I'm single. I don't have 3 hands or 10 eyes, so f** off
halszka123
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This world make me crazy.
i can't stand people who know better what is good for me.
I am a single. So what?
Why people really want to find me somebody?
I feel good with myself the way as I am now. I am pissed off these all good advise from people who even don't now me, that i will be happy with a man. Sometimes it can be funny, but even if i know I feel alright, hearing this shit , you know, I start to think I'm a freak.
Today my workmate gave me again some "advices". this man doesn't even know anything about me. Anything like - i am from alcoholic family, i've never seen my father hold my mom, only contact with her when he hits her. doesn't know all my relationships were wrong, even I tried i was left alone with my broken heart and felt used.
It's nothing for many of You. probably. But not for me. I decided to not try again. yes, this is from fear. So what? This is my decision. I try to not tell other people how to live, so why they still try to amend mine?
I am happy with myself. I have some closer friends.This is enough for me. Why everybody thinks I have to feel unhappy?
I really want to scream" F*** You!!"
i can't stand people who know better what is good for me.
I am a single. So what?
Why people really want to find me somebody?
I feel good with myself the way as I am now. I am pissed off these all good advise from people who even don't now me, that i will be happy with a man. Sometimes it can be funny, but even if i know I feel alright, hearing this shit , you know, I start to think I'm a freak.
Today my workmate gave me again some "advices". this man doesn't even know anything about me. Anything like - i am from alcoholic family, i've never seen my father hold my mom, only contact with her when he hits her. doesn't know all my relationships were wrong, even I tried i was left alone with my broken heart and felt used.
It's nothing for many of You. probably. But not for me. I decided to not try again. yes, this is from fear. So what? This is my decision. I try to not tell other people how to live, so why they still try to amend mine?
I am happy with myself. I have some closer friends.This is enough for me. Why everybody thinks I have to feel unhappy?
I really want to scream" F*** You!!"
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If people tell you, you NEED to live life a certain way to conform with their ideas of success, they need to expand their horizons a little so it includes you. However, I would respectfully suggest that you don't end up like me
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Maybe I'm just a selfish bastard, but I just can't stand being constricted.
I like people a lot more from a distance.
How old are you?
I hear you. I am quite happy being single. I've had my share of relationships but over time, I've come to realize I truly enjoy my alone time without the 'obligations' of having a relationship. There comes a point in the dating relationship when I withdraw and prefer to be alone.
To the O.P. - there is nothing wrong with you. Enjoy life how you want to live it. Smile at those who feel the need to try to "fix" you and move on.
I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
but to address your topic......i have spent many days alone on hiking trips and it is a wonderful relief to speak to people, once you have been isolated from others. from the information you have presented, it seems you have many people who care about you, thus making it easy to say. "leave me alone".
when we are alone............we want to be with people.
when we are with people......we want to be alone.
I will not change myself just to stop people talking. For sure I will not meet anybody or marry anybody just not to be alone. It would be a lie - cheating another person. If my life changes, if I meet sb I would love, it's ok, but I will not fight with myself just to be like "other people".
The only thing in this case is that people don't understand it and still try to lead me on "right way".
And the most I laugh when some guess I have to be a lesbian
BTW. I'm 33
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But I am with people. Maybe it will change. When I get much older, my friends will have children, they will have a halp from them etc. Maybe I will die alone. Yes, I know it's quite possible. But many people say - You should have a family, who will care of You when You get old? It's like - having children or husband is a condition, Your insurance polisy.
Yes, I like people. Sometimes, not too much and quite from a distance, too. But I'm sure without people at all I would be hungry this contact.
And something more I guess I am bored with other people more often than being alone.
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All that being said though I will say though that sometimes being alone leads to lonliness. I mean I enjoy being single and it allows me some freedom that lots of my friends don't have but there are times when it can be lonely especially at holidays and such. Makes me feel kind of awkward sometimes to be without anyone. I'm not that young anymore so I pretty much have come to expect that marriage and love is not going to happen for me - I've accepted it and decided to enjoy what I can from being single. Honestly I think it bothered me more in my late 20s and early 30s when all my friends were settling down and getting married - now I think some of them wish they were me.
excellent words.
don't ever change who you are or how you live your life to conform to the wants and needs of others outside of your life. it's yours, right?
i think oftentimes many people are uncomfortable with others who don't fit into their own neatly defined parameters for living. they don't know how to process it or accept it....thinking everyone *should* want what they want or have. it's a bizarre thing within human nature. whether it's remaining single, not having children, having alternative living arrangements with a partner, etc, etc. just do what makes you happy and those who truly want you happy will see you are.....and be happy for you.
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
i would feel bad for single people, like they must be lonely.
this was when i was younger.
after my only serious relationship has ended (3 years is all i made)
i am that guy at the restaurant..and i love it
there is nothing wrong with being single
it took me a couple years after my break up to realize you dont need others to depend on for your own hapiness.
i say tell them f**k off. works for me
ajedigecko wrote:
when we are alone............we want to be with people.
when we are with people......we want to be alone.
once i realized that i really put things into perspective.
love that quote
I agree completely.
I'm in my 30s, single w/no children and I appreciate my freedom and privacy. It can be so discouraging at times when others look at you like some enigma (in my case-my family) mainly because to them I'm supposed to assume an expectation by now. And I do admit their assumptions and remarks have made me believe that 'maybe I would be happier if I had someone'. IDK, maybe its because I'm getting older and understanding myself much more now, I'm letting go of alot of my friends/familiy's expectations and realizing I'm ok even if I'm not in a relationship right now and I'm definitely appreciating my time and independence more now than before.
i'm not sure if it's ok. For other people probably not. But this is my life like decides2dream said.
probably the same as many can't imagine how it's like to be alone, the same I guess how somebody could feel bored and lonely with him/herself.
Maybe this is the point. I know persons, men and women (but more often women) who can not be alone, because they don't know what to do with free time. Probably they feel emptiness, I guess. And maybe for these poeple I am an alien - they can't imagine how somebody can feel good only with him/herself, when they can't.
This is the only explanation I have.
Anyway- the point is - I can understand why some people can't be alone, but why these people can't try to understand me? or only accept this way?
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then i thought, "man, being single doesn't really suck all that bad."
i know not all relationships are like that, but i sure don't miss those petty fucking arguments.
i can't describe how much that pisses me off...and people look at me like i'm nuts when i say i don't want to be in a relationship...and i know not every one is like this but it's this type of shit i have no time for
*VERY key.
can't say we don't ever argue about stupid shit, cause we do.....i think most couples do from time to time, and sometimes argue about things that are actually important.
anyhoooo....really goes without saying - like anything else, relationships....you get out of it what you put into it. and absolutely, it helps to choose someone who compliments you, balances you, and yes.....that intrigues you and loves you as you love him/her. i don't have time to waste my time with anyone less than that. so even the stupid arguements, far outweighed by the good stuff of being together, which does include lots of alone time for what you both want, seperately......
just sayin'.
being alone is good if it's what you want, being a part of a couple is good if it's what you want. for me, the ideal is being part of a couple and yet still having my autonomy and independence, yet still always knowing i've got someone for me. there's no one right way to go thru this life...
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
I know how you feel.
People make me feel down all the time because I am single, I to feel like something is wrong with me as most of my friends are in relationships.
And people at work assume I am gay lol wow, even my mum thinks I might be haha
Your culture and my culture are very similar so I know what you go through, our relatives try set me up with girls at weddings, I'm thinking to myself...I'm not even attracted to her & how do you know we will click so piss off.
I just had a friend who I haven't spoken to or seen for a while ask me ''got a gf"?
And he always asks me!
Everybody (friends & family) want me to find a gf, they would all love to see me with a gf but they go over the top. I can't help it, if it happens it happens.
I feel like saying mind your own business & f*** you and have a nice day.
P.S I love your avatar, nice screen shot of that youtube
Wish you were here...
♥~RIP Dad
lol..yeah you are right, but i just feel that way sometimes. If you knew why, you would understand
wow...thank you dr. phil....have any other worthless opinions of me you'd like to let us in on? :roll:
no other "worthless opinions" needed.........and i do not think one needs to be a doctor to make this diagnosis.