What is wrong with kids/parents these days?

purple_chick79purple_chick79 Posts: 570
edited June 2009 in All Encompassing Trip
So, check this out.

My boyfriends daughter is going to a birthday party of a boy that is in her little group of friends. She was gonna sleep over her friends house, a girl who is like boyfriend/girlfriend with this boy.

So, she (daughter) get off the phone with the girl and says that she isn't sleeping over because that girl wants to sleep over the boys house! So, I'm in shock and I say "her parents will allow that" and she says "I guess so".

These kids are only 11-12 years old!!!!!!!!!! What in the FUCK!!! I would never even dream of it when I was that age. My boyfriend would NEVER allow that.

And this girl is a girl that she spends a lot of time with. Oh my god.

Am I just being old fashioned? Is this normal these days?
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  • Cinnamon GirlCinnamon Girl Posts: 1,854
    I don't know if it's old fashioned, but my daughter will NOT be sleeping over at any boys houses when she's 11.
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  • flywallyflyflywallyfly Posts: 1,453
    The girl's parents will probably be shocked later when she becomes pegnant. :roll:
  • g under pg under p Surfing The far side of THE Sombrero Galaxy Posts: 18,200
    edited June 2009
    I'm old school and I don;t let my daughter sleep over at anyone's hous. She can go and stay the day or evening but she puts her head to sleep in mine period. Her mother on the other hand couldn;t care less and is all for her sleeping over but that's why my daughter lives with me. Children today need discipline and understand respect to their parents or parent.

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  • slightofjeffslightofjeff Posts: 7,762
    Kids need to learn to sleep at other people's houses, without mommy or daddy in the next room. It teaches them to be independent. Otherwise, you send them to college and they freak out.

    That said, 11-year-old girls do not need to be attending co-ed sleepovers. No way. Uh-uh.
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  • WaveCameCrashinWaveCameCrashin Posts: 2,929
    So, check this out.

    My boyfriends daughter is going to a birthday party of a boy that is in her little group of friends. She was gonna sleep over her friends house, a girl who is like boyfriend/girlfriend with this boy.

    So, she (daughter) get off the phone with the girl and says that she isn't sleeping over because that girl wants to sleep over the boys house! So, I'm in shock and I say "her parents will allow that" and she says "I guess so".

    These kids are only 11-12 years old!!!!!!!!!! What in the FUCK!!! I would never even dream of it when I was that age. My boyfriend would NEVER allow that.

    And this girl is a girl that she spends a lot of time with. Oh my god.

    Am I just being old fashioned? Is this normal these days?



    No, you're not being old fashion. You're being a good parent. ;)
  • StoveStove Posts: 320
    Its seems like everyone generation worries about this. And I think its true. We as a society evolve (or in some cases regress. I see it with alot of youngsters these days. What they listen to how the talk, how the dress. (thats a whole new thread) The media has alot to do with to. The facespaces and the mybooks. It seems like kids are learning how to market themselves. It really feels like a "me me me" generation.


    Probably on line bulletin boards too. :shock:
  • g under pg under p Surfing The far side of THE Sombrero Galaxy Posts: 18,200
    Stove wrote:
    Its seems like everyone generation worries about this. And I think its true. We as a society evolve (or in some cases regress. I see it with alot of youngsters these days. What they listen to how the talk, how the dress. (thats a whole new thread) The media has alot to do with to. The facespaces and the mybooks. It seems like kids are learning how to market themselves. It really feels like a "me me me" generation.


    Probably on line bulletin boards too. :shock:

    It's AL about the *Me Myself and I* generation that they have a sense of entitlement.

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  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    I'm a hetro female and when I used to stay with my friend around 1970-1971, she used to try to fool around with me all the time when we were in the fifth grade. Once we were in the garage and she told me what she and another one of my female friends did (age 11) and she pulled on my arm and said "let's go try it." I kicked her and told her no! So, I guess I'm trying to say it doesn't matter what sex the friend is when the hormones are kicking in. She used to do things to herself right in front of me at sleep overs and now that I'm older and remember, I can't understand why I hung around her! She had me very confused, that's for sure b/c she would also tell me how she would make out with an older boy down the street. But if I had children, I would not let my daughter sleep over at a boy's house.
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  • PJaddictedPJaddicted Posts: 1,432
    I have all boys...and sometimes when all the friends sleep over there will be a couple of girls too, my kids are a lot older though.
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  • Now, I thought for sure my boyfriends daughter would have enough sense to not even ask, but she did!!!! She asked her father if she could sleep over that boys house with her friend.

    He said there is NO WAY IN HELL she would be sleeping at a boys house.

    Kids these days have some balls to ask these kinds of things. You should hear the shit that come out of her mouth. I've had to set her straight and let her know she doesn't run the show, we do. My boyfriend is so passive at times, most of the time, that he let's things just blow right by him.
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  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
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  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    So, check this out.

    My boyfriends daughter is going to a birthday party of a boy that is in her little group of friends. She was gonna sleep over her friends house, a girl who is like boyfriend/girlfriend with this boy.

    So, she (daughter) get off the phone with the girl and says that she isn't sleeping over because that girl wants to sleep over the boys house! So, I'm in shock and I say "her parents will allow that" and she says "I guess so".

    These kids are only 11-12 years old!!!!!!!!!! What in the FUCK!!! I would never even dream of it when I was that age. My boyfriend would NEVER allow that.

    And this girl is a girl that she spends a lot of time with. Oh my god.

    Am I just being old fashioned? Is this normal these days?

    The sleeping over takes second place over 'a girl who is like boyfriend/girlfriend with this boy'. At 11-12? THAT is shocking. How can parents allow this type of 'relationship' at that age? Though I assume all is platonic to a point, you just do not have a boyfriend/girlfriend thing going on at 11-12.
  • deadmosquitodeadmosquito Posts: 729
    redrock wrote:
    So, check this out.

    My boyfriends daughter is going to a birthday party of a boy that is in her little group of friends. She was gonna sleep over her friends house, a girl who is like boyfriend/girlfriend with this boy.

    So, she (daughter) get off the phone with the girl and says that she isn't sleeping over because that girl wants to sleep over the boys house! So, I'm in shock and I say "her parents will allow that" and she says "I guess so".

    These kids are only 11-12 years old!!!!!!!!!! What in the FUCK!!! I would never even dream of it when I was that age. My boyfriend would NEVER allow that.

    And this girl is a girl that she spends a lot of time with. Oh my god.

    Am I just being old fashioned? Is this normal these days?

    The sleeping over takes second place over 'a girl who is like boyfriend/girlfriend with this boy'. At 11-12? THAT is shocking. How can parents allow this type of 'relationship' at that age? Though I assume all is platonic to a point, you just do not have a boyfriend/girlfriend thing going on at 11-12.

    really? that seems to be about the normal age for that stuff to actually start. i mean, i remember i had my first girlfriend when i was in 4th grade, so i was like 9 or 10 years old. of course, this was before i realized what it meant to have that sort of relationship, but it wasn't like i was the only one in my class doing the same. it's just the normal progression of things. by the time i was 12 i went on "dates" to movies and things, which my parents drove me to. it's an important part of growing up and if it happens later in life it seems that you are behind the curve. i dunno. that's my viewpoint at least.
  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    g under p wrote:
    I'm old school and I don;t let my daughter sleep over at anyone's hous. She can go and stay the day or evening but she puts her head to sleep in mine period. Her mother on the other hand couldn;t care less and is all for her sleeping over but that's why my daughter lives with me. Children today need discipline and understand respect to their parents or parent.

    Peace

    That's going a bit far I think. No sleepovers doesn't make you old school. Sleepovers were a blast when I was a kid.

    Now co-ed sleepovers... I can agree that's too far.
  • Thorns2010Thorns2010 Posts: 2,201

    really? that seems to be about the normal age for that stuff to actually start. i mean, i remember i had my first girlfriend when i was in 4th grade, so i was like 9 or 10 years old. of course, this was before i realized what it meant to have that sort of relationship, but it wasn't like i was the only one in my class doing the same. it's just the normal progression of things. by the time i was 12 i went on "dates" to movies and things, which my parents drove me to. it's an important part of growing up and if it happens later in life it seems that you are behind the curve. i dunno. that's my viewpoint at least.


    So.......you're trying to tell me that there is something wrong with me?? I didn't have a date until I was a junior in high school. So I was like 17 or so. :mrgreen:
  • Obsidian22Obsidian22 Posts: 298
    iluvcats wrote:
    I'm a hetro female and when I used to stay with my friend around 1970-1971, she used to try to fool around with me all the time when we were in the fifth grade. Once we were in the garage and she told me what she and another one of my female friends did (age 11) and she pulled on my arm and said "let's go try it." I kicked her and told her no! So, I guess I'm trying to say it doesn't matter what sex the friend is when the hormones are kicking in. She used to do things to herself right in front of me at sleep overs and now that I'm older and remember, I can't understand why I hung around her! She had me very confused, that's for sure b/c she would also tell me how she would make out with an older boy down the street. But if I had children, I would not let my daughter sleep over at a boy's house.
    :? Hi, I too had similar experiences with other girls at the age of 11 and 12. I am a hetero woman, mid 30's. I also had the same reaction to her advances as you did. Children need to learn boundaries of their bodies at a very young age, so that they can protect themselves in such situations. It is also sad to think that some parents are misguided or do not have the patience to teach their boys and girls valuable boudaries of themsleves and others.Don't even get me started on internet predators etc. Our children are our future, and I would rather be known as a strict disciplinarian mother, than let my child off with too much freedom.
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  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    really? that seems to be about the normal age for that stuff to actually start. i mean, i remember i had my first girlfriend when i was in 4th grade, so i was like 9 or 10 years old. of course, this was before i realized what it meant to have that sort of relationship, but it wasn't like i was the only one in my class doing the same. it's just the normal progression of things. by the time i was 12 i went on "dates" to movies and things, which my parents drove me to. it's an important part of growing up and if it happens later in life it seems that you are behind the curve. i dunno. that's my viewpoint at least.

    But a mother allowing her 11-12 year old to a SLEEPOVER at her 'boyfriend's' house... that's pushing it (and the other mother allowing the girl to sleepover is just as bad).
  • StoveStove Posts: 320
    As Homer Simpson would say...let your children run wild and free.





    He also says a women is alot like a refrigerator. :lol:
    And that "life is one miserable failure after another, until you wish flanders was dead."
    I love the simpsons. :mrgreen:
  • Phantom PainPhantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    Wow !

    Reading these stories of the 11 and 12 year old girls makes me thankful after playing GI Joe my buddy didn't ask me to play hide the sausage


    :? :x

    When I was 11 and 12 thats when I remember my hormones raging towards girl

    I think 6th grade was my first kiss with tongue action
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  • iluvcatsiluvcats Posts: 5,153
    Obsidian22 wrote:
    iluvcats wrote:
    I'm a hetro female and when I used to stay with my friend around 1970-1971, she used to try to fool around with me all the time when we were in the fifth grade. Once we were in the garage and she told me what she and another one of my female friends did (age 11) and she pulled on my arm and said "let's go try it." I kicked her and told her no! So, I guess I'm trying to say it doesn't matter what sex the friend is when the hormones are kicking in. She used to do things to herself right in front of me at sleep overs and now that I'm older and remember, I can't understand why I hung around her! She had me very confused, that's for sure b/c she would also tell me how she would make out with an older boy down the street. But if I had children, I would not let my daughter sleep over at a boy's house.
    :? Hi, I too had similar experiences with other girls at the age of 11 and 12. I am a hetero woman, mid 30's. I also had the same reaction to her advances as you did. Children need to learn boundaries of their bodies at a very young age, so that they can protect themselves in such situations.

    As an adult, I told my lifelong friend about the 11 year old's advances and she thought nothing of it! She knew her but probably could not remember her. She made a remark that we all tried that at that age. Ahem...no, not all of us did.
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  • deadmosquitodeadmosquito Posts: 729
    redrock wrote:
    really? that seems to be about the normal age for that stuff to actually start. i mean, i remember i had my first girlfriend when i was in 4th grade, so i was like 9 or 10 years old. of course, this was before i realized what it meant to have that sort of relationship, but it wasn't like i was the only one in my class doing the same. it's just the normal progression of things. by the time i was 12 i went on "dates" to movies and things, which my parents drove me to. it's an important part of growing up and if it happens later in life it seems that you are behind the curve. i dunno. that's my viewpoint at least.

    But a mother allowing her 11-12 year old to a SLEEPOVER at her 'boyfriend's' house... that's pushing it (and the other mother allowing the girl to sleepover is just as bad).


    i agree that's pushing it. but the you said that the real issue was with the relationship aspect at such a young age (unless i misunderstood the post). that's why i was talking about that.
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