We're big kids now...

Cateeto wrote:

Heineken Helen wrote:

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I agree... but there's plenty of judging going on in this thread about people who simply don't have a career :shock: . I don't have a 'career', never wanted one and I got by just fine. I'm unemployed at the moment due to stuff beyond my control but it's the first time in my life. I'm no fucking loser simply cos I haven't dedicated my life to ONE profession :? that's just daft.

I definitely agree Helen. Being an adult does not necessarily mean that you must have a career, and this is the thing that causes people to immediately judge others. I get a lot of shit throughout my life for having no desire to have a career and even more shit for not believing in the concept of a career. Being an adult is being someone who others can go to, someone trustworthy, someone honest... Being an adult is accepting all sorts of realizations throughout your passing days and accepting nothing but lessons from everything that we come across. Being an adult is being a positive role model to someone else, not through work, but through sincere gesture and good behavior.

I know a lot of people with careers who make all sorts of wonderful pocket change, but have the most miserable attitudes I've ever seen. Now, don't get me wrong, I do believe that some people desire careers and are quite good at them. I'm not talking down to you fine people... But what I'm basically saying is that there is more to being an adult than keeping a stable financial life. It's mainly about keeping your life stable in general, emotionally. Some people with all the money in the world cannot even grasp that concept.

I agree completely... neither of my parents had a 'career' but they always got by just fine... and still are. To look down on somebody simply cos their goal in life is not career orientated... well that really is just ignorance. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with having a career or a plan.. of course not... if that's what you want and that's what you've achieved... good for you. But don't look down on somebody else for having different ideals. And we ARE all different!

I grew up fast after my freshmen yr of high school. That summer my dad had a stroke and at that time I thought it couldn't get any worse. Well last September my dad went in for a simple prostate surgery. That went just fine. But what we didn't know was a blood clot that was later described ''massive'' went from his leg up to his lungs and then went to his heart. One minute I get a phone a call saying all is well and then 5 minutes later I get another call telling me the worst is happening. Getting off the elevator and seeing my mother and sisters with the head nurse, doctors, and hospital Chaplin was like a bad dream. I thought I got there too late and he was gone. It felt like slow motion hearing what was happening. The doctors telling us what options we had. My father coded and was without oxygen for 20 mins to his brain. He needed to have emergency heart surgery to remove the clot. We went to his room to see him b4 they took him downstairs. It was a crazy scene with nurses and doctors running in and out of the room. They were getting him ready to head down to surgery. You know its bad when the nurses who are there to help won't look you in the eyes. The condition he was in and how he looked I wish that to never happen for anyone. It's one of many images I will not soon forget. That and the doctors shouting, '' we have to go now''
Only 70% of people in his condition survive the surgery. The next 90 mins we waited and prayed for him. He made it out but it's been a road with lots of setbacks. It's been a roller coaster of emotions and eyes wide open experience. It's made me enjoy everyday and make the best of it no matter how bad it is.