'TWO BIG PIGS': Rude woman kicked off flight after fat-shaming meltdown
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what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.Monkey Driven, Call this Living?0 -
tempo_n_groove said:Smellyman said:Can the Man was our favorite game. whoever had the ball you chase and tackle the hell out of them.
I love when childhood games come up and that gets mentioned and the other person has no idea when you're talking about. When you try to explain it they look at you all weird and say "so why would anyone grab the ball if you just get tackled? What's the advantage of that?" Because there really is no answer.0 -
tempo_n_groove said:Halifax2TheMax said:tempo_n_groove said:Halifax2TheMax said:All that extra weight is not good for America or the future.
https://www.nbcnews.com/health/cancer/obesity-related-cancers-rising-fastest-among-millennials-study-finds-n966656
Something else this generation doesn't understand is "skitching". Not sure what you guys called it but it was when there was snow on the ground and you were towed behind a car. Basically grabbing a bumper and skiing with just boots.By The Time They Figure Out What Went Wrong, We'll Be Sitting On A Beach, Earning Twenty Percent.0 -
HughFreakingDillon said:tempo_n_groove said:Halifax2TheMax said:tempo_n_groove said:Halifax2TheMax said:All that extra weight is not good for America or the future.
https://www.nbcnews.com/health/cancer/obesity-related-cancers-rising-fastest-among-millennials-study-finds-n966656
Something else this generation doesn't understand is "skitching". Not sure what you guys called it but it was when there was snow on the ground and you were towed behind a car. Basically grabbing a bumper and skiing with just boots.0 -
mace1229 said:tempo_n_groove said:Smellyman said:Can the Man was our favorite game. whoever had the ball you chase and tackle the hell out of them.
I love when childhood games come up and that gets mentioned and the other person has no idea when you're talking about. When you try to explain it they look at you all weird and say "so why would anyone grab the ball if you just get tackled? What's the advantage of that?" Because there really is no answer.
My father taught us kids on the block Kick the can. It wasn't heard of in our age group but we liked it and played it. I remember seeing it in the newer Twilight Zone movies. Only time I've ever seen it mentioned in a film or show.
Anybody play "butts up"?!? Bounce the ball on the coin to make it flip? Loser bends over and winner throws the ball at them.
Way off topic...
Sorry OP.0 -
tempo_n_groove said:mace1229 said:tempo_n_groove said:Smellyman said:Can the Man was our favorite game. whoever had the ball you chase and tackle the hell out of them.
I love when childhood games come up and that gets mentioned and the other person has no idea when you're talking about. When you try to explain it they look at you all weird and say "so why would anyone grab the ball if you just get tackled? What's the advantage of that?" Because there really is no answer.
My father taught us kids on the block Kick the can. It wasn't heard of in our age group but we liked it and played it. I remember seeing it in the newer Twilight Zone movies. Only time I've ever seen it mentioned in a film or show.
Anybody play "butts up"?!? Bounce the ball on the coin to make it flip? Loser bends over and winner throws the ball at them.
Way off topic...
Sorry OP.0 -
mace1229 said:tempo_n_groove said:mace1229 said:tempo_n_groove said:Smellyman said:Can the Man was our favorite game. whoever had the ball you chase and tackle the hell out of them.
I love when childhood games come up and that gets mentioned and the other person has no idea when you're talking about. When you try to explain it they look at you all weird and say "so why would anyone grab the ball if you just get tackled? What's the advantage of that?" Because there really is no answer.
My father taught us kids on the block Kick the can. It wasn't heard of in our age group but we liked it and played it. I remember seeing it in the newer Twilight Zone movies. Only time I've ever seen it mentioned in a film or show.
Anybody play "butts up"?!? Bounce the ball on the coin to make it flip? Loser bends over and winner throws the ball at them.
Way off topic...
Sorry OP.0 -
rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.Post edited by PJ_Soul onWith all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata0 -
PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
Monkey Driven, Call this Living?0 -
rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
Post edited by PJ_Soul onWith all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata0 -
PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
is depression a choice? no. no mental illness is. but how you react to it, ultimately, is. getting out of bed. getting help. living. it can be incredibly difficult (as seen in my sick accrual at work), but it IS ultimately a choice.By The Time They Figure Out What Went Wrong, We'll Be Sitting On A Beach, Earning Twenty Percent.0 -
HughFreakingDillon said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
is depression a choice? no. no mental illness is. but how you react to it, ultimately, is. getting out of bed. getting help. living. it can be incredibly difficult (as seen in my sick accrual at work), but it IS ultimately a choice.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata0 -
PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
I cut my BMI from obese to healthy, and have regular bouts with eating disorder, but I don't understand the issue because I'm not apologetic enough on a web forum.
I've stopped my mother AND brother in the midst of suicide attempts, but I don't understand mental illness because I repeat their own words, on a web forum.Post edited by rgambs onMonkey Driven, Call this Living?0 -
PJ_Soul said:HughFreakingDillon said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
is depression a choice? no. no mental illness is. but how you react to it, ultimately, is. getting out of bed. getting help. living. it can be incredibly difficult (as seen in my sick accrual at work), but it IS ultimately a choice.
depression makes it FUCKING DIFFICULT to a point where you sometimes feel like it is physically difficult to move. But you can move. depression isn't physically making it so you can't get out of bed. as much as it feels like it. seriously, I once sat on my couch for 8 hours without moving. Because I literally felt like I couldn't. but I could. once I made the choice to do so, in rgambs terms, "sucking it up". I know what you mean about that term seemingly being offensive to people with mental illness, I just happen to know how he speaks, so it's not offensive to me in this context.By The Time They Figure Out What Went Wrong, We'll Be Sitting On A Beach, Earning Twenty Percent.0 -
rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
I cut my BMI from obese to healthy, and have regular bouts with eating disorder, but I don't understand the issue because I'm not apologetic enough on a web forum.
I've stopped my mother AND brother in the midst of suicide attempts, but I don't understand mental illness because I repeat their own words, on a web forum.Dude. I like you, but that is a scumbag-ish thing to say, because I have lived it myself (mental illness), and that is where I'm coming from.Also, I did say what I'm saying doesn't apply to everyone. I said that for some it is indeed just about will power when it comes to weight loss.Post edited by PJ_Soul onWith all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata0 -
HughFreakingDillon said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
is depression a choice? no. no mental illness is. but how you react to it, ultimately, is. getting out of bed. getting help. living. it can be incredibly difficult (as seen in my sick accrual at work), but it IS ultimately a choice.Monkey Driven, Call this Living?0 -
rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
I have a brother that passed away way to young because of alcohol, he went into rehab 4 times and tried AA ... none worked because of that outdated 12 step programs that sheeple's in the world continue to endorse.
I myself have battled anxiety and depression ... I sucked it up for 20 years or more before I sought professional help, in my case, I waited too long and it cost me my marriage. By the way, I treat my anxiety and depression with Cannabis, in which, you're ignorant opinion discounts the actual medicinal uses of Cannabis. Oh yeah. Cannabis does not leave suicidal thoughts like many of those other anti-depressant meds do. Here is how I look at mental illness, if people like Robbin Williams and Chris Cornell can die from suicide because of mental illness, then anyone can. Those 2 and more who die from suicide that has the financial means that they do, still see no other way, they can afford the best treatment...most people just pop pills that the family dr. prescribes.Give Peas A Chance…0 -
HughFreakingDillon said:PJ_Soul said:HughFreakingDillon said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
is depression a choice? no. no mental illness is. but how you react to it, ultimately, is. getting out of bed. getting help. living. it can be incredibly difficult (as seen in my sick accrual at work), but it IS ultimately a choice.
depression makes it FUCKING DIFFICULT to a point where you sometimes feel like it is physically difficult to move. But you can move. depression isn't physically making it so you can't get out of bed. as much as it feels like it. seriously, I once sat on my couch for 8 hours without moving. Because I literally felt like I couldn't. but I could. once I made the choice to do so, in rgambs terms, "sucking it up". I know what you mean about that term seemingly being offensive to people with mental illness, I just happen to know how he speaks, so it's not offensive to me in this context.
This seems like the same thing to me.
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tempo_n_groove said:HughFreakingDillon said:PJ_Soul said:HughFreakingDillon said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:PJ_Soul said:rgambs said:what dreams said:Smellyman, how about reading the article? It's FULL of science, made especially for people like you. Good grief.
It mentions one outdated study and the author uses his personal opinion to extrapolate irresponsibly.
Diets absolutely do work! All of them!
The problem is people, people don't work diets. The reason isn't biological and it isn't immutable, it's simple willpower.
If metabolic rate really responded so vigorously, and had such a profound effect, then people who lose weight and keep it off would be medical anomalies. They aren't.
Fat shaming isn't cool, and I'm sorry your doctors weren't very kind, but food addiction is serious and pretending it doesn't exist won't make it go away.
I say this with confidence as a serious food addict who suffers periods of bulimia in my battle with sugar.For sure, it absolutely is not just "simple willpower" for some people, and it's harmful to the entire problem to go around insisting that it is.For some, that is what it's about, yes, and they know it themselves better than anyone, so I don't know why in the fuck others feel the need to remind them. I think those people are just being mean assholes. But for others, no way - it's far more powerful than that. Anyone who rejects this must be lacking empathy or something, I don't know. It's equivalent to people saying "just suck it up" to those who suffer from depression or an anxiety disorder. It's hurtful and ignorant.
It might be hurtful for some to hear, but people do need to suck it up when it comes to depression, anxiety, obesity, addiction and every other fucking problem. Some people have an incredibly hard row to hoe, and I do empathize with that, but everyone I've known in life that had to hoe one of those rows did so by sucking it the fuck up. That's how you get out of the bed in the morning and keep on living. Nearly everyone is sucking it up nearly all the time in one way or the other, to some degree. Some have it easy, some have it hard. Unfortunately for them, the hard cases just have to suck up a shit ton more.
You talk of empathy, but you really mean sympathy. When I broke down and ate a Taco Bell 5$Box and a 5th Avenue for lunch today, I did so with cognisant empathy for the struggles of obese people, knowing how hard it is to make the right choice when faced with an obviously wrong, but attractive choice.
Addicts know they are addicted and know what choices they should be making, acknowledging that isn't a lack of empathy, and pretending otherwise isn't empathy. It isn't even sympathy, it's dishonest pity.
is depression a choice? no. no mental illness is. but how you react to it, ultimately, is. getting out of bed. getting help. living. it can be incredibly difficult (as seen in my sick accrual at work), but it IS ultimately a choice.
depression makes it FUCKING DIFFICULT to a point where you sometimes feel like it is physically difficult to move. But you can move. depression isn't physically making it so you can't get out of bed. as much as it feels like it. seriously, I once sat on my couch for 8 hours without moving. Because I literally felt like I couldn't. but I could. once I made the choice to do so, in rgambs terms, "sucking it up". I know what you mean about that term seemingly being offensive to people with mental illness, I just happen to know how he speaks, so it's not offensive to me in this context.
This seems like the same thing to me.
Is it?
look, I once misunderstood how gambs speaks on here. once i realized he just speaks in a very frank and matter of fact matter, I understood his language a lot better to not be offensive. Just direct.Post edited by HughFreakingDillon onBy The Time They Figure Out What Went Wrong, We'll Be Sitting On A Beach, Earning Twenty Percent.0
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