7,027
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    I'm sorry.. I didn't mean to be mean by implying online dating was for losers.... I was just being self deprecating as I usually am.

    I suppose I should actually take the time to fill out the questions and such, but I'm not one to be able to answer things like that. ...you should see how bad my cover letters are! :shock:

    It's only been one day but it's been interesting to see the messages i've gotten. all ages... 20-54.
    And one guy asked me if i was into BDSM and if i wanted to go to a club where you watched people have sex... :roll: ....he was instantly blocked...:lol:

    With the hours I've been working and the fact that all my friends are married now and most are starting families.... this is really my only option, besides the grocery store :P and hitting bars alone! :?

    do you think you could throw a few more smilies in there, I'm not sure I am picking up the context of the post.

    damn internet. ;)
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  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    the wolf wrote:

    do you think you could throw a few more smilies in there, I'm not sure I am picking up the context of the post.

    damn internet. ;)
    really? cause i'm picking up on you being an ass really well ;)
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • the wolfthe wolf Posts: 7,027
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    the wolf wrote:

    do you think you could throw a few more smilies in there, I'm not sure I am picking up the context of the post.

    damn internet. ;)
    really? cause i'm picking up on you being an ass really well ;)

    because of my proper use of the smilies ;)
    Peace, Love.

    "To question your government is not unpatriotic --
    to not question your government is unpatriotic."
    -- Sen. Chuck Hagel
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    the wolf wrote:
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    the wolf wrote:

    do you think you could throw a few more smilies in there, I'm not sure I am picking up the context of the post.

    damn internet. ;)
    really? cause i'm picking up on you being an ass really well ;)

    because of my proper use of the smilies ;)
    :roll:
    ;)
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Ok so a friend told me about OkCupid.com and it's been fun so far :D

    Yes, it's a fun site but can't say I'm too thrilled with the people i have come in contact with.
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    I'm sorry.. I didn't mean to be mean by implying online dating was for losers.... I was just being self deprecating as I usually am.

    I suppose I should actually take the time to fill out the questions and such, but I'm not one to be able to answer things like that. ...you should see how bad my cover letters are! :shock:

    It's only been one day but it's been interesting to see the messages i've gotten. all ages... 20-54.
    And one guy asked me if i was into BDSM and if i wanted to go to a club where you watched people have sex... :roll: ....he was instantly blocked...:lol:

    With the hours I've been working and the fact that all my friends are married now and most are starting families.... this is really my only option, besides the grocery store :P and hitting bars alone! :?
    I knew you weren't implying online dating was for losers...but my disclaimers sure make it sound like I feel the same!
    Is 'blocked' similar to 'paddled'?
    Don't try to make it sound like you're not a total freak ;)
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    libragirl wrote:
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Ok so a friend told me about OkCupid.com and it's been fun so far :D

    Yes, it's a fun site but can't say I'm too thrilled with the people i have come in contact with.
    I'm starting to see that now.... maybe Match.com would be a better way to go. :?
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • CHANGEinWAVESCHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    Drowned Out wrote:
    I knew you weren't implying online dating was for losers...but my disclaimers sure make it sound like I feel the same!
    Is 'blocked' similar to 'paddled'?
    Don't try to make it sound like you're not a total freak ;)
    I never denied that I'm a freak.... ;)
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • libragirllibragirl Posts: 4,632
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    libragirl wrote:
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    Ok so a friend told me about OkCupid.com and it's been fun so far :D

    Yes, it's a fun site but can't say I'm too thrilled with the people i have come in contact with.
    I'm starting to see that now.... maybe Match.com would be a better way to go. :?

    I heard I know some people who have met their spouses on match.com. Yeah, unfortunately, okcupid wasn't for me I disabled my account after being on there for 3 weeks..lol
    These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars to fit the pieces, to tell the story, you don't need to say a word.
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