Your top ten essential skills.
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Knowing how to please the ladies.
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haha thanks, Brian...brianlux said:
Like a Pachincko machine- I love it! :rofl:PJSiren said:These are in no particular order, as my mind doesn't work that way...it's like a Pachinko machine in there...
1. How to express myself (with words)in a way that people can understand and respect.
2. Art/Writing...because if I can't express myself creatively, I'd explode.
3. How to grocery shop for healthy foods and cook what I buy...even though I don't like cooking.
4. Listening skills, because sometimes people just need someone to listen.
5. People skills, I'm good at communicating with people and helping them, I think this is important for everyone.
6. Technical Skills(as in technology)...the more you know makes it easier for you to get a job...
7. Managing money...I admit I struggle with this one.
8. How to drive...because sometimes you just need an open road and some air.
9. The ability to take the hits and keep on rolling.(sometimes I struggle here too, especially being Bipolar).
10. To recognize when a relationship is toxic for me and get out...
Music is my Religion and Pearl Jam, my Savior!
Tattooed Dissident!0 -
You bet, PJS! Best line I heard all week. Tickled my funny side big time!PJSiren said:
haha thanks, Brian...brianlux said:
Like a Pachincko machine- I love it! :rofl:PJSiren said:These are in no particular order, as my mind doesn't work that way...it's like a Pachinko machine in there...
1. How to express myself (with words)in a way that people can understand and respect.
2. Art/Writing...because if I can't express myself creatively, I'd explode.
3. How to grocery shop for healthy foods and cook what I buy...even though I don't like cooking.
4. Listening skills, because sometimes people just need someone to listen.
5. People skills, I'm good at communicating with people and helping them, I think this is important for everyone.
6. Technical Skills(as in technology)...the more you know makes it easier for you to get a job...
7. Managing money...I admit I struggle with this one.
8. How to drive...because sometimes you just need an open road and some air.
9. The ability to take the hits and keep on rolling.(sometimes I struggle here too, especially being Bipolar).
10. To recognize when a relationship is toxic for me and get out...
"It's a sad and beautiful world"-Roberto Benigni0 -
awww, glad I could make you laugh...brianlux said:
You bet, PJS! Best line I heard all week. Tickled my funny side big time!PJSiren said:
haha thanks, Brian...brianlux said:
Like a Pachincko machine- I love it! :rofl:PJSiren said:These are in no particular order, as my mind doesn't work that way...it's like a Pachinko machine in there...
1. How to express myself (with words)in a way that people can understand and respect.
2. Art/Writing...because if I can't express myself creatively, I'd explode.
3. How to grocery shop for healthy foods and cook what I buy...even though I don't like cooking.
4. Listening skills, because sometimes people just need someone to listen.
5. People skills, I'm good at communicating with people and helping them, I think this is important for everyone.
6. Technical Skills(as in technology)...the more you know makes it easier for you to get a job...
7. Managing money...I admit I struggle with this one.
8. How to drive...because sometimes you just need an open road and some air.
9. The ability to take the hits and keep on rolling.(sometimes I struggle here too, especially being Bipolar).
10. To recognize when a relationship is toxic for me and get out...
Music is my Religion and Pearl Jam, my Savior!
Tattooed Dissident!0 -
I have a friend...she's 32 with 3 kids. And completely helpless. She has very few, if any, life skills (that I've seen). In my eyes, she is a child...completely dependent on others and no coping or basic survival skills. Her parents and other family have abandoned her. I may not be family, but I believe "it takes a village...". So yes, I will be inviting them for dinner all the time and watching closely for other needs. No way in hell will I let those little girls (3, 4, 6) suffer. As for their mom, she's a mess. But then again, so am I. So are many of my friends and acquaintances. So instead of judging and washing my hands of her, I make myself available, I watch to make sure the girls are safe and happy and have their needs met, As do our neighbors. It is so rare to find such caring people. Rare, indeed.
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Man, I am not heartless but pretty sure I'm a selfish personRogueStoner said:I have a friend...she's 32 with 3 kids. And completely helpless. She has very few, if any, life skills (that I've seen). In my eyes, she is a child...completely dependent on others and no coping or basic survival skills. Her parents and other family have abandoned her. I may not be family, but I believe "it takes a village...". So yes, I will be inviting them for dinner all the time and watching closely for other needs. No way in hell will I let those little girls (3, 4, 6) suffer. As for their mom, she's a mess. But then again, so am I. So are many of my friends and acquaintances. So instead of judging and washing my hands of her, I make myself available, I watch to make sure the girls are safe and happy and have their needs met, As do our neighbors. It is so rare to find such caring people. Rare, indeed.
I simply don't have what it takes to take on part of someone else's parental role, responsibilities...and I admit that I do judge, within reason. I have to. It's a necessity in navigating life - self-preservation, I suppose. An essential skill too, perhaps.
Hell knows I have been and continue to be judged.
It's never too late to acquire skills, especially those paramount to keeping yourself (oneself) in check so you can truly parent.
As to being a mess, who isn't, in some way 0 -
I'm with you there, I'm a relatively judgemental person by nature, arrogant too.hedonist said:
Man, I am not heartless but pretty sure I'm a selfish personRogueStoner said:I have a friend...she's 32 with 3 kids. And completely helpless. She has very few, if any, life skills (that I've seen). In my eyes, she is a child...completely dependent on others and no coping or basic survival skills. Her parents and other family have abandoned her. I may not be family, but I believe "it takes a village...". So yes, I will be inviting them for dinner all the time and watching closely for other needs. No way in hell will I let those little girls (3, 4, 6) suffer. As for their mom, she's a mess. But then again, so am I. So are many of my friends and acquaintances. So instead of judging and washing my hands of her, I make myself available, I watch to make sure the girls are safe and happy and have their needs met, As do our neighbors. It is so rare to find such caring people. Rare, indeed. I simply don't have what it takes to take on part of someone else's parental role, responsibilities...and I admit that I do judge, within reason. I have to. It's a necessity in navigating life - self-preservation, I suppose. An essential skill too, perhaps.
Hell knows I have been and continue to be judged.
It's never too late to acquire skills, especially those paramount to keeping yourself (oneself) in check so you can truly parent.
As to being a mess, who isn't, in some way
I tend to think my approach is the correct one, and everyone else is a fool lol
Fortunately, my nature allows me to give ZERO fucks if other people feel the same way about me!Monkey Driven, Call this Living?0 -
I try to help others lacking in basic living skills on a personal level where and when I can yet maintain boundaries (which includes knowing my limits and not getting sucked into something I can't do anything about anyway) as well. In the past I have helped take care of a few family and extended family kids part-time and occasionally for a few hours here and there now (like just last night taking two step-grandchildren for a picnic yesterday) but I know my limits- I can't take it all on.
And then there's the near hopeless cases. When I worked in human services, the prof I worked with referred to clients who are hard core addicts or people who have almost zero chance of getting emotionally healthy as "bottomless pits". She once said, "If you give up most of your free time, your money, your own family and your job you might, might, make a dent in someone who is a bottomless pit." Those seemed like harsh words to me because at the time that's basically what I was trying to do for a friend who admitted she wanted to drink herself to death. I did everything I could for her and yet she did, indeed, drink herself to death. Boundaries are a tough one, but I think an important part of knowing how far you can go in helping others who are greatly lacking in basic emotional and/or survival skills.
"It's a sad and beautiful world"-Roberto Benigni0 -
Wherever I can get insulin. Cos' without it, I'm dead in a few days.
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