We're big kids now...

Cateeto · January 2009

There comes a time in our lives when we realize that we've actually reached adulthood. For some it's something major... For others it's the simplest things that hit us in daily life. What reminds you that you're an adult? What was your first realization?

For me it was the first time I cleaned my own independent home and realized that I wasn't just doing household chores for mom anymore... I was doing chores for my own benefit! What reminds me each day? Little things, like friends coming over and constantly complimenting me for having a well put together household and a hospitable attitude towards guests. Apparently I'm the "go to" person because I live on my own

So let's hear it kids... Or um... Adults, rather...

SPEEDY MCCREADY · January 2009

i have friends of mine who are in their 40's......

who still havent matured beyond childhood/puberty......

they never have......or never will understand what it means to be a responsible adult....

every day of their life is just a struggle.....and its sad

they never hold down jobs for a long period of time
save money
look ahead to the future.....

its just always a constant struggle..................

Cateeto · January 2009

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

i have friends of mine who are in their 40's......

who still havent matured beyond childhood/puberty......

they never have......or never will understand what it means to be a responsible adult....

every day of their life is just a struggle.....and its sad

they never hold down jobs for a long period of time
save money
look ahead to the future.....

its just always a constant struggle..................

Maybe they're just waiting for you to cook some pot roast for them and clean their living establishments. I hear you're quite good at that

Seriously though... I know a lot of my friends will never mature. Some people just don't have it in them to grow up. There's nothing wrong with keeping a young spirit for your whole life. I fully support that and hope to have it that way... But some people just can't live life correctly because they are stuck in an unhealthy past. Sometimes you just want to give them a kick!

chiquimonkey · January 2009

i think my first realization was when i had to go shopping for pots and pans, when i moved out. i was 20. but i dunno, i always had to be the adult in the house growing up, even as a kid, so it wasn't such a weird transition for me.

it is definitely good to have a youthful spirit, but temper it with responsibility. i don't feel as old as i am, but i'm proud of my independence

there are people who never 'get it'. it's too bad.

SPEEDY MCCREADY · January 2009

chiquimonkey wrote:

i think my first realization was when i had to go shopping for pots and pans, when i moved out. i was 20. but i dunno, i always had to be the adult in the house growing up, even as a kid, so it wasn't such a weird transition for me.

it is definitely good to have a youthful spirit, but temper it with responsibility. i don't feel as old as i am, but i'm proud of my independence

there are people who never 'get it'. it's too bad.

nothing at all wrong with trying to stay young....

both you and cateeto have met me......i OBVIOUSLY am all about acting young!!!!! hehehehe

but when it comes to life in general....and being responsible for your own actions....and just being an adult......and working hard...and supporting your family...and trying your best to make sure your children are given the best chance at an education that you can provide.....and saving for their college...and saving for your retirement.....blah blah blah

for some reason a bunch of my friends just cant grasp that......they act the same fucking way they did when they were 18 years old......

chiquimonkey · January 2009

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

chiquimonkey wrote:

i think my first realization was when i had to go shopping for pots and pans, when i moved out. i was 20. but i dunno, i always had to be the adult in the house growing up, even as a kid, so it wasn't such a weird transition for me.

it is definitely good to have a youthful spirit, but temper it with responsibility. i don't feel as old as i am, but i'm proud of my independence

there are people who never 'get it'. it's too bad.

nothing at all wrong with trying to stay young....

both you and cateeto have met me......i OBVIOUSLY am all about acting young!!!!! hehehehe

but when it comes to life in general....and being responsible for your own actions....and just being an adult......and working hard...and supporting your family...and trying your best to make sure your children are given the best chance at an education that you can provide.....and saving for their college...and saving for your retirement.....blah blah blah

for some reason a bunch of my friends just cant grasp that......they act the same fucking way they did when they were 18 years old......

haha yeah you got the youthful spirit down, no doubt

love it too!

i dunno why some people are afraid of responsibility. it doesn't mean the fun in your life is completely over, but just a matter of balance. i'm fortunate that my friends are on teh same page in terms of being responsible hard working folks. especially the people i grew up with, we were never spoiled when we were young so earning stuff was the only way we knew.

SPEEDY MCCREADY · January 2009

nothing wrong with having fun.....hell im the FIRST guy to go to a party and put the lampshade on his head.....

but you have to know there is a time for having fun...and a time for being a responsible adult.....

a few of my friends biggest problem....and they dont realize it....

is the fact that they are now in their 40's and never worked on a career....or worked on getting skills that are needed in the work force.......they have nothing to offer when it comes to getting a job....they have no solid work history......

and they wonder why nobody calls them when they go and fill out applications....

chiquimonkey · January 2009

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

nothing wrong with having fun.....hell im the FIRST guy to go to a party and put the lampshade on his head.....

but you have to know there is a time for having fun...and a time for being a responsible adult.....

a few of my friends biggest problem....and they dont realize it....

is the fact that they are now in their 40's and never worked on a career....or worked on getting skills that are needed in the work force.......they have nothing to offer when it comes to getting a job....they have no solid work history......

and they wonder why nobody calls them when they go and fill out applications....

damn, that is sad! how do they get by?

SPEEDY MCCREADY · January 2009

chiquimonkey wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

nothing wrong with having fun.....hell im the FIRST guy to go to a party and put the lampshade on his head.....

but you have to know there is a time for having fun...and a time for being a responsible adult.....

a few of my friends biggest problem....and they dont realize it....

is the fact that they are now in their 40's and never worked on a career....or worked on getting skills that are needed in the work force.......they have nothing to offer when it comes to getting a job....they have no solid work history......

and they wonder why nobody calls them when they go and fill out applications....

damn, that is sad! how do they get by?

they struggle week to week...month to month....year to year....

and i have learned...that i need to distance myself from them...not keep them out of my life completely....but we only get together every few months.....

because every time i see them...its like a broken fucking record....."work sucks" "were behind on the rent" "lost my job" "kids are out of control" blah blah blah.....

it never gets better for them.....there is never light at the end of the tunnel....

i just couldnt imagine living like that.....especially in my 40's.....

chiquimonkey · January 2009

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

chiquimonkey wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

nothing wrong with having fun.....hell im the FIRST guy to go to a party and put the lampshade on his head.....

but you have to know there is a time for having fun...and a time for being a responsible adult.....

a few of my friends biggest problem....and they dont realize it....

is the fact that they are now in their 40's and never worked on a career....or worked on getting skills that are needed in the work force.......they have nothing to offer when it comes to getting a job....they have no solid work history......

and they wonder why nobody calls them when they go and fill out applications....

damn, that is sad! how do they get by?

they struggle week to week...month to month....year to year....

and i have learned...that i need to distance myself from them...not keep them out of my life completely....but we only get together every few months.....

because every time i see them...its like a broken fucking record....."work sucks" "were behind on the rent" "lost my job" "kids are out of control" blah blah blah.....

it never gets better for them.....there is never light at the end of the tunnel....

i just couldnt imagine living like that.....especially in my 40's.....

yeah it's depressing for sure to see that. doesn't help with the economy nowadays too...even people who have skills and an education are having a rough go of it

hell i'll be happy to keep my job at the rate research funding is going, ugh!

SPEEDY MCCREADY · January 2009

and its sad when we get together with them ...because when they ask us "whats new" ......

kathy and i feel uneasy telling them anything good thats going on in our lives....because there is never ever anything good going on in their lives...hahahahahaha

and we shouldnt have to feel that way......

and the fucking sad thing about it is......they could change their lives in 6 months to a year....

but that goes back to acting like an adult and taking control of your life and making smart decisions.....

and i have spent way too much time being serious tonight...........hahahahahahahahahaha

chiquimonkey · January 2009

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

and its sad when we get together with them ...because when they ask us "whats new" ......

kathy and i feel uneasy telling them anything good thats going on in our lives....because there is never ever anything good going on in their lives...hahahahahaha

and we shouldnt have to feel that way......

and the fucking sad thing about it is......they could change their lives in 6 months to a year....

but that goes back to acting like an adult and taking control of your life and making smart decisions.....

and i have spent way too much time being serious tonight...........hahahahahahahahahaha

no shit, you're scaring meeeeee

WAH

but yeah, i know what you mean. i've had a few friends like that that actually made me feel guilty for even sharing anything positive in my own life. it's frustrating to see. what can you do though, they're grown, they need to figure it out for themselves. or quit their bitchin lol

SPEEDY MCCREADY · January 2009

chiquimonkey wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

and its sad when we get together with them ...because when they ask us "whats new" ......

kathy and i feel uneasy telling them anything good thats going on in our lives....because there is never ever anything good going on in their lives...hahahahahaha

and we shouldnt have to feel that way......

and the fucking sad thing about it is......they could change their lives in 6 months to a year....

but that goes back to acting like an adult and taking control of your life and making smart decisions.....

and i have spent way too much time being serious tonight...........hahahahahahahahahaha

no shit, you're scaring meeeeee WAH

but yeah, i know what you mean. i've had a few friends like that that actually made me feel guilty for even sharing anything positive in my own life. it's frustrating to see. what can you do though, they're grown, they need to figure it out for themselves. or quit their bitchin lol

the way i see it is.....yeah they are grown......and if they havent figured it out by now.......they never will...

and bitching and moaning and crying about it is the only thing they know......exactly what a child will do when he doesnt get what he wants.....right???

and it makes me wonder....if they will forever be stuck in this child like excistence that they live in....

by the looks of it...i would say yes they are.....

holy fuck i need to get out of this thread.....i am now getting WAY TOO FUCKING SERIOUS HERE!!!!!!!!! hahahaha

chiquimonkey · January 2009

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

the way i see it is.....yeah they are grown......and if they havent figured it out by now.......they never will...

and bitching and moaning and crying about it is the only thing they know......exactly what a child will do when he doesnt get what he wants.....right???

and it makes me wonder....if they will forever be stuck in this child like excistence that they live in....

by the looks of it...i would say yes they are.....

holy fuck i need to get out of this thread.....i am now getting WAY TOO FUCKING SERIOUS HERE!!!!!!!!! hahahaha

yeah if you haven't gotten a clue by your 40s...eek

and yes, they bitch and moan just like a petulant child. and all you can do is just ignore it, not indulge it.

yeah i'm going to bed, this is too serious for my ass at this point, i'm too tired haha nite!

QuarterToTen · January 2009

Cateeto wrote:

What was your first realization?

when i made my very first car payment.

the first time i fixed a big holiday meal for my family.

being the adult is not always the most fun,
but eventually comes the responsibility of taking care of yourself.

and it can be a very satisfying feeling.

the general, overwhelming complacency amongst some really makes me nuts.
sometimes you just have to step up and be the grown up, like it or not.

i know 20 year olds that are more responsible and dependable
than some 50 year olds. a sad commentary, isn't it?

dunkman · January 2009

there is a happy medium i think...

i know some people who are too adult... always so serious. and that makes them boring kinda people... beige people.

and i know some that are complete wasters... living on handouts and the likes... always blaming someone else for their problems.

so i think we should just bomb all of them and just leave the "people who know their responsibilities but like to have fun crowd" alive... anyone with me on the carpet bombing of squares/idiots?

jamie uk · January 2009

dunkman wrote:

there is a happy medium i think...

i know some people who are too adult... always so serious. and that makes them broing kinda people... beige people.

and i know some that are complete wasters... living on handouts and the likes... always blaming someone else for their problems.

so i think we should just bomb all of them and just leave the "people who know their responsibilities but like to have fun crowd" alive... anyone with me on the carpet bombing of squares/idiots?

well, I'm with yo up to a point, tho you know I'm way too much of a hippy to go with the bombing...apart from scroungers and layabouts, they can be rounded up in a field and machine gunned if you like.
:twisted:

mickeyrat · January 2009

QuarterToTen wrote:

i know 20 year olds that are more responsible and dependable
than some 50 year olds. a sad commentary, isn't it?

Longterm it speaks to hope for the future. These will be the leaders of the not to distant future.

QuarterToTen · January 2009

mickeyrat wrote:

QuarterToTen wrote:

i know 20 year olds that are more responsible and dependable
than some 50 year olds. a sad commentary, isn't it?

Longterm it speaks to hope for the future. These will be the leaders of the not to distant future.

upbringing is so vital to the success of our youth.

being taught good morals from day one and being held responsible
for your actions will stay with you for a lifetime.

the leaders will always be just that if it is instilled early on to have goals.
there are far too many followers in the world.

dunkman · January 2009

jamie uk wrote:

dunkman wrote:

there is a happy medium i think...

i know some people who are too adult... always so serious. and that makes them broing kinda people... beige people.

and i know some that are complete wasters... living on handouts and the likes... always blaming someone else for their problems.

so i think we should just bomb all of them and just leave the "people who know their responsibilities but like to have fun crowd" alive... anyone with me on the carpet bombing of squares/idiots?

well, I'm with yo up to a point, tho you know I'm way too much of a hippy to go with the bombing...apart from scroungers and layabouts, they can be rounded up in a field and machine gunned if you like.
:twisted:

ok.. i'm up for that.

old style machine gun though.. i'll feed the bullets through and you do the swishing of the gun?

jamie uk · January 2009

...and you can walk among them with a large mallet afterwards, finish off any that have hidden from bullets through such things as holding their Sky TV remote in front of their heads.

We're big kids now...

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