I've been married, but never been loved...

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  • Posts: 10,169
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    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • Posts: 5,153
    why is your ex husband stopping by? do you have kids?

    otherwise, tell him to shove his negative remarks up his butt. he's mentally abusing you.

    I agree with lady godiva except she meant "popping" instead of "pooping"
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  • Posts: 10,169
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    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
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    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    No pooping by either!! He used to stop here to use the bathroom or nap (his rehab and therapy is closer to here) I stopped that a long time ago.
    More recently it's been for paperwork concerning the renting of our house...and he'll be here ALL weekend moving his shit out (every last drop of it!!! :D:D) I think I'm gonna have 'other' plans so as to not be here with him, though his brother will be here and I'd like to say hi to him.

    oh what a prick! take all your possessions out of the house and then burn all his stuff with the house...........erm nah don't listen to me. i'm so sorry to hear :(
  • Posts: 2,222
    i just don't understand how someone can be so mean, and to live a lie for so long and deprive another person of love :( i hope he gets whats coming to him.

    i can see that you are strong person though :) one day you'll find someone who'll love you i'm sure :)
  • Posts: 2,222
    hartamh wrote:
    Believe me they are out there, and I'm married to one :(

    oh dear :(
  • Posts: 10,169
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    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
  • So Cal Posts: 12,091
    sorry!!!!!!!!!

    hope things get better but I understand how that would sting. Or more like cut like a freaking machete!!!!
    So I'll just lie down and wait for the dream
    Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me
  • Posts: 44,575
    ok , lets back up a bit. He's now living with his MOMMY ,court ordered to pay the bills in the house you once shared.whether he's actually paying it or not , he's fucking up his credit. Can't seem to grasp this thing called sobriety or how to live like and treat others like a human being.

    From where I sit he's lashing out this way cuz he knows he hurts you.So my suggestion would be to not let him see IF he hurt you with his statements.this is really some punk kid shit on his part.If at all possible ,turn a deaf ear.

    And I was serious about the restraining order.If nothing else request a hearing with the Judge to inform his/her Honor that the courts ruling is not being adhered to.
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  • Posts: 31,146
    your ex is a fuckwad!

    but you knew that :o
  • Posts: 597
    Take some time to mourn. This will hurt for a while. But, don't waste any more of your life on this than you absolutely have to.

    28? You have 2 more lives ahead of you. Live.
    Hold On
  • Posts: 1,447
    I've read a lot of your threads, and I think every time I've gone to reply I delete it and don't post that in the end.

    Granted I don't really know you, but don't trust what someone says why he got into it. Even if it were true, that doesn't mean he never loved you. I'm not defending him because he doesn't seem like a great guy, but that doesn't mean he wasn't at one time. Maybe. Again I don't know him. I know that someone will treat you one day like you deserve to be treated though, and treat you the way you treat them. Best of luck. :)
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    Black Diamond wrote:
    Ahhh.. All is right in the world. I am working late and CIW is starting downer threads :D

    rofl...

    seriously though...damn I feel sad now.

    :D
    ^ That was To lighten the mood.... I feel like my dog died...

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  • Posts: 52
    CHANGEinWAVES wrote:
    I've recently been told that the only reason he married me was cause he thought it would of made his Dad happy:rolleyes: His Dad passed away 3 months into our relationship, but I knew him for longer...and his Dad and I really got along well.
    Kinda sucks to realize you were married cause you were 'likable' not cause you were loved:(. Seems @ 28 I've never been loved in return...go figure.

    My last girlfriend only liked me for my good looks and my money, my charm, my sexual powers, and because she thought I was "a nice guy." So I dumped her. I can't stand shallowness. And ChangeInWaves, you are better off without this nutbag. He might've ruined you, and you might not've even noticed.
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    mickeyrat wrote:
    ok , lets back up a bit. He's now living with his MOMMY ,court ordered to pay the bills in the house you once shared.whether he's actually paying it or not , he's fucking up his credit. Can't seem to grasp this thing called sobriety or how to live like and treat others like a human being.

    From where I sit he's lashing out this way cuz he knows he hurts you.So my suggestion would be to not let him see IF he hurt you with his statements.this is really some punk kid shit on his part.If at all possible ,turn a deaf ear.

    And I was serious about the restraining order.If nothing else request a hearing with the Judge to inform his/her Honor that the courts ruling is not being adhered to.

    I have to go with mickeyrat here, CiW. I didn't read the entire thread, merely the first page and this post. and this is what I thought of. your ex is not dealing well with facing his addiction and all the responsibilities he's avoided while hiding behind his addiction. So he's lashing out to hurt you like a little kid who's told he can't play anymore. to blame you for his inadequacies. those are his issues, not yours. don't believe him, don't let him hurt you......you're better than that and he's not worth it.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • Posts: 409
    changeinwaves - did you FEEL like he loved you all those years? if you felt loved for those ten years, i dont really think it matters what he tells you now.
  • Posts: 3,007
    He's just projecting all his negativity onto you. Making it your fault, because you're unlovable. That way he can convince himself he did his best in the relationship, but it wasn't to be.
    It's bullshit, you both know what went wrong. Don't fall into the trap of taking the blame or feeling the guilt.
    He needs to face up to his failures as a husband. You're not doing him or yourself any favours by taking it all on yourself.

    Be well, you CAN move on from this. Good luck :)
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  • Posts: 1,263
    Change...I am so sorry for you, BUT your nick is CHANGE, so girl get out of the whole old situation and turn a new leaf.

    There are ppl out there who are truly kind and loving. Listen to your instincts and dont take anything less than you deserve!!
    And you deserve a whole lot of love, admiration and a big shoulder to put your head on. Dont go for anything less!

    From what I read you are a strong woman and you'll get through this.
    Don't listen to what he is saying, he does not have his feet anywhere on the ground. Don't allow him to ruin you anymore, dont let him near you or your house. You don't have to take care of him in any way anymore! It is not your responsibility.
    Your only responsibility is to take care of yourself!

    So, take care!

    Huge hug,
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  • Deep South Philly Posts: 17,542
    Should've went to McGlinchey's.....I can't wait to help someone move today!
  • Posts: 10,169
    Jearlpam0925 wrote:
    Should've went to McGlinchey's.....I can't wait to help someone move today!
    Seriously!! If you read my WTF moment of the night...you'll see I would of been much better off going drinking in the city!!
    "I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"

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