Need some advice regarding a friendship that's gone sour

PJ_Soul said:

Thoughts_Arrive said:

There were also two instances where she asked what I've been up to and I've said that I caught up with a friend and she replied "you have friends?". I didn't know what to make of it as she'd give me free coffee and food and we'd chat normally about university and life. Maybe she just has a strange way of joking around? But if someone says something to imply their surprise that I do not have friends kind of gets me down.

Good lord. I don't agree with rgambs' interpretation of that comment, at least not when combined with the other crap. But really, teasing with that or not (I think it was more passive aggressive than any sign of affection), just the stuff with the boyfriend and stuff is more than enough to cut her loose. And btw, if you have an inkling that she's acting like this because she has romantic feelings for  you... I would say it doesn't matter. She sounds like she would be a nightmare in any romantic context. Just look how she's treating her current so-called BF.
Seriously, I know that you kind of struggle with things like this, and I get that, but I really think you way overanalyze this stuff, and are also WAY too forgiving of bad behaviour. I mean, she said that and you "didn't know what to make of it"? It's simple - she is a complete weirdo who has absolutely no consideration for you and your feelings. Even if that is her idea of joking around, that and screwing with you about her relationship... she's nuts. That is not normal behaviour. She's fucking with you, plain and simple. I know it's hard to understand people who are like that, but there are plenty of them out there. They are not mysteries wrapped in riddled. They're not something for you to "figure out". They are not complicated souls for this kind of thing. They are just narcissistic, unstable people who aren't worth having around. I really hope you finally learn this lesson: If someone is making you feel bad or down or confused by their bizarre behaviour, they are not people you should consider keeping as friends.

PJ_Soul said:

I work at a university. You wouldn't get in trouble. She would. There isn't a rule about sharing your essays with other people. Only one about using someone else's essay and claiming it as your own. Unless you sold it to her, you have nothing to worry about.

vduboise said:

I would step away and leave them alone. One time prank, I get but repeated and leaving you confused- just shows a level of stupidity. And her putting her boyfriend down- is just a sign to move on. Yeah, its hard to make friends, but there are better people out there. Some friends stay with you and others come in and out your life. This one sounds like an out.

vduboise said:

After a certain age, well for me anyway, you want a level of honesty with your friends. And I get jokes, but this sounds annoying and her responses the same. I say just let it die out. If they contact you, make a choice to respond or not, but I wouldn't reach out anymore.