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My Best Friend.....
I had the great fortune to know an incredible person. A fighter if you will. She had a great love of music and an even greater sense of strength...We were lucky enough to FINALLY see Pearl Jam a couple years ago in Calgary and in Edmonton, Alberta.
We were in Calgary waiting in line to buy tshirts and all that other good stuff, when I heard the people behind me saying they were going through their Canadian money like it was water. So me being the nosey person I am, asked where they were from, and they were from California travelling through Canada following the band.....talk about my dream!
Me and my friend go back to our decision making process, what tshirt to get, should we buy a hoodie too, do we want a poster. We decided we were gonna wait to see what the poster looked like in Edmonton instead. Well the California people over heard us this time, and asked us to buy them a poster and gave us money (their friend couldn't make the concert). So we meet them a couple minutes later and give them their poster and their change back and they ask us where we're sitting. And we laugh and tell them we're in the nose bleeds....and my friends famous words are said "I'm just happy to be here!" And it was true....this was our dream.....our one moment together we both wanted before either of us died. (you know how you say that....before I die....I want to........)
Then these perfect strangers offer us their 7th row tickets....because their friend who didn't make the concert had 1st row tickets. They flat out....handed us two 7th row tickets for free....and went on their way. It was the best night of my life, with the one person who would appreciate more than anyone else I know. As soon as the band started playing and Eddie walked out on the stage and started playing "Oceans" we look at each other and started crying and laughing all at the same time. (Ok I cried, she went through the motions of crying, but could not, since she couldn't produce tears).
Then.....the moment happened for us.....as soon as "Black" started, we grabbed each others hands.......and bawled. This was our moment, this is the moment I will hold onto for the rest of my life. Our favorite song played.....and we are in the 7th row of the concert....hanging onto each other, so happy, we're crying.
On June 28, 2008. My best friends body decided it was done fighting. She had lupus and was diagnosed when she was 18. The doctors told her parents that it would be a miracle if she lived to see 30. She was 33 years old. She was a miracle, and it was at the age of 30 that we got to see Pearl Jam together, and that in itself was another miracle.
So I am sending this out into the void......out to anyone else who has loved and lost someone so awesome and so strong.......and so loving. To anyone else out there who has had the fortune to see Pearl Jam live with their best friend at their side...
I will love you always Daylene....you are with me always and forever in my heart. We still have Calgary and our "moment" together.
Jolene
We were in Calgary waiting in line to buy tshirts and all that other good stuff, when I heard the people behind me saying they were going through their Canadian money like it was water. So me being the nosey person I am, asked where they were from, and they were from California travelling through Canada following the band.....talk about my dream!
Me and my friend go back to our decision making process, what tshirt to get, should we buy a hoodie too, do we want a poster. We decided we were gonna wait to see what the poster looked like in Edmonton instead. Well the California people over heard us this time, and asked us to buy them a poster and gave us money (their friend couldn't make the concert). So we meet them a couple minutes later and give them their poster and their change back and they ask us where we're sitting. And we laugh and tell them we're in the nose bleeds....and my friends famous words are said "I'm just happy to be here!" And it was true....this was our dream.....our one moment together we both wanted before either of us died. (you know how you say that....before I die....I want to........)
Then these perfect strangers offer us their 7th row tickets....because their friend who didn't make the concert had 1st row tickets. They flat out....handed us two 7th row tickets for free....and went on their way. It was the best night of my life, with the one person who would appreciate more than anyone else I know. As soon as the band started playing and Eddie walked out on the stage and started playing "Oceans" we look at each other and started crying and laughing all at the same time. (Ok I cried, she went through the motions of crying, but could not, since she couldn't produce tears).
Then.....the moment happened for us.....as soon as "Black" started, we grabbed each others hands.......and bawled. This was our moment, this is the moment I will hold onto for the rest of my life. Our favorite song played.....and we are in the 7th row of the concert....hanging onto each other, so happy, we're crying.
On June 28, 2008. My best friends body decided it was done fighting. She had lupus and was diagnosed when she was 18. The doctors told her parents that it would be a miracle if she lived to see 30. She was 33 years old. She was a miracle, and it was at the age of 30 that we got to see Pearl Jam together, and that in itself was another miracle.
So I am sending this out into the void......out to anyone else who has loved and lost someone so awesome and so strong.......and so loving. To anyone else out there who has had the fortune to see Pearl Jam live with their best friend at their side...
I will love you always Daylene....you are with me always and forever in my heart. We still have Calgary and our "moment" together.
Jolene
Underneath this smile lies everything...All my hopes and anger, pride and shame...
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9/24/96 MD. 9/28/96 Randalls. 8/28-29/98 Camden. 9/8/98 NJ. 9/18/98 MD. 9/1-2/00 Camden. 9/4/00 MD. 4/28/03 Philly. 7/5-6/03 Camden. 9/30/05 AC.
10/3/05 Philly. 5/27-28/06 Camden. 6/23/06 Pitt. 6/19-20/08 Camden. 6/24/08 MSG. 8/7/08 EV Newark, NJ. 6/11-12/09 EV Philly, PA. 10/27-28-30-31/09 Philly, PA., 5/15/10 Hartford,5/17/10 Boston, 5/18/10 Newark, 5/20-21/10 MSG
u never get over it...u just learn to live with it
all the best
6 years this past march for me
rip to friends loved and lost
love to you all.
"To question your government is not unpatriotic --
to not question your government is unpatriotic."
-- Sen. Chuck Hagel
Im so sorry for your loss, I really am. And I fear to ever hear about this about my friend. We are both 18, and if I lost him I don't know how I would handle it.
Im so so sorry.
- Brian.
2010 - Newark 5/18 MSG 5/21
2011 - PJ20 9/3-9/4
2012 - MIA Festival 9/2
2013 - Wrigley Field 7/19 Brooklyn 10/18-10/19 Philly 10/22
2015 - Colbert show - 9/23 Global Citizens Festival 9/26
2016 - Philly 4/28-4/29 MSG 5/1-5/2
Your friend is right by your side as well Jolene. Take care.
If I knew where it was I would take you there. There's much more than this
I lost one of my employees (18, to anorexia in 2004), a stepsister and nephew (2001), and my other stepsister (pancreatic cancer in 2004). I think of all of them often and now smile more than I cry.
Take care,
http://www.youtube.com/user/kcherub#p/a/u/0/N-UQprRqSwo
Cherish the nice and happy moments you spent together with him...Think and talk about your friend with others and pray for his soul - somehow that's the only way you can do to keep him alive in your heart and mind... i am very sorry for your loss...
good people, much like good deeds, never go unnoticed or forgotten.
Whatever you are, be a good one --Lincoln
Brian....I just wanted to say, don't be too scared or live in fear over your friends illness...take every day in stride and live each moment like it's your last. Every moment is special with your friend....now more than ever. I think we all take each day for granted...and when you realize how precious it is, you make each moment count.
Seriously you guys, thank you so much...and I know my friend would thank you too!
Jolene
So happy that you both got to experience pearl jam together.. I am so happy she ended up being a miracle and got to see her favorite song live..
So sorry for your loss.. she will be missed greatly and thank you for sharing both of your stories
eV: 8/4/08, 8/5/08, 6/21/11
SG: 10/4/08<-- MET STONE!!!
stay strong, it's so freakin' hard to but time does heal.
d.
Peace,
Tiffany
The best expression of Love is Time.
The best time to Love is Now.
I'm never as good as when you're there.........
You know, I was thinking of that moment too when they sang Given to Fly at both concerts......and when he sings:
He's.. flying
Whole…
High.. wide, oh
The entire crowd had their arms in the air wide open.....and the lights flashed on.....and you could see everyone doing it.......it was awesome.....
I found out tonight that there will be a memorial for family and close friends in two days.....and then the funeral on Friday. I seem to be having so many emotions I can't seem to pinpoint how I'm feeling. I start a sentance and half way through, I forget what I was saying. My cousin who's been Daylene's best friend since kindergarden isn't doing well right now. She called me tonight and was leaving me a voice message....and she called me Daylene. I know our names are similar.....but it's not the first time she's done in the past couple days.
Daylene's sister picked out her outfit......and to my extreme JOY.......and I know that soudns crazy.......but to my extreme JOY....Daylene's sister picked out her Pearl Jam tshirt we bought in Edmonton. If she had it her way, she's be in her pearl jam tshirt, her pajama pants and a pair of flip flops. That's my Daylene!
Peace,
BJ
I know I was born and I know that I'll die, the in between is mine. I Am Mine
Til the Lightning Bolt sets you free
Wahine - I'm a Lightning Bolt
9/2/98, 7/1/03, 10/3/05, 5/30/06, 6/17/08, ED-8/16/08, 10/30/09, 5/13/10, 10/29/13, 10/14/14
-RIP Hippiemom -
"i am the sacrifice that lived on"
does anyone know where it came from? HELP!
she always said that if her doctors would let her, she was going to get a tattoo.......now I want it!
Take care.
>
...a lover and a fighter.
"I'm at least half a bum" Rocky Balboa
http://www.videosift.com/video/Obamas-Message-To-American-Indians
Edmonton, AB. September 5th, 2005
Vancouver, BC. April 3rd, 2008
Calgary,AB. August 8th, 2009
Thank you for sharing. Best Regards.
EV- 08/09,10/2008.06/08,09/2009
Sorry for the loss of your friend. Hope the lyrics below help; probably what you were referring to
Wishlist
I wish I was a neutron bomb, for once I could go off.
I wish I was a sacrifice, but somehow still lived on.
I wish I was a sentimental ornament you hung on the Christmas tree.
I wish I was the star that went on top.
I wish I was the evidence, I wish I was the clouds.
Or 50 million hands upraised and open toward the sky.
I wish I was a sailor with someone who waited for me.
I wish I was as fortunate, as fortunate as me.
I wish I was a messenger, and all the news was good.
I wish I was the full moon shining off a Camaro's hood.
I wish I was an alien at home behind the sun.
I wish I was the souvenir you kept your house key on.
I wish I was the pedal brake that you depended on.
I wish I was the verb "to trust" and never let you down.
I wish I was a radio song the one that you turned up.
"Chirp"
You are the sweetest young man Sasho
so sorry for all the losses discussed here in this thread. Today happens to be the birthday of a friend I lost many, many years ago (1987). He was one of the first things I thought of when I awoke this morning.
He is not forgotten and never will be. What the old people in your country say warms my heart Sasho.
My prayers go out to you Jolene.
Nice story, I'm very sorry about your friend but very happy that you were able to share that moment together.
On the bright side, Daylene gets to sit in the front row at every Pearl Jam concert now.
They say every sin is deadly but I believe they may be wrong...I'm guilty of all seven and I don't feel too bad at all
thank you everyone for your support....it means a lot......and thank you touch for posting wishlist....i got a message from her sister, and it was in fact that one line in wishlist that she liked......which i will get tatooed on my body, how and where is the next decision....any suggestions?