'You Deserve Rape' sign causes controversy on UA campus

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  • redrock
    redrock Posts: 18,341
    riotgrl wrote:
    Although, I'm not sure this is a growing, or new, trend but one that has been around for a very long time..


    It's nothing new riotgrl - been around from the dawn of times! But... there was a feeling that, not all too long ago, 'equality' was much more on the menu with all that entails. It seems we are going backwards again....
  • Jeanwah
    Jeanwah Posts: 6,363
    riotgrl wrote:
    Although, I'm not sure this is a growing, or new, trend but one that has been around for a very long time. Men and, surprisingly, women are now feeling free to be more vocal in their condemnation of women who are raped because they 'ask' for it. Maybe another direction for our conversation is to discuss WHY people are (if they are, in fact) feeling freer to condemn women. Wasn't there another thread that discussed the republican war on women? Maybe that 'war', although I know some here think that it was overblown, is giving some in the general public license to wage another war on women.

    Yeah, I noticed that connection as well, not with the thread, but the fact that republicans do have a war against women. And that war certainly will not teach men to respect the opposite sex. It's like we're retreating to the Dark Ages, when we were advancing just a short time ago.
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    Empowering women is now condemning women :?

    I guess I'll have to quote that one at the next gathering...
    unbelievable. Glad I am working with women who are ready to bring change,
    otherwise it would be hard to have any hope at all....
    cause we see how the old attitudes have helped so much. :fp:
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    Jeanwah wrote:
    Tips for All

    1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
    2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
    3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
    4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
    5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
    6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
    7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
    8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
    9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
    10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
    11. And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are committing a crime- no matter how “into it” others appear to be.

    http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dq6j2XC47O4/T ... 9403_o.jpg
    yeah this will work :lol:
  • redrock
    redrock Posts: 18,341
    So Pandora... whilst we understand you have a different notion of 'modesty' to the more 'conventional' thought, what do you understand as 'empowerment' (which is a fantastic, current buzzword...)
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    Hugh Freaking Dillon wrote:
    pandora wrote:
    They speak of personal and private issues as though their partners were children not equals.
    Not even comprehending the embarrassment they would feel. The sad part is they
    can not even see it.

    kinda like when you spoke about your husband's private parts?
    pardon me? I don't remember this but...

    did I brag again ;) I always have permission to brag :lol: in fact the more braggin the better
    let's quote and send it to JB it will make his day for sure...
    I bet I'll get lucky too ;) oh TMI :lol:

    but no nothing like that ... that would be derogatory negative statements that I speak of.
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    hedonist wrote:
    pandora wrote:
    I think that comment is against posting rules ... :lol:
    This, from someone who regularly takes passive-aggressive digs.

    Plus an lol!

    Sweet icing on the cake.
    takes one ;)
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    pandora wrote:
    hedonist wrote:
    pandora wrote:
    I think that comment is against posting rules ... :lol:
    This, from someone who regularly takes passive-aggressive digs.

    Plus an lol!

    Sweet icing on the cake.
    takes one ;)
    Actually, no. I'm nothing like you.

    (and, I've never played the finger to the mouth "who, l'il ol' me?" card)

    I need to *poof* it again. Too early (or too late) for this nonsense.
  • BinauralJam
    BinauralJam Posts: 14,158
    Jeanwah wrote:
    Tips for All

    1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
    2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
    3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
    4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
    5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
    6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
    7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
    8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
    9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
    10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
    11. And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are committing a crime- no matter how “into it” others appear to be.

    http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dq6j2XC47O4/T ... 9403_o.jpg


    This goes against every porn movie i've ever seen. :crazy:
  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    hedonist wrote:
    pandora wrote:
    hedonist wrote:
    This, from someone who regularly takes passive-aggressive digs.

    Plus an lol!

    Sweet icing on the cake.
    takes one ;)
    Actually, no. I'm nothing like you.

    (and, I've never played the finger to the mouth "who, l'il ol' me?" card)

    I need to *poof* it again. Too early (or too late) for this nonsense.
    keep telling yourself that ;)

    yes please poof away... :lol: but be sure to not make any waves while doing it
    you might actually get wet
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    BinauralJam wrote:
    This goes against every porn movie i've ever seen. :crazy:
    Oh, I've seen the buddy system in action :mrgreen:
  • BinauralJam
    BinauralJam Posts: 14,158
    hedonist wrote:
    BinauralJam wrote:
    This goes against every porn movie i've ever seen. :crazy:
    Oh, I've seen the buddy system in action :mrgreen:


    Those Crazy Europeans
  • JonnyPistachio
    JonnyPistachio Florida Posts: 10,219
    Jeanwah wrote:
    Tips for All

    1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
    2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
    3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
    4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
    5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
    6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
    7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
    8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
    9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
    10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
    11. And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are committing a crime- no matter how “into it” others appear to be.

    http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dq6j2XC47O4/T ... 9403_o.jpg

    I know this is a serious subject, but thanks for that Jeanwah.. a good laugh.
    BinauralJam wrote:
    This goes against every porn movie i've ever seen. :crazy:
    :shock: :lol:
    Pick up my debut novel here on amazon: Jonny Bails Floatin (in paperback) (also available on Kindle for $2.99)
  • Jeanwah
    Jeanwah Posts: 6,363
    edited April 2013
    pandora wrote:
    Jeanwah wrote:
    Tips for All

    1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
    2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
    3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
    4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
    5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
    6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
    7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
    8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
    9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
    10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
    11. And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are committing a crime- no matter how “into it” others appear to be.

    http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dq6j2XC47O4/T ... 9403_o.jpg
    yeah this will work :lol:

    Wasn't meant for "men who are just going to be men".
    Post edited by Jeanwah on
  • Jeanwah
    Jeanwah Posts: 6,363
    JonnyPistachio wrote:
    Jeanwah wrote:
    Tips for All

    1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
    2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
    3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
    4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
    5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
    6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
    7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
    8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
    9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
    10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
    11. And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are committing a crime- no matter how “into it” others appear to be.

    http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dq6j2XC47O4/T ... 9403_o.jpg

    I know this is a serious subject, but thanks for that Jeanwah.. a good laugh.
    BinauralJam wrote:
    This goes against every porn movie i've ever seen. :crazy:
    :shock: :lol:

    I know it can be taken as comical... But it's not supposed to be, it's kinda written for young people, I believe.
  • JonnyPistachio
    JonnyPistachio Florida Posts: 10,219
    Jeanwah wrote:
    I know it can be taken as comical... But it's not supposed to be, it's kinda written for young people, I believe.

    I guess... but, remember NOT to assault people? If some of those are at all serious, it is sad times we live in.
    Pick up my debut novel here on amazon: Jonny Bails Floatin (in paperback) (also available on Kindle for $2.99)
  • BinauralJam
    BinauralJam Posts: 14,158
    Jeanwah wrote:
    JonnyPistachio wrote:
    Jeanwah wrote:
    Tips for All

    1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
    2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
    3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
    4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
    5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
    6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
    7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
    8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
    9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
    10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
    11. And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are committing a crime- no matter how “into it” others appear to be.

    http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dq6j2XC47O4/T ... 9403_o.jpg

    I know this is a serious subject, but thanks for that Jeanwah.. a good laugh.
    BinauralJam wrote:
    This goes against every porn movie i've ever seen. :crazy:
    :shock: :lol:

    I know it can be taken as comical... But it's not supposed to be, it's kinda written for young people, I believe.

    Most of the things i joke about are so unthinkable to me that i can only laugh at them. I can't say who taught me to respect women or Not to Rape but it always been in me, like it's innate i think is the word. Sucks there's monsters out there, but i need only watch the news to be reminded there are.
  • redrock
    redrock Posts: 18,341
    edited April 2013
    Looking at nr. 2 - a male friend of mine used to cross the street if he saw there was a woman coming towards him and the streets were deserted or it was dark. Not because he was afraid of women but because the did think they may seem threatening (he was quite big in a tall and muscly way and 'grungy' looking). I thought that was nice of him but I thought that was quite sad too...
    Post edited by redrock on
  • grooveme
    grooveme Posts: 353
    Jeanwah wrote:
    Tips for All

    1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.
    2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!
    3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!
    4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.
    5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!
    6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
    7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.
    8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.
    9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!
    10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident” you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.
    11. And, ALWAYS REMEMBER: if you didn’t ask permission and then respect the answer the first time, you are committing a crime- no matter how “into it” others appear to be.

    http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-dq6j2XC47O4/T ... 9403_o.jpg

    If everyone followed these guidelines, there would be zero rape. So easy! :)
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,759
    redrock wrote:
    No great loss to the girlfriend - betcha she's got a 'rabbit' or two that can take care of things in a very sastisfactory way - whether the team wins or loses!!!! :mrgreen:

    Also... some are posting about mothers teaching their daughters.... How about mothers AND fathers teaching their sons & daughters?
    Well I should say so. Rape is a MALE issue more than it is a female one. It should be MEN who take up this cause more seriously than anyone. The fight against rape should be led my men, directed towards men, yet this cause is practically non-existent.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata

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