News Alert! Guys don't want to be "Just friends"

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  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    locked wrote:

    two things to consider (perhaps?)..

    You are "breaking the younger guy's glass dick" for a short term fling.. he's not going to stay once he's got you nailed...and there is a timer based upon how long he is going to find you attractive... we all age, yes?

    Then you say, well perhaps NOW i want something older, more secure...

    But alas.. those Older guys have all gone and hooked up with women 10 years younger than you..!

    If you wait on the sidelines too long for the "perfect partner", you may be standing in an empty parking lot after closing time at the bar for the rest of your life...

    Whizbang wrote:
    Agreed....
    . For many younger women? Yeah, I agree...."dick in a glass jar; break in case of emergency" for fear of being alone. Older and a bit more secure in life? Not something I want or need.

    my bad....by older and a bit more secure in life, I was referring to myself....not that I'm looking for older more secure men (which, in all honesty, thus far in some of my experiences, "older" and "more secure" do not necessarily go together....quite the opposite in a lot of cases). When I was younger, I kept the "dick in glass jar" friendships with guys just in case the relationship with the guy I was seeing didn't work out, just so I wouldn't be alone. Now that I am older and a bit more secure in my life, I don't want or need the emergency dick in a glass jar to save me from being alone.

    I've said it on many a thread - I'd rather be alone than wish that I was. No one is perfect, least of all, me. But there is nothing worse than settling for someone with whom you're not compatible on the right things just because you don't want to be alone.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • if your seriously looking for a girl to marry, first thing to find out when you start dating her is.......does she have "GUY" friends. if so MOVE ON it won't work!







    goodnight.
  • i used to get caught in that friend zone bullshit. now if things dont work out right away, i'm gone. i got enough friends.
  • locked
    locked Boston Posts: 4,048
    MrSmith wrote:
    i used to get caught in that friend zone bullshit. now if things dont work out right away, i'm gone. i got enough friends.

    word..
    who needs to be the pit crew for some woman's ego!

    :roll:
    "This here's a REQUEST!"
    EV intro to Chloe Dancer / Crown of Thorns
    10/25/13 Hartford
  • This is oh so deep...
    Don't forget that alot of women feel the same way, about EVERYTHING!
  • Gary Carter
    Gary Carter Posts: 14,077
    if your seriously looking for a girl to marry, first thing to find out when you start dating her is.......does she have "GUY" friends. if so MOVE ON it won't work!







    goodnight.
    jealous much?


    goodnight
    Ron: I just don't feel like going out tonight
    Sammi: Wanna just break up?

  • i_lov_it
    i_lov_it Perth, Western Australia Posts: 4,007
    metsfan wrote:
    if your seriously looking for a girl to marry, first thing to find out when you start dating her is.......does she have "GUY" friends. if so MOVE ON it won't work!







    goodnight.
    jealous much?


    goodnight

    IT's got NOTHING! to do with 'JEALOUSY'.....IT'S got to do WITH *** R~E~S~P~E~C~T *** and ***C~O~N~S~I~D~E~R~A~T~I~O~N***
  • Heatherj43
    Heatherj43 Posts: 1,254
    I've had lots of male friends my entire life, but would they rather lay me, in a hot New York minute!
    I always knew this and knew to keep boundaries.
    Save room for dessert!
  • PearlOfAGirl
    PearlOfAGirl Posts: 15,993
    Friends with benefits works for me ;):mrgreen::lol: :thumbup:

    Wish you were here...

    ~RIP Dad
  • soulsinging
    soulsinging Posts: 13,202
    Friends with benefits works for me ;):mrgreen::lol: :thumbup:
    see, if more women had this approach, this would not be a problem.
  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    Friends with benefits works for me ;):mrgreen::lol: :thumbup:
    see, if more women had this approach, this would not be a problem.

    Oh it works....someone said it earlier though - both of you have to be clear what you want out of it. If things change for either party, have the sack to say something and walk away before someone gets hurt.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • Whizbang wrote:
    Friends with benefits works for me ;):mrgreen::lol: :thumbup:
    see, if more women had this approach, this would not be a problem.

    Oh it works....someone said it earlier though - both of you have to be clear what you want out of it. If things change for either party, have the sack to say something and walk away before someone gets hurt.

    100% my opinion on this! Exactly what she said!!!
  • Gary Carter
    Gary Carter Posts: 14,077
    i_lov_it wrote:
    metsfan wrote:
    if your seriously looking for a girl to marry, first thing to find out when you start dating her is.......does she have "GUY" friends. if so MOVE ON it won't work!







    goodnight.
    jealous much?


    goodnight

    IT's got NOTHING! to do with 'JEALOUSY'.....IT'S got to do WITH *** R~E~S~P~E~C~T *** and ***C~O~N~S~I~D~E~R~A~T~I~O~N***
    Respect for what? If a guy can't be cool with his girl having guy friends than yea its jealousy. I dare you to find one girl that doesn't have at least 5 guy friends
    Ron: I just don't feel like going out tonight
    Sammi: Wanna just break up?

  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    metsfan wrote:
    Respect for what? If a guy can't be cool with his girl having guy friends than yea its jealousy. I dare you to find one girl that doesn't have at least 5 guy friends


    hi. :wave:

    sometimes you say the stupidest things mets... 8-)
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • metsfan wrote:
    Respect for what? If a guy can't be cool with his girl having guy friends than yea its jealousy. I dare you to find one girl that doesn't have at least 5 guy friends


    hi. :wave:

    sometimes you say the stupidest things mets... 8-)
    hey cate???

    Will you be my friend?????
    Take me piece by piece.....
    Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    metsfan wrote:
    Respect for what? If a guy can't be cool with his girl having guy friends than yea its jealousy. I dare you to find one girl that doesn't have at least 5 guy friends


    hi. :wave:

    sometimes you say the stupidest things mets... 8-)
    hey cate???

    Will you be my friend?????

    will you go on squishee runs for me????
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say

  • will you go on squishee runs for me????
    Oh well....

    Here it goes.....

    I cant believe I am going to type this....

    What the hell are squishee runs????? hehehehehehehehe
    Take me piece by piece.....
    Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003

    will you go on squishee runs for me????
    Oh well....

    Here it goes.....

    I cant believe I am going to type this....

    What the hell are squishee runs????? hehehehehehehehe

    im sorry speedy but based on that question you cant be my friend. :(
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say
  • OUCH!!!!
    Take me piece by piece.....
    Till there aint nothing left worth taking away from me.....
  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    OUCH!!!!


    you had your chance and you blew it. perhaps if you had other talents maybe then negotiations could be reopened. :P
    hear my name
    take a good look
    this could be the day
    hold my hand
    lie beside me
    i just need to say