what's on your mind, right now?

oftenreading said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

SD48277 said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Just realised it's a month today til my 30th birthday, a thought which I find utterly depressing

Oh, no! Don't be depressed. You are awesome. Don't let the age thing get to you.

I guess life just hasn't turned out as I'd have hoped. Hitting 30 is just a reminder of everything I've failed at and how little there is to celebrate. I'm not a big fan of birthdays and I hate how I envy others whose birthdays are confirmation of all the great things and people in their lives. That envy is fairly corrosive and is probably the aspect of my personality I'm most ashamed of

I'm just a ray of sunshine amn't I?

30? You've barely started, Jenny! Life never turns out the way we hoped, and all those people who seem to be accomplished have their own areas of life that they aren't satisfied with (or are downright miserable about). You have some great accomplishments - wasn't it just a few months ago you were deciding between a promotion and a Fulbright Scholarship? You rock, Jenny. Your thirties might be your best decade.

Ah you're very kind Hopefully you're right, I know feeling sorry for myself certainly won't help anyway!

jnimhaoileoin said:

Just realised it's a month today til my 30th birthday, a thought which I find utterly depressing

It's only 5 months til my 40th, so screw you.

PJ_Soul said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Just realised it's a month today til my 30th birthday, a thought which I find utterly depressing

It's only 5 months til my 40th, so screw you.

I was wicked depressed for my 40th....but I was super stoked for my 50th!
I know now WHY my 40th was hard and once I came to terms with things life got exciting and beautiful again.

BTW, yes it gets better :-)

SD48277 said:

FrankieG said:

I need christmas present ideas, but all i have done so far is procrastinate on here...

I'll make it easy for you, Frankie, you can just get me tickets for Pearl Jam in Philly this spring.

I told my mom this for me and she said they didn't announce the tour early enough because she is already got everything

northerndragon said:

My 40th is in 5 months and I couldn't be more stoked. The best thing you can do is stop placing commitments or boundaries on yourself(ie. I should have this by this age or I can't do this at this age). Life happens at its own pace, enjoy the ride.

Good advice. Age shouldn't dictate how you live.

northerndragon said:

My 40th is in 5 months and I couldn't be more stoked. The best thing you can do is stop placing commitments or boundaries on yourself(ie. I should have this by this age or I can't do this at this age). Life happens at its own pace, enjoy the ride.

It's not the number, it's the fucking grey hairs I'm starting to get, lol! I do not like the physical aspect of aging. It SUUUUUCKS!!!! All the rest is great. But the fact that our bodies start to wear down while our minds don't (hopefully) is kind of a hard fact for me to accept. I'm not there yet, but from what I've gleaned from older people who are willing to share their honest thought about it, the incongruency between mind and body gets more and more pronounced until you get to the point where you look in the mirror and can barely even reconcile who you are in your head and that old lady in the mirror. I'm not going mental over it or anything, but I really can't stand that it happens to us. It's not fair, dammit, lol.
I definitely don't let my age or social expectations of behaviour based on age dictate my actions though. That never even occurred to me!

PJ_Soul said:

northerndragon said:

My 40th is in 5 months and I couldn't be more stoked. The best thing you can do is stop placing commitments or boundaries on yourself(ie. I should have this by this age or I can't do this at this age). Life happens at its own pace, enjoy the ride.

It's not the number, it's the fucking grey hairs I'm starting to get, lol! I do not like the physical aspect of aging. It SUUUUUCKS!!!! All the rest is great. But the fact that our bodies start to wear down while our minds don't (hopefully) is kind of a hard fact for me to accept. I'm not there yet, but from what I've gleaned from older people who are willing to share their honest thought about it, the incongruency between mind and body gets more and more pronounced until you get to the point where you look in the mirror and can barely even reconcile who you are in your head and that old lady in the mirror. I'm not going mental over it or anything, but I really can't stand that it happens to us. It's not fair, dammit, lol.
I definitely don't let my age or social expectations of behaviour based on age dictate my actions though. That never even occurred to me!

Kegels man. Don't sleep on those.

My dad still isn't grey except around the temples and he's 75. That I'm already starting to see a few appear at almost 40 makes me feel genetically ripped off, haha. But yes, apologies, I know even so, I'm blessed in the grey hair department compared to many!