Should I ask Agnes out on a date?

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Thoughts_Arrive said:

I have not been in this thread in a long time.

Anyways, I'm getting so sick and tired of every girl I get really interested in ending up in a relationship.

I met a girl in my university cohort tonight after a careers seminar for undergraduates. We ended up walking from university to the train station and I asked if I could add her on Facebook. She said yes and we got connected and have been chatting online. I looked at her profile and she's in a relationship. I hate that feeling.

Was so happy when I got home with the seminar being so helpful for me and finding out my best friend and his long term partner got engaged. And I thought this very friendly, good looking, talkative, girl with a cheeky sense of humour was someone I might have a chance with. Now I feel so disappointed and embarrassed. I even told my best friend I met a girl and would tell him more tomorrow as he had to go to bed.

I think the friend zone is exactly where you want to be. Think about it, when you're in the friend zone--the pressure is off, you can reveal certain things about yourself in your own time and not feel guilty or anxious about it, you get to have fun and be yourself. These conditions are perfect for her to get to know you, your intelligence and creativity, without all the anxiety-inducing expectations that come with dating, right? Don't give up so easily. This could be the opportunity you've been hoping for!

OffSheGoes35 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

I have not been in this thread in a long time.

Anyways, I'm getting so sick and tired of every girl I get really interested in ending up in a relationship.

I met a girl in my university cohort tonight after a careers seminar for undergraduates. We ended up walking from university to the train station and I asked if I could add her on Facebook. She said yes and we got connected and have been chatting online. I looked at her profile and she's in a relationship. I hate that feeling.

Was so happy when I got home with the seminar being so helpful for me and finding out my best friend and his long term partner got engaged. And I thought this very friendly, good looking, talkative, girl with a cheeky sense of humour was someone I might have a chance with. Now I feel so disappointed and embarrassed. I even told my best friend I met a girl and would tell him more tomorrow as he had to go to bed.

I think the friend zone is exactly where you want to be. Think about it, when you're in the friend zone--the pressure is off, you can reveal certain things about yourself in your own time and not feel guilty or anxious about it, you get to have fun and be yourself. These conditions are perfect for her to get to know you, your intelligence and creativity, without all the anxiety-inducing expectations that come with dating, right? Don't give up so easily. This could be the opportunity you've been hoping for!

Thoughts_Arrive said:

dankind said:

^^^What she said.

Thoughts_Arrive said:

dankind said:

Sea. Fish. Plenty.

Happens all the time and has been for 15 years now. Feeling flat right now.

She probably knows I'm interested because I asked if I could add her on Facebook. Embarrassing.

Also, maybe she needs a backdoor man....

Haha. I wouldn't be interested in a woman that cheats on her man.

You're a good egg. 

Thoughts_Arrive said:

dankind said:

Sea. Fish. Plenty.

Happens all the time and has been for 15 years now. Feeling flat right now.

She probably knows I'm interested because I asked if I could add her on Facebook. Embarrassing.

Don’t think of it as embarrassing! I know what you mean but it really isn’t bad. It’s flattering if someone likes you, right?! And she‘s responding to you so that should build your confidence. It doesn’t have to be romantic, if it develops into a nice acquaintance or even friendship, that’s excellent.
You take care of yourself first and the rest will come along eventually.

https://youtu.be/9X_ViIPA-Gc

JPPJ84 said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

dankind said:

Sea. Fish. Plenty.

Happens all the time and has been for 15 years now. Feeling flat right now.

She probably knows I'm interested because I asked if I could add her on Facebook. Embarrassing.

Don’t think of it as embarrassing! I know what you mean but it really isn’t bad. It’s flattering if someone likes you, right?! And she‘s responding to you so that should build your confidence. It doesn’t have to be romantic, if it develops into a nice acquaintance or even friendship, that’s excellent.
You take care of yourself first and the rest will come along eventually.

Still doesn't make this painful loneliness disappear.

Thoughts_Arrive said:

OffSheGoes35 said:

So, is it not okay to talk with someone if you are single and the other person has a boyfriend/girlfriend? Does that equal trying to steal them away? 

Nah that's not what I meant.

I speak to many girls with boyfriends at university. I meant hoping to be in a relationship with her would also mean her having to break up with her boyfriend.

On another note, I met a current honours student at this seminar who I got to talk to. She revealed she's on antidepressants and that got me to do the same. We seemed to have a good time chatting and I am interested. Found her on Facebook and Instagram. She said I could add her on Researchgate or LinkedIn. I wonder if she would mind on social media? She appears to be single.

Good luck Thoughts Arrive!!! Keep in contact with her, (the girl you wrote about last in the text)

OffSheGoes35 said:

https://youtu.be/9X_ViIPA-Gc