2003, my buddy calls from Florida on Wednesday saying he has an extra HOB ticket. Just have to get to Florida, and everything else is taken care of. A good friend of mine (both bride and groom) were getting married on that same Saturday.
I didn't hesitate. I booked airfare for Florida and made the arrangements. I called my friends and explained the situation to them. Best part, they were quite understanding. They knew how big a fan I was, and I told them how it was a small club show, blah, blah, blah. They gave me their blessing.
If you're not life long, absolute best friends, I don't see what the issue is. If it's a big wedding, it's not like they'll miss you. They'll be concentrating on other things, not "man, I can't believe so and so didn't show up"
If it were me, and the roles were reversed, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.
Are they still speaking with you? I wouldn't.
We're still very good friends, yes. Thanks for asking.
And you know what? Not once, ever, have they said, "I can't believe you skipped our wedding to go to Florida for a Pearl Jam concert"
Long story short, my friend is getting married in Chicago next month. I live in Boston so this would have meant flying there to attend. I had all intentions of going until they announced the Chicago shows for August. I bought tickets and airfare etc for this weekend to attend the show. At this point I hadn't gotten an invite, I was only told what day it would be. I never commited to go, either, just kind of said I will do my best. The invite came 2 weeks after the tix were bought. I called and said I had to be in class that weekend for a first aid course. (Not really a lie, just the first aid course is a few weeks after.) So I kind of feel bad but told her I would make a special trip to see her and give her her gift in person. Can you guess which weekend I chose? I will be seeing her and her fiance this weekend and enjoying a killer show at the same time. For me it is a win win situation. I'm sure there are some of you who would have done the same thing, no?
I think as long as you didn't RSVP and then back out it isn't that bad. You make you own decisions and live with them, nobody else dose.
IMO, I think the parents that were (or still are) ditching there kids on Halloween for the show are much worse people then you
Thanks. That's a good point about the Halloween shows. And for the record, she knows I'm going to the PJ show. She's watching my son while my wife and I go to the show. She can't wait to meet him. The last time I saw her I didn't have kids.
I'd skip the wedding to attend the Pearl Jam concert!!! Weddings are a waste of time and money. Every friend's wedding I go to...they end up getting divorced a year or two later. Fuck the weddings...Enjoy the concert!
but seriously, it would depend on how close a friend
it is 100% certain that Pearl jam will play again, and there is 0% chance that wedding will happen again
more than 10 years of friendship, I probably would have chose the wedding
I laughed at this header because I planned my wedding around a Dead show Sept '90 at Radio City. The ceremony was noon in CT, reception 1 to 5, and all on our way to the show by 6:30. Still have my shirt, which the Dead gave us and front row seat stubs. A very good time was had by all.
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Long story short, my friend is getting married in Chicago next month. I live in Boston so this would have meant flying there to attend. I had all intentions of going until they announced the Chicago shows for August. I bought tickets and airfare etc for this weekend to attend the show. At this point I hadn't gotten an invite, I was only told what day it would be. I never commited to go, either, just kind of said I will do my best. The invite came 2 weeks after the tix were bought. I called and said I had to be in class that weekend for a first aid course. (Not really a lie, just the first aid course is a few weeks after.) So I kind of feel bad but told her I would make a special trip to see her and give her her gift in person. Can you guess which weekend I chose? I will be seeing her and her fiance this weekend and enjoying a killer show at the same time. For me it is a win win situation. I'm sure there are some of you who would have done the same thing, no?
So I say - I chose PJ show over my best friend's wedding also. Though she is getting married today, and the show I attended was last weekend, but I had to choose which weekend I won't go to work. And - today and tomoorow I will work...
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halszka123@op.pl
Absolutely did the right thing... except for the lie......
You NEVER really have to go to a long distance wedding, unless you are in the wedding party, or it's close family.
I wouldn't feel bad at all.
I'm 35, so I've flown back home to around 10 weddings in the past 7 years. It is expensive and no one really cares if you are there unless it is, like I said, close family or in the wedding party.
We're still very good friends, yes. Thanks for asking.
And you know what? Not once, ever, have they said, "I can't believe you skipped our wedding to go to Florida for a Pearl Jam concert"
Now that's an understanding friend.
I think a true friend of any of us die-hards would probably be very understanding of the fact that, well, it's just part of our lives. And if a friend ever did get mad at me for it - I would simply offer to take them to a Pearl Jam show, and hopefully they'd understand after seeing them.
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Now that's an understanding friend.
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but seriously, it would depend on how close a friend
it is 100% certain that Pearl jam will play again, and there is 0% chance that wedding will happen again
more than 10 years of friendship, I probably would have chose the wedding
"What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world remains and is immortal." Albert Pine.
halszka123@op.pl
You NEVER really have to go to a long distance wedding, unless you are in the wedding party, or it's close family.
I wouldn't feel bad at all.
I'm 35, so I've flown back home to around 10 weddings in the past 7 years. It is expensive and no one really cares if you are there unless it is, like I said, close family or in the wedding party.
Hook up a sweet gift, and all is well.
EV
Toronto Film Festival 9/11/2007, '08 - Toronto 1 & 2, '09 - Albany 1, '11 - Chicago 1
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