We're big kids now...

Riot_Mac · January 2009

I just went through a situation last week with someone who can't seem to get it together. We let my girlfriends friend live with us rent free because she got a job in the area and is trying to get back on her feet after breaking up with her long time boyfriend. Well it didn't start out good because she got a DUI a few days before she moved in! Her new job required a valid license, so needless to say she couldn't keep the DUI from them forever. She worked there for about two months and finally she had to come clean. They then asked her to resign. So now she was living at our house with no job, no license and she was not really looking for a new job. Even one close that she could walk to. She barely talked with her lawyer and never took control of her problems. Always why me shit. FInally I had to tell her to go home to her parents... three hours away. We are not her parents and should not be driving her around and supporting her financially. She was shocked and started crying. It was rough, but come on... pick yourself up and go get a job that is with in walking distance and then get a workers permit from the courts and get a real job. I guess she was content living for free while we pay the mortgage and all the bills and what not. I wasn't having it. She just seemed oblivious to why I didn't think that was OK. I said when you get your shit taken care of you can come back and we will help you look for an apartment. It was a rough situation, but it had to be done.

The Juggler · January 2009

probably the day i changed my own diaper. big step forward for the jeagler...

Rygar · January 2009

The Jeagler wrote:

probably the day i changed my own diaper. big step forward for the jeagler...

The Jeagler still wears diapers!!!

"Go ahead, show 'em how you do it Rocko!"

decides2dream · January 2009

first time i truly felt like an adult - and it scared the bejeebus outta me :P - was when we bought our home. first few weeks coming home, unlocking the door...thinking, my gawd, we own this, we have a mortgage...responsibility.......

:shock:

. haha. granted, we both WANTED it, but really, was the first time i felt so 'responsible'....and i still really don't enjoy feeling responsible.

mind you, i traveled a great deal, on my own, married, went to grad school, etc...none of thos things made me feel *adult*....homeownership did it instantly. :oops: more 'adult responsibility'...now that we are getting older, considering changing our life insurance options, get insurance on our own rather than from our employers......so have a meeting tomorrow night. i dread it. more of that damn adult responsibility.

SomethingCreative · January 2009

DOING TAXES

I don't think I'm fully an adult...I hope I never am fully. I'll take responsibilities as they come but I'm content being a "Big Kid."

SPEEDY MCCREADY · January 2009

about a month ago someone on this board(the old board) mentioned how he was going to sell all his old posters.....because

"it was time to move on from his "peter pan lifestyle" he was living.....

i thought that statement was fucking brilliant......

to bad i wasnt able to reply......hehehehehehe

Boston Lou · January 2009

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

nothing wrong with having fun.....hell im the FIRST guy to go to a party and put the lampshade on his head.....

but you have to know there is a time for having fun...and a time for being a responsible adult.....

a few of my friends biggest problem....and they dont realize it....

is the fact that they are now in their 40's and never worked on a career....or worked on getting skills that are needed in the work force.......they have nothing to offer when it comes to getting a job....they have no solid work history......

and they wonder why nobody calls them when they go and fill out applications....

i have seen this speedy transformation in the flesh!!

when we were all boozing after the Vic show having a great time I mentioned I wanted to catch the Cubs game... you stopped being an animal and gave me your number and said to call you in the morning and you would try to help... i appreciated it...

anyhoo...

i too realize that i've grown up by seeing how some of my friends haven't ... it's sad but it's not up to me to change someone

Boston Lou · January 2009

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

about a month ago someone on this board(the old board) mentioned how he was going to sell all his old posters.....because

"it was time to move on from his "peter pan lifestyle" he was living.....

i thought that statement was fucking brilliant......

to bad i wasnt able to reply......hehehehehehe

i need to sell my posters simply because i don't need a box in my basement filled with over $9K in posters

SPEEDY MCCREADY · January 2009

Lucifer wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

about a month ago someone on this board(the old board) mentioned how he was going to sell all his old posters.....because

"it was time to move on from his "peter pan lifestyle" he was living.....

i thought that statement was fucking brilliant......

to bad i wasnt able to reply......hehehehehehe

i need to sell my posters simply because i don't need a box in my basement filled with over $9K in posters

i have gone back 30 years in life and have decided to collect baseball cards again.....

its kind of funny too...the baseball card market has followed everyone else and CRASHED!!!!

i am getting some vintage cards for dirt cheap...i guess people just want to sell em and make some kind of money.....

im actually having some fun doing this....

my girlfriend thinks im an idiot...hehehehe but i had a 1967 mint ernie banks card arrive at my door yesterday......and i instantly thought of how you "poster people" feel when a poster tube arrives on your doorstep......

blackredyellow · January 2009

I guess it happened in different degrees...

I moved out and started a job as soon as I was done with college, and I remember one day a few weeks into living on my own when I had to get groceries, clean my apartment and pay bills... I was sitting there that evening thinking that "wow... this is my place..."

Fast forward 10 years, married with a son and a mortgage and I really feel old

mfc2006 · January 2009

for me, it was when my Dad passed away. i was up north living on my own, paying bills, good job, etc, etc. i was responsible for the most part in my opinion. but i had taken about 4+ years "off" from college to work on a music career. i was always recording & playing little shows, and i thought i was happy.

when Dad died, something changed in me. i moved back to texas to help my mom out b/c she was having a tough, tough time. i'm the youngest of 4--all my older siblings had families or were engaged, so they couldn't do it. i never thought twice about it. it's strange to look back on this now..and forgive me if i ramble.

but something happened---a switch was thrown and next thing i knew, i was back in Houston starting over. i enrolled in HCC one day without even thinking about it. it just seemed like i knew that i had to finish school. i got another job, quit partying as much & kept playing music.

the time that i had with my Mom for those 2 years is a time i will never forget. we helped each other grieve, grow & get back on track...and we became friends. she now lives up north near my siblings & her grandchildren, and she is truly happy.

it's funny because i was the one that always said how much i hated Houston & that i would never go back there, yada, yada. but i did. and it was the best decision that i ever made. in my 2nd semester @ HCC, i met my wife. i made lifelong friends there. i grew up there.

i was an "adult" before, but my priorities were all f'd up. i consider my life now as a gift from my Dad.

sorry if this was off-topic...i just related & responded.

Flagg · January 2009

Yeah, I agree. I think having my dad die will be the "switch" when it finally happens. I am responsible. I have a decent job. I am married and raising two kids. I pay my bills on time and have a good credit rating, etc. I don't have any debt except for the mortgage and two car payments. I try not to buy what I don't need. I plan for retirement and my kids' college. But I do go out and have fun and spend a lot of money to chase a certain rock band around from time to time.

But in the back of my mind, I know my dad is there in case anything goes wrong like an emergency or I lose my job and can't find work for a long time or whatever. With dad there, I feel like there is a safety net. When he is gone, I think it will finally hit that I am on my own if that makes sense. Maybe that is when I will finally feel "grown up".

FoxyMop · January 2009

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

chiquimonkey wrote:

i think my first realization was when i had to go shopping for pots and pans, when i moved out. i was 20. but i dunno, i always had to be the adult in the house growing up, even as a kid, so it wasn't such a weird transition for me.

it is definitely good to have a youthful spirit, but temper it with responsibility. i don't feel as old as i am, but i'm proud of my independence

there are people who never 'get it'. it's too bad.

nothing at all wrong with trying to stay young....

both you and cateeto have met me......i OBVIOUSLY am all about acting young!!!!! hehehehe

but when it comes to life in general....and being responsible for your own actions....and just being an adult......and working hard...and supporting your family...and trying your best to make sure your children are given the best chance at an education that you can provide.....and saving for their college...and saving for your retirement.....blah blah blah

for some reason a bunch of my friends just cant grasp that......they act the same fucking way they did when they were 18 years old......

I love when wise Speedy makes his rare appearances

Like mfc and Flagg, mine was dad-related. I was 17 and my dad had leukemia. He started bleeding out at home, and passed out on the floor. My mom panicked and couldn't do anything, so I had to push her to the phone to call 911 and proceed to give my dad CPR. It was then that I realized the 'shift' had happened and my youth was over. Responsibility is tough, but I couldn't imagine a different life.

Heineken Helen · January 2009

dunkman wrote:

there is a happy medium i think...

i know some people who are too adult... always so serious. and that makes them boring kinda people... beige people.

and i know some that are complete wasters... living on handouts and the likes... always blaming someone else for their problems.

so i think we should just bomb all of them and just leave the "people who know their responsibilities but like to have fun crowd" alive... anyone with me on the carpet bombing of squares/idiots?

I agree... but there's plenty of judging going on in this thread about people who simply don't have a career :shock: . I don't have a 'career', never wanted one and I got by just fine. I'm unemployed at the moment due to stuff beyond my control but it's the first time in my life. I'm no fucking loser simply cos I haven't dedicated my life to ONE profession :? that's just daft.

Boston Lou · January 2009

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

Lucifer wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

about a month ago someone on this board(the old board) mentioned how he was going to sell all his old posters.....because

"it was time to move on from his "peter pan lifestyle" he was living.....

i thought that statement was fucking brilliant......

to bad i wasnt able to reply......hehehehehehe

i need to sell my posters simply because i don't need a box in my basement filled with over $9K in posters

i have gone back 30 years in life and have decided to collect baseball cards again.....

its kind of funny too...the baseball card market has followed everyone else and CRASHED!!!!

i am getting some vintage cards for dirt cheap...i guess people just want to sell em and make some kind of money.....

im actually having some fun doing this....

my girlfriend thinks im an idiot...hehehehe but i had a 1967 mint ernie banks card arrive at my door yesterday......and i instantly thought of how you "poster people" feel when a poster tube arrives on your doorstep......

collecting is fun...

flipping is more fun

maybe i'll switch to baseball cards

Boston Lou · January 2009

FoxyMop wrote:

I love when wise Speedy makes his rare appearances

they're only rare because he can't keep his 13yr old mouth shut

FoxyMop · January 2009

Lucifer wrote:

FoxyMop wrote:

I love when wise Speedy makes his rare appearances

they're only rare because he can't keep his 13yr old mouth shut

:roll: You remind me of Godzilla vs. Mothra

Boston Lou · January 2009

FoxyMop wrote:

Lucifer wrote:

FoxyMop wrote:

I love when wise Speedy makes his rare appearances

they're only rare because he can't keep his 13yr old mouth shut

:roll: You remind me of Godzilla vs. Mothra

can i be godzilla????

adropinthepark · January 2009

Heineken Helen wrote:

dunkman wrote:

there is a happy medium i think...

i know some people who are too adult... always so serious. and that makes them boring kinda people... beige people.

and i know some that are complete wasters... living on handouts and the likes... always blaming someone else for their problems.

so i think we should just bomb all of them and just leave the "people who know their responsibilities but like to have fun crowd" alive... anyone with me on the carpet bombing of squares/idiots?

I agree... but there's plenty of judging going on in this thread about people who simply don't have a career :shock: . I don't have a 'career', never wanted one and I got by just fine. I'm unemployed at the moment due to stuff beyond my control but it's the first time in my life. I'm no fucking loser simply cos I haven't dedicated my life to ONE profession :? that's just daft.

One profession for life is an anomaly these days. I've been lucky enough to stay in the same field for the last 10yrs through 4 different employers. I've enjoyed it, but the economy is closing the chapter on this career, so I'll be moving on to who knows what. Going with the flow got me the last great run, I may approach things similarly this time 'round.

Flagg · January 2009

FoxyMop wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

chiquimonkey wrote:

i think my first realization was when i had to go shopping for pots and pans, when i moved out. i was 20. but i dunno, i always had to be the adult in the house growing up, even as a kid, so it wasn't such a weird transition for me.

it is definitely good to have a youthful spirit, but temper it with responsibility. i don't feel as old as i am, but i'm proud of my independence

there are people who never 'get it'. it's too bad.

nothing at all wrong with trying to stay young....

both you and cateeto have met me......i OBVIOUSLY am all about acting young!!!!! hehehehe

but when it comes to life in general....and being responsible for your own actions....and just being an adult......and working hard...and supporting your family...and trying your best to make sure your children are given the best chance at an education that you can provide.....and saving for their college...and saving for your retirement.....blah blah blah

for some reason a bunch of my friends just cant grasp that......they act the same fucking way they did when they were 18 years old......

I love when wise Speedy makes his rare appearances

Like mfc and Flagg, mine was dad-related. I was 17 and my dad had leukemia. He started bleeding out at home, and passed out on the floor. My mom panicked and couldn't do anything, so I had to push her to the phone to call 911 and proceed to give my dad CPR. It was then that I realized the 'shift' had happened and my youth was over. Responsibility is tough, but I couldn't imagine a different life.

Wow Laura. I can't imagine what that must have been like.

We're big kids now...

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