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  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    njnancy said:

    northerndragon said:

    njnancy said:

    Finally told my son not to contact me anymore, and by text since he doesn't answer my calls - hurts like hell and he's oblivious to some of the damage that's been inflected, but I can't deal with the inconsistency and disrespect - I'm tired and sad and lost. I don't know where to go from here. And the worst part is a large part of me wants him to get the message and just be the son he was. But he's 19 and he won't get it for a long time. I'm so sad. Been sad for years - need to put me first but don't know how.

    :hug: it is hard to back away from someone you love like that but you are right to do it until that person can treat you properly. You will figure out the path to putting yourself first one step at a time. You will try things and they will work or they won't, just keep moving forward with the things that work. It's an ever changing evolution. I wish you the best of luck! :)
    Thank you. I wish it wasn't this way, but it is. I have to learn to take care of me with as much energy as I did as a mother.
    Beautiful thoughts ND. Sending healing vibes your way NJN.

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  • njnancy
    njnancy Posts: 5,096
    Fifthelement said:

    njnancy said:

    northerndragon said:

    njnancy said:

    Finally told my son not to contact me anymore, and by text since he doesn't answer my calls - hurts like hell and he's oblivious to some of the damage that's been inflected, but I can't deal with the inconsistency and disrespect - I'm tired and sad and lost. I don't know where to go from here. And the worst part is a large part of me wants him to get the message and just be the son he was. But he's 19 and he won't get it for a long time. I'm so sad. Been sad for years - need to put me first but don't know how.

    :hug: it is hard to back away from someone you love like that but you are right to do it until that person can treat you properly. You will figure out the path to putting yourself first one step at a time. You will try things and they will work or they won't, just keep moving forward with the things that work. It's an ever changing evolution. I wish you the best of luck! :)
    Thank you. I wish it wasn't this way, but it is. I have to learn to take care of me with as much energy as I did as a mother.
    Beautiful thoughts ND. Sending healing vibes your way NJN.

    Thanks FE. And they were beautiful thoughts, ND.
  • JWPearl
    JWPearl Posts: 19,893
    Thats the whole point, to eat our favorite things under a good roof with love and good health.. as we understand it..
    this is what we observed from a young age.. right..well bless you..
  • DesirePJ
    DesirePJ Denmark Posts: 94
    Wondering why its so expensive to send something from USA to Denmark, and on top of that have to pay costoms in denmark , a poster cost $35 in PJ store, by the time it comes to denmark i end up paying $70 for it... its just stupid.
    Roskilde 1992
    Roskilde 2000
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,706
    edited October 2016
    njnancy said:

    Finally told my son not to contact me anymore, and by text since he doesn't answer my calls - hurts like hell and he's oblivious to some of the damage that's been inflected, but I can't deal with the inconsistency and disrespect - I'm tired and sad and lost. I don't know where to go from here. And the worst part is a large part of me wants him to get the message and just be the son he was. But he's 19 and he won't get it for a long time. I'm so sad. Been sad for years - need to put me first but don't know how.

    I'm really sorry to hear that Nancy, I imagine that's really painful for you as a parent. Hopefully time will mend things a bit. He is so young still - there is still so much time for him to grow and change and make some realizations about himself and his relationship with you. Meanwhile, great idea to focus on yourself and try to find how to be happy separate from him (for now), and perhaps he can take that time to focus on himself too.
    Post edited by PJ_Soul on
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • njnancy
    njnancy Posts: 5,096
    PJ_Soul said:

    njnancy said:

    Finally told my son not to contact me anymore, and by text since he doesn't answer my calls - hurts like hell and he's oblivious to some of the damage that's been inflected, but I can't deal with the inconsistency and disrespect - I'm tired and sad and lost. I don't know where to go from here. And the worst part is a large part of me wants him to get the message and just be the son he was. But he's 19 and he won't get it for a long time. I'm so sad. Been sad for years - need to put me first but don't know how.

    I'm really sorry to hear that Nancy, I imagine that's really painful for you as a parent. Hopefully time will mend things a bit. He is so young still - there is still so much time for him to grow and change and make some realizations about himself and his relationship with you. Meanwhile, great idea to focus on yourself and try to find how to be happy separate from him (for now), and perhaps he can take that time to focus on himself too.
    Yes it is, and he sent me several texts this morning while at class. All the right words and I'm sure he means them, but again no follow through. I didn't respond, that's a small victory. I hate this though. Thanks PJ.
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    Good thoughts to you, Nancy. No one can say your son has a mother who doesn't care. Be well.
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,725
    next friday
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • g under p
    g under p Surfing The far side of THE Sombrero Galaxy Posts: 18,237
    Hurricane Matthew heading our way in Palm Beach and worst I'm 2 miles from the ocean. Yikes, time for me to get some extra food water and batteries.

    Peace
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  • SD48277
    SD48277 Posts: 12,243
    g under p said:

    Hurricane Matthew heading our way in Palm Beach and worst I'm 2 miles from the ocean. Yikes, time for me to get some extra food water and batteries.

    Peace

    Be safe.
    ELITIST FUK
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    SD48277 said:

    g under p said:

    Hurricane Matthew heading our way in Palm Beach and worst I'm 2 miles from the ocean. Yikes, time for me to get some extra food water and batteries.

    Peace

    Be safe.
    x2.
  • njnancy
    njnancy Posts: 5,096
    hedonist said:

    SD48277 said:

    g under p said:

    Hurricane Matthew heading our way in Palm Beach and worst I'm 2 miles from the ocean. Yikes, time for me to get some extra food water and batteries.

    Peace

    Be safe.
    x2.
    Aren't you under evacuation? Please be safex3
  • Annafalk
    Annafalk Sweden Posts: 4,004
    g under p said:

    Hurricane Matthew heading our way in Palm Beach and worst I'm 2 miles from the ocean. Yikes, time for me to get some extra food water and batteries.

    Peace

    Do what you can do for maximum safety.
  • jnimhaoileoin
    jnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    What sentences are given for vehicular manslaughter in your country?

    I have often been disgusted by the ridiculously lenient sentences given for this crime. How is killing someone when driving drunk or recklessly any different to killing them in any other non premeditated way? Is the person any less dead or are their loved ones lives any less destroyed?
  • JWPearl
    JWPearl Posts: 19,893
    edited October 2016
    Lamedh; psalms 34;11...
  • vogonpoetbythelake
    vogonpoetbythelake Posts: 2,146
    if there is no intent...accidents do happen with too much alcohol or twinkie treats..blood sugar unaccounted for etc..punishment is relative to each...their own private hell or idaho...dont want to diminish the pain or suffering of those left behind have to cope with... forgiveness is the role that bends the rule...tough row ro hoe no matter the farm...so sorry for the loss...
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,725
    the north east
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,725
    that new update at adroid sucks
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • jnimhaoileoin
    jnimhaoileoin Baile Átha Cliath Posts: 2,682
    Trying to talk myself into forking out for a really nice gym. It's very expensive but having had a free trial, now I don't think anywhere else would satisfy me!
  • deadendp
    deadendp Northeast Ohio Posts: 10,434
    jnimhaoileoin said:

    Trying to talk myself into forking out for a really nice gym. It's very expensive but having had a free trial, now I don't think anywhere else would satisfy me!

    Then go for it!
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    2016: Lexington and Wrigley 1

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