Support Group for people who's spouses are NOT PJ fanatics..

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  • unlost dogs
    unlost dogs Greater Boston Posts: 12,553
    Suzi78 wrote:
    Johnny Abruzzo wrote:
    AzWicker wrote:
    My wife did listen to the RVM CD I had in the car and she told me she likes this one song, but she has no idea what the words are.

    I told her no one does.

    Potato wave...

    Make me fries...

    Pissed on my plate.
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  • Halifax2TheMax
    Halifax2TheMax Posts: 44,088
    I've asked my wife to go to every show since 2003 and she still hasn't gone to one. From Mansfield and Boston to Halifax in 2005, the Gorge in 2006 and NYC, London, Dublin and Belfast and everything in between, not a one. I have a friend who is fanatical like me so that was cool. And now I take my daughter, my son will be going along soon or I "smile on someone." If I don't have a travel and/or show partner, I walk up to someone who is looking for a ticket and give it to them. But they have to go through the gate with me so they can't scalp it. I usually look for the line of folks who are waiting for additional tickets to be released. I've also sold my extras (Ticketbastard and LiveNation only) for face value. But I prefer to "smile on someone." It leads to a good warm and fuzzy feeling and I've met some cool PJ fans along the way.

    So keep on rockin' on and enjoy the shows! I'd die without the PJ/EV/Brad/Tres Mts. experiences.

    Peace!

    PS: I suggested to the Ten Club a while back to create a ticket exchange ("smile on someone", "sell for face value only", or "donate to charity") but in light of what happened yesterday, I won't go there :oops:
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  • guacamolejoe
    guacamolejoe Posts: 2,396
    I guess you have to wear headphones :lol: . My wife enjoys most of the music I love ( :? except Hendrix ) & will go to 1 or 2 PJ shows a year with me. But after traveling by train from Nijmegen to Werchter in 07 she'll never do back to back shows again :lol: . She also doesn't mind me traveling to about 5 shows a year now. And it helps that she's a flight attendant & we get to travel for free in the US 8-) .
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  • Hugh Freaking Dillon
    Hugh Freaking Dillon Posts: 14,010
    although, she travelled to Fargo with me and also went to the Winnipeg show to see PJ, so I guess it could be worse. :D
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  • Lizard
    Lizard So Cal Posts: 12,093
    Johnny Abruzzo wrote:
    Suzi78 wrote:
    Johnny Abruzzo wrote:

    Potato wave...

    Make me fries...

    I don't wanna SLAYER!!!
    can you see dems....
    So I'll just lie down and wait for the dream
    Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me
  • DarbyCrash
    DarbyCrash Posts: 223
    I'm right there with you, my husband of 7 years has NO interest in Pearl Jam, or Eddie solo. He will go to the shows if I drag him along, but basically sits there and points and laughs when me and the people around me put our arms around eachother to sing along. He does enjoy when Ed covers Cat Stevens and Neil Young though...SOMETIMES. :roll:

    In all seriousness, he is a punk fan to the core, always has been...he can't get past the whole MTV band thing. He grew up with the Subhumans, MDC, Buzzcocks, Citizen Fish, GBH, Exploited etc. I am a that way at heart as well, which is what ultimately brought us together in the first place. It took me about 6 months to reveal my PJ obsession to him. (keep in mind, I was in my early 20's and music was #1 on my "reasons I like you" list). After the revelation, he sort of looked at me like I was insane and didn't believe me until I took him to see PJ at Alpine in 2003. It was there I let my fanatical Pearl Jam flag fly and my true colors show. Luckily he thought it was cute and loves me anyway.

    My friends are just like my husband, save for 2 of them who share my love for the band. I don't care, more for me. :D
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  • JaneNY
    JaneNY Posts: 4,438
    My husband's not into them either. He does recognize their quality though - he likes a good voice and acknowledges Ed's. So I take one or the other of my daughters when I go to shows. He likes stuff I don't like and its okay. That's how you stay married 20+ years - by giving each other some space and accepting that you don't have to be joined at the hip and have 100% the same interests all the time.
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  • ms.honeymeister
    ms.honeymeister Posts: 476
    Oh have I been waiting for a thread like this! Believe it or not 2 of the biggest arguments my husband and I have been in were regarding pearl jam... the most recent this past friday when we found out about the Eddie solo shows.

    He loves music, likes pearl jam and has gone with me to 4 shows in the past 5 years. He however said he HATES to see them live because the people that go see them are "too clicky" he feels like he's "not cool enough" like he has to prove he's worthy of going to the show. a couple months ago in our first big blowout he said he never wanted to go to another PJ show and "don't expect me to go that festival thing". I say fine, you don't enjoy it...don't go. i have several friends who i met on this exact board over 10 years ago who are my best friends in the whole world and can go to shows with. (hubby also complains about how we talk to much about pearl jam when we're together and that he feels his input doesn't matter)

    anyway... as I said... he wanted to go to NO MORE SHOWS, that is until the EV solo tour announcement. he said he'd like to go. grrrrrrreat. i mentioned to him that there are 4 of us who are fan club member that want to go and it may be really hard to get tickets for 5...but we'd try. he blew up at this point saying he "wasn't going" and he didn't want to go because he didn't want to be a fifth wheel. :evil: OMG!!!! i want to strangle him sometimes. he wants to go but hates to see them live cuz pearl jam fans are "too clicky" and ruin it for him, but gets upset with the thought of not being able to go.

    so as it turns out we got 4 tix in the 10c onsale...now we have to get another pair (cuz he doesn't want anyone sitting alone) or i'll have another argument on my hands.

    wish me luck.

    thanks for the therapy everyone.
  • jmurray
    jmurray Stratham, NH Posts: 3,538
    My wife is not a fan at all. Two nights ago I was totally :shock: to hear Black coming from her lap top in the other room. Maybe there is some hope, but she still has no interest in going to shows.
  • Poncier
    Poncier Posts: 18,574
    unlost dogs wrote:
    Suzi78 wrote:
    Johnny Abruzzo wrote:
    Potato wave...

    Make me fries...

    Pissed on my plate.
    Mona said, "I wanna leave Bennigan's".
    This weekend we rock Portland
  • Poncier
    Poncier Posts: 18,574
    Back to point, the story I told to the privleged few Sunday night before Tres Mts., back in '91, when were dating I said to my wife, who is a rock music fan, "I heard this great new band..." to which she replied before I could continue, "Its not that Alive song, is it? That song is so annoying".
    I married her several years later anyway, but she does not like PJ one iota, mainly dislikes Ed's voice. Its provided a good opportunity for some friends however to get to join me in great 10club seats since she won't go.
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  • guypjfreak
    guypjfreak Posts: 2,281
    :lol::lol: great thread i love pearl jam but my wife also tolerates my going on and on same with my kids .i lost the DISCUSSION about the new vs/Vitology re release due to money so now its the DISCUSSION about the USA festival i know ive lost it but that doesn't stop me harping on about it :lol::lol:
  • eyejacker
    eyejacker Posts: 1,282
    Right...!
    Make a good mellow playlist. Select the songs that are the easiest for a new-to-Pearl-Jam spouse to probably like.

    Then as soon as they go to sleep, press play on the stereo. Remember to use a comfortable volume level, where they won't wake up.

    Do this EVERY NIGHT! If they don't "appreciate" good music, then we'll drive it into their head subliminally!!!

    WORKS EVERY TIME, GUARANTEED :mrgreen:

    ***Disclaimer: If they wake up during the process (god forbid) I will not be held accountable for any injuries incurred!!***
    :lol::lol::lol:
  • State of Mind
    State of Mind Posts: 282
    Hi, my name is...........
    and my spouse is not a PJ fanatic.

    I actually like that my spouse is not into PJ, and he actually does not like going to live shows either because he can't handle the crowds. I usually take one of my kids or a friend and I have also sold my extra on the board here a few times and met great people that way. My hubby does like music though and plays guitar for fun. :D

    He teases me for fun. When I drive and am putting PJ on the radio he will sing along
    but he sings the misheard lyrics or makes up his own. Pretty funny. :lol: I don't hold it against him!

    I try to keep the financial part of my addiction from ruining our marriage. I quit smoking just so I could use that money for all PJ stuff and if anyone gives me money for a present I look in the bag and say, "Just what I wanted---Pearl Jam tickets!"
  • Johnny Abruzzo
    Johnny Abruzzo Philly Posts: 12,741
    Mrs. Abruzzo said she needs a support group. :lol:
    State of Mind wrote:
    I quit smoking just so I could use that money for all PJ stuff

    Now that's what you call a good decision. 8-)
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  • Mamasan23
    Mamasan23 Posts: 16,390
    Cradles Broken Glass wrote:
    My husband used to not be a fan at all, but seeing Ed solo in 09 converted him. However, he can't do it 24/7 like me. I just can't understand how he doesn't "get it." Last time I had a little "too much" to drink I told him that he didn't have a soul if he couldn't understand it as I sung along to Crown of Thorns on PJ radio....

    :lol::lol::lol:
    Agreed 100%! I've tried and tried but after 5 years of marriage I've come to realize that while my hubby appreciates them as musicians, we'll just never be on the same wavelength here. He's a die-hard music fan, but he mainly listens to metal, hardcore, and anything that's not mainstream, so he's constantly making fun of my musical taste. His best friend owns a tattoo shop and when I got the Stickman tattoo they were both snickering. :x Let them think what they want, I will proudly show it off wherever I go!

    I'm so happy to see that I'm not alone in this battle!!
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  • ms.honeymeister
    ms.honeymeister Posts: 476
    just had another argument with the Mr. about whether or not he's going to the show since we didn't score tickets in todays TM presale. he thinks he should go with me because he's my husband rather than I take a friend who is a huge fan and 10c member. he's making me not even want to go to the show at this point. he's ruining it. :cry:
  • DURP
    DURP OhighO Posts: 2,180
    stateoflove79 wrote:
    My wife isn't near the fan of them that I am, but she tolerates quite a bit.

    I am in the same boat with my girlfriend. Of all the bands i listen too she tolerates PJ the most. We are going to a EV show for the first time she has no desire to come to a PJ show so this is a good compromise. But i will either take my cousin to a show or find someone here who would need a tix.
    My butt itches!
  • Mamasan23
    Mamasan23 Posts: 16,390
    ms.honeymeister wrote:
    just had another argument with the Mr. about whether or not he's going to the show since we didn't score tickets in todays TM presale. he thinks he should go with me because he's my husband rather than I take a friend who is a huge fan and 10c member. he's making me not even want to go to the show at this point. he's ruining it. :cry:

    I'm seriously sorry to hear that - I've been thru it myself so I know how rough it is! Maybe you can talk some of his buddies into taking him out of town that day or something? Or, what band is he totally into? Tell him that if he goes with you, then you'll go with him to his band's favorite show and just completely ruin it for him. Juvenile? Yes. Effective? Probably!!
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  • DURP
    DURP OhighO Posts: 2,180
    Mamasan23 wrote:
    ms.honeymeister wrote:
    just had another argument with the Mr. about whether or not he's going to the show since we didn't score tickets in todays TM presale. he thinks he should go with me because he's my husband rather than I take a friend who is a huge fan and 10c member. he's making me not even want to go to the show at this point. he's ruining it. :cry:

    I'm seriously sorry to hear that - I've been thru it myself so I know how rough it is! Maybe you can talk some of his buddies into taking him out of town that day or something? Or, what band is he totally into? Tell him that if he goes with you, then you'll go with him to his band's favorite show and just completely ruin it for him. Juvenile? Yes. Effective? Probably!!

    Or maybe he can get the sand out of his vagina and act like an adult.

















    just sayin
    My butt itches!

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