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  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    HughFreakingDillon said:

    lost

    They gave you your name back how cool!
  • justam
    justam Posts: 21,415
    A lot of scattered bits occupy my mind:
    hopes for tomorrow,
    gratitude for the good moments today,
    and wonders about too much to mention!
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  • PJSiren
    PJSiren Salem, OR Posts: 5,863
    How to shrink the middle of the US down and move Virginia closer to Oregon... *le sigh* I miss my best friend....
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  • samjam
    samjam New York Posts: 9,283
    Thanks jenny and ident :)

    Life's just very daunting at this point in time. I am in a totally, completely different place right now than I thought I'd be at this point--in some truly wonderful ways, and in some that trouble me, and make my head spin. I'm sure some clarity will come with time. I've just never been good at the unknown, but excellent at worrying.
    "Sometimes you find yourself having to put all your faith in no faith."
    ~not a dude~
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  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    samjam said:

    Thanks jenny and ident :)

    Life's just very daunting at this point in time. I am in a totally, completely different place right now than I thought I'd be at this point--in some truly wonderful ways, and in some that trouble me, and make my head spin. I'm sure some clarity will come with time. I've just never been good at the unknown, but excellent at worrying.

    Sam, not sure if this will help or not but just keep telling yourself, you still have at least another 60 years before you should worry about if you made the right choices. When I was in my 20s, I worried about trying to be responsible, getting a career in order, making sure I didn't screw up. But Jenny and ident are right, you're young now, you don't have a whole lot of responsibility...enjoy your carefree life right now, have fun, be daring, be adventurous, take life as it comes. Don't be afraid of making dumb mistakes, it's okay to worry, but there are so much more bigger things to worry about later in life. You can always start squirreling away some 'mad money' if it helps bring you some piece of mind.

    Life is an adventure, if you knew what was coming (like the end of a good book), then it would be boring.
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • oftenreading
    oftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,856
    I am more than double 22 years, and my life is nothing like what I thought it would be at 22.

    I have a different career than I had imagined. I have a daughter when I had not imagined having kids. I lived for four years in Europe and that possibility hadn't even occurred to me at 22!

    There is plenty more to come, samjam (and jenny)! Granted, some of it won't be that great, but some of it will, and that's par for the course.
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • samjam
    samjam New York Posts: 9,283
    You guys are great (and much cheaper than therapy)! Thanks for the wisdom in my confusing, adolescent hour. I also have to stop comparing myself to others because I think that's making me even more crazy. (But seriously, how do so many people I know (seemingly) have their shit together?!)
    "Sometimes you find yourself having to put all your faith in no faith."
    ~not a dude~
    2010: MSGx2
    2012: Made In America
    2013: Pittsburgh, Brooklynx2, Hartford, Baltimore
    2014: Leeds, Milton Keynes, Detroit
    2015: Global Citizen Festival
    2016: Phillyx2, MSGx2, Fenwayx2
    2018: Barcelona, Wrigleyx2
  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    whispering hands said:

    HughFreakingDillon said:

    lost

    They gave you your name back how cool!
    Still different membership, but i just asked them to change it, and they did it very quickly!
    By The Time They Figure Out What Went Wrong, We'll Be Sitting On A Beach, Earning Twenty Percent.




  • oftenreading
    oftenreading Victoria, BC Posts: 12,856
    samjam said:

    You guys are great (and much cheaper than therapy)! Thanks for the wisdom in my confusing, adolescent hour. I also have to stop comparing myself to others because I think that's making me even more crazy. (But seriously, how do so many people I know (seemingly) have their shit together?!)

    They don't! They're just pretending a bit more strenuously than you are.
    my small self... like a book amongst the many on a shelf
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    PJSiren said:

    How to shrink the middle of the US down and move Virginia closer to Oregon... *le sigh* I miss my best friend....

    Yeah if we did that then I could be closer to my best friend on LA.
  • Pap
    Pap Serres, Greece Posts: 29,947
    samjam said:

    I've just never been good at the unknown, but excellent at worrying.

    This is for you Sam:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v_EX5NzqNXc

    Athens 2006 / Milton Keynes 2014 / London 1&2 2022 / Seattle 1&2 2024 / Dublin 2024 / Manchester 2024 / New Orleans 2025
  • Pap
    Pap Serres, Greece Posts: 29,947
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_IBWbpJdRMQ
    Athens 2006 / Milton Keynes 2014 / London 1&2 2022 / Seattle 1&2 2024 / Dublin 2024 / Manchester 2024 / New Orleans 2025
  • FrankieG
    FrankieG Abingdon MD Posts: 9,100
    samjam said:

    You guys are great (and much cheaper than therapy)! Thanks for the wisdom in my confusing, adolescent hour. I also have to stop comparing myself to others because I think that's making me even more crazy. (But seriously, how do so many people I know (seemingly) have their shit together?!)

    I debate this question alot too, and all I keep coming back to is "they make it up as they go along".


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  • samjam
    samjam New York Posts: 9,283
    My BS meter is at an all time low today...no time for all of today's crap. Hmph.
    "Sometimes you find yourself having to put all your faith in no faith."
    ~not a dude~
    2010: MSGx2
    2012: Made In America
    2013: Pittsburgh, Brooklynx2, Hartford, Baltimore
    2014: Leeds, Milton Keynes, Detroit
    2015: Global Citizen Festival
    2016: Phillyx2, MSGx2, Fenwayx2
    2018: Barcelona, Wrigleyx2
  • oceaninmyeyes
    oceaninmyeyes Posts: 4,646
    oftenreading said:

    samjam said:

    You guys are great (and much cheaper than therapy)! Thanks for the wisdom in my confusing, adolescent hour. I also have to stop comparing myself to others because I think that's making me even more crazy. (But seriously, how do so many people I know (seemingly) have their shit together?!)

    They don't! They're just pretending a bit more strenuously than you are.
    image
    And the sun it may be shining . . . but there's an ocean in my eyes
  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    oftenreading said:

    samjam said:

    You guys are great (and much cheaper than therapy)! Thanks for the wisdom in my confusing, adolescent hour. I also have to stop comparing myself to others because I think that's making me even more crazy. (But seriously, how do so many people I know (seemingly) have their shit together?!)

    They don't! They're just pretending a bit more strenuously than you are.
    I agree with this. And also, some people just don't get bothered by not having their shit together as much as others. some people are ok with just flying by the seat of their pants and living in chaos. and that's ok for them. but if it's not ok for you, then that's ok for you.

    I used to be ok with not knowing what the day may bring. But now, not knowing stresses me the fuck out. Which makes for a stressful life with two young kids. One with a chronic illness. I don't deal with it well. But get this: many people have told me they admire how strong I am. When my perception is that I'm weak as fuck. Think about that. You think others are strong and have their shit together, but that is your perception of their life. That is SO MUCH DIFFERENT than what is actually going on in their life and in their head.

    to sum up: you can't compare yourself to others. because you are comparing yourself to a perception that is most likely completely inaccurate.

    and not only that: you can't compare yourself to someone else as they have not had the exact same experiences as you to make you who you are, and vice versa.

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  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    HughFreakingDillon said:

    whispering hands said:

    HughFreakingDillon said:

    lost

    They gave you your name back how cool!
    Still different membership, but i just asked them to change it, and they did it very quickly!
    Sucks about losing the membership, but cool they changed the name back for you.:-) good seeing that name again. Paulonious just wasn't the same.
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    oceaninmyeyes said:

    oftenreading said:

    samjam said:

    You guys are great (and much cheaper than therapy)! Thanks for the wisdom in my confusing, adolescent hour. I also have to stop comparing myself to others because I think that's making me even more crazy. (But seriously, how do so many people I know (seemingly) have their shit together?!)

    They don't! They're just pretending a bit more strenuously than you are.
    image
    So sooooo true!
  • frozenwithsalt
    frozenwithsalt Texas Posts: 765
    Time Warner Cable - bunch of @*%$#%&()
  • frozenwithsalt
    frozenwithsalt Texas Posts: 765
    This Cinderella backlash is a bunch of bs. If one movie can influence a little girl that a boy is all she needs then something else is wrong with how she is being raised.

    I had a woman tell my 9 year old that 'she doesn't need a boy to hold a door open' when he did so for her and her daughter. WTF.

    As with every thing in life extremist are a bunch of assholes.

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