what's on your mind, right now?

I am so sorry for you loss, Bigrfish. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

Thx guys...I know the cliche about dads being heros...but mine was..just a very solid force in my life...not complicated....just a good man..He's what I've always strived to be for my kids..I will miss him

Bigrfish said:

Sad to hear about loss...I guess we all have to expect tough times at some point. Again.. PJ music and PJ people are there to lean on.I just lost my dad yesterday..and only a few short months ago my mom...They were a pair those two..it wasn't a huge surprise with my dad...His love for life died with my mom..54 years together..hard for anyone to want to keep on going I guess.It's really hard to lose the two people you depended on for so long. I take solace in knowing my kids got to spend a lot of quality time with them and how much it meant to my folks.
They are at peace and together again.
Peace out people and thx for listening
Trying to keep it together....Just Breathe

I'm so very sorry.

Bigrfish said:

Sad to hear about loss...I guess we all have to expect tough times at some point. Again.. PJ music and PJ people are there to lean on.I just lost my dad yesterday..and only a few short months ago my mom...They were a pair those two..it wasn't a huge surprise with my dad...His love for life died with my mom..54 years together..hard for anyone to want to keep on going I guess.It's really hard to lose the two people you depended on for so long. I take solace in knowing my kids got to spend a lot of quality time with them and how much it meant to my folks.
They are at peace and together again.
Peace out people and thx for listening
Trying to keep it together....Just Breathe

Bigrfish said:

This place has helped me grieve,and talk. away from everything else...so again..Thank you

I am so very sorry for your loss. I can empathize with a lot of what you said. I lost my father 2.5 years ago, a hero of mine, and this community helped me greatly. I still look back at PM's and threads from then. It continues to help. Again, I am so sorry.

Sorry for your loss Bigfish..

The banks are open again..ok then, let's go back to our beds..

I've just found out that the abusive e-mail I received over two years ago actually came from a real person and was not, as I had foolishly hoped, a highly sophisticated virus.

I cannot talk about this publicly or on facebook so I'll do it here if nobody minds.

The day I received the e-mail I shared a photograph on facebook from the 'National Suicide Prevention Week 2013' page, a beautiful quote from Stephen Fry regarding depression.

That night I received an e-mail, supposedly from 'John Woods' though that is undoubtedly a false name. The e-mail read

'What a 2 faced bitch talking about depression may it HAUNT you for the rest of your life .'

That was all, it was not even signed.

I struggled to think of anyone in my life who would send something like that to my personal e-mail address and eventually I decided I was best to just forget about it and go with the idea that it was some sort of mad virus triggered by me sharing the facebook post (yes I know, a bit of a leap but would you want to believe someone you know sent you that?)

Then today, that name actually did come back to haunt me. I'm a member of a committee responsible for running badminton in Leinster (a province here in Ireland). Today 'John Woods' e-mailed myself and the other committee members to complain about members of one of our sub-committees. Again, it appears other e-mails have been sent to these members which have also been abusive and the gardaí (Irish police) have been informed but were unable to trace the e-mail address.

To find out this person is real and involved in the badminton community is more than a little scary and my hands were bloody shaking as I read today's e-mails with disbelief. We have an executive meeting tonight and I've had to tell them I also received an e-mail from him two years ago. I'm not at all comfortable at the thought of having to share it with them but I don't think I have a choice

Sorry for the lengthy post, I just can't talk to anybody about it right now (as Exec matters are confidential) and I'm seriously rattled

I felt like the above comment needed to stand on its own.

I'm ticked that money I gave for a memorial donation last week was stolen. I got a text from a friend asking if I gave money to her mom last week. (They had a memorial for her dad just last Wednesday.) She knew that she could ask and I wouldn't be offended. I told her that I had given towards the food cupboard, as requested, by check, included in a card that I wrote out to her and family. Her nephew stole money donated in his grandfather's name to support the church food pantry. Now I have to keep an eye out to see if the check gets cashed, despite it having been written out to the church with the memo line specifically stating that it was to be put aside for the food pantry in Frank's name. (There are apparently some "groceries" around here that will cash checks for people despite them not being their check.) The police department is on it and Kim told me just to hang tight and let her know if anything happens. Who the hell steals money collected at a memorial to be put aside to feed hungry people? (I know it happens all the time, but I don't get it.)

Jenny, Print out that email from 2 years ago and bring it with you. You don't have to show anyone initially, but its good to have the evidence if needed.

I'm sorry this happened, it's definitely worth sharing, even if its a hard thing to do!



Deadendp, I'm pretty sure you can contact your bank and put a stop payment on that check so that it cannot be cashed even if they tried to.

deadendp said:

I felt like the above comment needed to stand on its own.

I'm ticked that money I gave for a memorial donation last week was stolen. I got a text from a friend asking if I gave money to her mom last week. (They had a memorial for her dad just last Wednesday.) She knew that she could ask and I wouldn't be offended. I told her that I had given towards the food cupboard, as requested, by check, included in a card that I wrote out to her and family. Her nephew stole money donated in his grandfather's name to support the church food pantry. Now I have to keep an eye out to see if the check gets cashed, despite it having been written out to the church with the memo line specifically stating that it was to be put aside for the food pantry in Frank's name. (There are apparently some "groceries" around here that will cash checks for people despite them not being their check.) The police department is on it and Kim told me just to hang tight and let her know if anything happens. Who the hell steals money collected at a memorial to be put aside to feed hungry people? (I know it happens all the time, but I don't get it.)

Very sad that your nephew would do that, I take it he has stolen before for you to be so sure it was him? Banks shouldn't accept cheques from anyone other than the payee, then shops wouldn't take them as they'd know they couldn't cash them